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Husbandofigbos:
Mention a single significant thing that you have done. Just 1.

As far back as centuries ago, we had the Benin wall which is the largest structure built by man longer than the Great wall of China. We had Empires built by the Borno, Oyo, Bini, etc.

You should learn to read wide and not trash talk your own thing so that you'll look smart in front of outsiders.

Biglittlelois:
They are suppose to burn everything about this evil man to Ashes, I read everything about his terrible reign and I was literally in tears, Las las he killed himself, what a fvcking coward

Drakkernoir:
I'm still trying to understand how the Germans in that period were soo technologically advanced.

LexngtonSteele:
Bianca must be Yoruba. FFK tried his best with her.

Beremx:
See fine woman!!

Rest well dear

prizequest:
registry done.

her mom i know aint aiding her. if the engagement had materialized she wont be running back to me so i dont see love even though i was her first date 8 years back.

prizequest:
I got married to my wife few months back but she stays in another state due to her work and there had been measures for she to join me until now. One thing she had repeatedly complain about is my low sex drive as she has boosted of how other men in her life before are stallion but she doesnt want me to be one but be able to meet her libido demands. This comparison created psychological issues for me hence the lack of drive and she really want to make a baby due to her age. Not having more sex has made her fight me, attack me, despice and disrespectful but i have pleaded she give me more time to sort things out but she's more persistent hence we'd been separated for 4 months now, 3 more month to our anniversary.

Another angle is a week after our traditional wedding, i and wife decided to go to the marriage registry to get a certificate but her dad got to know through her, put a call to me and cursed that my children will disrespect me for not informing him. My Wife is a divorcee from another marriage

wisdomdc:
Well on my own part I will say that the fault is from the, sorry I can't say that for the feat of God, only God has the right to judge his servants not us, but Pastor Joshua Iginla is a called man of God, in the first place he should not have married that woman, she is Satan sent to destroy his ministry and it is very obvious, first she said she was AA at the end have birth to SS ah pastor, you should have thrown her out forget what the world will say, Pastor Oyakilome acted fast to avoid stories that touch and we were blaming him but his ministry still continues.

Secondly, she went to commit adultery till she gave birth to another baby, pastor but you are stubborn to the voice of God oh, that adultery was a sign to send her away Biblically abi, you did not hear instead you allowed her to be overseas while you are here preaching are you a fire wood pastor, okay let's forget that.
You finally fell too as the trap she set for you don catch. She started disgracing you anyhow Haba Pastor why why did you allow it to get to that point and you did not know she is an agent. See na. But why in the name of God did you have to come to the public to disgrace us or don't you know what you have just done, people may no longer invite you to their church and your members may begin to to move away one by one for shame sake. Pastor, who is your father in The Lord are you sure Holy Ghost told you to publish this in Gath for the daughters of the Philistines to insult us?����������

makeitijn:
a man leading thousands of sheeps, shouldn't be caught committing these type of avoidable sinz.
Maybe his wife was about going public about it, maybe the church elders and leadership threatened to expose him, if not this idiotic bleaching curly hair clown of a pastor would've still carried on with his fake prophecies and clairvoyance assisted visions.
Using Indian power to induce drowsiness making people fall under satanic anointing and stage managing miracles.

Yes I'm without sin, and I want to Stone this stupid pastor Joshua iginla to death and if possible BEHEAD HIM TOO

DrTee1:
Thank you, Sir.

Kindly permit me to make a few clarifications.

I think that your comments above, which I captioned as some strategic role-playing in a bad marriage are best only for a bad marriage and only for a short period. Indeed, they aren't sustainable on a long term basis. No man can pretend for too long. No human being, especially in marriage, can pretend for too long. Pretence and such deceitful existence are only possible in flings or short-term relationships. In that case, playboys and playgirls would excel.

Also, I personally think that deceit, lies and such falsehood, while they may be fanciful and attractive, are usually unsustainable. To cover one lie, a man or woman needs another 7 lies and on and on. All structures built on foundations of deceit and slothfulness are but friable and cannot genuinely stand the test of time. the test of time in this OP's case is about 5 - 8 years of marriage, that's inferring or assuming that his last child is 2-3 years and he had been coping fairly nicely in marriage until then. so when you say that you could/would take all the women/wives of men who do not follow certain life rules that you have posited, I think you may indeed achieve all that - but for a short period of time.


