₦airaland Forum

And this is someone that has ambition to be Nigerian president? God don't ever let this calamity befall us, amen.

meetme01:
Our journalist need to upgrade. By now, we should have seen names from those books littered in the building.

By now, folks around should have been questioned to ascertain people that actually come around that place. Probably, big cars or flashy guys or any bad odour from that area.

The CP said, the supposed graves look as if yams were harvested there. Farmers are around, thet should know better. Folks around should testify to that basic fact.

I don't understand why the father was paraded. He's not the culprit nor an accomplice. So why?

Akpan friends should be identified through his Facebook account to ascertain the type of guy he's. An indepth research will relieve more facts.

David was able to give names of recent callers. Can he do same to 2-3months and run checks on them to see if their are accomplices or has reported, buyers of the organs.?

It's obvious the guy was tutored on what to say. He did not fret. He spoke eloquently repeating same statement which shows he is very smart. He even said, he was ready to die. He already knows it will take long before he can be sentenced. He knows the process.

To be frank, the guy may be let loose at the long run.

In court, he already accepted manslaughter which is life imprisonment. That's what the judge will rely upon since the police or any other person cannot provide facts and evidences.

To summarize everything in a nutshell, let the telecommunication service provider leak the call conversation between him and others. Very simple.

Bearfruit:
of cause I know how unresonable your likes are.psalm 10 describes your likes. Go and read it.

How many children do you have madam?

Bearfruit:
which woman have you seen birth 20.have alot to say but your likes are just unresonable.

Birthing more than 3 is as good as 20.

Bearfruit:
wise in your eyes is it not, just say what is in your mind the poorman should not exist.psalm 10. Have seeing many like you.

I only made a suggestion but if you think it's wise to birth 20 children in your poor state, you are very free ma.

Woa

PuZZyNegro:
In Economics, low income families give birth to many children because to them, children are investment goods while high income families give birth to fewer children because to them, children are consumption goods.

To a rich man, children are substitute goods, to a poor man, children are complementary goods.

Factors that affect the fertility rate in Nigeria are

1. Price (cost) of raising children
2. Income of the household
3. Taste and preference
4. Cost of other goods.


Now, looking at the cost of raising children, a man that lives at Lekki will definitely want to have fewer children because the cost of raising one child is high considering the environmental factors like school fees, rent, etc. Unlike a man living at Ijegun that will only need to drop 500 naira at home for the lunch of 5 children. Now, you know why someone living in the low-brow area of the city will most likely give birth to more children? Because it costs him less to raise them. They can go to government school for all that he cares!

Income of the household. Lower income should have mean fewer number of children but the reverse is the case in this country due to lack of education and exposure.

Taste and preference. People with high taste will want to have fewer number of children so to maintain a minimum living standard.

Cost of other goods. The higher the cost of other goods, the fewer the number of children should be.

Nigeria has factors 2 and 4 to help us reduce the population boom but high level of ignorance rather made it to work against us.

If you took your time to read this, please save the society by giving birth to no more than 3 children irrespective of the genders. Whatever 6 children will do for you, 3 children when properly trained can do it.

You nailed it bro. You nailed it. Rightly said, lack of education and exposure.

A poor man should not have more than one child. That is ideal.

Although nobody can predict the future but there are people who deliberately walk into unfavourable condition. As a writer of this article, age wise I'm due for marriage but I don't give a damn about it not until I'm able to get a good job that can guarantee me at least one bedroom. Besides, the path Nigeria is tilting towards economically demands one to use his head sufficiently when doing things that has future implications. I live in one room apartment as years now since I graduated from the University I haven't been able to find a good paying job. In this compound, we share toilet/bathroom with no specific place to call kitchen. You just have to create a space for your cooking and the gas cylinder returned inside after cooking. In fact, looking at the structure of the building, it wasn't designed to accommodate people in family setting but singles but today, agents and the lawyer have brought so many married people into the place.

Living in one room as family

There are four different married (legally or illegally) people living in the compound as thus:

Family A has husband, wife, 3 children and two relative all living inside I room.

Family B has husband, wife, 3 children (currently the wife is pregnant for the fourth child) and a relative inside one room.

Family C has husband, wife, 2 children (currently the wife is pregnant for the 3rd child) and also a relative living inside one room while

Family D has husband, wife, two children and two relatives and mother in-law living in one room.
Crazy right? While this article is not in anyway intended to make jest of anybody but what I don't seem to understand is people living inside one room and still give birth to multiple of children into same. I mean are these people comfortable with their condition? Are they comfortable with poverty? To me, I think it's crazy. How do they cope? No privacy between the husband and the wife. Even the sex that led to their wives' current pregnancy, how, where and when did it happen when they have absolutely no privacy of their own. Also, these people can disturb. Is it because I'm not married? Always either asking for one thing or the other. "Abeg make I use your gas boil water for Garri. My own just finish". "Abeg you get Garri?" "Abeg borrow me 2k I go give you back". "Abeg u get Maggi?" "Abeg give me your toothpaste". "Abeg make I use your detergent" "abeg give me small pepper" and almost anything else you can think of. Haba! Habatically!! I'm tired please.

In my submission, I think government as a matter of urgency should do something about birth/population control in the country. Already, one of the factors that have given birth to the present state of Nigeria is over population which has led to high rate of unemployment, poverty and consequently, crime. Also, people should try to attend some level of financial comfortability before delving into family way. Me that is not married, no be say I stupid but things must be done right. May God bless me with a good job or capital for business so I can pack out of this place in no time.

