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@ Poster.

There are times that I'm seriously baffled by how some people think; so parochial. How would anybody in the whole world tell me to go out of my house? How do you expect a black woman(esp Nigerian ladies) whom while under their parents put almost all their responsibilities including that of their parents on the bf/fiance to tell such a guy to leave what he toiled to acquire?

To face the fact, black ladies are so dependent that thinking on their own sometimes is so difficult except they want to "cheat".White women with whom you compare "your black self" are supportive and independent (Not always sitting back at home expecting the man to always bring for them to squander)

As it is that a very high % of men take responsibilities that make them almost the sole decision maker (just like having a majority stakeholding), there are capable ladies that jointly own properties with their partners  or solely own/finance the properties. In the case a supportive/independent women, the partner dare not tell them to leave the house; rather they(the men) should be prepared to be sent out anytime they misbehave.

Remember that relationship/marriage is like any other contract where the partner with little or no value addition should be ready to get the relationship going by always saying "your wish is my command" and take every bull shit that comes their ways.

Ladies should learn to call their guys if they(guys) don't call. This shows if a relationship is balanced and not being driven by one party while the other party sits there waiting for calls everytime withouth returning any of such calls

MRbrownJAY:
if a person is complaining because of the price of a phone call then he is definitely NOT READY for a relationship.
btw: phone calls are beneficial for the both of them and usually made to enquire about the other's well being, i.e caring.


rotflmao!!!! just because you care about her studies doesnt mean that you have to pay for it. if she says she needs a textbook then simply tell her to ask her parents/siblings/aunt etc to buy it for her. tell her that you are as poor as her and that instead of buying her a textbook, you will help her study together.
surely, the gal cant be mad at you for being broke. lol!

what you wrote is the reason why so many guys fail miserably in relationships. they wanna pretend to be someone they are not, not being honest about who they truly are.

It's either you've not had a Nigerian girl as a gf b4 or u're being absolutely unrealistic; if not' u'll know that she'd leave u 4 sm1 that would provide those things and the next girl might even be worse by asking u to pay her house rent.

I can tell u that when u have no money, 10 other guys share ur gurl with u. But you share 10 gurls with their boyfriends immediately money comes.I've been with a girl and the bf called her and she claimed 2 be somewhere else.

It's a bitter truth and I don't see them change in the nearest future bcs the economy is bad and they(gurls) want to survive

tpiah:
on july 5 2010 the poster was 30.


https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=474141.msg6335728#msg6335728


on july 7 2010 poster was 36 and from south korea.


nice story but not too sharp, imo.

anyway, there's a village in nigeria called south korea. That's where he's from. I know the place.

poster, sorry your booty call tricked you and didnt use a condom. You're too rich, that's why.

Try read postings very well before you reply so that u don't fall our hands further after what that girl did. I know our universities teach maths and logical reasoning. The man's post of 5th July reads:

This is for the male and female, what is the age of the youngest person you ever had sex with,well for me the age was 16 and then i was like 16 years also but that was a long time ago in secondary school, but of recent like 3 years ago,i was 30 and slept with a 15 years student old and boy was she good.

The statement simply means : not too sure, but about 3 years ago(when the event occurred), he was 30

lashontae:
@Tpiah, thanx jare. For opening the yansh of this mofo who likes discrediting Nigerian women. He also said he's happily married after tieing the knot last year(another lie)!

Have you read the said July 5th post before you thank Tpiah for his wrong and subjective interpretation. Common sense is not common!

Nigerians! wake up to face the truth so that our country can move forward

I think there is a need for us to stop being sentimental and learn to call a spade a spade. If somebody read the post very well; the korean guy said the wife and children are in south korea. I want to believe that the distance is what makes him engage in what he was doing. Also, we should note that he explained that the naija girl is aware that he is married (why won't a girl decline advances from married men? Instead they chase you like goat is chasing cassava as long as you have the money, your marital status doesn't matter). Being a married man gives them an advantage to blackmail you so that you always agree with their demands

I'm sorry if I'm hurting somebody by telling the truth, but I can't stop. 99% of Nigerian ladies that I've met are not interested in anything but what they can benefit from you. Some would even claim that they are not interested in your money at first, but you'll be shocked when they come with their bills and bother you with stories of their retirees parents and the need to meet up with one expenditure or the other.

I know of a girl that her aim of getting involved with me was to use me to achieve her agenda to travel abroad, knowing fully well that I work in a bank and my younger brother is based in UK. I knew that and called it quit but she won't let me be.


Nigerian ladies(especially the Enamoring and other Ibo girls) should change their ways and take being responsible as priority over chasing money endlessly

PokerFace:
AWOOF DEY RUN BELLE!

