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dapojaja:
be careful man, u r distracting my reading, i got to look @ pic of a cute girl because of u, bee careful o.

shun sah!
alright sah!
No vex sah!

teelady:
Ok am done reading, let say u grew to love the man u ar married to, and from the begining u were nt inlove. You ar a loyal and faithful wife,please remain that way. Your husby is in a serious infatuated relationship and u feel like breaking his head for such behaviour but i say dont. He is not in his right frame of mind right now and its obvious u dnt want to leave ur matrimonial home, woman be prayerful and dnt give him more excuse to berate u further. Y fight wit a girl he brought home....,she is nt worth it ok. Pls distract ursef from al this mess for nw, just focus on making ursef happy, takecare of ur kids, prove to ur husband that u didnt marry him out of choice bt for the fact that u also love him, pls no dulling take ursef out for a treat no old ursef. Be the person he once loved, love ursef and hopefully he would comeback to love u. IT MIGHT BE HARD FOR U TO BE PATIENT SINCE U ARE THE VICTIM, BUT BE GOOD,PATIENT AND PRAYERFUL. Pardon my poor spelling

Just saw your profile picture...fine geh!
Brains + beauty not stalking just curious when I read the above.
Back to the post OP in addition to everything written above, get yourself involved in a project or business you really like & throw yourself into it. I know you're not happy about the way things are and might (&still miss a couple of things with him - like the s3x) but you see you need to take care of number 1, which is you. it's quite worrisome it's gotten to the point of involving your family & telling them he wants out.

If truly he's only reason for acting this way is cause he wasn't the one you wanted to marry prior, clearly he's short sighted (minded?) He did eventually marry you didn't he?
I think he's just being stupid on so many levels. Bringing another woman to his home. My head says you should have just ignored them let the silent treatment now become his cause for worry lets see him have an errection with the lady around that my heart however asks don't you have a rolling pin or pestle?

Seriously just get a hobby or business you like & throw yourself 110% into it. Things 'll eventually work out for the better. Don't take any grudge or revenge steps. And when he does come around, please ensure he gets tested.

Folksyharry:
I don't know if it's a crime or if it's job of the police 2 handle an issue like this but I'm not vexed the guy was punished because this act can grow to thoughts of rape and actual rape when he gets bored with just looking.

Ah ahn now guy chill with the assumptions na. Now now you don draw map of the guy future? shoo you sef!

perry2020:
My dear pray to God to avert it for you,most of this pastors are fake,
a cousin of mine has been dating her boy frnd for 3 years,they stayed together while in skul for a year and 6mnths but the guy was a year ahead of her so she went to visit her boy frnd while he was serving at ondo state and they went for a vigil together (he met the pastor at driving school and she invited him to church the previous week and he went, that was a week before his girl frnd came so u know all this prophetic church they called the guy out and gave him vision that the girl he is dating is demonic,she will put him into trouble,a time will come she will almost give him stroke,he wouldn't want to come home bla bla bla and the guy is easily convinced so he took the words serious and started avoiding her,their plan before was for her to stay a month with him before going home since she was done in skul the guy is based in Lagos and she is based at abuja so they might not get to see for a very long time.so suddenly he changed it for her that she must not stay more than a week or 2 max that he had a vision bla bla bla next thing he would say is they gave him 30 days dry fasting n she would be a temptation.so she decided not go until after 7 days that perhaps he was joking and maybe it's just 3 or 7 days fast they gave him, she went on the 8th day after he declared he was fasting which was on a Saturday ,just for the guy to say he is going for vigil,she felt he was lying like who does vigil on Saturday.so she insisted she goes with him and on getting there they called her out and told her the guy she was dating isn't her husband,he is a flirt,a cheat,he just wants to have sex and once she has a child he would disappear bla bla,deep down she didn't belive so she dint tell the guy,although he kept insisting on" did they tell u anything abt us,what did she say" questions but she told him sumtin else,the few days she spent was like hell coz she dint know how to do anything in his eyes so a frnd of his got into trouble and he took the friend to his mum's(late) friend who is a prophetess so that one prayed and I guess saw the vision that something wrong was happening,so she told the guy to make up with his girl frnd and not breakup with her as the pastor woman was trying to make them separate so she would hook the guy with her sister who has been married for 3 years without a child and the husband sent her out of the house that was how the guy explained everything to her and she also told him what they said and they forgot abt it and started all over.
Moral: it is good to be open to one another coz the pastor might tell u something n tell ur man another thing entirely
2. I dnt know if before you started the relationship you prayed about it.many ladies just go into relationships without asking God if that is the relationship for them or if that is who god wants them for.well if you did not it's never too late,fast and pray,ask God to give u a sign if the man ur about to marry is the one for you or not. The pastor might or might not be right.its easier to be in a bad relationship than to be in a bad marriage where if things go wrong,they will put the blame on the woman without even considering if it is the man's fault.
Pray and pray and pray even before it time to get married,its never too early to pray about ur future husband,kids,family at large.
Study the man ur about to marry,do u think u know all his bad sides and can cope with it all.if the relationship ain't going right it's not marriage that will change the guys bad character nor sex or food.

chisoooos!

