Will U shut Ur stinking mouth already. The society is not responsible n will never be responsible, when d society tries to correct people like U will come up with Ur useless quote " Do not judge, r U a saint, bla bla bla

Legendoo:


The society is responsible. Just shut the Bleep up.

You mother fuvkers are liable for this shit You keep encouraging it.


Just shut up , I wish more right thinking Nigerians could see how much damage you've done, so that they can treat your fck up .

Society is largely responsible. We see you mother fuckers.

ethiope hall

Don't waste Ur comment on him. Because his mother is usefulness n troublesome that's y he thinks all women are like his mother and sisters.

superCleanworks:

Smtimes I ask myself, how this country would have looked like if not for yahoo? In my own opinion, "yahoo" had done more good than bad regarding the rate of unemployment. Some will say go n learn a skill blablabla good but after learning d skill who will patronize U? na who chop belle full they do photoshoot,sew n buy clothes,do makeup buy human hair as d state of economy is dealing with oil workers,nt to mention civil n public servants, d only people who r n't feeling d heat are the senior yahoo ( politicians)Tkt or leave it' yahoo money' is what makes the present economy conducive a bit. Also the rate of theft n day light arm robbery would had been on d increase if not for yahoo. Efcc leave our youth alone n go after d real yahoo gang(politicians) who have pushed our youth to d wall resulting to "yahoo" Las Las na who get long throat na dem dey yahoo

HonNL:


EFCC

You r very right on this. I keep saying until we start holding our governors, L G chairmen, community leaders n representative responsible nothing will be done right. Everytime Buhari this and that. a

BeeBeeOoh:


https://dailypost.ng/2022/02/11/some-governors-attack-buhari-to-escape-paying-salaries-pension-presidency/

Same way your mother was only useful in bed to your father

Islie:
Stop looking for ready-made husbands, Charly Boy tells ladies



https://thenationonlineng.net/stop-looking-for-ready-made-husbands-charly-boy-tells-ladies/

God1000:
They are all star actors many young women admire greatly, they can play whatever role you give them swimmingly.

1 Ramsey Nouah
2 Jim Iyke
3 Francis Duru
4 Emeka Ike
5 Mike Ezuruonye

Up till now I wonder what pple find attractive in Ramsey Nouah maybe cause I don't fancy fair guy. Emeke Ike at sm point yes, Yemi Blaq is my crush OMG his height, complexion, eyes oops ,kill me!

UtopiaDream:


https://www.instagram.com/p/CY_dd6loGLS/?utm_medium=copy_link

My love for this guy is deep. King Laycon I hail thee!

FERNANDEZISBACK:

Then that shows you ain't sensible tho..
Grow up married man and stop coming here to show the world how half witted you are..

madam plz stop all these your foolish talk, coz is obvious that U r nt only immatured but as stupid as the op. Fish brain!

Noah9:
I want to thank everyone for their advice and I really appreciate everyone involvement about the thread I created 2week ago. Here is the link.
https://www.nairaland.com/6933724/regretted-actions-please-me

Great people of this forum, honestly things have never been better ever since that incident and I wish our minds are like show glass so that y'all would see how sorry I am inside of me. I messed up and I'm really sorry.

5 days after I created that post above, My wife traveled with my daughter to her parents house to stay without telling me. Since that incident my wife haven't said a word to me, Not a single word. Sometimes I wonder if she's the same woman I married. I'm frustrated, incoherent and I'm losing my mind.

I've been good to her, I provide 85% for my family while she bring just 15% yet I don't complain, I'm romantic and good looking, since we married I don't keep female friends not to talk of cheating. Yet She denied me sex over 2 months without any reasons, that was why I acted that way and I'm so sorry.

On Tuesday here, My friend and I traveled to her parents house, they did not even welcome us well, I don't know what she must have told her parents but I explained myself, knelt down and asked for forgiveness.

