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Billyonaire:
What if I told you all, that there is nothing like sin.

And what if our mentality has not yet broadened enough to accommodate all?

" I still have many things to say to you, but you cannot bear them now...." JOHN 16:12 English Standard Version

emilyone:
No

That's the picture you're having of yourself. It doesn't change the picture I am having of you, though.
I see you as trustworthy person.

mutter:
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It might surprise you that the man you climaxed with could even have been someone you did not find appealing or even disgusted you. It really is strange what sometimes arouses a man or the woman and it can be anything from decent to indecent.
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@OP, I'm especially drawing your attention to the above comment, by way of emphasis.

In a situation like this, where an issue arose as a result of interaction between a male & a female, the solution. must be sought by looking into it both from the perspective of a male & that of a female.
It appears that you have conditioned yourself into believing that you lost those 4 guys due to your inability to have org*sm during penetration sex; that for a relationship to thrive, the woman must achieve org*sm during penetration sex. Evidently, that's as far as you can see from your end.
There may be other factors which can only be seen from the perspective of the men who related with you.
I'm strongly of the opinion that your inability to achieve org*sm alone, is not enough reason to account for losing a man repeatedly.
Perhaps you were relating with the wrong type of men for you.

One obvious limitation which females face in our society is the fact that it's not the usual practice for them to approach a guy & seek to befriend him. Few guys are matured enough to accord a lady who takes the initiative to approach them for friendship, the full respect & positive reception she deserves.
Unlike we men, a woman is left with the only option of choosing from among the limited number of men who show interest in her. If she cannot find one who appears to be compatible, & time starts running out, she's accused of being too selective. Eventually she's forced to settle down with one of them........................
(you know the rest of the story!).

Behind every persistent feeling of guilt is an accompanying thought that fuels it. In your case, the underlying thought is the belief that it's bad for you to have sex before marriage. And also, probably, your personality is such that you hate being coerced into doing something that you don't want.
However, for the sake of getting things going or fear of losing the man, you gave in. Halfway inside the act, you tend to despise how you've been coerced into submitting yourself to such a thing. Tension then sets in.
Another factor that is likely to come into play is your engrams, albeit at subconscious level. Anytime you are having penetration sex, you'll start thinking & feeling the negative experiences you've had in the past, the number of guys you've lost as a result & the possibility of it happening again. This will generate tension within you & prevent you from relaxing & enjoying it as a play. When you take it too serious, it's no longer a play. You'll be trying hard to influence it with your will. And " in the contest between the will & the imagination, it is invariably the imagination that wins", according to the Law of Reversed Effort, in Psychology.
Personally, I see no reason why you should limit your sexual gratification to only penetration sex & masturb*tion when there're other ways you could ease your sexual tensions & achieve intense org*sm.

gatiano:
When you use the phrase "highly evolved souls", you mean it as a complete body, soul and spirit. Soul can not dissiciate from the body, because soul is the body thus in reality, we are just souls and spirits. it is the spirit that can dissociate from the soul, and travel to where ever he/she wishes to go, and those places they may choose to go is even beyond our imagination as we are now, but not so 6000 years ago, and 50,000 years ago we could even go into the last three universe.
This only the blacks can do, because they are the only ones that have been there, except by means of spaceships, you can never travel mentally or spiritually to where you have never existed. Only the black people have been coming from forever and going to forever. we do this my reincarnating continously.
The spirit is the same as the one that came from the last universe, The soul is the new being, in new form and shape that has his/her freewill, now the spirit acts as his/her conscience. This spirit of yours puts himself everywhere that support human black's life.
so you are here on earth planet as your unique soul, you are also there on sirius as another different soul, you were also there in 1800 with a different soul, you will also be there in year 3000 in another different soul but they are all still you. To mentally travel, A guide called the gatekeeper, he or she will guide you into your soul in another realm, then you can learn or experience whatever it is you need to know.
before 6000 years ago, we all could be assisted into doing this, before 50,000 years ago, we could just lie on the bed and go whereever we need to go.

Various doctrines to fit each level of consciousness!!!

gatiano:
wrong! but true, one personality(soul) lives here on earth, and several of the same personalities live on several different earth like planets across the universe. Mainly just black people, they are called spiritual brothers or sisters for a woman.
what you described maybe right for non-black people which is untrue, that is why you see them having multiple personality disorder.
have you ever heard such disorder in black people?

I am referring particularly to only highly evolved Souls, I.e. Souls that have the ability to consciously dissociate their various bodies at will & can consciously relate with Matter, Energy, Space & Time, as they desire.

