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MizJaY:
Sorry for the long message but this lockdown period might favour reading long msgs.

I'm the quiet type so I have never opened mouth to insult my husband during any misunderstanding. Just arguments and my voice may go up a bit trying to explain or clear myself but he will start saying im raising my voice and talking back at him and start saying all sorts of things.

Honestly sometimes I wished I could unleash the anger deep down and screammm but I always have self control. If u sit with him, he will give u a million reasons why I'm not a good wife and if u don't know me well, u will fall for it because he tells it so well. I will not say everything he says is false, but 80% is. Only those that really know me, will know he is d one that has problem. He's too difficult at times.

In an office, there's usually that one person that quarrels with everyone am I right? But I end up being d only person that dat person doesn't quarrel with cos I try as much as possible to avoid quarrels that's just d kind of person I am. Calm and quiet.

When I met my husband NYSC days, he was very close to God, organizing programs in church and handling them. That was the main reason I got close to him cos I wasnt so spiritual and needed someone to help me grow spiritually through life. He told me he was called to be a pastor and that excited me but I'm not seeing that now lol. He's spiritual life is almost zero. And back then, he had nothing, we would spend all my money even to reach his sick mother in the village I would buy all the foodstuff to send to her.

The way he talked he sounded promising that things will get better with him, but today, I still suffer, I have no savings, all my salary is on the house. He works too and earns but he's salary covers rent and the children's school fees finished. I do the rest but he doesn't appreciate the fact that I sacrifice everything I earn to feeding the house. We are family of 6. Everything provision, food, children school snack, fuel for car and gen, gas filing etc etc it's me. And that's how my whole salary will just go fiam.

if I ws getting a little appreciation I for no mind but rather I get insults o. It's my fault that
Money is finished, it's my fault that we have no savings, I don't know how to manage money, I'm hoarding my money etc etc those are d words that come out of his mouth o.

I used to be a beautiful woman but no more, I wear one shoe everyday to work, can't buy myself clothes shoes nothing I had to cut my hair to relieve myself from hair money lol. I'm stressed out thinking of where money will come for feeding when my salary gets finished before month end at times I have to beg my sister or my dad a pensioner or hussle one way or d other. I now developed high bp and today I'm living with hypertension taking drugs everyday. It was my parents that gave my husband d job he's doing today. He is not in talking terms with he's dad n siblings. Before he's mother died, things were not too good between them. My husband likes to always form man of d house and want me to apologise whenever there's a misunderstanding saying that I am d one wrong, I'm always wondering how am always the one wrong and he's not � every time.

Sometimes self I don't know what I did that mks him angry he will just start carrying face. Today makes it a week we are not talking cos he has been carrying face since 7days now, and went to post something on wassap yesterday that a woman that cannot apologise to her husband cannot stay in marriage.

My brothers and sisters if I know of anything I did that I have to apologise for yet I refused to apologise that is making him carry face, may God strike me. If u know I did anything wrong why not come to me and tell me u don't like what I did and tell me what i did rather than carry face up n down. He always does that. At times I do ask him and as usual am always d one at fault. Maybe it's cos I'm a quiet person he's taking me for mumu.

The national anthem now is that because he does not have money that's why I don't respect him the way I'm supposed to. I'm always careful with my word when gisting with him cos make I make mistake say Donald duke is d current governor of rivers state haaa problem don enter and it may spoil d sweet gisting we were having. He go almost insult me and become uninterested in gisting with me again cos i don talk mumu talk.

So how can I handle such man cos if no be say I be quiet person, I for don receive serious beating black and blue from this man cos he has done it earlier on in our marriage not serious beating sha but I had some bruises. If not that my parents are still alive and warned him. Tho he still attempts once in a blue moon I go jus arrange myself. But I'm kind of tired. I have no money cos trust me, if I had, Maybe i for don dey plan my move sef I no dey enjoy marriage life at all

ghettokid1:
A wise Chinese man once said "ching chong ching zingaxing chuaqing changzhou ching"

Agboriotejoye:
They are not trained in verbal autopsy. Let the Imams and sharia docs handle that

lionness:
Getting fat, tons of sex, reading and reading.
I picked up web design and learnt how to use Adobe XD, CSS and HTML. I’m still stuck with CSS, it isn’t so easy but it’s like learning how to drive a car.
I’m thankful for life, health and safety. And I thank God more I’ve got some good money saved. I almost blow my cash on buying a Toks car from Nairaland in February and thankful I never did. I would have been drinking Garri with the family by now

haywire07:
It's hightime Nigeria stopped international sales of oil in full capacity.
Let us channel ample amount of the oil to a reservoir and save up for a better day.
Cut deals with some African countries and use their reservoirs if ours is filled

When we save enough, the Government should declare our refineries ''out of service".
Luckily, Dangote refinery is near completion.

