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Nigerian ladies stop sending money to your so called abroad based guys u met on social networks & have never seen physically.

I just read a story of a lady from a very poor home who met a guy on a social network & sent the guy the money (#160k) her & her sister worked hard for.

Just in case some of u ladies don't know, the new way SOME guys abroad scam ladies is by telling the lady they love her & want to marry her, they will make u feeling u are so special & after a little time they come up with some biz they want to do & need some fund to carry out the biz then they will ask for loan from the lady & the moment u give him the money, u will never hear from him again some will tell u its rent they want to pay.

Dear ladies if an abroad based guy tells u he wants to marry u, plz ask him to return to Nigeria first or b4 u send him 5 naira make sure he has sent u 15naira.

Am not saying all abroad based guys are fake but most of them are fake. There are few good & real one's so just be careful not to fall for the wrongs one's.

I have met few of them but b4 they even start, I will just tell them they are fake just on monday I have to to tell one he is so fake & he should change his ways & instantly he let me be. Ladies really need to be very careful.

Strongfaze:
. You know it seems hard to tell these days because of the deception that is rampant by both males and females. Hence the *seriousness* could just be a one sided perception.

One way or the other u will know if someone takes u serious or not.

Strongfaze:
Here we go Nairalanders. Based on social beings we were discussing about relationships. A guy was trying to woo a girl and the girl kept saying "i'm in a serious relationship" even when the guy in question was not engaged officially to her. The question then came up: Who really determines the seriousness of a relationship, is it the Ladies or the Guys? Thanks

Both of them. First the man have to make his intention about being serious known to the lady & the lady in will have to accept to be serious with the guy.

Before the death, burial & resurrection of Jesus Christ, God called Him (Jesus) the ONLY begotten Son & after His resurrection, He was called the FIRST begotten Son which means His death, burial & resurrection gave birth the many sons & daughters & am one of them. Are u?

leonardxystus:
yes na, 3-4 million can serve for an average wedding[color=][/color]

good to no someone agree with me on this. I once said this on nairaland & no one seems to agree with me a lot of persons said 3m is too much some said 1m & some said 1.5m.

leonardxystus:
Fancy weddings are the ultimate exercise of narcissism and commercialism in modern society. It’s been observed countless times that women all over the world want to get married, but they do not want to be married. They want the year-long attention of being in “wedding planning mode,” culminating in the ultimate party where they are the supreme princess for the day. When it comes to fulfilling a role as a wife and mother, though, they will suddenly balk at any mention of tradition. Her unilateral insistence upon a large wedding reflects especially poorly on her character in these ways
1. Financial Irresponsibility
The average naija wedding costs 3 to 4 million naira, now en  For anyone besides the super-rich, how can throwing a big party to commemorate your financial castration  be considered anything but irresponsible? Your sweetie would rather squander money (often much of it yours) on a lavish celebration rather than investments such as buying a house, saving for retirement, or traveling the world to educate yourselves. An expensive, pointless wedding is the ultimate display of low future-time orientation, a bad trait for someone to whom you’re pledging half your future earnings in a legally binding contract.

2. Selfishness
Have you ever seen a dead-eyed man dutifully trying to choose between yellow and goldenrod for his wedding’s place settings? Men don’t enjoy planning weddings. Though they make up half of a marriage partnership (and usually more financially-speaking), a preference for a courthouse or a small ceremony is almost always ignored because it’s “her day.” This sets a poor precedent for future decisions you will make as a couple. If you give a mouse a cookie…

3. Herd mentality
Though the silliness of the modern wedding ceremony are fairly easy to elucidate, women are more susceptible to the whims and opinions of those around them. Bella naija  have taught her from her teenage years that she deserves a grand storybook wedding. Her friends goad her into one-upsmanship by showing off their expensive engagement rings on Facebook and Instagram. Her parents want to bring the entire extended family to the ceremony to show off their success at raising a well-adjusted little girl. And the aforementioned popular media normalizes the extravagance and consumerism of the experience by suggesting she is somehow abnormal or deficient if she doesn’t keep up with the joneses.

If you’ve committed yourself to getting married in grandeur you’ve already made a tremendously risky move. If your babe insists that you dump a bunch of your hard-earned money into what amounts to a one-sided victory party, you know unequivocally that she will not make a good partner in the long run. Get out while you still can.:

so what amount do u thing should b enough for an average wedding, 3 to 4 million?

