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Wealthoptulent:
what you don't know is that WOMEN are MATTER [neither be created nor DESTROYED]
since no reason to DESTROY the MAN and have is PRPERTIES SHARED , she CREATED a REASON/PROBLEM n boom it worked


so a woman will WAKE & LEAVE PLACE OF PEACE & WEALTH? we can doi better here Bruv

But you just said she "created a reason/problem" to leave so why did she leave despite all the wealth.

Wake up to reality. She's not the only that has done it. Women cheat and leave rich men all the time. Even (read:especially) when the man is trying to make her completely happy

Colson:
The Kaka brouhaha has been debunked though. It was all made up.

Nope. She tried to deny it and say it was mutual. Kaka said he fought to save it as a Christian.

Go look at her new husband and compare with Kaka

NobleStag007:
That's why her character comes in bro. Once you know she isn't head over heels for you and also the reason why she's into you. You'll easily be able to predict actually

It doesn't matter her character. A woman's character is 50% of what is required to make a relationship work.

Your skill as a man and your ability to stimulate her emotions is the other 50%. A good woman will also leave if her relationship is not emotionally exciting and satisfying

NobleStag007:
It's simple

Never marry a woman for her beauty or background BUT character


Most marry men because the man is rich.. nothing more.. nothing less..

Such can leave at anytime and also.. the more influence they have towards social media also ruins them

It doesn't matter if she has good or bad character. Women are ruled largely by their emotions

Skooltynz:
Op, its normal for humans to love drama if you have a girl that agrees to everything you say and succumbs to your every request you will eventually get tired of her, humans don't really like people sucking up to them its turn off,I keep telling my friends don't treat women like children they are adults matured enough to take care of themselves thats the where kaka made mistakes.

You should treat as both: children & adults. They have an inner child too which shouldn't be ignored. Her child & adult side should both be treated

Of course, the adult side should be focused on more. But neither should be neglected

Wealthoptulent:
what you don't know is that WOMEN are MATTER [neither be created nor DESTROYED]
since no reason to DESTROY the MAN and have is PRPERTIES SHARED , she CREATED a REASON/PROBLEM n boom it worked

Women dont just wake up and create reasons/problems for them to leave. Something made her feel like living.

Kaka was hell bent on making her happy. But when you stimulate just one part of her emotion, she feels incomplete. There's no thrill etc

Lol. Ignorance at its peak. This is why girls complain red pill is only online. Cause spend more times with books than In real life.

Sexual pleasure is NOT the same as Sex Drive. If you had ANY tangible experience with women, you'd realize this.

Anyways you guys can keep circle jerking books all day, when you're ready go outside and touch grass

What I'm about to share with you will probably be the biggest thing about women you've ever read.

I advise you read it carefully to understand and not feedback useless opinions. All book opinions without experience will be ignored. ALL red pill online theory opinions will be ignored

Now, let's get started. But before we do, let's look at the story

You've probably heard this story: Kaka, a star football player was left confused when his wife decided to leave him. Her reason? "He never betrayed me. He took care of me. But something was missing. He was too perfect for me"

That kind of reason can leave any logical man scratching his head. How can she say his perfect yet something is missing. But therein lies the problem. Women aren't logical in relationships. In fact, they HATE logic. Anything logic bores and annoys them.

What women love and crave even more than money? Emotions. This is why bad boys excite women. Give them deep intense feelings that good guys fail to do

Let's do a practical experiment so you can understand it VERY CLEARLY.


Imagine a guy in front in a mirror. Or imagine yourself in a mirror. His goal is to work out and get fit and muscular. Let's say he goes to the gym and works out only his right hand, ignoring his left, for six months. How would he look? Weird right? One hand will be bigger than the other. In essence he would feel incomplete. Like something is obviously missing


That's exactly how women feel when you're always good to them. Unlike men, women aren't muscle athletes like what we described above. Women are EMOTIONAL ATHLETES. Every single emotion they have should be worked on stimulated: joy, anger, sadness, pain, horniness, happy etc

When you focus on making her happy and never cry or angry, she feels incomplete. She feels like she's missing something. Of course she doesnt consciously realize know what's missing. But subconsciously she does.

That's why when men tell her: "But I gave you everything. Made you always happy. What could be missing" she as no response. Because she doesn't consciously know.

To keep women, you have to take them through all her emotions to varying degrees depending on your skill and type of woman

And yes, this is for ALL women. So don't quote me telling me some bs about "generalization" or "some women" lol. I will just ignore it.