Eventually, the hen would come to roost and you would find all your strategy, where it involves fiction, lies, deceit and make-belief, to be castles built on sand. The scales would fall off the eyes of the woman eventually and she would either port or begin to misbehave - or the man would dump her before the scales finally fall - thus completing a circle and bringing everything back to square 1.

In essence, I think that while I appreciate all that you wrote in your initial comment which I quoted, I think they are are possibly short term measures for anyone who has lost his job and found himself in a loveless marriage. It wouldn't work for, say Femi Otedola or Akinwunmi Ambode, for example. Where would you expect a successful business tycoon who has a very dutiful and supportive wife to expect her husband to massage her at home on a 300k massage table every day? Or to have sex and tell sweet eyeball-to-eyeball stories thereafter on daily basis?

So in essence, I encourage everyone to be honest and live by upright moral values (at all times) to himself or herself. Deceit/fiction/falsehood might 'win' for a short period, but at the end, 'na' always "God (go) win." Yoruba people say " Ti iro ba sa lo fun ogun odun, ojo kan soso looto yoo ba." When literally translated, that means "Even if falsehood reigns for 20 years, it would take only a day for the lie to be busted and the truth would be revealed."

Like attracts like. For singles out there, if you are good and conduct yourself in a responsible and morally upright manner in your doings, you are unlikely to marry a wolf-like character - except you didn't do your due diligence in dating, or you allowed fanciful things or some blind/illogical spirituality or some inordinate counsel make lifetime decisions of marriage for you. Let each man or woman use his or her brain. Marriage is some real deal and each person would be in it[b] alone[/b] with his/her spouse.

Anything false/untrue/ingenuine/counterfeit, whether in character or action, would never stand the test of time - and it is always important that people planning to go into successful marriages know this. Don't ever go out of your way to impress a lady/man. Be yourself. For every woman, there is a man - and vice-versa. Who sang that song? Adekunle Gold "There is a woman for every man..."

P.S:

For the good lady who picked out only one line of the several lines I wrote to label misogyny, I leave that to posterity to judge. If anything at all, I fully believe in gender equality and affirm that men and women, husband as well as wives, are EXACTLY equal before the law - and the homefront and the general society should be run with that knowledge at the back of everyone's minds. As many rights and privileges as a woman has directly or indirectly, a man should be allowed to enjoy - and women with mental and/or operational capacity should never be denied any placement/opportunity solely on the basis of their distinct gender - and vice-versa.

Capensis:
Will you pay attention and stop this victim mentality. It is either you will take advise, since you brought this matter to the court of public opinion, or you will narrate your experience, believe your wife is the worst woman and conclude that you are leaving a marriage. You are sounding emotional and your feedback system has totally clouded your judgment.

Pay attention:
Being a husband is a full-time job. Just like any job, it comes with serious responsibilities and repercussions if you fail to understand how the game is played.

1. It is your responsibility to get the money, pay the rent, pay kids school fees. You are the chief medical officer of your home, so everyone's health including your wife's and kids', are under your care.

2. You are the chief security officer of your home, you must check that all doors are locked at night and ensure the safety of everyone in the family.

3. You are the chief romance officer, you must master how to play women with sweet words, give her massage every evening, and make sweet love to her during the massage sessions, and I mean this. Get a massage table, it goes for about 180K to 300K for a good one. If you cant afford that, then buy massage mat. Prepare the oil and get some candles.

4. You must join her in the kitchen, even if there is a maid to do the chores and help her out, you must learn this. Wash those plates sometimes.

5. You must lie down with that woman on bed after sex, hold her face, and tell her truths and lies of how you love her. Then if you have nothing more to do, do some gossiping with her. Stroke her nicely and tell her how hard you are working to ensure your family is financial stable for the next 100 years.

6. You must stop thinking like your ancestors. Define your own path and ignore customary and traditional ways of running your home. Times have changed. Why wont you fetch water and wash your own hand. Seems she is the one doing all the kitchen work and you are the African man waiting to be served. It is not mandatory, besides do you know if her mother used to serve her father that way? It might be she got a different kind of training.

7. Do not ever think you have done enough, cos you havent done jack. If you feel that your wife is cheating, then rent a place somewhere else and move towards a different location. It does not matter if you own the house you are living now. Go and rent someplace nice for a year and move there and change your children's school so as to forget the shame and embarrassment your quarrel may have caused. If it is your house, you can return back after a year.

8. Always remember that most women are like babies. You must master how to lie to them if you know that truth will hurt. Learn all those skills from yahoo boys how they control white women and use it for your marriage. If you do it right, your wife might be giving you pocket money sometimes and you all will fall in love again.

