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Militant1:
I will try to be brief and straight to the point.

My wife stays up late (11pm -12 am) every blessed day.... That's the problem.

We live in Lagos and have 2kids, 3yo and 8 months. My wife was working before but left the job when she gave birth. There is a job waiting for her when the baby is 1y6mnths, therefore she is a stay at home mom.

We live on the mainland but I work on the island so I live home as early as five. In our house we have all the amenities you can think of; 24 hrs light (NEPA plus inverter), running water, gas, 2 washing machines etc to make a home 95percent comfortable but my wife can't seem to cope and it started when we had one child.

She doesn't wash my clothes, my office shirts and suits are given to dry cleaner to arrange while my other laundry I do myself every weekend with the washing machine.

When I get home by 7pm or 8, that's when she now starts rushing to bath the kids and prepare dinner, so we eat by 9 or 10. Before the kids play play and play, by 11pm we are still awake. Sometimes I go to bed by midnight and have to wake up by 4am to go to work again. It's impacting on my health and my work. She will sleep by 12 am and wake up by 8 or 9am the following day.

I have tried to beg and appeal to her. If I eat out and come home to just sleep, she go dey vex. If I just come home shower and sleep the kids who have passed their bedtime will be playing and when madam is ready to sleep they won't agree to sleep. She will beat them, guess who they will come crying to- daddy that just started sleeping and has to wake by 4am, I will now pet and pet till 2am before kids sleep.. I have advised her that kids have a bedtime(8pm). When I man up and off the tv by 9pm and tell everyone to go to bed, she says I am disrespecting her. She reports me to her mum.

Worse still our sex life is horrible... We have sex like once in 2 month.. At 35 I am in my sex prime and can Bleep everyday but she doesn't seem to care about me because she is always tired am I pity her so I don't demand sex so much.

I fully understand stay at home is not easy and I help her when.

I tried to create a schedule for her.

Wake up by 6am
By 7 she suppose don clean finish
By 8 breakfast should be ready for her, kids
9-10am bath herself and the kids
10-12 do any other stuff in the house
12-3pm rest, watch movies, chill
3-5pm... Do whatever she likes
5pm boil water and bath the kids
6pm she don bathe and bath kids
7pm... Food don done... Everything dey freezer
8pm we eat
By 9 everyone goes to bed and we knack 1hr

I throw the trash every day
Na me dey go market buy foodstuff
On weekends I clean the house
I wash my all my clothes
I provide all the finance in the house
I satisfy her on the bed when we naka. She begs me that she's tired
I buy her gifts, drop 3k for her everyday
Why should we have a house help when she is a stat at home mum (for now)

So what's the problem..


Mothers, are my demands too much?
Mothers, please when do you close your kitchen and go to bed?
Are you still awake by 11pm every blessed day.
Am I crazy?

Please advice me.

I have begged her, pleaded, shouted, done everything. Sometimes I intentionally come home late (10-11pm) thinking that the kids have gone to bed but my first child will be watching cartoon.

Please advice me. I am going crazy, Lagos is stressful

Bread money is daily bread�

northbird:
What's your wife doing? Is she currently working...
You can test waters for 3 months by getting your wife to oversee the bakery for two days ( Tuesday and Thursday). You will run staggered production... For now operate strictly 3 or 4 day week cycle.

Tuesday, Thursday, Saturday and Sunday.
While you take over weekends ( sat & Sun)

See how it goes for the 3 months,then you decide whether to go full scale.
Target the retail end... ₦100,150,200 ₦500. units of bread move faster... ₦150 and ₦200 especially if you live in a youth dominant environment.

Congrats chief, bread money is daily money..

Walking beer footed�

Congratulations..I tap from your grace

Na person wey talk pass

ollah2:
The question wasn't who pays but who pays more.

Although it is called English dictionary but Most of the words don't have English origin... I think

Nigerialabalaba:
OP u do well o but Pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanoconiosis no be English word

Not all words in dictionary are English ... I think

Nigerialabalaba:
OP u do well o but Pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanoconiosis no be English word

No 1 is John wick

dontrulee:
Good. You should know number 1 and 2

On the contrary man has 3 male kids with the first.so that's definitely not the reason ...what's important is he said second "wife" not baby mama .guess she has done the needful.

Stallionhorse:
A man wanted a male child so he choose to marry another woman!! More over its part of our culture to marry as many as we can take care of.. Happiness should be Paramount in life not what people think or expect from you.. Nobody holy pass!!? Congrats man!! May God bless and protect your family.. May God also give us the strength and courage to marry more than one too.. Amen!!

Not a movie ..it's real

Massiveglory:
2nd wife!!! Is this a movie or what?

Freedom of association u mean?

MrBrownJay1:
foolish parents... if there is after school bible studies, then there should also be satan after school, for whoever believes in it. its called FREEDOM OF SPEECH!!! just like it is perfectly legal to have neo nazy groups, and KKK racist groups, duh!

here is a simple question: whats "supposedly" wrong with such group?!?

The main problem is how to translate "I take" to correct English . If u can do that voila!! Your problem is solved.

Boy Alinko u mean ,,

Bahamas95:
Jesus!

Fvcking disgusting.

Do snakes give birth like mammals, I thought they lay eggs?

some snakes are oviparous while others are viviparous.

Health is wealth

Bakarehabib02:
He no go better for Man U if they no sack ole this weekend

make Tottenham trash us well ..them no go get option.

I don't think there's any bible verse that directly condems smoking..I stand corrected.however,let your conscience b d judge of that ,if it feels right and hurts no one.
p.s whether u smoke or not, sin or not ...no one will leave this life alive.

Franking:
Don't eat o. This one is too tiny.

serpenghetti

Spark 7

ASSOCIATION OF PRESENT CRIMINAL

Why are kidnappers not paraded like other criminals? We get to see those caught with locally made pistols but not the ones with the AK-47

Mutually assured destruction..MAD

They are all pathological relationships to mood altering experience which often times comes with negative consequences yet when ceased causes trauma ...so non is easy.

Fallen angel

Delay is not denial,tho it tarries it shall surely come to pass