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@Godmystrength, sorry for what you are going through. Marriage is full of ups and downs, this issue will be a thing of the past soon. I hope the maid is no longer in the house ?

damiso: Hello everyone.

Naijababe ewuro sends her love,she is ok.

Damiso, send my love to her too

@madcow1, much respect to your cooking skills. Erm, can I borrow your kitchen for 1 day ?

I use cocoyam when I am doing oha soup

From what I have read here, the man married a headstrong independent woman.
I fully understand her rule about 3rd party involvement in their marriage. 3rd parties have been known to cause more harm than good.
The rule about having relatives staying over maybe shaped by her experiences as a child. She may probably have been abused as a child by relatives or she knows of someone that was abused as a child by a relative. I guess she is probably starting the rule now, before the children come so it won't be a sudden change when they have kids.
The whole idea of not going weekdays is bs, she works for the govt and she has more free time, she should stop being lazy.
Sex timetable ?? Bullshit again!
The one of not dropping any female shows that she doesn't trust him.
I would suggest, he sits her down and find out the reason for all her rules and they should try and find a middle ground. At 6 months they are just adjusting to living with each other.

Ah! I'm late to the party, happy birthday r231,may your days be brighter than reflection of the sun on your bald head.

moca: Babe, where did u spring up from?
U gals should stop giving me heart attack now

I hv shea butter aplenty in my house. Will try that. Thanks.

How r u sweetheart?

I am fine dear, I've been around just swamped with work, even supposed to be doing some work right now bit down with malaria, can't go to any hospital before I get quarantined for ebola loLzz. How's your fam ?

moca: My hair is too strong to comb.
Kai!
What treatment will soften it abeg

Aside that, the hair look very beautiful on me and so full.

Where dem?
Chillisause,iduwogbu,ileobotajo all the naturalalists in the house

I use emily coconut oil and castor oil. Mixed with a little hair cream. How about hair mayonnaise? Used it for my permed hair and it was all soft. Is it good for natural hair?

Thanks in advance.

I heard shea butter, I haven't used it, but my cuz swears by it

I feel there is nothing wrong with it (maybe because I do it ) but adebayor's picture sums up the reason why its not about arrogance or pride. 98% of the time it will only lead to disaster keeping in touch with an ex.

Actually nashville, pickabeau is right, he has a job and earns around 100k, but as the first born, he has a ton of responsibilities. So that 100k leave him with almost no savings at the end of the month. She on the other hand earns 500k and is looking for either and increase in pay or a title rise/vertical promotion with the same pay.
Btw there are people that earn ridiculously high income and still do side businesses. They are the ones that even if they didn't have their jobs will still have potential for greatness..

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r231: ijebu woman

6k pere....dats 2 big stout and one point and kill without dodo at beer parlour for just one person




hello stranger.....

wia u been

I've been Sambisa forest keeping Nigeria safe for y'all

@onegig, yes I can in reply to your question. That's what the potential is basically all about. You are taking a gamble that the qualities/potential you saw will eventually manifest.
@ nashville, they are broken up. My cuz is really ambitious , what she needs is someone that is equally as ambitious.

onegig: Let me now put this to you. Lets say I am aspiring to be a world renowed archeologist. Although the pay is not big but would take care of most basic needs of my family. I have the drive to seek and travel thousands of kilometers to research ancient sites and monuments which is the path to achieving my goals.


Personally, would you say i have potentials given that i am willing to work extra hard for success. Remember, success does not equate to money.

With your example, yes, you have potentials, because you are willing to work extra hard for success. By basic needs, are you including savings for a rainy day? You may not be a millionaire, but you are willing to work extra hard for success that is what potential is about

Each marriage/relationship is unique, but for me that's a no!

Hello fun room, its been a min. CC, mbulela, damiso, cococandy, r231( ashawo)n edwife et al. hope you are all doing great

onegig: Another wrong definition of what POTENTIAL is. It's not about the money or how much your job pays.

I would gladly stay in a job that i am happy with than go for one with higher pay. It's about contentment. Higher salaries does not equate more happiness. There's a point where elasticity sets in and any extra penny you get won't add a pint of happiness to you.

I am sure before you reach that level of contentment you will be able to give your family the best in life, you'll be able to comfortably pay your bills right.
When I talk about potential or see potential in a man, drive and ambition is what I as a female am talking about. The man may not be the next adenuga or dangote, but he strives for success.
I do however get your point about contentment, but in the story above, Bros. Is not swimming in cash and with all the responsibilities he has he cannot even feed and take care of himself comfortably. When you cannot take care of your basic needs, how will you be content.