Do you think your wife is bad? You have no idea. No one will tell you what is going on in their homes.

Master how to manipulate women, and you will control them like a intimacy gadget.

Treasured4eva:
I've never been happy for almost 8 years of marriage with 3 wonderful kids.I wake up everyday asking God how I got entangled with the worse woman I've ever met in my life.

I'm a very responsible and decent man who provides for his family.My family has always been my priority, but my wife's disrespectful attitude towards me has rendered me hopeless,shattered and broken.

She insults me at any slightest argument,raises her voice to attract the attention of neighbours and the kids whenever we have a misunderstanding.She hates been talked to,even if she's wrong.

I have my own imperfections too as a man,but it really baffles me when a woman you paid her bride price sees you as trash,challenges you in a very rebellious and arrogant manner for the whole time you've ever spent with her.

My kids has been the ones keeping me from leaving the marriage since I've complained to virtually all her family members yet it seems to be worse. I die in silence and pains everyday.

My wife can't serve me food with water to wash my hands,I'll always go and wash my hands myself and mostly take the plates back to the kitchen if the maid didn't do it.She has never asked why I rejected a particular food,she'll just take it away without remorse.

I'm just nothing to her and her family members. Her sister even called me to warn and threaten me one certain time we had problem.It even became worse when she got a job,I'm a laughing stock because I lost my job.

I usually send her money to pay the kids fees,I was owing some little amount this term,surprisingly,the gave the school accountant my number to embarrass me.

I've come to realize that any woman disloyal to her husband definitely has someone she's loyal to and if you don't let her go,she might end up killing you or you do the unthinkable out of frustration.

Divorce might not be the best way to end an unhappy marriage,but it can surely prolong the lives of the couples involved. Kids will surely grow into adults someday to understand things. This is my point of no return.

She started as a terrible girlfriend and ended as a bad wife.I pray my daughters don't ever take after their mother because I can't wish a fellow man what I've experienced for almost 8 years.No body should ever marry a man or woman with flaws thinking they'll change with time;they don't change,they only get worse.

Lots of people are really misquoting me.I only lost a high paying job but still got a very big business which is already yielding income,just that my spending pattern changed.I still run all aspects of mybhome.

My wife's money remains her business and she's not mandated to spend it on me or the family.I truly assist her to the best of my ability in domestic chores and otherwise.

She's a very bad tempered woman that doesn't regard or respect me and that's where the problem lies.My only crime is that I wanted respect from her.

Rossikki:
''I will sell NNPC''

omonaijiria:
GMB Election Security Order: We will cure legality With Illegality: KEYAMO


He made this statement in his verdicts interview on Channel tv yesterday.


Watch the video here yes I heard him say that....


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cococandy:
Is any of you by chance her side dude?

litdutchboy:
stop spamming my thread

SarkinYarki:
Dear Nairalanders there have been various arguments on who was really responsible for the Economic slump witnessed under the Buhari govt with some people saying the slump was as a result of 16 years of bad leadership by the PDP which just happen to tank during Buhari administration and others saying the buck lies squarely with Buhari .. I am of the latter opinion that Buhari indeed is 100 percent responsible for the recession and I have carefully outlined all the poor policies by Buhari that led to the slump please enjoy .


1 : Delay in communicating a policy direction on time:

Ladies and gentlemen this was the first mistake by Buhari as he failed to communicate any economic policy direction immediately he was announced winner leaving all economic stakeholders in the dark , for months no stakeholder knew is the the new govt was going to be favourable to the private sector and at what level and instead of Buhari communicating this he instead went to work straight stoking the embers of tribalism and division with his 97% to 5% gaffe which immediately cast a veil of economic and security uncertainty on the polity and economy .

The outcome : Investors immediately put a pause on any further investment till the air could be clearer at least on what economic direction the president was towing.


2 : Delay in choosing Ministers

The 2nd mistake Buhari will make was his deliberate delay in choosing Ministers for almost a year meaning he spent his first fiscal year without any form of FEC meeting where new govt tactical and strategic policies
are brain stormed and matched against Key Performance Indicators (KPIs) , this delay was like virtually pausing the life support of a patient in Coma while you searched for a medical expert !!

The Outcome: This needless delay would end up putting the Nigerian economy under stress as for months unending every other micro policy from state govts to local govt to private sector where all put on hold as stakeholder waited for ministerial direction as a plimsol to guide their own decision so it was not uncommon for many of us to walk into our clients organization and be told we had to halt projects tool the ministers where inaugurated.