She refused to come home with me, her parents were just starring at me like I'm some demon, I requested for my daughter but she refused to release her and I've already paid my daughter's school fees for the term. Her parents said they would register my daughter in a new school, that my wife need some space for now.

Please don't call me a weak man, I'm family oriented, I don't want broken home, if she needed some space that's not a problem, I can give her all the space in the world but let her come home. It's not proper raising a child in a broken home...I'm really losing my mind.

I faced query today at work because I traveled without informing my Boss which I know he won't allow me and I know how much would be deducted from my salary. what I'm going through now I can't wish my enemies and I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I messed up.

Beloveth Pls I need advice.

Oga, I don't want to use abusive words on U but trust me U r nt normal. Y would U rape a wife who denied U sex, is her pussy gold? Is there no ashawo joint in Ur area? U r a weak man n weak men r nt attractive. Ur foolishness did n't just end there U still went to her parents to embarrass urself d more, thinking U r a gentleman, romantic n a good person. I pity U! Continue

Rachel98:
Good morning everyone. Hope we're having a wonderful week.

My Elder brother is doing well, no doubt he's the breadwinner in our family But his wife is so rude, too authoritative, she's full of pride and she looks down on people. She see everyone as her employee, she does not care if her actions or words hurts you, she's quick to slap at any slightest provocation. She's an event planner, please are event planners this rude??

She's the main reason why we barely visit our brother, despite we all live in the same city, we feel like a total stranger in our brother's house. Probably she's using "jazz" on him, I don't know But everything she does seems cool to him.

I managed to spend the weekend with them, since on friday she act like my presence irritates her. The maid prepared semo and vegetable soup, i don't eat swallow that like, so she saw me cooking noodles, she rudely said why're you not eating semo? Why are you people so selective? Then she left the kitchen. I just maintained my cool.

Yesterday she slapped her maid just because the plantain she told her to fry wasn't brown enough (maybe she wanted burnt sacrifice plantain). My elder brother calmly said honey you shouldn't have slapped her just becus of plaintain. The next she told my brother was "Defender!! go and marry her nw"

This morning, I jejely packed my belongings on my way to work, I entered my brother's car so he can drop me at the bus-stop, I just told him I won't be coming to his place anymore, once I'm done with work today I'm going home straight. And the annoying part, he would be asking me why? As if he's blind, he can't see how rude and ill-mannered his wife is.

His wife has really separated my brother from us, his own family. We don't even know what to do.

ode! leave Ur brother's family alone. Mind you is her home nt urs. It nt bad enough that d whole family is leeching on him but U also want to invade her home. African entitlement mentality with their blood is thicker than water but if smtin happens to d brother is d wife that will single handedly take care of d children he will leave behind uncle n aunty go yapa. See Ur mouth like " his own family" my friend his own family is his wife n kids gt that into your head

lalasticlala:


https://fij.ng/article/catholic-school-hurriedly-buries-jss1-student-who-died-after-maltreatment-by-teacher/

l HV learnt never to HV pity on people cos an average Nigerian is evil n wicked. Marian went to bbnaija n waz openly intimidating n bullying people yet some called it "content", many hated Queen cos she always stood up for herself. Una neva see any thing perhaps some of his family members r Marian's . Karma is indeed real. For me " all r see is a teacher n school with great content". I return all contrary comments, wishes n tantrums back to sender in advance

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets , my salary is 55k i used to give my wife 20k mother 10k , 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house. My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more , I had no money to give her my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it . My wife used to fought me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house hearse we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k , so far we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful. Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly she have agreed. Now that my mother is here with us she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us note I dobt eat breakfast I eat lunch at work and in the evening at eat at home , she is only giving my mother foods in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day. I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods. It is my decision good?

