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Kids first, no 2 ways about it

You have HBP, he beat you while pregnant and u are asking how to be submissive. Please move in with your aunt asap, before he kills you.

Truth be told, most people don't even know the meaning of feminism.
@Odidire what is happening to you is what happens when a man marries because he is looking for someone to clean and cook for him.
I don't see cooking for your husband as a big deal, please remove all those conditions and speak to her firmly that you want only her and no other person to prepare your meals.

Wait oh! The fat statement was for the bride!! Infact the man insulting you didn't try at all, he should have insulted you more. Nonsense

Any time this girl opens her mouth, she comes across as someone who is a few points short of retar.ded

Simple, u tell her you are very busy with your family During your free time then you take her to an available bachelor and tell him to show her round during. finish

I almost gave this same developer a job a couple of months ago. What put me off was his quote. I for enter one chance

@Op, lemme lay it out straight, your hubby didn't travel, he has left the house pending when you apologise.
You changed the status quo by not going to beg him and apologize, he waited for 2 days no apology, so he escalated things further and went out hoping you will come crying and beg him since the malice didn't work.
If you are so bothered about him give him a call, just to find out if he is okay and that should be it, no apology nothing, because if you do, leaving the house will be the new method of quarreling with you.
I am 80 percent sure he is in 1 hotel looking at his phone every 5 mins, waiting for you to call and when you finally call he won't pick and he won't call you back. Don't call him back if he doesn't, call his father instead and ask if he has heard from his son, don't report him. When your husband is tired he will come home.
Please continue preparing his food and treat him well, then after the whole issue has died down, then you can talk about his behaviour

StPete:
An untamed tongue is sometimes worse than physical abuse. Though I do not support physical abuses, a woman can run you mad with her uncontrolled tongue. I have witnessed dis a thousand times from a known couple and I know the psychological effect it brings including low-self esteem

I agree with you on this, this is why I said if you can't take it leave.

@marvellousGod, I disagree with you. No matter the kind of untamed tongue you have, that should not lead to violence. If you can't put up with your partner's behaviour please leave, rather than turning into a beast

He should stay in his marriage, today its just a vase, tomorrow it will be a acid. Afterall, she is getting better. Nonsense!
Male or female , nobody should have to go through domestic violence

@chaircover, its so annoying , my guest caught me frowning once when I brought work home and the first thing I had to do was make her dinner.
I was tempted that day to let her starve.
I feel they may belong to school of thought that the kitchen is sacred and belongs to the woman of the house, so they are trying not to overstep their boundaries.

Whenever I have guests over, I always tell them to feel free in my kitchen.
I recall an incident where I had aguest over and she wouldn't eat till I got back from work late at night, very tired. SheKd be waiting for me to come and prepare a meal for her even when I told her several times that she should make her meals and feel free.
Different strokes I guess

Much ado about nothing. To bukatyne questions, 1 I won't enter the a host kitchen unless given permission.
2. If a guest enters my kitchen without my permission, I wudn't fuss, I'll just make sure she has everything she wants. No time for unnecessary stress.

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Get off your ass and do something, your wife sees you as a lazy man, who has never had to work hard for anything, there are people born with silver spoons that work hard and become richer than their parents were, coming from a rich background is no excuse

The woman shouldn't even argue , I'm with the man on this 1. Of all the people she could have asked for financial help it was the person her husband suspected that she turned to. She probably was having an affair with him. Even if the man offered to help, she should have said no and not collected the guilty conscience money.

adbokus:
come on, she tore his cloth and obviously she wanted the 'fight' badly. From what the Op wrote he had never on any occasion done such, he mostly ignored her. This woman has something dangerously wrong with her both spiritually and psychologically. She's not remorseful, not reasonable, mutinous, has hurtful inclinations, and then she picks her calls in camera. This is not marriage, it's madrage!...

you are right, this isn't a marriage, at the same time he knows he married a crazy person and decided to join her in her craziness.

miredia:
a butt pad on a pregnant woman... Common now!!!! What are you talking about. If my wife nags at me wearing two huge earrings and 6 gigantic neck chains with pants sagging close to my knees at age 45, will you call her unreasonable. Be sensible now.

but would she go as far as having a physical fight with you, just to get the chains off ?

@Op , you and wife deserve each other.
Your wife has a crazy caustic mouth on her and you instead of being the voice of reason to a seemingly mad woman decided to join her in her craziness.
She wants to wear a buttpad on her body, not yours not your baby, but hers... Ok fine you aren't comfortable with it, what happened to reasoning with her. Even if she refused , remember she's an individual first with her own likes and dislikes before she is your wifen she isn't property your bought off a supermarket shelf.
Then you wnet further to exchange blows with your wife just to remove the buttpad. Its not like the buttpad has some crazy harmful effect on either of you. Its just your personal preference you are forcing on her.
Much ado about nothing

Yes !! Numerous types and times sef. He will be gingering for the slap sef

carefreewannabe:
Tell him to grow up.

spot on !

Mutaino7:
@bodashee.. Dhoom3, chennai express, my name is khan, don2..av surpassed 3idiot in box office.

Dhoom3 is out ? Watched dhoom 2 and looooved it way more than 3 idiots

slimyem:
Do they or did they? I'm curious.

Naaa, I didn't see or catch them

TribalEAST:
then what's the use of marrying when an african man can't enjoy meals prepared in the african way anymore and the woman who's supposed to give him good sex is referring him to a blow up doll?

The taste of the meal is what is important not the method used to prepare the meal.

TribalEAST:
Wait, I haven't seen any talk on this thread about a gadget that the hubby can insert his joystick into when his lazy wife doesn't want to have sex cos she's too tired from operating the dish washer or she's busy watching telemundo.

Blow up dolls

damiso:
I don think am sef but the market is getting oversaturated

Lol, it is oh. I think is just about offering good quality at a good price now. A friend that just entered the wedding business as an event planner gave me a bill of 400k for her total package, initially she said 1 mill as per standard non friend.
Come to think of it, these people are calling millions like its 5 naira

damiso:
Na so I hear o....if na destination wedding some even get their tickets paid for aside their fees..
Girls are making money o
There was a post on one of these wedding blogs on how much bridal make up should be come and see tearing from the makeup artists to those who think the prices are outrageous was so funny.

Whaat?! You mean free mini vacay included, I need to change jobs

Lmao, this Sagamite is just a trouble maker