Potential is all about ambition and drive for success. It is also about taking actions on those plans.
Nashville, I don't blame that woman at all. I witnessed a breakup between my cuz and her bf a few days ago and it was because of this same reason.
My cuz earns 5 times what her ex earns,what ticked her off was when he asked her over the phone what she was doing and she mentioned applying for a job. Oga was shocked that a chic with such a good pay would still be looking for a way to increase her earnings. She went on to ask him if he wasn't looking for a job, Bros goes on to say, not really that its only when she send him job links.
This same man wanted to join my cuz and a couple of our friends on a weekend getaway that will cost him 2 months salary. Smh

Her ex is an example of a man without potential, he'll practically wait for the opportunity to fall into his lap instead of going after the opportunity.

Your gut feeling is right, that man wasn't interested in you at all. In most relationships, the man does majority of the calling; where you messed up big time was by sending such a rude message to his father, I don't care if he does whatever his father advises, your ex is responsiblle for his actions not his father. Call his father and apologise properly and move on from your ex, you are clearly not wanted.

Since you have spoken to you husband about it and he refuses to call his siblings to order the next step is to tell him to reimburse for anything they take. Soon he'll start feeling the pinch and then he'll be forced to call them out.

Dygeasy: By being interested you mean you explicitly expressed your interest or you were just give cues or clues passively for him to act on?

I doubt it's the former so you, my dear weren't friendzoned. There just was once upon a time, an unobservant n*gga lived.

lol @ unobservant, anyway the crux of the matter still remains, when you are friendzoned take a long walk

Of course it isn't easy to walk away, but in situations like that, you have to think with you head not your heart before you end up missing better options.

ihedinobi2: You ever been friendzoned, rebella?

err yes, when I was interested he wasn't I jejely respected myself and stepped back, then he became seriously interested by then I had lost my interest, so he remained and still remains in the friendzone

ihedinobi2: Thanks for your comments. We are in agreement, you and I. Even about friendzoning. I don't advise cloaking one's intentions but if it works for some people, it works for some people. I just don't think people like that are entitled to complain.

About people not being forced to stay. That is part of the issue. Some people are held back from leaving by the ones who friendzoned them. That's what this thread sought to point out and arrest.

As long as they haven't been kidnapped and locked in some remote village, they aren't being held back. All they need is just will power to let go, cut off all form of communication for a while and leave !block numbers if needed, but explain first the reason for your actions.

Nice one ihedinobi2, I especially agree with you on the nice guys finish last. Friendzoning at time can be a bit complex, in my experience, most times the "zoned" put themselves in the zone, they know they already have feelings for the zoner and then decided to start off first and friends, probably to get to know the "zoner" better. Then from there they enter the friendzone, because the "zoner" doesn't see them as anything more than friends. I actually find it annoying when people complain about being friendzoned, nobody is forcing you to stay, take a walk!! if someone doesn't appreciate your love look for someone who will appreciate you, quirks and all.
At times, its not like the Zoner doesn't realise that the zoned is a great person, its just that the zoner can't help but feel nothing, in this case the zoner should let the zoned walk or cut off contact instead of leading them on.

[quote author=Dbestmax][/quote]Yes I do have a flat abs and i work out regularly to keep it that way. Besides if you are sending a picture that's meant to be sexy, please ensure it is sexy not this nonsense I am seeing.

Had one of those days when I am like to hell with the calories

Chai!! not even a six pack sef.

I suck at accessorizing. I am here to take notes. Thanks for that chart dami.

All I am seeing here is an insecure woman. Geez ! being single is not a curse. Majority of my close friends are married and I don’t feel an ounce of resentment towards them. Yes, they talk about their kids and their husbands, what else would I be expecting them to talk about again.

My Bff got married a few weeks ago, we have always shared everything growing up, I was fully integrated in her wedding planning from meeting with the planner and doing a shower for her and helping out with all the wedding plans. I never felt jealous that she was getting married before me.
The author is just 26, she needs to find something useful and creative to do with her time instead of getting jealous

carefreewannabe: I could say the same about you, right?

What scan?

Intra uterine scan ( I think that's what its called)

carefreewannabe: The calculator shows you a time span of about a week, so even if you ovulate on the 18th day it still shows that you are in the week, in which you can get preganant. Unless you are an alien and ovulate on the 25th day after your period, you are quite safe, not 100 % though, like I have already mentioned.

You just love arguing, don't ya lol. Anyway an ovulation test kit and a scan has proved my calculator wrong.

carefreewannabe: The calculator does not tell you on which day you ovulate but in which time span you may ovulate.

Lol, I know what an ovulation calculator is, it shows the day and shows the timespan you can get pregnant. Anyway, my point is that for instance my ovulation calculator is usually off by 4 to 5 days because I don't ovulate on the 15th day like most women. So if I relied on it, I would be dead wrong each time.