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]Hello Nairalanders

One of my mother's female friends called my mother last night and started telling her about how her adult daughter doesn't cook and everything. As she was discussing with my mother, she asked her about how my adult but younger brother is doing in school and my mother told her that he was planning to attend next semester.

Funny thing is she saw my brother only once and that was three years ago. I thought it was odd but my mother does not see anything wrong with it.

What do you all think?[/color]

there is nothing odd but the only thing that is wrong there is for u to work on your mind set. You asume things in your mind.

She only asked of ur brother, she didn't ask him for dinner with her daughter or to visit her daughter. Keep ur mind open & stop asumming things.

I think if u can send what u just wrote here as text to dose asking u to get married they will just give up and let u be.

eeewise:
A friend recently met a girl by name janet who is working,30 yrs and seriously looking to seTtle down.he is 31 this year also. His challenge now is that he is not all that attracted to her cos she is dark skinned,doesn't dress smart,less packaged,,he prefers light skinned girls but in the character aspect she is perfect,homely and all.my question is shd he go ahead and marry her even thou he has a challenge marrying dark skinned girls or shd. He let her go despite her character,job,maturity and all. Advice needed pls frm married folks.especially those that married girls not their ideal complexion

Men! U men are the cause of the some many divorce cases around. Among the three things u mentioned the only right one is her character & maturity.

Talking about her complexion, he is attraacted to a light skinned girl, what if he sees a light skinned girl & get married to her then after giving birth that light skin becomes dark? Because I have seen a very pretty light skinned lady but when she got pregnant she became very dark & not as pretty as b4 again till date & the baby is already 2 years now. So what happens if this becames his case.

Talking about having a job, what will happen if she losses the job & can no longer contribute financially to the up keep of the home. Men very confused things.

There is nothing wrong but I think u should start correcting her now b4 she grows up with that. Your baby is cute.

There is nothing wrong with the two mother in-laws staying together with the couple but again it also has to do wiith the relationship between the two mother. That this I mean how close the two mothers are. I have seen a family were the both mothers stay with the couple & they are leaving in peace.

Mannylex:
Sweetheart, it's not about cheating or been greedy. If I was I would keep both and say nothing to any of them. I stopped double dating and don't wanna go back to that, else would have done that. Don't wanna waste the time of any of them, so I won't classify myself as been greedy or a cheat.





Have no fear; Mannylex is here

I have been in love I mean true love. Maybe because am a lady but the truth is when u are in love no other person will make sence to you except the one u are in love with.

Believe me if u truly love the 1st lady, the second will never make sence to you.

Mannylex:
Dated this girl for 4 years , while at the university. I am based in lag, while she in Abuja. After I graduated it basically became a long distance stuff, she just graduated last year. But the issue is this year. I fell in love with someone else who is quite younger but at same time love my girlfriend of 4 years. I and this new girl have been dating for close to a month now(though I have known her for 4 months) ... I don't wanna double date, so I made both aware of each other. my Girlfriend as expected got disappointed, mad, deleted everything about me while the new girl asked me to be sure of what I want , though she does stuff to make me stick with her. In the course of my 4 years, I have come across other ladies but none has ever given me course to doubt my relationship like this new girl has. I love both, but I need 1. Help!

Sorry for the long epistle, but am confused and need neutral and mature advice. Don't wanna make a mistake. Thanks





Have no fear; Mannylex is here

the truth is you don't any of them. If you love your 1st girl, u will never think of having the 2nd one & if u love the 2nd, you won't deer say u still love the 1st. You are just being greedy.

Yes I no they say its men's nature to cheat but your case if far more than just cheating.

My advice, decide within two daays who u want to keep & who u want to let go, be very sure of your dicision & let them both no who u are letting go.

What hurts the most about break up is not the break up itself but its when the idiot choose to come back.as for me once u are an ex u remain an ex forever no 2nd chance for ex.

Godshand:
And you had to quote me like 3times now just to say same thing?

yes, because I no u are not good at understanding ppl.

chymevicks:
I other words,if he is not my child, I will grab him on the jugular, use him to wipe the mess off the floor then I will tell him not to ever steal in my house again else I will amputate him and send him packing.

didn't u see my 1st words? I said I feel for the child abeg. Now that was not referring to my own child but rather the child on that very pix.

Feeling for someone is having compassion on that person. Now, when u haave compassion on someone, u do any thing u can do to make that person ok. Which means even if the s not my, I will still treat him like mine.

Am sure u have wisdom? Plz make good use of it next time.