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colestephan86:
I am still of the opinion that, the cause of failed marriages these days is that most ladies feel it's the responsibility of the guy to do everything, while she saves her own money.
But In Nigeria of today couple must share the responsibility
Grocery and toiletries to the lady
Cable TV the lady
Gas refill the lady
Food the man
Gen running everyday the guy
Car maintenance the man
House rent 60/40
This is the model I use
Many guys are overburdened buy doing it all alone.

Nice one

Seems marriage has continually become less important by the day. A friend we were together in school back then met me in a joint yesterday unwinding and immediately uttered, "o boy, I don divorce o". I was shocked cos I wasn't aware of his marriage. When in school, there was this course mate he was seeing, never knew they took it to marriage level. However, regardless of when they might have gotten married, I don't think the marriage was up to 2 years. I tried to ask him what happened but he said later as the place was too rowdy.

What has become marriages these days?

So I was just reflecting on my past relationships remembering all the girls have been with in this my life. Some with nice character and others with character that can be rejected like a goat taken to the market for sale. In the course of this, I realized over 8 girls I have had a relationship with and we spent at least 6 months together, none of them have gotten married. The only one that got married was my first love. She's the one who even introduced me into sex and she got married to someone who was ready to marry her then while I just finished secondary school as at that time.

What could be wrong?
I mean these ladies are aging and not getting younger.

Seun, lalasticlala, Mynd44 etc

The return of Covid19

Ok

Money do crazy things

Davash222:
If this mysterious beast mistakenly deck on any Island in Nigeria, na for pot you for dey ask the name of the beast.

Quite funny but true

nick50:
By d time she submit ur picture to thier alter n they slaughter one Pigeon on top ur matter burn seven candle for midnight join body all this ur strong head go calm down.. e be like say u never see something

Kidding?

Omoobong1:
it's on the judgement day that some people will realize that most of the societies that they called church were not God's church. Now back to your question, you can only leave her if she doesn't want you.

How do you mean? Would I be under any influence to date her even when I don't want?

tnerro1:
What if they ask her to bring you for sarcrifice

Hmmmm

johnhood:
Which brotherhood?

You have a different view about it entirely?

emkz:
There is nothing wrong in dating her. Let me share a story with you that totally changed my worldview about them.

We had a member who used to live in our house. He didn't eat meat. And when food is shared to him during Christmas, he'd reject the stew (principles). Once in a while, he used to host his church members and they used to sing and dance and eat. We used to stay away scared of ten, but they always seemed happy. He always had family members around living with him and even trained an outsider who was rejected by his extended family. He trained another cousin. As kids, he always allowed us to come to his apartment to watch movies and would leave us there when he was going out. We knew where he kept his key incase someone came and needed a place to sleep.

Something happened and he started losing weight. There was rumour that he had HIV because he had a weakness for women. He spent sometime in the hospital until the hospital could not do anything for him again. He returned home emaciated and unable to care for himself. Everyone, including his family abandoned him his girlfriend whose siblings he catered for abandoned him. No one wanted to go near him, including those who he had helped. My younger sister was very angry when the people he had helped were no where to be found, and said she'd chase any family member that comes to his house to eat once he gets well. She was barely 12 when she said this.

Then his church stepped in. Everyday, different members would come to look after him and clean him, bathe him, cook for him and spend time with him. They later took him to the church. Our neighbours visited him there.

He died in the church under the care of his fellow church members. He was a dedicated member of the church and despite his weakness for women, he was a genuinely nice man. When I used to walk around without slippers, he gave me money to buy slippers and told me not to tell my parents (my parents refused to buy me slippers after I had cut more than six airs). He was not a rich man, but he was a nice man.

Such people likely make heaven than others.

So forget about the Brotherhood of the Cross and Star (I still don't know anything about their belief system) and assess your partner on the basis of her persona. Then find out about the beliefs, convictions and doctrines of the Brotherhood of Cross and Star. Then you'd realize many of us criticize in ignorance.

Don't lose a beautiful thing for something as flimsy as religion. There is more I can share about another white garment church, but it is irrelevant to this discussion.

Wow. Nice one. Thank you for sharing

LordIsaac:
OP, of the over 2billion + women on earth it is trouble you want to fall in love with... Ok o. That was how I was warned about someone attending one ordinary white garment church like that and I didn't listen... Until the trouble began; it was God himself that saved me.

Please can you share what actually happened?

Who has dated one before? Give me full gist. I'm talking about first hand experience.

Help me to have people's opinions on this. Thanks.

Please your advice is very important.

There's this girl I have been seeing on friendship level but presently there's urge to push it into relationship. From the look of things, I know she's already falling for me so the question whether she'll agree for me or not shouldn't even come in. However, I recently happened to know she's a member of brotherhood of the cross and star (the white garment and shoeless church) likewise her parents and other members of the family. Since I discovered this, I have been very sceptical about the whole thing.

Is it advisable to date such girl? What of in the event of breakup? Any physical or spiritual harm done to someone for being with such a person? Would I be coerced to convert to the beliefs (that is the last thing that will ever happen). Have you dated one before? How did it go?

#EndSARS
#EndBuhari

There are other ones in more deplorable condition in the country. Why won't these guys be toxic in their thinking and always ready to brutalize anyone at slightest provocation?

Meanwhile,

#EndSARS
#EndBuhari

This is heart breaking

Spoken