Women are lover of emotions. And when one or more of her emotions aren't stimulated in a relationship, she feels incomplete. Like there's something huge missing in her life. Because they are by definition, emotional athletes .

Her feelings and emotions is how she makes sense of the world including (read: especially) her relationships.

Happy new year

Adasun:
thanks Rizz... but lemme point out some things

first and foremost, yours truely was practically experimenting to see how far things will go. although the theory where in my head, i have never tried it out... i was relax in my own skin while sending out signals to her... she closed her eyes after the first kiss and even apologise for it. i swept it under the carpet sha and later grap her myself for more dose of it. i never thaught of taking her home... in the nutshell, i was not ready from the start untill things heat up. my bad.


suspecting who she went to meet was not confirmed until after i saw her missed call and called back. hence why i stopped calling her.


thanks alot bro... i may text but will not probably call her for now...


all i will do is to position, anything can trigger her once more, and i need to be prepare when her call will enter for meet up

Does she live in the area or came to visit? I wouldn't advise waiting for her call or text. Women are passive and would prefer men take the lead.

If this happened recently, give it a few days then text her

Adasun:
truely ubunja is a bad boy... i know all this from him but sometimes my hands i tight.

i was travelling back to my base some days back, meet this fair sweet girl and as usual, vibe with her effortlessly, she willingly bought a bottle water for me. to start with, the choosing signals where there mehn...

i put on my 'A' game and guess what? she lied to her people of not seeing another vehicle in other not to follow another car when ours broke down and it was late.
most of all, i got kissed like her life depend on it when we where finally alone at the back of the sienna.

i told her to follow me home but she could not because her people already know where we are(her uncle to be precise, which i doubt because when that her said acclaimed uncle called, i saw 'my king' )... she told me she doesn't know what lie to tell them.


this where my challenges

(1.) she was already complaining of hunger since it was 12mid night and i don't have resources that night to feed two mouths

(2.) my house from point of drop is far and will cost me more to reach my home with her.

(3.) her whatever already knows we where close by and she could not come up with what to say.

(4.) i don't know her from Adam, neither do i know any sickness in her,taking her to my place can be quiet risky, police no go hear abeg.


i know the whole passion will drop once we separated, i already know. she gave me one last deep Kiss before we exited the car. i called her around 2am if she arrived at her place safely and text her the next morning. she called by evening but i missed her call. i called later but a man picked and said hello, she quickly snap the phone from whosesoever he is and we spoke. her answers where monosyllabic and i smile and said we will talk later.

of course i did not called her... she text me new year message which i replied with thanks and that's it. this all happened between 30th-1st


my encounter validate many things Ubunja have taught in this forum.

1. hit the iron while it is hot... if i push harder for her to follow me home, maybe she would have. she will just off her phone and damn the consequences. because at that point, she was not thinking straight, she just kiss me at any opportunity, once non of the passengers are looking.


2. go as far as possible... i should not have stopped at the kiss alone, what happen to fingering her and pressing her boobs? huh... i know, of course i would have done all that but she wore a trouser not a gown.


3. never finish halfway... na my fellow man i helped that day to enjoy the water i engineered out of her. i made her Hot and wanting. she would not sleep like that. whose so ever she met finished the job and enjoyed it. all the fire i resonate within her was quench by another person, definitely. and she will grow more connected to him than to me.

4. the same day sex is highly and very possible if you know ur onion well.



special thanks goes to Ubunja, the fact is, i know wasup but my hands where tide due to so many factors i listed upthere.

You did well. These are the kind of practical stuff I love to see.

However, there are a few things I should point so you're better armes at seduction.


--First, once you were aware that taking her home isn't possible, I won't have kissed her again. If she tried to kiss me, I'd turn it down then tell her I can't take her home because your house is fire. Kissing her and getting her Hot will just make the cooling off worse.

It would have been better you denied her the kiss then tell to text/call you later or you do it. Fingering or sucking her bòòbs is also not an option either. Because it will make her hornier even for another guy


--- Once you suspected she was with another guy, I won't have called that evening. Probably a text. Then call the next day.


---- Another guy fùcking doesn't change anything. You can text or call her later and still fùck her. It all depends on how you play your game.



---- The concept of Same Day Fùck is to arouse her IF your logistics are favourable. If they're not, like in your case, then no point turning her on and leaving her for no reason.


----- Your Next Moves.

