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Serously, I need more of ladies in the house to contribute to this. Ladies contributions would make men to know when they are doing the right thing especially when it involves genuine intentioon.

I am passing thru emotional issue and I feel bad about it such that I have to delete the babe contact from my phones yesterday(hope I av not taken a wrong decision). I care a lot about her but I think she is not serious bcs most time she doesnt pick my calls, neither does she reply my calls or msgs. I visited her one day and talked to her about my intention to get into a life-time relationship with her and then asked her if she is not interested as her behaviours put me off smtime. Her answer was that not that she is not interest but she doesn't think she is ready for marriage.

Please I need candid advise as different ppl have told me that may b she simply doesnt want me or she is testing my ability to accomodate her. ?I got confused bcs she's very quick to introduce me to her friends @ home and @ work. I'm not new in this game but in this case, I feel like I'm not doing smth right.

2legit2qwt: @realdon

I’m gonna be real with you bro, your situation doesn’t look good. Forget about her and go out on dates and meet other girls. If a girl is not returning your calls/texts, 99 percent of the time she ain’t interested in you. If any girl ever gives any sort of excuses when you try to ask her out, just forget her and move on. If you keep trying, you’re only gonna hurt yourself more.

It might hurt now but it’s better for you to feel the pain now that she isn’t fully a part of your life than you coming to such realization down the road.

I don’t think you’re on the same page with her because you want something deeper (marriage possibly) but she doesn’t seem to be ready for any commitments.

Don’t waste your time, there are several girls out there that are willing and will be on the same wavelength as you are, that’s what makes a relationship work


This should probably be a new thread, just a fyi

eagle,eye:
@realdon, Abeg guy move on. No time to waste on a babe who wants to play games with your emotions. If you keep on keeping on, she will most likely milk you and dump you. Please get your fishing tools and go fishing, so as to avoid Stories that touch....

thanks guys

Serously, this is a nice topic and I think ladies need to contribute more to this. Ladies contributions would make men to know when they are doing the right thing especially when it involves genuine intentioon.

I am passing thru emotionaltrauma now and I feel bad about it such that I have to delete the babe contact from my phones today(hope I av not taken a wrong decision). I care a lot about her but I think she is not serious bcs most time she doesnt pick my calls, neither does she reply my calls or msgs. I visited her one day and talked to her about my intention to get into a life-time relationship with her and then asked her if she is not interested as her behaviours put me off smtime. Her answer was that not that she is not interest but she is not ready for marriage.

Anyone can advise me as different ppl have told me that may b she simply doesnt want me or she is testing my ability to accomodate her.

ur contact or mail ynd_l@yahoo.com. I need it ASAP

I smell smth

The car has still not arrived?

has the car arrived n can it go for 800?

Siena:

I'm not based in Nigeria. Your best bet would be to contact some of the Cotonou dealers on here, they should be able to source you a good one with your budget.

ur name should have been Volkswagen Audi and not Siena!

where is d location for inspection, n how many plugs?

nice discussion!

This is horrible simply bcs sm pastors were involved; if not, I'm not surprised at all. Violence, blackmail, do-or-die are the tools PDP adopt to impose their candidate on people.

God would deliver Nigerians from the enemy(PDP) of Nigeria if only people are ready to liberate themselves from PDP shackles.

I remember T. A. Orgi was not like this when he was in PPA: what a negative transformation!

Pharoh:
The date for the debate clashed with his busy schedule and they did not have his inputs before going on with the organization of the debate. So let them fix this objections as the elections are still far away.

But they are not going to spend the whole day debating now! Is he the organiser that he wants an input? Any administrator should be spontaneous enough to be able to respond to issues like this. He could have adjusted his time table since it cannot take the whole day by probably asking for the debate to be held in the evening like the one organised by Channels tv in Lagos or seek for another date and not an outright rejection of the invitation to debate.

THE TRUTH IS THAT HE HAS NOTING IN HIS HEAD, NO PROGRAM, NO PLAN FOR THE PEOPLE: TYPICAL OF PDP

What could be the silly reason? Campaign? Is debate not a form of campaign for sm1 with smth in his head? Check out Lagos state governorship debate and see how Fashola tells people what he has for them.

Let us start thinking so that this country can move fwrd.

justwise:
You don't need any help, you need to be on your own for a long time.

Correct! Imagine, @ 31 after messing hell into her own life she is confused again. Infact she needs to be on her own for the rest of her life.