Olufemiolaolu:
Every thing we pass through is written, but what we make of d xperience is left 2 our power of choice i e freewil. A person might have failed in a venture but d decision not 2 resign 2 fate & try again is left 2 his or her freewill. Even 1 is destined 2 live abroad, one still have 2 make an effort 2 get there, that is left 2 one's free will. One can know this through dreams prophecy etc

Now, using your illustration, if one is destined to live in abroad, & he chose to reach there through his efforts, he'ld be bound to pass through a predestined course in life there. OK?
If this same person chose to remain here, he'ld be bound to follow a different predestined course in life. However, under normal circumstances, that person cannot be in abroad passing through a predestined course in life there while simultaneously be here passing through a different course in life.
In Theoretical Physics, the two events ( I.e. the predestined course in life he'ld be following while in abroad & the different predestined course in life he'ld be passing through while here) are said to be mutually exclusive. He cannot be passing through the two events simultaneously. He can only be experiencing one or the other.
This, I think, is what ramalot is trying to point out

firstEVA:
are you saying it's only the non romantic love that lasts forever?

romantic love is love that depends on romance for its survival. Once the romance ceases, it becomes otiose.

Billyonaire:
It's not easy to get it......................... soul is the real us surviving on a physical world using our physical body. in essence as soul, we can survive in any planet using any body (vessel) ....................

Yes. In fact, a highly evolved "Soul" can maintain two physical bodies functioning simultaneously; one body living in one continent while the other lives in another continent.

Billyonaire:
Nice Thread. The confusion is understandable especially because most religion messed up the theory already in their holy books.

The issue at stake here, is that majority of people are not fully ready, willing or even capable of assimilating raw truth in its entirety. Thus different shades or variants of the same truth are formulated by the sages, savants or spiritual leaders to fit with various levels of consciousness. Discounting, of course, those who deliberately distort the truth to enable them gain advantage over others.
As one's inner consciousness expands, he is then ready, & finds himself drawn to where his knowledge deepens to correspond to the inner expansion. This is why it is not necessary to keep arguing or forcing one's knowledge unto someone whose consciousness is narrow & closed to grasp what he is being led to understand. Unless, of course, one takes delight in intellectual gymnastics for its own sake.
The inner must necessarily expands before the outer can make any progress, at all

Olufemiolaolu:
Mr mutually exclusive xplain ooooo. I still maintain predestination is a function of free will.

There's one thing I'm not getting it well in your comment. I'll appreciate if you could kindly clarify.
In the first place, how does one know, for certainly, that one is predestined to pass through a particular experience at a particular time in future, in order for him to be able to alter it by his free will?

Dyt:
Iyamu more than a burning faya

U must like the alternative S&M

Really?

I hail you!

BuddhaPalm:
Aha, someone doesn't want to get very famous

Each "class" has its attendant responsibility.
Towards the end of his life, Albert Einstein had wished he was not famous. All messiahs in history have suffered crucifixion/persecution in one form or another.
(Toute ce qui brille n'est pas or )

Dyt:
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U are lucky u got urself a calm woman, shey na only phone she smash, she for smash ur balls with her heels.

waaaow! smashing balls with heels just for seeing text messages. You truly hot! Sounds like you're into Alternative L/S ?

BuddhaPalm:
Ratatis my main man.

I go tell your madam. Wire money enter my account and I'll keep mum

well, not necessarily b'cos of her, but a phone may be stolen & fall in the wrong hand.

BuddhaPalm:
Next time, use Vault https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.netqin.ps&hl=en

Thanks for sharing, bro.

nairaman66:
If you could elaborate in clear terms, I'd love to listen.. Thank you!

I mean girls who're gold diggers, on the one hand & guys who promise girls they'll marry them only to Bleep & drop them later for no justifiable reason, on the other hand.

thanks

vhickky:
Yes o

hmmm!

nairaman66:
Stop being sympathetic with the girls folks! They are gold digging love peddlers!!

There are two sides to the coin!

tellwisdom:
97 % of them in Nigeria are runs gurl...

abeg reduce the percentage na!

apparentlylaw:
Wif what I see here everyday I begin to Doubt and Suspect ma babe ...

bro, what you see here everyday should only serve as guide, but don't rely on it to react. Use your judgment. Your babe may be different.
Doubt & suspicion can only lead to mistrust

MzNelly:
Yes, it diminishes. He's practically seen everything. What's more?

That is only if he's in love with "the thing" & that "the thing" is everything to him, & not you as a person.
A number of men are only driven by lust for women, not love. Quite often women find it hard to tell the difference as they can only judge from a female perspective - if he says this & does that & gives me this, etc., etc.,