Human beings and MS Dos formatting

Honourable has called o! Obviously cant afford a watch. Says hell be in Lagos by 3.15 from God knows where meanwhile he called by 3.03pm.
Best part? Ive downloaded call recorder on my phone so im recording all this nonsense for the 'adonbelivit' peeps.

So honourable Usman says im to come and pick him up from the airport with a sample of the product which John Abayomi says goes for 250k at a price of 320k. So im to call his p...ah talk of the devil partner is calling now

brb

shucks hes dropped certain he will soon call back

Youre not going to believe someone is actually trying to run this on me right now as we speak, this time the product name is Durad 150. Exact same process as original poster said. Ive gotten to the stage where the honorable will call me, so im waiting for his call.

Guys please advice me on what to do to these mongrels

lovemko:
well said here...

it amazes me how everyone these days are super power visionary prophets...

i aint dissing anyone but we should be careful were nd who we seek for deliverance nd miracles...

nd pls guys stop sending slaps to d pastor oh, he may loss his annointing

you cant lose what you never had.
If he had it he wouldn't say such to the OP

Where in the bible is it written that pastors should be consulted for marriage guidance?
Sorcery is what the pastor is carrying out here.

On this issue what the bible says is 'He who findeth a wife findeth a good thing' what this tells me is God does not involve himself in that aspect of your life. You get to sort this out on your own. Or did they write he who listens to his pastors advice on who to marry as a wife?

So one craphead pastor coming to talk this type of rubbish? Please one more slap just cos its now afternoon.

Marriage is a very complex yet simple thing. The differences in characters are there for a reason.
Go figure!

Guy marries gentle woman says shes too gentle wants one that is aggressive
Another marries an aggressive woman says shes too gentle

Find your level and what works for you and be prepared for trials or did anyone tell you marrying any particular person guarantees 100% hitch free marriage?

Instead of telling the OP what is right hes put her and her family in vibrate mode now.

Wish i could meet this yeye pastor let me give him the slaps myself as im sure OP wont do the job the way i want it.

glimpse33:
Help me slap your pastor

Please add one hot one on my behalf join.
Pastor that if you go to his house and knock on the door will ask "who is that?" is telling you he has seen into the future.

Someone should add this to that thread about why ladies will never get married.

If the pastor can swear with his children's heads that he doesn't have misunderstandings sometimes with his wife you can go ahead and listen to him.

I can't even believe such things still hold sway second half of 2015 fa.

OP come which school you go sef?

salam1:
DEN TELL ME 1 GUD TIN UR PAY MASTER LEFT BEHIND. SO FAR A MONTH OF PMB IN OFFICE IS BETA DAN GEJ 5YR IN OFFICE. MR 16 IS GREATER DAN 19. BY D TYM PMB SPEND A YR IN OFFICE U WILL KNW DAT UR PAY MASTER IS A JOKE

statement of fact or emotions acting without the benefit of intellect?

Think his name should now be Tosyne10much

salam1:
CRIOSLY TANOID WILL NEVER LEARN. U WILL PRAISE HIM SOON

Delusions of grandeur
since swearing in, show me one thing working towards this.

platz:
lol em get but if i near them na child abuse

Noo o No put your hand for that kind thing before NL people go turn your matter to reason to fight for first to comment.
Meanwhile how many China phone you don carry come house since the last time wey I advice you?

No fall my hand o

funnyme:
It serves guys right. My boy friend quieted because he thinks am not Deceiving him with makeup!

Youre sure its not because of this type of English the poor boy ran?

gmus:
In my own opinion. Moving the prisoners to another part of nigeria is good .It will make every part of d nation see d eradication of boko haram as one on requiring collective interest.Up till now other regions have been acting as.arm chair observers.I have had pple sayg unkind thgs like 'boko haram can keep on bombg d whole of d north for all i care:.They dont see d fight as being collective.They dont think they have a stake. Now dt pple know dt boko haram can be moved to prison in any part of nigeria dy will see d need for joint and collective will to put an end to d menace.

So technically your leaders in the north failed in their responsibilities, which brought about the boko haram thing, now that it is out of their control let them now spread it to other parts that pretty much understood their responsibilities?

By the grace of God almighty, i pray this day that all the problems from far and wide that had no connection with you shall be brought upon you as an individual. God will continue to cause you to experience calamities that you have no hand in on a regular basis. So your opinion of it being a good move and every one who knows you will also have cause to require collective interest and not be chair observers and they too will have a stake in your problems and also put an end to your menace.

