₦airaland Forum

I just saw a post somewhere few hours ago, a lady was Complaining that her younger brother came to stay with her & that her husband refuse to send the boy to primary school that is pay for the boy's education. I started thinking was it an agreement made between her & her husband to send the boy to school. From the look of things, there was no agreement she just feel its the husband's duty to see her younger brother through school.

In my own opinion, I feel as a lady my family responsibilities is for my family & not my husband's except he choose to assist willingly I can't just assume that because he is married to me so he has to train my younger ones or provide for my family.

What's your own opinion?

Obadiah77:
I am not going to hell

hahahaha just kidding.

Obadiah77:
Thank you jesus, we are going to heaven

Rapture going on in your area and you are busy snapping others & posting it on NL which mean you are not going with them which also mean you will be going to hell.

grosy:
My date turn his back on me n his family. After getting him job with bank of industry, Now he is caling me. Bt i refused to pick his cal. Pls help i need advice

Pick his call & hear what he has to say but don't get your hopes high maybe he just want to call you to thank you & ask you to move on with your life.

AirstarKane:
Wealthy$3&good in bed $2

we are thinking alike. Wealthy & good in bed. No pretence.

Acquilla:
I have never ate her apple. I have told her this before(the not feeling strong attachment part) and we thought it would get better over time.seriously I have been open and honest with her to a fault..........we still spend alot of time together on phone every single day ever since i left. Infact, i have been looking for a way to bring her to the states ever since i got here which we are currently processing. But not feeling that strong emotional attachment thing is really killing and scary. As a matter of fact i bought a ring before leaving Nigeria but i dont wanna deceive her by putting that ring on her finger.....

The problem might not be that you don't love her but I think you are just afriad of marriage. Think about it again it could be that you are afriad of getting married & if you see a very beautiful lady, you might still come up with another thing so think about it very well.

Acquilla:
Thank you so much..............my gratitude

Welcome, I pray it works out for you both.

Acquilla:
NB- I am fairly popular here and my fiancee in question knows my original moniker. so i am not new so sorry if it is a crime to create another moniker.so sorry

People, I need your sincere advice. Here is my story. There is this lady I have been dating for the past two years. We have been together through thick and thin and being honest, she is a wife material. Even some of my family member’s siblings to be precise can attest to her virtues. All the while, I have admired her qualities and in fairness to God, she has what it takes to be a good wife and till now, I am yet to cheat on her because I don’t cheat. After few months of normal early cravings of a new relationship, things started declining from my own end. I realized she is not romantic. This she blamed on the type of home she came from. I tried my best to teach her but maybe I’m not a good teacher. I am this kind of guy whose romantic part get driven by my girl. In this case my girl is not romantic and it had adverse effect on me too.

I have told her couple of times that I am yet to experience that intense feeling of love one has for her boo. That intense cravings, outpour of excruciating feelings and emotional attachments that makes you so eager to ask if she’s gonna marry you…..I was quick to identify this some months after we started dating and while doing some self evaluation, I realized one of the reasons apart from the fact that I found her not romantic why I am not too attached is the fact that she seemed not too beautiful for my taste. I am this kind of guy that likes beautiful women; she isn’t ugly though I will classify her as average in all (55%) by my own standards. The funniest thing is my friends say she’s beautiful but I have never seen her in that light. There was a time she complained lightly that I have never called her pretty.

Late last year, I got a visa out of Nigeria and my parents started talking to me about marriage .My mum likes her a lot but my father is just indifferent about her. Well probably because my father and I kind of share the same taste in terms of pretty women (my mum is beautiful). Now I have to decide as soon as possible and I am really scared because my decision will either make or mar my home. I want to get married to someone I really love to the bones yet I don’t want to hurt her. Not someone who I will have to think twice if anyone asks if I really love her. It’s not as if I don’t love her at all but maybe not strong enough to talk about marriage. I am yet to feel so deeply in love with her after two years. I have had two ladies before her and I know how we were all over each other. In her case, I even don’t regularly tell her I love her yet I used to be very very romantic in my past relationships.

I do not have any other lady catching my attention I have just been indifferent. As a matter of fact, when I wanted to leave Nigeria, my parents wanted a formal introduction but I wasn’t sure if I want her for a life partner after two years and I don’t wanna hurt her because she will be broken psychologically. On the other hand, I get scared of losing her because women with such a good character like her are very rare to come by these days. Nevertheless, I am certain that if I meet someone with same character as her today and let’s say 75% rating, I may be carried away so easily without looking back. I don’t want to marry a woman I will likely cheat on after marriage.

One last complicacy is the fact that she is from a broken home. Her mum got married to several men at the early stage of her life and had children with them (I am not judging). I had to lie to my parents that her parents had divorced several years ago. Even at that they immediately started questioning me about her sisters: if her sisters are still in marriage and if they are doing fine. This alone haunts me sometimes because I don’t tell lies.

Now, I am at a cross road. Sometimes I tell myself that with time I will learn to love her as my wife and in the same vein I tell myself if after over two years, the love had dwindled from my own end to this extent what will happen in marriage? Can I learn to love her truly overtime? Should I let her go? Please help me!!!!!

That she is from a broken home or her mum got married to several men doesn't mean she is the same. Secondly being beautiful is not what makes a happy home. So many men get married to bad women because they choose to go after beauty or her financial status.

How ever I will not advice you to marry a lady you don't love very much. My advice is give yourself like 2 to 3 months with her & try to love her for her good character & her faithfulness maybe this will make you love her much more.

Dollyak:
wow¡ That is not the way to welcome a curious mind?