If you still have her number, call and text her. Women FANTASIZE ALL THE TIME about meeting a stranger on a bus, taxi, plane, car and getting swept of their feet in mutual passion.

So how you met her fits into her sexual narrative and she'll want to see you again. Make sure you don't act needy for her pùssy.

Act like you not fùcking her was your choice due to bad logistics.

All the best

Red pillers leave books and theories and meet women.

Jèrking off to Rollo Tomassi Rationale male is how yall do badly with women. Even guys that can barely do cold approach are talking.
Lmao. It's your dick you keep wanķing to that's suffering tho.

Guys that barely get laid, and can't even approach women talking about detractors. Smh. Wonders shall never end

PinkNature:
@pukkalolo, rizzputin

Could you please put out a piece advising the younger audience here (25yrs and younger) that will help us navigate 2025 and make good use of this new year and also how to become a better version of ourselves.

Thank you.

Alright, a few things. Navigating a new year requires four things: Goals, Mindsets, Areas/Parameters, systems/processes

Each one build on top of each other. Take note that noticeable improvements tend to appear after 6 months of CONSISTENT improvements.

I say consistent because in the game of improvement, momentum is your best friend. Slacking off, procrastination sets you back and delays progress.

So let's start with goals.

----Goals.

You want to divide your goals into 4 categories. A) Big Crazy Goals. B) Big goals C) Medium Sized goals D) Mini goals


A)Big crazy goals.
These are goals that scare you. Generally if your goals here dont make you think "Am I crazy?" Then they're not big enough. Ideally you want things that make even you shake.

B) Big Goals. These are goals that while big enough aren't as crazy as the first ones.

You always want to aim High as much as possible. You may not hit it but it's not a bad idea if you come close.

C) Medium Sized goals

These are goals you set every month. What do you hope to achieve in the Arras of your life you want to achieve. And what process/systems do you have to achieve them .

D) Mini - Goals.

These are daily and weekly goals. They build on each other. Daily goals impact weekly goals which further impact monthly goals and which further impact Big goals.

Following this path is how you gain leverage over average people and create your own luck.

Tomorrow, I'll talk about Mindsets/beliefs

Tonnyray:
50 women!!!
Wow! This must be a joke. I'd crossed 50 before I left Ibadan 9 years ago (October 2015 to be precise).
This is a waste of time really since neither of us can substantiate these here... but to even start at 50 already gives me an idea what you feel is a considerable count.
I had the best O&G result in my set and conducted more than 65 deliveries in my career while in clinical practice but I'd never argue with a mother of even a single child about how exactly a woman feels during childbirth- why? because a person with an experience is equal to 1,000 with mere opinions no matter how academically sound.
You've never been a woman, stop menstruating on their behalf. The only pleasure you can relate to is yours.
The minute you convince serious minded people here you've had clitoral and vaginal orgasms before, the earlier anyone will take your claims seriously.

You've never had sex with up to 50 women. Stop deceiving yourself. NOBODY who has had that much sex would say the nonsense you've been saying. And like I said, this is not a debate on body counts. You can NEVER reach mine

Stop cooking up lies and theories in your head. Go and have sex with real women (NOT the one in your dreams) then we can talk

ElasmoBranchii:
Lol okay casanova. I think I know what the problem is. It's your level of comprehension which I realize is something you have to solve by yourself.

So this is my final attempt to break it down and make it easier for you to understand.

You said here

"Women have more sexual pleasure than men" (Which is a generalization)

"Sexual pleasure is about enjoyment, depth and satisfaction."

Now I ask. What is more satisfying during sex than an orgasm?

Secondly between men and women who generally ends up reaching orgasm more during sex?

So Mr. Casanova. Like I said what you have is a comprehension problem and your sole experience and the hypothesis you formed from it doesn't count in the grand scheme of things.

Quote me once you start having sex with women and not jerking off to books

For those reading, quote me with real life experiences YOU have.

Not some nonsense your biology or evolution teacher taught you. Seduction is about what happens in the field. Not some theories you cook in your mind or read somewhere.

I will ignore ALL mentions that talk about "books" or theory or how baboon, dog and chimpanzee are different.

Speak from experience. Too much logic is why a lot of you do badly with women. Don't sit in your bedroom and cook up theories.

Have sexual experiences with women for yourself. If you're too stoic or Mr Monk (LOL) Then resist the urge to speak on it. Because you don't have the required experience for it.