To every single person from the east who voted this retarded baboon into power, i say thank you. This is it, even he says a bigger thank you to you with this. Now your region becomes totally unsafe.

You wanted change.
Now you have it.

platz:
u too much joor....... I go walk in the shadow of ur greatness

Remain blessed my son

and remember...keep smashing!
Even if landlord daughter make mistake pass front of the house wey him papa say woman must not enter, what will you do?

smas...
come wait o, abi na the man plan be dat?

wait him get daughter?

mutter:
My husband is a practicing moslem and a very staunch one as that.
I have to be sincere I have also gone quite deep into Islam once but somewhere along the line I had the deep desire to revert to the religion of my childhood.
Religion is an issue in our family but certainly not a problem.
My children are practicing moslems because we agreed on this before we married. At that stage I did not place so much emphasis on religion. Today I do not think I might agree to such a compromise.
Not because I think one religion is better than the other but because I am very active in the church and my kid`s are then not by my side.
Occasionally the come to church like when there is a function. My husband also comes with them and even goes into the church.
My husband believes his religion is the true religion but I guess we all do somehow.
However he does not stop me from practicing my religion but even encourages me.
I am also very proud of my husband being a moslem because I just love the way he is so devoted to his prayers and he really has faith.
Despite the huddles I think it is also a vast enrichment for our children. They have learnt how to practice their religion and yet respect all other religions. At the end of the day, we all serve the same God.

That right there is a typical example of a wise man you have there as a husband.

Please can you give him a round (of applause na applause i mean o) tonite on my behalf please even you bein wise enough to be understanding towards tolerance on both your sides, i promise you this, if half of the people coming here to talk about the superiority of their religion over the other figured thibgs like this, do you honestly think this topic would come to life?

Everyone's religion is peaceful and accommodating till its time to meet the other persons religion. Then i ask when does the peace and accommodation come to play?

Abeg no forget the round (of applause) tonight on my behalf especially. God bless you both real good.

OP 3 things

1. Everyone here saying anything in support of Islam and those saying things because of Christianity only say these things cos they were born into the various religions they support.
Technically more of sentiments than wisdom

2. Muslims marry muslims doesnt guarantee a happy home, islam gives permission for divorce if this wasnt the case and muslim marrying muslim would guarantee a happy home, divorce for no show up at all inside religious teaching
Christians marry Christians and divorces still happen in some 'christain' homes abi i lie?
Muslims marry Christians and they also divorce (just so youd know)

Now what this tells me is that all this theories about being of the same religion things will be ok blah blah blah...fa fa fa faaa foul!

Now comes the third part.

If you really love this girl, and you know you want this relationship, you cant make an omelette without breaking a few eggs o. If you truly know you love this girl, smash am well well, give am belle.
Fold hands cross leg dey wait for she and that her mother to come and ask "Is this the boy?" After that they will arrange wedding between you two weather mosque or church all join, na one day ceremony.
One fried meat no dey spoil fast.
If dem say na nikkah dem want grant dem as long as afterwards shes moving to your house and you continue with your lives.

The important thing here is what is important to you?

The girls religion or the girl?

Like i said if you really love the girl ni o.

Overtime ground go level everybody go sabi where dem stand.

All this talk about Christianity this islam that, which one are we really sure is the correct one?

Guy do wetin you wan do, as long as youre fair to all men, respect and acknowledge the existence of God everything else na jara.

Before they come and convince you that smashing is a sin, remember God forgives its men who make things difficult

oplbycar:
ISLAM NEVER PERMITS A MUSLIM LADY TO MARRY CHRISTAIN. ITS ONLY A MUSLIM GUY THAT IS PERMITTED TO MARRY A CHRISTAIN. SO WHICH LIGHT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT HERE?

touchlight

fx45:
Rantings of a demented soul! How in the world is this your trash related to the topic? Jonathan is no longer in government. Leave the man alone and face front.

Azzin ehn God bless you abundantly for this. These deluded people are expressing chronic withdrawal symptoms.

platz:
My dump headed landlord said i shouldn't bring in girls to my house.... Imagine

Na hostel Abi wetin?
Na you dey listen to am na.
Abi him subsidize the rent for you? some of these landlords ehn?

Guy do wetin you wan do nothing fit happen the man see go tire to para (if you be correct smasher) in fact ehn make sure say you arrange all those girls wey sabi halla like China phone during smash process.
what nonsense

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Meanwhile this one is walking around freely on the streets of Nigeria o, ehn?
who did this to you?
people wicked sha, pikin wey persson carry for nine months, raise am, send am go school, him learn how to use phone keypad see wetin him come dey write on a sunday morning?

kai

I love this guy!
No nonsense.