Godshand:
And if he's not your child nko? You leave him to his fate abi?

didn't u see my 1st words that explians it all. I said I feel for the child abeg. Which means am not referring to my child now but that very child in the pic which is not my child.

To feel for someone is to have compassion on the person & when u have compassion on someone u will do anything you can to make that person ok. So even if its not my child I will still do the same thing.

Am sure u have wisdom, plz remember to make good use of it next time.

400billionman:
It is not by level dear..

I don't no what u are thinking when u saw level but by level I mean no situaton will arise for me to do that again. Not even wen am travelling. Since 2008 that I did my nysc I have been travelling a very long distance on road and such has never happened & will never happen.

ngozianu:
you go soon reach 35yrs as you are still selecting .....Go to banks and see big babes of 35 to 45yrs unmarried who where selecting who to marry.

Once a lady reaches 25yrs and she is not married it becomes issue of prayers and fastings...

what is wrong with u, mind your words & I send back your words to you. Are u saying I should get married to someone am not attracted to just because I want to get married.

Are you now telling me that u are attracted to all the ladies you see. U better mind yourself oh.

chidi4sam:
tnx so much. i need 2006 rav4. how will i describe to him how i got his no? tnx

so now u want me to tell u my name here oh. Just tell him the lady he delivered matrix to in Nov 2014.

engrjacuzzi:
you sound as if you are guilty of no 6

how dose loving No.6 now sounds like am quilty? Its really sad how u think but any way am not quilty.

chymevicks:
I other words,if he is not my child, I will grab him on the jugular, use him to wipe the mess off the floor then I will tell him not to ever steal in my house again else I will amputate him and send him packing.

its reaally sad how u think. Anyway the question was a direct question so my answer was direct as well. I believe one thing my pastor usually say. He will always say every child is ur child. The way I treat my child is the same way I will treat other ppl's children too. The same way I will talk to my child so I will talk to the one that is not my own. I think you have a wicked heart or u to even think like this.

Godshand:
And if he's not your child nko? You leave him to his fate abi?

its really funny how you think. The question was a direct question & so gave a direct answer. The question was if the child is my own. I don't have the spirit of child beating if I can't beat my child I won't even deer to bet another person's child.

The way I will treat my child is the same way I will treat other ppl's own too. Remember every child is your child.

idu1:
Because he have money......


Jointed ko joinder ni

joined I mean. A lady with a stable job & good job security who earn as little as 140k to 160k monthly & has no family responsibility as everyone in her family is comfortable has bo biz going after a man's money.

SELENAqueensy:
U jointed nairaland since 2012
Interesting

wicked u. I mean joined that was a mistake.

MymothersKeeper:
Your son will end up like my ex , spoilt pompous & always right in his mind ! Everybody hates him & knows he wasn't taught well from home

what meaneth thy? Plz I don't what to exchange words with u, mind ur words. My son will be good and blessed with all manner of blessings including good character & he will be filled with the Holy Spirit. That I didn't beat him dose not mean he won't take. To correction. He will have a good listening spirit to listen to the right things & he will take to corrections.

Watch ye your words oh ye woman. How deer u speak evil into my son's future. Respect yourself oh. I come against you and your words in Jesus Name. Amen. This is no joke plz.

Dearest Seun, I joined Nairaland since 2012 I deactivated my other account for some reasons but couldn't re-activate cuz I don't no the steps to take or its not possible to re-activate.

Now, to my point. Since 2012 I joined nairalnad, your display picture has remain the same so I humbly request that u upload a current pix cuz am tired of seeing that old pix. Thnks.

I no you may close this thread if u see it but b4 u close it plz kindly upload your current pix.

I so much love No.6

chidi4sam:
can i get the persons contact plz? i need a car too but it has to br on pay on delivery method.

+17743606135 but it all depends on the car u want.

bamog:
yez!!! Am a witness of realdee!!! I waz hiding!! Realdee iz telin d truth

you no well oh.

I no go lie, I didn't in my 100level in school cuz I stayed in the hostel in 100level then I repeated it again in nysc camp but God knows it won't happen again cuz am above that level now.

holycrest:
I can get you a clean audi 80 wagon tok but you will have to pre order it and I will get it to u within 5weeks for just 400k direct from canada

That is issue, pre order when I don't no you. I got my matrix without pre order. It was payment on delivery & it was on nairaland the guy contacted me.

Symphony007:
What will you do if you hear a loud noise in your kitchen, you run in to find your son like this?

I feel for the child abeg. If he is my child I will pick him up & clean him then I will tell him not to repeat it again he should always ask when he needs anything.