Tonnyray:
LOL
You speak like you used to be a woman
How exactly does menstruation feel?
If you never were a woman then all you penned up there is hypothetical hocus-pocus.
And as it pertains to having sex with women, maybe we could meet up and compare irrefutable phone evidence of our body counts.

Lol. Nobody is debating body count with you. You will NEVER reach mine. So no need.

However, go have sexual experiences with 50 women then everything will make sense to you. Until then, all you're saying Is some nonsense you read in a book

ElasmoBranchii:
I agree with caveadullam's take but you might be right about some of the things you said.

For example you said Sex drive and Sexual pleasure are not the same which is true but in both case, it's still men that top.

In order for you to realize that, ask yourself what is the ratio of men to women that reach orgasm during sex and that will reveal the answer on who experiences more sexual pleasure.

Now, I don't know if women have the potential to experience more sexual pleasure than men because the way they get turned on is a little different than men and most men don't know how to turn women on, so that might be the reason.

So, all in all, your hypothesis is just based off your own experience which is limiting.

Dear lord. Are you guys actually having sex with women?
Sexual pleasure is about enjoyment, depth and satisfaction

It takes women longer to get satisfied. Meaning they require more pleasure to get satisfied. Meaning they require more stimulation experience that satisfaction. Their orgasms are also stronger and more than men

How don't you guys get this?

And it's Not just my hypothesis. Go and ask any real playa getting laid. They'll tell you the same thing

Don't ask red pillers like yourself. Majority of you have limited experience to speak on this. Go ask guys with real experience (NOT books) and they'll you how much more women love sex.

This is real life. Not books

Tonnyray:
I disagree.
You keep saying "can" and "if" and using the same to establish something as factual.
I can fvck Beyonce doesn't mean I ever will in 7 lifetimes.
Using probability clauses of "if with the right guy" already puts them on a lower pedestal than men sexdrive-wise as most men oftentimes don't even have a right woman but fvck just about any willing p00$$y.
If women had these crazy sex drives as you claim it won't be men being hauled in jail for sex crimes over 95% of the time.
Observing the spectrum of animal species alone does justice to this flawed argument.

Men have higher sex drives. Women have higher sexual pleasure. Sex drive and Sexual pleasure ARE NOT the same thing

Women have more perverted thoughts and feelings than men.

Women experience more pleasure and enjoyment in sex than men.

Women fantasize more than men.

Women are willing and do more sexually wild things than men.

Again, are you actually having sex with women or talking from an evolutionary book?

CaveAdullam:
I like how you feel that you have been able to rebut the post and yet contradicted yourself again with your last paragraph @bolded.

Bro...

The quoted post stems from a biological and evolutionary point of view.

You want to be using prostitutes to make a point when they are less than 8% of the total female demography in each continent.

Go research about testosterone hormone.

If you read about 2 - 3 books about testosterone and find out that "women experience more sexual pleasure than men or (have a higher sexual drive than men), then, we can have a discussion.

I don't even know how a specie "can have lower sex drive and still experience higher sexual pleasure".

That contradiction is giving me headache. I swear.

Happy New Year.

You're confused if you think anything there is contradictory.

High sex drive and sexual pleasure while related are NOT the same thing.

Sex drive refers to that urge and eagerness to have sex. That initial sex. Men can look and are ready to go. No long talk involved. Women on the other hand, are slower to get to that sex point in general.

Sexual pleasure is the enjoyment, satisfaction and depth that comes with sex. Women by FAR derive more pleasure and enjoyment in sex. It's NOT something to debate or use book knowledge to argue. Go out and actually experience it.

The fact that you called the Women I described "prostitutes" is laughable. Because you're suffering from good/bad girl syndrome

Women if aroused enough and with the right man will do perverted things that will make you cry. This FALSE belief that Women who have naughty fantasies are prostitutes is just naive.

Find any girl you feel doesn't match the criteria. Tell her to show you the novels she reads and her fantasies. Lol

I mostly debate experience not books. Your flawed theory already goes against reality. Drop the books and actually meet women

Happy New year to you too

PinkNature:
@pukkalolo, rizzputin

Could you please put out a piece advising the younger audience here (25yrs and younger) that will help us navigate 2025 and make good use of this new year and also how to become a better version of ourselves.

Thank you.

Tonight

CaveAdullam:
1. I disagree.

Women can't "feel far more sexual pleasure" and at the same time have a lower sex drive.

Men feel far more sexual pleasures which include:

Higher sexual fantasy.
Higher sexual imagination.
Higher sex dream.
Highest viewers of pornography.
Highest masturbators.
Feels more disappointed when sexual need is declined.