True talk!

mutter:
You need to take a long hard look at your self young woman
The man is not silly, he is wooing a woman and using what he`s got. To you it may be something special but maybe to him it is peanuts.
The only silly person and greedy at that that I see is you.
that man gave you that gift to commit you to consider him at least. You took the gift knowing you would not.
That makes you a fraudster too.
YOu should be ashamed of yourself really. sorry to sound so harsh.

Candid submission.

This is the way some ladies take advantage of s1's feeling for them; what stops u from rejecting his gift the way u rejected his advances at u. The answer is that u're naturally wayward but pretending to be smart here

Madukaele:
dats exactly what i want, y should she refuse medical help like x-ray and stuff, y insist on native drugs dat isnt working since 5 yrs,watin i do u na? . u just jumped and begin attack me. na wah ooo. read question first b4 u attack. i neva said virgin stuffs here, just trying to lrt u guys know dat d guy looks clean.

U should expect them to divert from the original issue bcs they have smthing to hide

Odunnu:
Lol.
Like you'v been waiting for ths guy to start ds topic!!!vry funny d way u jumpd at hm.
@Poster,tel urself and anybdy who is worrying that 'children are gifts frm God'
He gives it to those He wishes to gv.Being a virgin b4 marriage is not a guarantee.I'v heard of harlots who gave birth so,its nt abt chastity.

If that is the case, how many virgin have u seen gone barren?

The truth is that none of these so called sophisticated ladies are ready to follow what God says anymore. God knows that if women are not submissive to their husbands irrespective of their achievement, the following would be happening:
- children would become crminals bcs their mothers that suppose to be guiding them have gone chasing money
- the society would no longer be peaceful as their were so many criminals given birth to by our career women
- there woul be several sophisticated women left unmarried bcs they are 2 proud to obey God thru their husbands
- bcs of proudness, many broken homes which lead to children not being taken care of.

Can any of the sopphisticated and modern day ladies let us know that all the above are not happening almost everyday.

Can sm1 tell me that she can decide to turn her 'head' to 'leg' bcs of modernisation and civilisation

Women! change your orientation so that world can bcm peaceful again.

A word is enough for the wise

Odunnu:
@poster,U r suffering frm insecurity and its hurtin u so badly.
Personally,I kan only lay claim to 3female friends and d rest are guys.
My best friend is a guy and i'm so vry comfy with guys.
Mayb datz d kinda gurl your babe is.
Let her knw how much u value d r'shp,she wnt fork up.Trust moi.

If merely expressing how much you value a relationship gurantees security, then there would be no heart break here and there

@ poster I'd tell you nothing but the truth even if it's bitter
Your case reminds me of a friend that was sleeping with sm1s fiancee after making the guy to believe that they(my friend & the guy's fiancee) were family friends. The guy believed them that he often buy things for the 'family friend' any time he's coming to visit the fiacee.

Ladies keep several male friends so that they can be 'obtaining' them. On the long run, some of the guys sleep with the girl bcs they don't want give something 4 noting

Kindly clear your babe that if doesn't desist, you want a break

@ poster
it's not a crime in anyway rather focusing your mind on it is a distraction to achieving your goal; it's time wasting and resources consuming.

I can tell you that there is no benefit apart from the occasional 5-minute s--xual activity; and if you know that doesn't border you, abeg concentrate on achieving your primary objective(success) in life.

Those blackmails would come from girls and guys with nothing to achieve and want you to be like them; please, ignore them and make yourself 'distinct'. At the end of the day, they'd be chasing you about on achieving success

Cheers!

Ebonyeyes:
If the case were reversed and the female did the cheating, will the male end the relationship?

Hey! let's be realistic here; I'm not trying to be on men's side, but the truth is that women are more than men in numbers.
For example, if sb has 4 clothes and loss 1, he would not feel as bad as sm1that loss his only cloth.

By nature & said by bible that ' a time is coming that some women wold beg men that they allow them to bear their name'; men are entitle to more women than a woman holding on to more than 1 already scarce men.

Look around you and tell me that you don't have several women that are not married as compared to men

Wake up and face the reality before it's 2 late

The reason why the world is no longer peaceful is because women are no longer ready to abide by God's instruction that 'men are the heads'

@ poster

Your action is totally wrong and condemnable! You said the man has been 'nice' and 'caring/wonderful' which are the reason for your closeness I guess.

There are so many single guys out there if what you actually wants is a relationship and not the so call 'nice guy'

Put yourself in the wife's shoes! Please, don't break ppl's marriage in the name of 'sb is nice to you'

Rubbish! bull shit!! Throw are slut arse into the street

Odunnu:
You shd be the one to tel us whch world u live in.
D last census gvs us a 3 : 1 ratio of male to female,so apparently,she might be quoting frm anoda country's figure.
Why do u delude your self with ths more women than men myth?
@topic,infidelity is more than enof reasn 2remain single!

If you truly followed the census, you would know that most women in the north(where one man marries like 3 or more women) were not counted beacause their tradition does not allow strangers into their houses; thier women live in pudah. This made your argument to be completely wrong