How can one luvs sm1, then u don't love him again bcs he's boring and suddenly u luv him again without reason? Is that not the most confused person of the millennium.

May God help men from this type of women (Amen)

What do you expect from Akala when the most educated and presidential flag bearer of PDP wants 'expo' b4 he can participate in a presidential debate? This is just a clear evidence that PDP government is 'wuru wuru to the answer'; they have neither a plan or a single beneficial plan for the country and her citizen.

My problem is that Nigerians are too sentimental to see this as a warning that such people are only coming to government so that they can continue their looting. I weep for Nigeria

Mcleo007:
In as much as a BB ticket is what Nigeria needs at the moment,I definitely don't see it happening. About GEJ, I sseem to have mixed feelings about him. I believe Nigerians will see his true nature  (good and bad) after he wins the election. Believe me,he'l win the election free and fair. There's no denying his popularity. Now, they say 'to catch a monkey,u must behave like one.' That expression may just play out his current affinity with the corrupt pdp men he's adjudged to pally. I believe his merely using them.

One thing that I know for sure is that we cannot run away from reality; no matter how hard we try. If we decided to call a white piece of cloth black just because its night, by the morning it would be clear to every one that white remains white now and ever. In other words the truth cannot change.
Acting like monkey is not a new excuse: obj and ya'radua/gej were acting like monkeys to win elections but they never changed from monkey since they won rather they advanced to guerrilla.
The truth still remains that gej cannot improve the situation of this country with the way he muddles up things.What has he achieved while ruling his state - Bayelsa and for Nigeria since he took over as president.  "we can actually know how tomorrow would look like from activities of today"

Nobody is saying compulsorily people should vote BB who has good programme and intention for the country but no one should come to complain that there is no light, water, housing, road, education etc when the gej they want finally wins because we should be reminded that as you lay your bed so shall you lie on it.

Buhari, even he had one or two shortcomings when he rule as a military, he did very well. Let us leave any form of sentiment aside and face reality and also choose what is right for this country

Looking @ her claim logically; she is British-born meaning that the father is Nigeria-born.
And since she said Nigeria-raised men; probably the father is like that too, so the op should stop complaining.

Aside the above, there has been issues of worse sexual behaviour like rape & so on from white or black British-born or America-born men and women. Example include a British 33 yr old woman that slept with a 12 yr old boy 191 times
Source:  http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/2815522/Mums-sex-with-boy-aged-12.html 
Who knows what the op is doing with small boys over there as well

The major difference(s) could be:
- city girls are so exposed such that getting their tricks when they are playing takes extra effort on your own part as a man(only if u'r smart enough), while the village ones are not so exposed there4 easy to manage.
-Also, city girls are somehow expensive bcs of their exposure to city life such as using expensive make-ups, jewelries & others as dictated by their friends and societies they belong; and village girls are not exposed to all these.
-In addition, except few with home training, majority of city girls are lazy to care of the home so they rely on housemaids unlike village girls.

However, they are all the same when it comes to having multiple partners, abortions; in fact, village girls are more reckless se*ual life.

What do u expect from pupils that know GEJ as the president and Fashola as gov of the state where the mock is conducted?

If they want to do a better job, let them go to higher institutions for a more objective result

bidemi12:
herein lies where you miss the point; there is no distinction between politics and religion. if you are a christian and in a position of governance would you abide by sharia law? would your policies be geared towards the quranic teachings? Newsflash bro; muslims will do everything and anything to further this agenda. open your eyes, its happening everyday. Didn't IBB almost drag us into the OIC?

First of all, I think it is highly myopic for anyone to start thinking of who leads the country  must be from a given ethnic, religious or any group at all rather than discussing about who is the best person that can lead the country to development thru proper/diligent/sincere management of our resources.

@ bidemi, u need to define what is relion as well as politics b4 u conclude that there is no distinction betwn both. If there are no difference, why should muslims and christian be led by the same leadesr @ National/state/local level. Don't 4get that IBB whose government had no 'check & balance' like Democracy was a Military person that made all decisions alone.

What ppl should know is that even if Nigeria is been led by a christian as it is now, the northerners can still choose to be guided by sharia laws; but such cannot happen in the south and some northern states where there are lot of pple from diff religious background.