After this Covid -19 pandemic, we begin to sell from our reservoirs for the main time, while the refineries will be under renovation.

And also very importantly is the need to diversify.

Mayor555:
Composure and wittness matter in all these things, it's something I do, was on the road this last month before the lockdown with a toks car.
Police will go straight to the matter asking for money, I'll tell them how I've been stressed out and I don't have cash.

Like I said self possession matters. I've said enough on this issue. Make I die the matter. But let me say again, I'll drive a toks vehicle to anywhere in Nigeria and not give police a dime without my wish (yes, some policemen will start hailing and even practically beg you to give them something, that one na aside. And even at that, na still my choice to give or not)

Enough said, make the matter rest ike that.

God bless.

9icetoo:
bros calm down oo. U no dey enter road oo. If you like get everything complete, as long as say na fresh Tokunbo motor, you must drop something or else expect exceptional delays.
If the car has been registered, then na only custom go worry you. But without a plate number, police no get your time oo.

Mayor555:
I've brought more than one car from Lagos...
Police will ask, but I'm not father Christmas.
Learn to reply people without snide remark.

I'll take any car to any part of the country without giving police one kobo. If you can't, I can!

This is my last reply to you.

amdman:
2010 Mazda 3

Check engine light on, but runs and drives well

147k miles

N1.5m

sheu01:
My guy, Corolla is good and better but the issue with corolla is that is more expensive from oversea now but most of Naija dealer are selling accidental vehicle and high mileage corolla with a rolled back to 100+ mileage which u will purchase around 1.8M - 2.2M, its only few that are selling non accidental but my advise for you is that to autocheck with d vehicle b4 u purchase. I just got 2006 corolla sport with 87,000 mileage, accident free, presently is at d port in USA, total amount with shipping is around 1,642,500 million naira, wen the car reach naija, i will do duty here with either 400-450k here. its cos its for my personal use and No dealer will purchase that kind of car, if they call it 2.5M nobody will pay. God will help u to get a good car. I rest my case.

MrMcJay:
Falana is a Senior Advocate of Nigeria. He's a former President of the West African Bar Association and he's a Special Prosecutor for the International Criminal Court.

His son has a Master of Laws and is a multi-awarded multi-talented entertainment professional.

You on the other hand are a randy loafer based in Enugu, looking for an hotel to do 'short time'.
https://www.nairaland.com/4975159/please-need-hotel-enugu-where

Just look at yourself. Even if you were a dog living in Falana's house, you'll have done better in life.

Presidiotbuhari:
^^^
I know u are brain dead because anyone that supports apc is emty upstairs.

With the invention of larger air crafts it is now possible to haul lage cargos vie air instead of sea only. I hope i have educated a brain dead islamist like u and while u are on it, remember not to mention me again because i dont respond to muslims.

lanre316:
I don't know. I don't care about phone camera. Google it

buchito1:
Yes ooohh... Thank God it's Tempered Glass... Seems like these Full Glasses are fancy but useless...

Just 3 weeks old

lionjungle3000:
In Biafraa, no military will have right to invade a community....never. All healthy Biafraans shall have military training like Isrealis do; making it impossible for a military person to intimidate a civilian, because he knows everybody in Biafraa has military training and has access to gun, and can shoot it professionally. This idea of military molesting people you see in Nigeria will never happen in Biafraaland. Military will treat you like a colleague, with respect because they know your ability as a man or a woman! Even the idea of coup will be non-existent in Biafraland, before the coup plotters complete their coup, civilians who are also military officers and soldiers will bring out their guns and deal with the coup plotters themselves.

Hakeem12:
you have seen the movie? Interesting

LAFO:
Na only this cloth baba carry go London?

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Na this kind clothe person dey wear when you dey purge

Elchappo:
The op asked why would a human do this but you forget to ask why would a boss be so wicked not to pay his worker...

The money she used to buy make up nd sanitary for that month is more than that stewards salary yet u feel u can treat him anyhow...

I am not in support of the murder but sometimes we need to put up our thinking cap when dealing with people most especially those very close to us..