The differences are not "too far". But overall, men have higher sexual needs than women as a result of testosterone.

2. Many people think women are of higher sex drive because of their sexual display on social media. If you should look at it and trace it to the bottom, you'll see that they are on social media for the money. And not for the fun of sex.

3. Women don't give sex freely without an exchange. Merge this with their (lower) sex drive, you'll come to understand why men hustle and pay for sex and women don't.

4. It is easier for women to get sex because they don't want it. And 99.9% of men are ready to fvck them.
It is difficult for men to have sex because they want it. And 99% of women are not ready to fvck them.

5. It is easier to say "abundance mentality...why chase one woman when there are more than 3 billion women in the world?"

The thing here is that those other 3 billion women aren't gonna fvck you just like the one that rejected you if are not ready for exchange. And this exchange bothers on hypergamy: her alpha and or beta needs.

6. Women and sex are not free. There is always an exchange to get both. You just need to be wise with your exchange though, and the reason why it is expedient that a man must learn GAME.

7. Forget what women do on social media. Women are not careless with sex. Their sexual pursuit bothers on a subconscious evolutionary demand or conscious act or both.

DAY 351, REDPILL 2022

Authority: Learn Game.

Nah this totally wrong. This is what someone who hasn't seen the dark sexual nature of women in real life would say.

Women are WAY MORE Sexual than men. They derive more sexual pleasure than men

A woman can Bleep 7 guys in one day am will still want more. She can have multiple orgasms back to back In a row

Women also have dirtier and more perverted fantasies than men. If a woman has strong sexual desire for you, she's willing to the most depraved things you can think of.

Their sexual fantasy and sexual imagination are way higher. That's why they love reading novels. So their minds can go as wild as possible.

With the right guy, they unleash themselves and get wild.

They don't want pornography as much as men because men are more visual.

But go look at what they read, fantasize and day dream about lol. Go look at how many sizes and variations of intimacy gadgets they have. Their fantasies are WAY perverted than ours. And women always want more and more when it comes to exploring

The sexual awakening affects them more.


We, men just have higher sex drives. But they experience way more pleasure

ubunja:
the only problem is that you want to go from zero to smooth conversations with pretty girls. Doesn't work like that. You've to start at the bottom bro. You can't run before you can walk. You can't walk before you can crawl. You can't crawl before you can sit.

How do you begin at the bottom?

If you're like any typical gent you're aiming for the top pretty girls that catch your eye. Which is actually where you're getting it wrong. The secret to smooth conversations with the ladies is how RELAXED you yourself are. The more relaxed you are the more fire will be your conversation. Now ,the pretty girls intimate you. Which makes you anxious. Which kills your conversation.

I propose that you forget about these very cute girls for a moment.

Aim a little lower.

You know those girls that you hardly look at twice.cause they're not your type and class? Who you don't have any approach anxiety with. Who you can be free around and you can say anything to without any fear? Those are the girls you need to practice on. Hang out with them and use them to sharpen your skills. (Mind you, these are the same type/class of women you must be [secretly] screwing as target practice- but that's a story for another time)

You can't go from being terrible at talking to girls to having a flawless mouthpiece all in one go. Conversation skills, like all skills, must be cultivated through patient practice. And you don't practice on the very girls you want cause failure here will deal a blow to your confidence and self-esteem. Begin way down the ladder with girls you have nothing to lose with. Then as you become good at it start rising up the ladder engaging with better and better girls.

We live in a fast world and people want quick fixes and shortcuts. But given that a smooth mouthpiece is something you'll benefit from your whole life, it's worth it to invest your time and energy in perfecting it the right way.

BUTTTTTT.......
If my advice is too much and you're more after quick solutions, then your best bet is in fact to move FASTER. Approach anxiety is down to OVERTHINKING. The antidote is SPEED. the moment you spot your target you move in swiftly before your brain catches up and starts throwing up rationalizations: she's too pretty, you don't stand a chance etc.
The moment you see a lady you like quickly walk over and talk to her. The more you wait and hesitate the more your logic gets in the way.
And as counterproductive as it may seem, Go in with a blank mind. No questions pre-loaded, no topics prepared. Create space for a conversation to grow organically and naturally. Cause guess what? If the vibe is right you and the girl will click. And when you click with a stranger the conversation moves better cause the both of you will put in equal effort cause you both enjoy it.