3: Immediate Infighting within the Presidents party :

Buhari has always been known to be a very cunning and divisive man who is very fond of speaking from both side of his mouth all just to protect his secret interest and he will immediately use this character to bring division into his ruling party where once again his inability to firmly set a direction would open the doors for chaos and spoils grabbing as no one knew how Buhari wanted the structure of party leadership to be , this lapse immediately brought about many camps within the party all infighting for the spoils of their latest conquest while the economy was left unattended.


The Outcome No unity between the party leadership, the executive and legislative right from the onset a problem that will further sacrifice the health of our already struggling economy further.


4: Poor implementation of TSA

It had never been a secret that Nigerian Govt funds housed in many Nigerian banks provided a lot of stability for the financial sector even though it left some loophole for possible corruption but the benefits far outweighed the risks , it was in this light the previous govt agrees that the implementation of the TSA must be staggered in phases so as not to cause financial shock to Nigeria managing Banking industry but Buhari will disregard the advice of expert and go for total implementation over night a costly bad decision that threw the financial sector into sudden confusion as predicted by experts, meaning over night our banks suddenly had less deposits to use to manage the delicate balancing of funds between depositors and lending , ofcourse at such times it's the lending aspect that will suffer as depositors must always have access to their funds as at when they want it because they are in Fact the soul of the banking business . We should note this action was clearly an indirect sabotage to the financial economy similar to a previous Buhari error in the 80s where he changed the Nigerian currency over night in a bid to catch looters

The outcome : the private sector suddenly had less access to loans and as result many economy growing projects where put on hold at great cost to the the Economic kinetics and potential of the Nigerian economy.


5: Going after Tompolo at a time of low oil Prices


At a time of low oil Prices most good leaders immediately try to drastically increase output and production in other to cover for projected short fall in revenues but shockingly it is at this time that President Buhari will choose to shake the fragile peace in the Niger Delta in a poorly thought out decision to send the military into the oil rich Niger Delta to hunt for oil warlord General Tompolo over a 13 billion Naira (35 million dollars ) payment made to Tompolo by the previous govt for the purchase of some land for some university , it ended up being a total economic disaster which only ended up worsening the Economic outlook of the country.

The Outcome : In attempt to go after 35 million dollars the Nigerian economy ended up losing a projection of about 100 billion dollars and countless lives and the painful part is that Tompolo was never caught neither was the 35 million dollars ever recovered ..Infact it's said the military operation itself cost the govt over 60 million dollars . Talk of a very bad decision .


6: 5 Billion Dollar MTN fine


Early in Buhari govt without even a policy direction in place and heavy economic uncertainty the Buhari govt in its bid to raise cheap funds will make a very bad mistake by fining telecoms success story MTN a mind boggling whooping 5 billion dollars for failing to properly register less than 1% of its subscribers a practice common with all 4 mobile Telcos in the country but surprisingly only MTN was singled out for this quite suspect fine which may industry observers have said is nothing short of a grandiose approach to executive extortion but that's as story for another day , the bottom line is that this poorly thought out fine triggered a megathrust of capital flight out of the country by many private sector players including the same same MTN who feared that same fate could befall them under the knee jerk Buhari govt and in less than 4 weeks over 80 billion dollars was spirited out of the Nigerian Govt under the nose of Buhari in one of the greatest mass capital flight ever recorded in a developing economy.

The Outcome: The capital flight triggered by the fine would put further strain on the economy once more and slow down any further new investments by such players , MTN will go further and cut it's support for thousands of small Nigerian Businesses and ideas citing lack of funds ( yours faithfully lost a lucrative advertising business my company ran regularly with MTN) MTN will drop many youth ambassadors it sponsored , drop Who wants to be a millionaire and project fame citing lack of funds , the total loss to small businesses that depended on MTN for patronage will run into billions of Naira in reality and tens of billions in projections. It was another economic misfire by the Buhari govt .
The Outcome here was hyper capital flight and many calculated exits by investors from the Nigerian economy e g ETISALAT and heavy loss to Nigerian SMEs that got patronage of such players, this will translate into massive job losses and prospect deeper that can even be measured and the very very painful part is that after all the damage the Buhari govt failed to collect the 5 billion fine but instead reduced it to 650 million dollars to be paid over a long time by the Nigerian subscribers.