Stupid fool ,u r putting all d blame on a young mother of triplet when Ur lazy mother can not fend for herself, imagine Ur sister is a household is ur mother crippled or just lazy she is supposed to be supplying U with food stuff n by adding to Ur problem or is it how her own mother is depending on her. Oga Ur mother did n't plan her life well she is more of a leech n a bloodsucker let her go and hustle to take care of Ur sister who is a household. Ur main focus should be d welfare of Ur kids feed them well

Oga if Ur family are reasonable enough they should know that your house is not a place for their visitation. Ur wife owns your home now n she decides who she want to accommodate. As long as Ur wife loves n tks good care of U, Ur business is booming U r well that should be their major priority not coming to live or spend days in Ur house. Let me ask u, will Ur family members serve her or expect to be served? Can she talk to them and send them on errands the way she do to her own family. She is d one that stays at home from morning till night therefore she has d right to decide who her companion are her family r d people she can control without them taking offence
, she can even tell her mother to leave her house, insult her without her taking offence but can she do that with Ur mother? Oga is her home let her b free btw d best gift U can give to Ur kids is d love of a mother, God forbid if anything happens to u , those Ur blood is thicker than water family can never care for Ur kids the way Ur wife cos if is the other way round U would have loved Ur uncles more than your mum. Love Ur family Tk care of them but keep them away from Ur home. Ur home is strictly for Ur wife, without her is a house n nt a home. Thanks!
thesame

Richpet85:
Please do not mind my english consider any error as typo but I honestly needed a sincere advice.

My marriage will be 8 years by September 2022. The journey of marriage has not been rosy and sometime I feel I made a very huge mistake by marrying my wife. I met her in April that year, we date for 6 months and we finally got married Sept same year. Prior before we got married I took her to meet with my siblings since my both parents were late specially our 2nd daughter who her husband sponsored my secondary education. She was cool with my family and never raised any concern during this period of courtship.

Suddenly a night of our wedding everything changed. That same woman that took care of my family as hers turned into directly opposite of who she used to be. To cut the story short, she started dispising my family and the thought of their sight irritates her.

She started by complaining about my sister's son living with me before we got married, her mum and other of my siblings to the point that anytime my eldest sister visited she will leave my house with tears.

My wife also ensure she send all my siblings and relations away from me and my house no go area for them. But what confuses me was that she doesn't behave in a similar manner whenever her own siblings or her mum visits our home. Her behaviour towards my family has destroyed the joy we once had as siblings. The marriage has produced 3 kids of which my last child is less than a month old. Anytime she put to bed her mother has always been the one coming for OMUGOO. None of my siblings can come to my house because of her attitude towards them.

I can't tolerate it further am dying silently as am typing this msg her mum, her immediate junior Sister are in my house and every where is very peaceful. If they were my mum or sibling my house would have been burning by now.

I made conscious effort to kill and ignore this feeling but anytime I see her mum and sister. I feel very depressed in my own house. There are other ill behaviour she have which I can tolerate but seeing myself separated from my siblings because of my wife is my greatest Marital night mare.

I am sincerely fade up with her but my kids are my greatest weakness. The thought of leaving my house and go far away from her or rather travel abroad and leave there permanently has recently overcrowded my mind. But I can't stop thinking about my kids, their future and what they will turn into if she is to raise them alone.

Don't forget I have provided her with everything needed to be comfortable in marriage, house, cars, business etc mostly importanly I am not cheating on her, I don't smoke, I don't keep late night and I don't have friends because she has sent everybody close to me away from my life.

I need a mature advice and no insult please.

I am emotionally trumatised and feel so depressed.

Buy green leaf from instectides seller. And thank me later

Laycon

This is d problem with Africa parents , perhaps your father parents imposed alot of responsibilities on him thereby leading to the stroke he suffers today . If I may ask where is your fathers family(mother n siblings)?Is his wife n children that are carrying all d wahala now Abi. Later all these small small boys will cm here n say my immediate family over my wife.My advice for U is to Tk life as U C it do not put too much pressure on yourself to avoid being in the same situation as Ur dad thereby creating problem for Ur future wife n kids.