Those people advocating for probe and all were the same ones screaming for change o, now because na amaechi (traitor) people and its your party member being dealt with the process is flawed.

Wike if you can even make dem vomit the food they ate while in office abeg find laxative join. Me personally i dey your back 100% converting governmnet property to personal use, which kind nonsense be dat?

Person wey no dey office again dey claim status car. yeye dey smell. oniranu

CHM11:
He still did not declare his assets PUBLICLY!!!! And we are just sweeping issues like this under the carpet.....why won't he declare his assets publicly? What is his aim?

change

his aim is change

change everything you say before election

Diddyydiva:
chisos cris

is that you on your dp.


And I thought a kid created this thread



Sorry sir

choi see finishing, babe you harsh gan o

repogirl:
Na so dem.dirty reach?

i bow o

willyo:
Pls Who is Kcee?

and what is Harry song?

Atk1nson:
don't let me go into details, but dere is a big difference btwn a borehole and a well. u can go in and out of a well and not even know u did, at d end of d day, it's more of work dan fun. also d oda body features of Jane n Jennifer dat complement it is also not the same, so d feeling is definitely not d same.
I also not making excuse for randy men o, I'm just responding to your assertion

obviously you and zaragal dont understand what it means t be in a relationship, it goes well beyond s3x

MrsChima:
Excuse me...blackmail applies when someone has information or secrets that can alter someone's reality or stability. How is telling a man to be the man he wants his son to be to his future wife and his daughter to choose as a husband blackmailing?

Secondly, I don't care if his wife did not wash her toto for 70 months and cooked horrible meals...it gives no reason for anyone to commit adultery! If he was unhappy with her for whatever reason he could have sat down and communicaate! If that did not work then seek professional help and if that fails then make a mutual decision to separate or divorce.

What is the point being in a loveless marriage and certainly not for the kids! Kids are smarter than we give them credit for and we as parents owe it to our children to do what is right for the children! If divorce is the answer so be it! What we do in our relationship teachesoour children to either have healthy or unhealthy relationships!

There is NO EXCUSE FOR ADULTERY!!!

On your quote for blackmail above you were asking how he would talk to his son treating his wife the way he treated his mum or his daughter getting married to a man like him, seriously what do you call that?

On sitting down and communicating, in your anger you probably missed the part where he said hed asked his wife to join him where he was so they could be a family together.
He did
He communicated
She didnt listen.

The first rule of love is to listen, not hear, listen heard that before?
Theres no need using a hammer to kill a mosquito ma, the talk about being in a loveless marriage and all, the wife only need listen and trust me things wouldnt have had to aggravate to probably seeking professional help and all that.

Why wouldnt she just listen?
But she would always expect him to listen.
And he always would case in point he mentioned something about not wanting to be the cause of truncating her career and stuff.

People change for one reason or the other.

The wife had a good man, she failed to manage things right and pushed him into the arms of another woman.

Listening and understanding you partners needs is something this generation of women dont get.

Some people only need attention, give them all the money in the world if that attention isnt there they will seek it somewhere else.
Case in point if it was money why do rich people still divorce?

Some people its money, give them all the attention and theyre never ok.

Some people have next to nothing in this life and you see where the woman is ready to do anything if you try her husband and theres nothing you tell her, you see that her husband nobody can be better than him as far as shes concerned, how about that?

The wife goofed. The banker lady played her cards right and it will shock you she could possibly make the man blossom in more ways than you could possibly imagine.

She knows the value she sees in him and is smart enough to appreciate it, it the wife fails to understand how to manage what she has/had thats her loss.

Thats the thing women of this generation being made to believe its only the man who should do all the appreciation and value the relationship.

Reality check ladies, love is a two way street, if your boyfriend or husband is cheating on you, youre not doing something right

check yourself and stop trying think you own rights to his thought process, even God his creator gives him freedom of thought!

MrsChima:
Blackmail? Did you quote the wrong post? What's you talking about? No one said anything about feminism and blackmailing children.

We can talk about feminism but the post is about a married man who has cheated on his wife with a colleague and he wants help with his ailment. I don't think my preaching of feminism will aid his pain and confliction. This matter is a bit more spiritual and I will let the religious fanatics handle this dilemma.

For the record, I suggest leaving the wife if he does not love her and to do right by his children. If I was the wife in question I wouldn't want to be with a cheater who has no respect for me or the family.

Walk with me on this, please calmly if you may.
Please.

When you start asking someone how will you explain this to your son...or how will your daughter that, dont you think thats blackmail?

Ah the religious card...when all else fails!
Surprising we have so many and more women in places of worship?

Have you noticed how even you have failed in any way to see any fault from the wife even though clearly stated by the OP you are trying to help?