The likes of IBB, Abacha, Atiku, Gbenga Daniel, James Ibori, Orji Kalu,Chimaroke Nnamani, Michael Andoaka, Prof Maurice Iwu, national/state assemblies, Obaseki Gyus, OBJ, the ministers and the ruling group that led Nigeria/Nigerians into the state of economic catastrophe that we are all in today have both muslims & xtians in their midst. In fact we are all aware that they use some religious leaders(xtian & muslim) to convince their followers to support them.

The truth is that many of these pastors and the Imams alike divert the church/mosque funds to their personal account, taking us back to the issue of NO ACCOUNTABILITY that lead the country to where it is today.

I CAN TELL ANYBODY THAT IF NIGERIANS CONTINUE TO BUY ALL THESE RELIGIOUS/ETHNIC SENTIMENTS FROM SOME PASTORS/IMAM OR WHATEVER, NIGERIA IS HEADING NO WHERE IN TERMS OF DEVELOPMENT!

klas:
It will also jam the staff's cell phones as well. How then will official communication be made?

Phone jammers affect only mobile phones including those of staff, but there are land phones provided for staff to make official calls so the issue of jammer affecting official communication does not arise. In fact, banks were using jammers which basically remove network from your mobile phone and run down your battery when you'r within the coverage area. However, in the recent time, banks are removing the jammers to allow customers get calls on their phone while in the banking hall; thou not allowed to pick the calls but to enable them return important missed calls.

See, sometimes customers give away information unknowingly to some potential robbers within the bank while conversing about their transactions on the phones. The banks, knowing fully well the type of unsecured environment they operate, owe customers duty of care thru phone calls restrictions.

The only issue here is the manner in which the security operative implement the restriction instructions received from the bank officials. Some of the security do what they were not sent, so it's good for customers to know their rights/limitations as far as phone calls in the banks is concerned.

I think this topic should be changed to why would people (esp most Nigerian gals) want to reap from where they did not sow

Millions of Nigerians are jobless as depicted by the picture of over 60,000 Nigerian that were writing NDLEA test while standing under the sun, even thou only few of them would be taken as successful.  Despite this Atiku is busy wiring $40m out of the country and he wants to rule us; IBB stole and took away the Gulf Oil windfall of $12billion & he has the confidence that he can use part of the money to buy our vote so that he can damage/impoverish our economy further; All the criminals called senators/honourable are busy making legislations that make them the highest paid lawmakers in the world while we have no water, no light, no road, no job for the youth & many of them want to come back.

The truth is that Nigeria is in trouble except we stop all these people and stop "praying without working" Nigeria believe so much in the statement "God would save us; as long as we are alive, lets be managing".  SUFFERING & SMILING!

So don't allow any1 2 force u 2 put off ur fone

I don't think any bank still ask pple to switch off their phone b4 entering a banking hall, thus giving them the opportunity to return missed calls when they leave the bank. What I'm very sure of is that ppl are not allowed to make/receive calls in the banking hall; and certainly is for security reasons.

The way some customers shout "I'm in the bank" on phone sometimes gives an impression that they are trying to give info to some crooks

Is not coming as a news anyway, Nigeria has the history of being ruled by criminals and rogues because Nigerians allow them(few criminals) to loot our treasury and use same loot to as tips to buy Nigerians votes. This is bcs many Nigerian have condemn themselves to faith that they have no control over their own lives talkless of national issues that affect them. The belief is that lets take the peanut(half bread is better than none)  and leave them to continue to loot and terrorise us with the loot.

For Nigeria to move forward, people like Abubakar, IBB, Obj, Gbenga Daniels, Omishore & so on should not be allowed to even campaign talkless of contesting and winning/rigging elections.

NIGERIANS, OUR DESTINY IS IN OUR OWN HANDS.

Ayowumie:
I have asked myself time without number "guy, why cant u just be a friend to a lady?"

My frequent answer to myself is dis: girls many a times do appreciate friendship and somtimes d friendship may not even be mutual. So, i have resulted into following the preaching of one my friends. He would say "wat kind of friendship does a man have with a woman if not that they are . , . . . .

See Ayowumie, being just friend is the best I have always advocated for but 2 be candid with you, Nigerian girls (thou not all of them) are like hunters that are not ready to be your friend if they don't get something from you often. As a guy, you need to understand what I'm saying; what they want is a ready made man that they burden with there problems and if you don't allow that, they call you all sort of names like aka gum, haradite etc.