Omorotionmwann:
It has been 12years now since my dad has been down with Stroke which has affected his speech,his right hand and leg and some 4years ago,he couldn't walk anymore but had to be carried to sleep,sit and all physical metabolism is done where he is,even after I and my mum have spent and still spends a lot on physiotherapy,speech therapy,brain checkups at Mecure oshodi,routine and forthnight high blood pressure checkups with expensive drugs and still no changes but it gets worse,all done going around in taxi as I have no car.....

I was 18 and in 200level in a federal uni with him and my mum my only support system when all of this started,couldn't concentrate and focus on school work anymore as I am the firstborn of a 7 boys family and my attention was always needed.....Mum told me I need to drop out that she can't afford all of this alone but I was strong hearted and determined to graduate with a B.Eng...

I had issues with my lecturers as my attendance were poor and my course adviser said it to my face that I would never graduate but I never told them about my travails or they wouldn't even believe me anyways cos they were mostly SADIST,All Engineering lecturers in Uniben especially Mechanical/PRODUCTION ENGINEERING from 08/09 upward,OGUN KILL ALL OF UNA!!! Life was tough for me and my Mum....

Now that I am a Man and supposed to be focus on my life future and raising a family but this is still taking a toll on me emotionally,financially,mentally and I will come home to my mum nagging,crying that she has tried enough over the years and i might come home one day and she has left ....THIS BREAKS ME,I AM TIRED,I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO....I LOVE MY DAD,HE IS IN PAINS TOO!!!

IF I COULD SEE THE FUTURE BACK THEN WHEN IT STARTED,I WOULD HAVE ASKED THE DOCTORS FOR MERCY DEATH,DO NIGERIAN DOCTORS OR HOSPITALS GIVE OUT MERCY DEATH TO PATIENTS?

NAIRALANDERS,I AM DEPRESSED AND I NEED YOUR ADVICE

sorry for the long post. Mods please help this thread to front page for more advice

Gamer999:
The only woman I can sacrifice for, die for and spend for are my mother and sisters the rest are just bunch of pyssies... Imagine everything 2baba did for this b*tch she still get the temerity to ridicule the man on SM

GOD bless Nigeria
God bless Kogi state
God bless ebiraland
God bless you and yours

I
Mumu! Same way Ur mother is a mere pussy to her boyfriend or husband n Ur sisters pussies to their boyfriends or husband .

I don't understand the so called ipob,they want freedom from a certain group yet they are forcing other group to be part of them. Ipob are just too greedy, wicked n self centred. The earlier they realise that Niger Delta can never be part of their agenda the better for them. Ipob go with your five eastern state "greedy folks"

This is what happens when you believe blood is thicker than water and refused to put your first family in their perfect position on time.

Madam calm down. Cheating is synonymous to naija men. Your own even good say oga no password him phone some women here don't even have access to their husband's phones.And as far as am concern no marriage is made in heaven forget about those single ladies here telling you to get a divorce, U can decide to do that only if Uve made up your mind to stay single for the rest of your life cos man drama no dey finish.
I consider U lucky cos U gat a job n two wonderful kid so b grateful to God. My advice is ignored him totally,love yourself 100%, treat yourself well. Cheers!

izito:
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In 2016 she told me her salary was #50.000 And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only #5000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. #400,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine. 

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.” 

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?”  He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”


My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions. 

*What's your take?*

I don't understand why is everybody sounding like is a big deal, maybe because a man is the victim here. Somebody like me that my husband refused to tell his monthly earnings, he does thing for his family without my knowledge, this is a man that refused to give me 300k for business but sent his mother 200k to fix her car, pay part of her house rent even when she is richer than my husband and clearly can afford her needs, a man that doesn't care about our fertility state though through my mom's help am seeking medical attention, a man that I don't know anything about his finance and expenditure. I thank God that am not doing anything for now cause it enabled me to know the kind of man he is.By the time I start earning he will know that karma is a bitch as in I will show him pepper

Oga, check ursef there is something U r not doing right.