Just don't go in with the express intention to shoot your shot, or even to build sexual tension. No. Rather go in with the express intention to have a great conversation. But be ready to go anywhere it may lead. Cause sometimes a vibe can be so good that you end up asking the lady to have a drink with you in a nearby shop, and even then the chemistry intensifies until you invite her to come chillax at your place. All in one day.

Now let me go off topic......But this is where a lot of guys mess it up:
If you're out with a girl and the conversation is flowing and the vibe is awesome, plenty of guys will ask for her number and part ways so they can talk to the girl later on. And they're shocked the girl who was vibey earlier is now cold and distant and uninterested on WhatsApp! Here is the deal: WOMEN ARE CREATURES OF EMOTIONS.
If you and a lady are vibing and the atmosphere is lit and she's clearly having a great time with you NO MATTER YOU JUST MET HER, NO MATTER SHE'S A STRANGER, NO MATTER SHE MENTIONED SHE HAS A BF, escalate escalate escalate. Cause right there, at that moment, in that instance, the iron is hot. The emotions favour you. The winds are blowing in your favour. The train is moving your direction. There's absolutely no reason to stop now. No reason to ask for her number. No reason to ask for her WhatsApp. Cause at that moment you're in a position to get something better than her contacts --her coochie.

A lot of guys don't believe in same-day puccy.
But that shít exists. A girl you just met can fucc you if the vibe is right and you look fuckable (clean, well groomed, fresh breath, neat clothes, nice deodorant). It boils down to the vibe. And how far you're willing to push it. Things can move from a great convo in the park to a shop having a cooling drink to you inviting her to come check out something at your place to you asking to take a shower then coming back with a towel around your waist asking her to put lotion on your back cause you can't reach --- then BOOM! And if you been putting in work in the gym it's DOUBLE BOOM!
You just have to build on the connection and keep the momentum going as soon as you click out in the street. Don't stop, ask for her number and go. No no no. Later on WhatsApp she'll have cooled down and will be uncooperative. This is the biggest mistake guys make. Everyone is so fixated on phone numbers they'll miss golden opportunities.

Great Post. Well put. These are the kind of practical stuff I love seeing NOT red pill theory bs.

Like you mentioned, It's WAY easier fùcking a girl you just met that same day when she's feeling your touch, aroused, turned on. Just walk with her or take her on a date then invite her home.

Much easier to do that than taking her number and scheduling for another day. Because like you said, emotions cool off.


However, there are ways to fix this. The biggest issue is that most naija guys run arousal game. And arousal game is the quickest way for a girl to cool off later and flake on you.

If you don't plan on fùcking a girl that Same day, limit your arousal and build other aspects of your game

luminouz:
You dey mind the mumu girl.

The guy has everything but he is not funny...

She will cry if he is funny but broke...or can't satisfy her or some other nonsensical reason.

She just doesn't like him, that's all. Yet she will be screaming ' where are all the good men?'


You cannot satisfy any woman 100%. Be yourself. My bestest motto

Not really.

It's NOT: "The guy has everything but isn't funny"

It IS: "The guy has everything but isn't emotionally stimulating"

Aaaaarghmed:
Nobody is perfect..if she wants a funny man,she should not mind if he is fat or short ,since funny is top of her priority.I wanted to marry my foreign beautiful babe,she smokes a lot and I could not handle it,smoking is something I cannot bear from a woman.she is not willing to stop.so I ended it.no one is perfect.obviously she dey look for perfect person.she should break up with him and allow us to rest.she sef go get flaws wey the guy dey manage

You're still missing the point. No woman wants a perfect man

Perfect men are boring. Women are nurturers. So if you're perfect, there's nothing to fix or invest in.

So no, she doesn't want a perfect man

A funny guy isn't "top priority". A man that stimulates her emotions is top priority. Being funny is just one smooth and fun way to do it that relaxes her too

It's about her emotions not just about being funny

Mikocake:
Some people are just too serious with life and that’s one thing that many women don’t like. They like to feel relaxed and happy around their man

Well, it still boils down to her emotions. And how her man influences it

I just came across a very interested thread that exemplifies how women think and what they want.

You can check out it out here: https://www.nairaland.com/8304556/dating-guy-just-not-funny

The TL/DR of that thread is she's dating a guy who is tall, handsome and very attractive looks wise. Basically her spec. The problem is, he's not funny. And she bonds really well with funny people. He's a caring guy but he just can't make her laugh. To top it off, her first kiss with him was awkward.