If you want to understand what I'm saying, take a sample of married men that lost their jobs or biz is not doing well and see that about 99% of their wives become so disrespectfull compared to when things were rosy. I'm saying it because I know people that have shared experience with me and as I tried to confirm this by testing some of my female friends that I lose my job while on leave; people that usually come to spend time with me during weekend when working suddenly became very busy when I was around 24/7. Honestly, it is a very hopeless situation - people want 2 be ur friend in order to meet up with their wants in Nigeria. Sometime, I wonder if a lady can marry anyone for whom u are since a lady once told me that "brilliant or not/handsome or ugly; all a lady wants from a man is comfort".

My problem now is not comfortabilty but what happen to a friendship/relationship/marriage that was inspired by material things if economic/financial challenges sets in. Because of how rampant this problem is, I don't see any lady in this Nigeria as a gud one as they have failed again & again irrespective of whether they are born-again or not. IT IS A PATHETIC SITUATION THAT I DON'T THINK THERE IS A SOLUTION, SO LETS BE WISE & MANAGE/LIVE WITH IT.

Beync:
@tellwisdom, i shud swear for u? it doesnt worth it. i mysef help people irespective of gender hence is within my reach and i dont espect anythin in return rather i espect the receiver to extend to others.

shud women also pay in kind or cash to  all these morally bankrupt Mds who want to hav hav them sleep with before they wud be given the job they are due for?


u bashin on gals for not getin free sex, how cud u when u go to sex market to patronize, else if u have issues not meetin your gf's demands go talk it over and stop lamentin

I can tell u have attitude problem; why would u want to swear for somebody because of argument

TELL ME WHY I SHOULD BE SPENDING MY HARD EARNED MONEY ON SOME LAZY ABLE-BODIED GALS WHO ARE NEITHER MY SISTER, MY RELATIVES, MY GF, NOR MY WIFE FOR NOTHING WHEN TEY AV PARENTS, UNCLES & BF(S)?

The question you have refused to answer is why do we have girls demanding for helps(such as recharge cards, clothing, monthly subscription for using Black Berry which they or their parents cannot afford and payment of other bills which are not even basic necessities) from guys? Whereas if you see a guy asking for help, it would be for basic needs and hardly from a lady unless someone he is very close to.

Also, without attempting to tell a lie, how many people with whom you have no direct relationship have come to you for help and you helped them? If you are running a charity, post your phone number so that guys can be directing those parasites to you so that you can be helping them(start with the poster) like you have been doing and see if your bank account would not run down to zero in about 5 months while we do the normal help that we are pleased with

You are talking about banks MD sleeping with ladies b4 giving them job; if that is the case, what do they demand from guys that are working in banks? The question you should have asked yourself is that are they not the ones offering themselves to cover up for their qualifications deficiencies? Let me be frank with you, I work in a bank and I know how singles and married are dating the "ogas" just because they want to keep their jobs-reason why we have "corporate prostitutes".

Except you want to deceive yourself, majority of Nigerian ladies(employed and unemployed) keep looking for one favour or the other(even when they don't deserve it, believing that they can use their bodies) because of their high level of dependency.

Many of the ladies were saying the poster said family member! See what the op said:

[b[i]]you hardly see a man that can render help to you 4 free[/i], everybody wanna get down with you.

just imagine a family friend dat is as old as your father asking you out, even every young guy out there dont want friendship all thy're interested in is this honeypot.

i know im not the only one having this problem, babes abi wetin una think?

need your advise oh.[/b]

Why asking a family friend who is a man and not a family friend who is a woman? This is more of the reason why many of these parasitic girls around have so many "uncles" and may have no single aunt

long distance relationship(with the exception of like 0.1%) can only be "strengthened" by communication full of deceits and made-believe lies -since you cannot see each other, u have to believe whatever you hear on phone.

Note however that anything built on deception and falsehood shall surely crash!

Beync:
@op seten is the cause, he doesnt give freely, he give and take, wen people allow the spirit of this world to rule them, wat do u espect frm them, they will give in espectation of return frm u. so bad and selfish.

help culd be anythin , assitant,
i no exactly wat the poster mearnt, its feels so crazy

I feel so disturbed the rate at which Nigerian girls look for help just to afford spending above their mean by buying clothes and other frivolous things; and most times they expect the so-called help from guys even if they(guys) have to give up some basic needs or steal

I noticed that it is not common for guys to open or even support a thread like this where people want to forcefully become "selfish parasites"

Nigerian girls, stop pushing our guys into crime just to satisfy your unreasonable/selfish wants