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satope1:
Yeah...Everyone says that. I am strong, necer shed a tear....bla bla bla

But the truth is always different from what people make you see or believe. You aren't made of stone. A little of emotions isn't too bad.

"A little of emotions isn't too bad" and that is why I cried for 5mins & was sad for 15mins & also spend 5mins typing my story on NL.

On my way from work 2day at about 2:30pm cuz I do close from work by 2pm, I was approching a U-turn I just saw someone after drinking pure water, throw an empty pure water pack right in front of me on the speed lean when I turn to see who he was lo & behold it was a traffic warder aka yellow fever.

passionate88:
Thank you... I was just surprised readin the comments here... She worked with the military, she knew they are mostly promiscuous yet she still went ahead... After she'd join other NL girls castigating the good guys, calling them dull

You seems to be more hurt than I am its like NL girls have really dealt with u. Hehehehehehehe.

satope1:
Exactly what I intended my scathing response to achieve. That you learn how insignificant he is and how you are allowing yourself cry over someone who's insignificant and adds nothing positive to your life.

At least you are done with self pity and facing reality now.

Happy for you.

Did you just say self pity? Sorry self pity has never been part of my liffe even as a young child not to talk on now that am 30.

elantraceey:
My dear from my previous relationships i've learnt one thing , a man who doesn't spend a dine on you doesn't value you , Where a man's treasure is there his heart will be also, i'm not saying you should turn to a begger and start begging even when you have enough nope , A man who truly treasures you will want to spoil you with what he has from time to time and if he never does that then something is fishy , Don't get me wrong , i totally love and respect an independent woman but don't take it into your relationship , men love to be men and in charge , they love the feeling when they can boast to their friends this is what i got for my baby , I'm just saying this because it's what i've learnt from experience and you shouldn't go into a relationship next time with that mindset that he doesn't have to spend please he should !!!



This advice might sound awkward but don't love a man who's not yet your husband too much , keep that unreserved love for your husband . Love but love with your whole senses in check and if there's any abnormaly that you can't keep up with get out without having to let yourself go through emotional stress , it's not worth it my dear .



Now you can cry all you want , then sleep but when you wake up do so as a woman who's ready to face her world and totally let go of all that happened like nothing did , i know it won't be easy because i've been there but you can do it.


And above all you should learn from your mistakes now and try to make sure you don't make them again , that's life for you , we live and learn

Am telling you. A man that can't spend on u, has no good plans for you this has been my rule and it very true I was just enjoying the sex with & other good times so I didn't even no I was in love with this guy until sunday.

satope1:
Not a bit sorry for you. You deserved what you got.

You knew he had side chicks all along and still went on to continue dating him. Even warming his bed and cooking for him not minding the risk of STIs or diseases.

You just showed your lack of self respect. This is not a case of love but that of willingly walking through fire and expecting not to be burnt.

Hehehehehehehe I don't even need your sorry. I cried for 5mins, was sad about the whole thing for 15mins & that was all after 20mins every thing about my life came to normal & the next day being monday i joyfully went to work happy & full of life. So u see ur sorry was't need afterall.

prettyjo:
you really need to cry mor

sorry I don't cry much over a guy. I got over him that very day.

pasqal09:
When will people learn?

Never make someone who takes you as an option a priority.

The OP's heartbreak is self-inflicted.

plz try to read & understand b4 u comment.

justwise:
looking for arrangee marriage?

What dose calling him a darling got to do with marriage now.

ronald4lif:
Nicely put. World is too populated to worry over one person. The only problem in today's world is that many people are attracted to the wrong people.

When u are truly in love then u will realised that worrying over one person out of the whole population is all u want.

I met a guy in july 2014, an officer & he asked me out & told me he has a lady he wanted to date they met online but after seeing her physically, he was not attracted to her so accepted him & we started dating as a militray guy, I knew I was not his only woman.

Two months into our affair, he told me he wants to be very serious with me & put away other ladies, hum! I work with the military so I no them & refuse to get my hopes high but in the 3rd month of our affair I was already in love, sincerly in love. I was not after his money or who he is but I just love him.

In Nov 2014, I bought a car & the car arrived 3 days to when I was to travel so I dropped the car with him. I was away for 2 weeks. When I returned I found out his younger brother had an accident with the car of which he later repaired it.

In the process of reparing the car we had a problem because he refused to pay fully for the repairs & was expecting me to bring some money for the repair but refused because since we started dating in july he never for once gave me anything I have been the one buying things for his house & cooking for him with my money.

I finally paid the bal for the repair, two weeks later we made up & spend the night together & there after we didn't see again & after 2weeks again he called me & told me his boy & brother are asking after me & he doesn't no what to tell them & asked him to tell them anything he like.

We kept chatting from time to time but we've not seen for sometime so I called him yesterday to no how he is doing then he told me he had an acciedent and was in the hospital for one week but was discharged yesterday. I tod him I will like to pay him a visit 2day & that am making pepper soup for him which he agreed to.

I called him b4 leaving my house to tell him I was on my way to his place & he said ok that he is at home. Getting to his house I saw him with another woman so after spending less than 5mins I told him I was leaving & asked that we talk in private.

When we got talking, he told me she is his girlfriend & they have been together for 12 years.

Thinking about it, 12 whole years, they met in there secondary school when he was nothing. So I have to break up my relationship with him so he can focus on her so I walked away. Its not easy at all but I have to do it.

I got back home & cried my pains out then I realised that crying is the best way to heal a broken heart.

justwise:
looking for arrangee marriage?

hahahahahaha

Seun:
Eyah.

Seun darling

wunmi590:
Thnks bro. Jst Wnt 2 knw if visiting them every festive period is gud

hope u are ready to be spending all ur festive periods with them even after marriage oh. Because this things u have started, u must contiune it.

Its not right. Don't marry a non Christian. I no of 8 different persons who marry different faith from theirs and non of them is happy with the marriage 2day because of the difference in there believe.

Forget all those ppl who say love is all that matters, that's not true oh. Plz don't oh.