7 : Increasing Petrol Price and Electricity Tarriff at the same time:



It's no secret that Nigerian micro business economy is driven by a finicky balance betwen the petrol engine and unstable electricity as the petrol engine is used to produce back up electricity used to power small businesses from fabricators to small offices to small online businesses to cooling to room to salon at times when NEPA electricity has failed and believe me in Nigeria it's almost all the time .. The Buhari govt will again show it's short sightedness in this area and deliver a devastating blow to micro business owners who are the foundation of 80 percent struggling Nigeria family units by increasing petrol price and Electricity Tarriff by a whopping 50 percent and at the same time which immediately increased the operational running cost of micro businesses about 100% , my brothers and sisters this was the death knell to the economy as it triggered wave of unplanned inflation overnight and reduced demand instead of the other way round where increased demand will trigger inflation, once again the Buhari govt had turned economic theories on its head and thrown the economy in to further doldrum. Many micro business who couldn't cope with this loss of demand as result forced inflation had to die throwing millions more into uncertainty and abject poverty.


8: Poor handling of Herdsmen Farmers Clash

When farms and cattles meet there is always bound to be problem and in Nigeria this is no different but under Buhari this took a worse turn as instead of quickly using fairness and equity to resolve such tensions the Buhari govt immediately took sides with herdsmen for reasons best known to it and this immediately emboldened the herdsmen to escalate their attack as the realised there was no repercussion in sight as long as the Buhari govt continued to be one sided , this lack of will by the Buhari govt will end putting devastating blow on the foundational pillar of the Nigeria economy which is actually subsistent farming .

The Outcome : The Outcome here was hunger hunger and more hunger as many subsistent farmers fled their traditional farmlands leaving in its wake reduced agro production and inflation as agro supplies dwindled , it also led to an increase in crimes as both herders and farmers took to kidnappings and robberies in other to survive .


9 Poorly thought out Import Tarriff increases


The Buhari govt made two tax policies that I think were a really bad mistake and they are

A : Increasing tariffs on anti malarial

B: Increasing tariffs on Vehicles .

Usually govt increased import Tarriff for two reasons either to protect it's own local industries or trying to discourage the use of such . The Buhari govt will shock all by increasing the Tarriff of antimalarials citing reasons that it wanted to encourage their production at home forgetting that Nigeria was a malaria endemic zone with little or no real infrastructure to support production especially under Buhari who had recently demobilized the lending sector with his poor implementation of TSA and increase cost of all production in Nigeria, this policy was another ok advised one as I would have expected the govt to first make the economy conducive to attract investment in those sectors before thinking of increasing Tarriff.

The Outcome: The policy only succeeded in increasing the cost of healthcare and cost of vehicle in Nigeria which means a reduction in saving and disposable income for the average family unit , we didn't see the indigenous car plants or anti Malarial factories get built in Fact the policy was so bad that the Customs boss had to recently beg the Buhari govt to reduce it as it's is only encouraging smuggling and infiltration of substandard products .




I hope with these 9 points we can all agree that Buhari was 100 percent behind the slump contrary to arguments the slump was caused by other govts and Buhari only inherited it . I am in no way trying to absolve past govts of poor leadership but only trying to show the role Buhari played in expediting the slump.

Many thanks for the read and please feel free to share whether you support or not .


Writer: SarkinYarki Bello

Olawalesmarter:
You are talking about Banks? seriously?. The same way Yoruba Establishment employ loads of Easterners, you know there are many Bank being Head by Yoruba too with Igbo working in it like GT Bank, Wema Bank etc. You Know Michael Adenuga is the Owner of GLO too? And GLO alone Employ loads of Easterners.

Olawalesmarter:
please which Igbo Establishment are Yoruba working in ? and Igbo is also marrying Yoruba, Yoruba is also marrying Igbo so? . You are crazy which Igbo Establishment are Yoruba working in?



Yoruba are not counting on you to Vote for Buhari in the first place, We know that since Buhari was voted in 2015 so why should we feel pain on something we already know is not possible? and you hardly determine Election result in Nigeria ? . You are just stupid

onyidon22:
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A ten minute Google research would have saved you from this mess. Stop parading yourself as Igbo because it's obvious to even kid in the kindergarten that you are a bloody afonja.
The issue of which tribe goes to school more than others has been trashed here in nairaland severally and every data points to the east.
Your assertion is based on ignorance and you should do yourself a Favour by liberating yourself from it.

damola1:
Who made such a stupid policy?

Since they made it? How has it affected Nigeria’s adoption of locally made vehicles?

How can one buy a 1m car and pay 700k to govt?

Which Nigerian manufacturer sells brand new car for less than 5m?

Again. Who made such stupid policy need to be shot