Hey people. I have a relatively close friend who was dating this guy. For a number of reasons, I never really liked her boyfriend and I spoke to some of our friends about it and they felt the same way about it. So we tried to talk to her about him and let her know we don't like him but she read it to mean we were hating on their relationship and wanted to tear them apart.

Gradually, her friendship with the rest of us started to wear out. Soon, we never saw her at any of the events we usually went to together and stuff and the only news we'd hear about her is what others told us. I knew exactly what was going on; she had allowed that dude to control her but I couldn't do anything about it except pray for the best for her. Soon enough as you would guess, he broke up with her after 8 months of their relationship. She called last evening begging me to spend the night. It was awkward because this was someone would I hadn't spoken to for a while.

Anyway, I went there and started consoling her while she went on and on about how stupid she felt and how the guy didn't like us and how she tried to make him happy. I completely understood how she felt until she said she that with all the pain she's feeling inside, she might as well take her life. I was scared for her and did not trust her alone so I moved her to my apartment with some of her stuff and my friends and I have been trying to reason with her and care for her.

So, what exactly can you say to someone who's going through an emotional crisis like this?

LAKANYE~:

Why is every one in NAIRALAND focuses on the mother. What about the man wey leave his wife to temptations dey come home only once a month? The black book specifically says "LEAD US NOT INTO TEMPTATIONS, BUT DELIVERS US FROM EVIL" "
I'm sure say sometime sef, he no dey touch this woman sexually because he may be doing something else with another woman elsewhere. And the daughter no realize anything about this. Moreover she is ONLY assuming say "Uncle dey chop Mama yam, she really never caught them at the dinning table together.

That is not the point and it is not related to what we were talking about before.

LAKANYE~:

HER MUM. SHE HAS A RIGHT TO PERSONAL LIFE. SHE IS A HUMAN BEING. Them Papa dey leave far away, he dey come chop the Mama Yam only once in a month. Most women dey loose their senses when dey get Hot. Na wetin concern this lady for her Mama's confidential issues SHE DEY LOOK FOR EVERLASTING CURSE IF THE MAMA FINDS OUT SAY HER YAM-CHOPPING IS AN INTERNATIONAL TALK OF THE TOWN. Even sef, the lady still never really see both of them they chop this YAM, she just dey assume say her uncle and her Mum dey chop each other yam. And if them dey chop yam, wetin concern her? Because you are my daughter no make you stand in front of my JOY. IF I BRING YOU TO THIS WORLD, I CAN TAKE YOU AWAY FROM IT.

Bullshit. I can't even comment on what you said because it stinks to high heavens. You know (not thought as in this case) that your mum is cheating yet you turn and look the other way because it doesn't concern you? Dumbest post yet.

LAKANYE~:

TOPIC; MY MUM IS CHEATING.

RESPONSE; AND SO, WETIN BE YOUR BUSINESS, WHEN DID YOU BECAME GOD THE JUDGE

Please remember to say that when your daughters come back home with different guys all the time. It's her mum we're talking about!

coldwater:

evidence

Oh yeah?

coldwater:

Sonye

There you go

@topic, how about if you have more than one?

coldwater:

there are many patners on nairaland you have to specify which. we have:

patners for using intimacy gadgets
patners for mojo
patners for hunting
patners for homo
patners for sex
patners for marriage
patners for, so many many things



which one ? plzzzzzzzzzzzzz

He modified his post. He said Sonye would be his potential partner.

@Jenny, I know right. Like scantee, pmann is a fucking male chauvinist. "Please respect him for the simple fact he is a man" Are you fucking kidding me? Sucka even had the guts to put man in caps.

pmann:

Babe do you know that you are actually throwing insult on someone that you don't even know. I think your words are too harsh. Please just respect him for the simple fact that he is a MAN. It really hurts me to see a woman throw insult on a man. He might have the attributes of a woman. but the fact remains that he is a man because he is not female but male. God has created him a man. you have no right what so ever to change him into a woman. after all you are suppose to give him solution to his problem and not to add more problem. can you prove beyond every reasonable doubt that his story is not real. Please take it easy.

Bullshit. Keep posting trash like this and mark my words you'll join him. "Please respect him for the simple fact he is a man" That is just dumb. Where the Bleep were you when he was insulting the females? Did you tell him to respect us? Don't get me started today.

elvisyno07:

the thing pisses me off. if u think say na lie check out INI EDO she has a very cute face but her BELLE just wont let any of her clothes fit her making her look like winnie the pooh. make una find something do to unaselves

And the moment she takes her clothes for your eyes to feast on her, you call her a LovePeddler and begin your hypocritical talk all over again.

B4U,IWAZ:

@9cent,

will ya permit me to take ride on u in bed?

He is not worth the STDs you might get from him.

buzyDiva:

I don't kiss and tell all bout my bedroom escapades . . and definately not on Nairaland.
too many sex starved, raving lunatics on this site abeg.

So true.

@topic, of course we are.

Yeah asking his friend is not going to work.

Uche2nna:


Answer is an emphatic no.

Aww. . .He's been modest, now I don't know if he is.

4Her:

Is there a reason why you're asking? Abegi, stick with StephenP jare, this one is mines

There's no harm in knowing.

@4 Her, is Uche cute?

4Her:

Me thinks it's becuz he never got one. . .Rebellious, plz, give him a chance. Maybe then he wiuld stop bashing them

He can bash all he wants, he still ain't gon' get some.

StephenP:

I think he has something against beautiful girls because he's been smashing them in most of his posts.

Or he is trying to use some retarded method to make a girl oppose and so that he can make him "test" her. I don't know but I sure know that the poster is daft to be hating on beautiful girls.

Ok just so that we all are clear, this write up "A Weapon Called Silence" was written by Mildred Ngesa, a Kenyan woman I presume.

StephenP:

@ poster, I disagree.

Straight to the point.

eldee:

This dude must be notorious
What exactly did he do?

In simple terms, he says shit about women even stuff that you know ain't true.

StephenP:

He needs to grow up.

Seriously.

9cent, how many times are you gon' to apologize about the same thing? I know you'll still post your shit again so I'm not buying this.

@topic, why don't you ask your mum. Or is she a man?

RampantT:


checking. . .checking. ,
both empty

My bad. I'll fire the secretary right now.

RampantT:

you guys have meetings and I was not invited

Check either your voicemail or junk mail. It might be there.

@topic, Yeah we had a meeting about how we plan to seduce men because there's nothing better to do. We are going to dress lightly not because it's hot but because we want the "innocent" men to stare at us and possibly have an accident while he's at it. Surprisingly, only women wear light clothing during summer. Men cover up and wear thick coats all the time even when there's a heat wave because they are blameless and pure. Happy now?

hymen:

Oxford dictionary:
Bitch: a woman esp a cruel and unpleasant one.

I understand standing up for a friend,but how would you define such senseless & baseles attack?

Thought you were having fun poking other people? How do you like it now bitch?

hymen:

That just confirms u give it to every arsehole that makes a pass a u,oloshi.

your location aptly describes your type. I can't be seen un the same thread with such a disgrace to womanhood .

Bitch call the whambulance if you're just going whine like a retard.