Of course, guys in that thread are giving her advice that will surely fail: "just manage him" "focus on his strengths. Because everyone has flaws" "Praise him and joke with him. Make him comfortable"

While all those advice mean we'll, they fail to understand a very important lesson I've been repeating for over 1000 years: Women are Not Logical. And they ARE RULED by their emotions.

You can argue with it all you want but that her bf along with those guys giving logical advice will learn in hard way.

When a woman says "bonding" she simply means emotional stimulation and connection. Looks have little effect there. The amount of girls that have dated a good looking guy only to find out he doesn't have a personality or is boring.... can fill up Old Trafford stadium TWICE.

Looks just get you in the door. They're so negligible long term. Over time your personality and how you emotionally stimulate and arouse her will matter more than ANYTHING.

What's even worse is that she's an Arousal type of girl so unless that guy can learn how to make her laugh or stimulate her emotionally in some way, that relationship will just end up with her getting turned on by a funny smooth guy and fùcking the he'll out of him


Because she cannot manage him and no she cannot "help" him get funny. An awkward first kiss PLUS a boring guy is a FANTASTIC way for a guy to lose his relationship.

My best advice would be for the guy to work on himself. He ignored his personality and vibe (which is what women care the most about) and went to develop his looks and probably his finances.

For the girl, it's tough for her lol. Cause telling a guy he's boring will hurt his ego.

Anyways, this is just case no. 455,456,578,698 why women will LOVE their emotions more than anything else

Blakjewelry:
Lol every woman has mind of their own just like men. Their weak minded ones who your theories apply and strong minded ones who only seeks your support in their decisions, the rules to the game is keep an open mind an not to assume you already know because that is a recipe for disaster.

Nope, you're wrong. EVERY woman is ruled by her emotions. Her Emotions guide her. Some have better control it than others.

But for the most part of it, their emotions guide them. It has nothing to do with weak or strong. For women, being in touch with their emotions is a sign of strength.

Anyways, you clearly didn't read or understand this thead. Cause the things you're saying are completely off point from the FACTS laid out here.

Make sure you go back and read the properly so you understand. And DO NOT reply telling me you read or understood. You didn't.

Get a dictionary and coffee if you have to. Make sure you ACTUALLY read and UNDERSTAND the read. Not reading to make delusional arguments

Blakjewelry:
Even as a guy I can't speak for all men as individuals differs and here you are speaking for all women when you are not even a woman.

Believe it or not, women want a man that knows her more than she does and can teach her things about herself.

This, to her, is how her man "makes her grow as a person"

Franzinni:
Well thank God women are now masculine so their emotions are beginning to face reality.

God bless the feminist movement... They have made life a bit easier as a man now I can tell a woman to use her money to buy herself what she want and not even feel a type of way ... I see everything as men now. No more chivalry, If you have what I want I will give what you need and skin will meet skin and after that ... Everybody go thier way till next time. To hell with relationship! I prefer to trust my primal instincts.

Feminism hasn't really changed much or anything. Women are still as emotional as before.

Mentholated:
I agree that men are more logical than women but the difference is not much.

Women and ignorant men keep promoting this emotional bullshit because women for centuries have used that to escape accountability for their actions.

What you call emotions are simply selfish decisions coloured with drama and tantrums.

Hundred years from now, all these emotional rubbish will be history.

Unfortunately, what you believe and reality is EXTREMELY DIFFERENT.

Women ARE WAY MORE emotional than men. It's not even close.

The fact that you don't realize it is a HUGE part of the reason why men fail with women. I'll be posting another thread soon on Why Women Choose Bad Guys

It's all about emotions. Your logical mind is WRONGLY telling you that somehow women "logically" decided to use emotions to escape accountability.

This is FALSE. It's inherent in her for thousand of years to hate responsibility, facts, data and accountability etc. You can argue all you want, hate it all you want but it's NEVER going to change

What you should do, is LEARN how to navigate their emotions to bring out the best in them and in your relationships with them

You've probably heard, said or read this phrase before: "She does not regret cheating... she just regrets getting caught"

Truer words have not been put together so well to explain female psychology - and how their mind & emotions process things.

Before, we dive deep into why women never regret cheating, it's important for us to lay the foundation. This foundation is crucial. Because it's like a compass that guides her thoughts, actions, beliefs, values etc.

You might be wondering, what am I referring to?