That is just the truth there is no other way to say it & there is nothing wrong with what I explianed to him except you are reading a different meaning to what I said.

[quote author=trem321 post=34620191]PLEASE IS THAT TRUE. OPINIONS NEEDED ESPECIALLY WITH REFERENCE OR BACKUP[/quote. ?

crusadistic:
ok since you have said you have to first blindly accept xtianity in order to understand.you that have the holy spirit,do you understand it?/how do you understand it.

You are really funny. Even if I explian to you there is nothing you will understand so am done talking to guys. I have made my points clear. Maturity is allowing other pratice what they believe while you focus on your own believe & faith. Am sure u guys are matured.

cold:
That much is clear to everyone. My first comment was based on your conclusion that any lady walking around like that must be mad. You shouldn't be quick to judge or jump into conclusions about people until you have the full facts to make a sensible deduction.

looking at that pic you will no that it was not rape. Can't you see how bold she is walking.

mustymatic:
if you can't explain it to others then it's a lie, even u don't fully understand ur faith, that's the difference between Christians n other faiths there can't be more than one God

That you can't comprehend it doesn't mean its a lie. The sweet thing about the Christians is that we don't care about other ppl's faith we just mind our biz.

mustymatic:
if you can't explain it to others then it's a lie, even u don't fully understand ur faith, that's the difference between Christians n other faiths there can't be more than one God

hahaha you are funny. Don't say what you don't no. The truth remains that u will never understand. The only way u will understand is if u have the Holy spirit in you.

cold:
But how would you know?

If you have a good sense of reasoning then you will know taking a proper look at that pic you will know its a delibrate act & not a rape victim or even attempted rape.

podosci:
When Jesus was on the cross after being nailed there by the jews....Who was he praying to? was God praying to himself?

Its a mystery that you can't understand only those who are in Christ understands it.

Sexxkillz:
[color=#000030]What if her hair was covered before? [/color]

if her hair was covered b4, the cap will surely fall because like you said she may have fought with the rapist.

Sexxkillz:
[color=#000030]What if she didn't go out dressed like that? What if she just escaped from a rapist who pulled her trousers out already before she fought him off and ran into the rain? [/color]

someone who just escaped from a rapist will not border to cover her hair with a cap & will not have such boldness as the lady on that pic.

cold:
What if she was a victim of rápe? Has that occured to you?

a victim of rape will not walk on the street with such boldness with a cap on gosh!!!! Men!!!

Sexxkillz:
[color=#000030]What if the wife is more sexy and has a better yansh than the woman in the rain?

Just see it as helping someone in need. People should stop thinking negatively and perversely all the time. [/color]

what are u saying? People should stop thinking nagatively? In the first place no one in her right sence should go out dressed like that. If you see. Someone dressed that way you, then the person must be mad.

gabinogem:
lol... Its never a crime to view. I've stated the reason I viewed it earlier. Abeg let me be jor! Abi them send u?!

hahahaha ok I will let you be but that your reason is nt reason enough.

gabinogem:
u thought wrong... My viewing the post was solely to correct a certain impression about the so called matchmaking, which she has already made clear to me... No apologies.

The topic said '' Hoping to meet that someone'' its clear that the op was looking for relationship so whyy did you view if you are not looking for relationship.

mannasy:
i dont mean to offend anyone or cause a debate here,just curious about what christians say.I have a few questions which are:
(1) if jesus was on earth when he was born who was up in the heaven.
(2)why must jesus die for our sin when he is the one that forgives,why not just forgive us and that is it.
(3)And i heard he eats and drink,which is not befitting to god to have urges of hunger and thirst.
(4)lastly is jesus the God himself or is his son.
please someone with the knowledge of christianity should answer

Sorry bro, you can't get the answer to these questions because no matter how one explians to you, you still & will never understand except u have the holy spirit (the great teacher). The kingdom of God is a mystery & the only way God makes known the mystery of His kingdom is through his son Jesus.

The only way you can get an answer to those questions is by accepting Jesus & receiving the gift of the Spirit. So don't ask. its either you accept Jesus or mind your own business.

gabinogem:
mind urself. Did I tell u I'm in need of a partner?!

You don't have to sound that way I only taught u were in need since you viewed the post.

gabinogem:
ooh u are seeking for a relationship?

Stop asking question & contact her quick.

donpope1:
What's stopping him from being minister of agric instead of minister of petroleum?

thank you. This is excatly what I wanted to say.

Don't worry the dad will start with her. Charity they say starts from home.

Wiztonero:
The speed with which people seize any opportunity to trade insults on Nairaland is phenomenal. Why is this so?

am telling you, something has to be done about this really.

Yungwizzzy:
Typical Nigerian attitude



Thank God I'm from ondo

hahahaha so ondo is not in Nigeria I was suspecting it, thank you for confirming it to me

vizboy:
Ok been having this Problem for a while now.

I have these habit of not been able to care for anything, my elder bro even told me about it and asked me to do something about it.

the only thing I care about is my family.

This I don't care attitude is currently causing troubles for me in my present relationship. same thing happen with my previous relationship and the girl had to break up with me.

I can Stay all day without calling her and I wouldn't give a Fck.

She says am not caring anymore unlike when I was asking her out.

Please help it is really killing my relationship life

What help do u want again, should we help you in calling your girlfriend everyday or 3 times a day. You already no your problem so make it a duty to call her at least 2 times a day & 2 text a day or do we have to pm you to remind you to call her. Guy! Wake up.

trendy01:
When I was little I thought by 25, my life would be organised, I'd av a lovely husband or about to get married, a stable job and beautiful life in all






But it's not true

keep your hopes high. You will still achieve your dreams.