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Dbestmax:
She refuses to giv imediately..She's playing hard2get
She givs d number imediately..she's cheap...
Mayb gals shud start carrying dia number on dia chest or on d bak as a logo...

abi ooo!

" The principle of the conservation of energy was established as a certainty, solid as a rock.....& yet, here was radium producing energy without acquiring it from any source. No one doubted that light & electricity were identical: they could only proceed in a straight line.....& yet here were "X rays" which could go through solid objects.
The scientists who were supposed to have a monopoly of knowledge suddenly ceased to make a distinction between physics & metaphysics."
------Pauwels & Bergier, in THE MORNING OF THE MAGICIANS.

"Actually the biggest deterrent to scientific progress is a refusal of some people, including scientists, to believe that things that seem amazing can really happen."
----GEORGE S. TRIMBLE ( of Glenn L. Martin Co., 1955 , & later, Director of NASA Manned Spacecraft Centre, Houston.)

"It seems evident, that men are carried, by a natural instinct or prepossession, to repose faith in their senses; & that, without any reasoning, or even almost before the use of reason, we always suppose an external universe, which depends not on our perception, but would exist, though we & every sensible creature were absent or annihilated...........It seems also evident, that when men follow this blind & powerful instinct of nature, they always suppose the very images, presented by the senses, to be the external objects, & never entertain any suspicion, that the one are nothing but representation of the other."
------DAVID HUME, 1711 - 1776.

Now, consider the following:
1) PSI-HEALING, A Fully Documented Evidence of Fantastic Medical Cures Being Performed Daily by Psychic Healers Around the World -----by ALFRED STELTER.
2) MIND OVER MATTER, Facts & Feats Beyond the Bounds of Nature ----by GLEN BARCLAY. (Pan Bks Ltd., Lon.)
3) SYNCHRONICITY - An Acausal Connecting Principle In Nature -- by. Carl Gustav Jung.
4) & the discussion between C. G. Jung. & Wolfgang Pauli, the Swiss Physicist & Nobel Prize Winner, 1945. ---- in BEYOND SYNCHRONICITY.

basille:
Spirituality outside religion lead me to pantheism, was once a staunch atheist, previously a faithful christian.

Impressive!
You're making progress or should I say evolving, as you're outgrowing one system of belief for another.
Wherever one stands, that is where one has reached so far - the sum total of one's consciousness. One will feel comfortable there, for as long as he/she chooses to remain there. However, as one strives to unfold further, one will shed one's "gross" consciousness for a finer one.

Enasco1:
are u sayin a woman should nt change her behaviour 2 suit d husband??

Some behavior patterns/ habits are so deep-rooted that replacing them with one which is distinctly different is like forcing a square peg in round holes. Some people cheat 'cos they know their partner doesn't like a particular behavior which they are finding it difficult to change.So, they resort to doing it discreetly. Others, who will not cheat, will break away.
This is why compatibility has to be seriously considered.

Many people expect others to change their behaviour to please/suit them without they themselves doing anything to compromise.

He's seeking for coaching crew to teach him how to crawl so he can chase a marathon runner!

Cokacola:
.........................i have been dating this girl for 2years now .................. she has changed to the extent that any time she is coming for weeked she always bring her cloth for me to wash wich i always do but today i refuse to wash them and wat i heard was a vry hot slap on my face and that was all i could remenber......thanks to my friends that rush me to hosipital.........should i still date this girl if i recover cus she has been beginin me to forgive her...advice pls

I find it a bit sketchy!
You mean she has changed now to become your boss, while you have accordingly changed to become her subordinate, consensuously. Under your mutually agreed arrangement, :
1) Has she ever reprimanded or slapped you to discipline you for disobedience or misconduct before, or this is the first time?
2) What is she specifically begging you to forgive her for? - Is it for the disciplinary slap itself or for its intensity which eventually led to your hospitalization?

It's difficult for some women to conceive how a man can be in love with a lady & does not desire to have sex with her, yet does it with another lady. It's possible with me.
"It takes all sorts to make a world". A lady should endeavor to understand her man & should not judge him according to how some men behave, merely 'cos it's popular.
Oddly, I have male friends who always believe they are in love, when,from my perspective, they are merely in deep lust or even, in infatuation. They don't seem to distinguish between being in lust & being in love & they find it difficult to understand me when I say I can & do love a lady without desiring to sex her. These are the ones who make comments like"What is this man seeing in this lady that he so loves her?". They will habitually care & provide for a lady only with the sole aim of using her to feed their lust. Once they have fed their lust a number of times with a particular lady, their interest & attention move on to another lady. They then find one excuse or another to drop the former. Sometimes, if an abandoned lady has developed, what to me appears to be, love for the guy, & knowing that he & I are friends, has come to me to assist in resolving their issue, in the course of mediating, I will find that all along, the guy was in lust & not at all in love with the lady. I am not referring to "toto-testers" who go about counting numbers. I am talking about those who seem only to lust.

On one hand, I can be in love with a lady without having a desire to have sex with her. The love I have for her does not depend on her beauty. Also, she may even be someone I don't intend marrying - e.g. having a prospective suitor. Besides, not every lady has what it takes to appeal to me sexually.
On the other hand, I may have strong lust towards a lady without being in love with her - I will be giving her goodwill, which to me is quite different from love. However, as time goes on, I may or may not begin to develop real love for her gradually. The lust will still be there! The true love always starts gradually & continues to deepen more & more as time goes on. So, as soon as I start experiencing this feeling & I feel I don't want it, for whatever reason, I gradually cut off from her. I don't wait untill it grows so deep. For example, when a lady & I are mere "play partners", & realize we will have serious problems if we are to be in committed relationship - some women are aware there will, indeed, be problem, but they press ahead, believing they can change things to favour them after they have settled down with a man.
In short, love, for me, is different from lust, although the lust may gradually engender love, depending on whether I entertain it or not.

purplesummer:
I don't do any of the above but I influence his decisions but still makes him feel he's in charge, so he doesn't even know I boss him.

Hmmmm!
U've learnt how to do it without subjecting him to unnecessary psychological conflict within his psyche.

Unless a man has submissive tendencies within him that relates to a bossy woman, he cannot be in relationship with her for long.
Our male- dominated society has been conditioning men to believe that it is weakness for a man to love & submit to female authority, when in reality it takes maturity, insight, love, understanding, strength, & selflessness to handle & cope with it.
A growing number of men are becoming more & more conscious of their love for female authority & are secretly submitting to it. However, most of these same men will critisize & condemn it, in order to save their face, if an over-exuberant woman tries to dominate them openly - where they will be subjected to harsh criticism & unhealthy attacks by fellow men who have been conditioned to do so.
Each woman is unique, in terms of how to handle & cope with her.
The primary requirement is to endeavour to understand her at the deepest level. Once u understand her, it becomes easier to learn how to handle her.

temigracie:
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I totally disagree....Guys love it when we handle them with iron-hand....

You ask them to do frog-jump etc....They love it.....They deny loving it....

Some of us, though!
But most of you ladies can't do it well.

Good findings! @OP
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Idowuogbo: Lmaooo! Correct! Her name na Oluwasubmissive she?

u've got d point!
R u dominant?