It's simple: Her Emotions

A lot of guys are starting to realize that women are emotional creatures. But 99.9% of men in the world today, do NOT understand how far and deep her emotions affect her world, relationships and even her religion

How do I know? Because they make statements like ones you read at the beginning of this thread. If they knew how powerful women's emotions are, they wouldn't expect women to regret cheating. In fact, it would be "understandable" why they don't regret cheating.



-----Her Emotions As A Foundation For Life.

Everything a woman does Is filtered through emotions. Imagine you were looking into a car through the window. You're trying to observe a book or a pen or whatever.

Now, imagine that the window has a speck, or mark or is dusty. Whatever you're looking at inside that car will be blurred or affected by what's on the window. That speck, mark or dust is like emotions to a woman. What is inside that car is any logical explanation you're trying to give her.

She can't see your point of view or explanation because her emotions are in the way. Whatever you're saying is filtered through those emotions. You might be factually right, but if she FEELS you're wrong (based on her emotions preventing her from seeing things clearly) then you're wrong.

And as long as those emotions feels that way, you're not convincing her otherwise.

This brings us to a powerful emotion that rules women: DESTINY.


----How Women View ALL sexual and romantic relationships.

If you look at romance novels or things women love to watch and read, DESTINY is a very powerful emotion. She feels.

Some outside, unknown force made her sùck her neighbour's dick. Some powerful energy from nowhere, made her have sex with a guy she just met when she travelled.

With women "it just happened" and "it just meant to be" are things they love to say and truly believe.

To her, it was just meant to be. This is why churches are filled with women. And why women are deeply spiritual. The idea of something unknown having the potential to make her do things taps into her emotion of destiny.

That's why when she cheats, she doesn't regret it. Because from an emotional standpoint (destiny) it was just meant to be.

If she regrets it, she betrays herself. And it means that all her other sexual relationships were her choice. But when she says "it just happened" it doesn't feel like her choice. It feels like destiny. Like I was always meant to be. That somehow, no matter how much she loved you, fate and destiny would make her... get fùcked by her bestie in her boyfriend's house

How could she regret it? When it was never her choice. After all, it just happened. She couldn't have planned this. She didn't want to but somehow, for some unknown reason, she cheated. This cheating just like all her other sexual encounters was just meant to be. And therefore, she has no regrets.


This is also why women say "I don't know what came over me" Of course, it's destiny. Her emotions made her do it. That's why her story always starts with "I don't know how I started developing feelings for him but I just found myself falling for him and wanting him"


To smart logical guys, this makes no sense. And this is why the more logical you are, the worse you do with women. Because women operate on emotions and hate logic.

Once you understand that emotions rule her in every way, almost everything women do will make sense to you. And you'll be able to enjoy and form more exciting, and fulfilling relationships were both you and her grow together.


Happy Holidays

Well, to kick things off... From the way you're talking, you've already lost her.

You haven't knacked her and you're already "dating" WITHOUT any rules in place already. You're also clearly insecure... Talking about "I'm a jealous guy" A BIT of jealousy in a man is okay. But you sound like you're far into jealousy that you're insecure.


The first BIG mistake you made was dating her without knacking her. By now you should've knacked her more than 6 times before you even consider dating her. Also, relationship built mainly on chemical feelings barely last.

To add to that, it seems like you've already told her you don't like her having male friends. Because her saying "I knew them before you" shows you probably mentioned your displeasure with her having male friends.

Right now, that girl is probably getting dug out by her neighbour and/or coursemate. Once a woman realised you're not part of the secret inner circle she'll see you as someone she can manipulate. And you showed her you're not part or knowledgeable of that inner circle by dating her without knacking her consecutively.

Now, even if by chance I'm wrong and you've knacked her, you clearly do Not know her well enough and you certainly should have brought up such rules like this before "dating" her

Lastly, there's nothing wrong in her having male friends. What should happen once a girl starts dating you is that all male "friends" should and must be converted to acquaintances. It's delusional and irresponsible to think a girl should cut off her male friends because of you.

What should happen is that all male friends are now acquaintances. Meaning, she'll create boundaries. It doesn't mean she'll stop talking to them. But she (alongside you) must create boundaries and she must keep to it

If she's known you long enough,knows you don't joke with your boundaries, is deeply in love, devoted and invested you... it won't be an issue for her(because you're in charge of her mind & body)....

She'll be happy to do it and cut off/ignore any guy that doesn't respect the boundaries of your relationship

Anything, short of that... and she loses her gf position.

In conclusion, go back to the drawing board and fix your mistakes... if you proceed this way... you'll end up losing her