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Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,

I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had, I served in a village. While we were serving he doesn’t give me much, I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place. He had a roommate and I didn’t. Before he gives me any money we always had issues, not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to. I don’t even ask for much.

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year, got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up, his just passed, I told him that I would be expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday, that if money comes he will send but right now he has no money, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me, he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away and he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us.

Am tired, he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on his friends and it's annoying. I think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it. I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him. He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

marviebeacinho:
I have been dating girls since when i was in university till I graduated, which is why I believed when it is time for me to settle down it will be easy.

But my observation was that most of the girls I met use to play on me, eat my money and run away, though I am a kind person who do tell the truth to any lady i meet , I cannnot hide anything or call myself what am not.

what i observed now is that now that am ready to settle down , I met a lady who is also a graduate and I sensed that she loves me and I love her too.

But the problem now is that this lady is a single mother, though she has never been to any mans house, and she told me everything that led to her being a single mother was a mistake when she was in the school.

My questions is it good for young guy like me, who had never impregnated a lady not to talk of abortion marry such a lady?

Will there no be any problems in future as regard to the son she had for another man?

Pls help me post without my name, i wll be reading people coments in the comment box , Thanks

So guys over to you now. Bearing In mind he can be your brother or you one day too.

https://www.marvelzglobe.info/2020/05/i-am-about-to-get-married-to-single.html?m=1

Hotzone:
Good morning to u. I don’t know if I am over reacting but I proposed to my girl a week ago and she was so excited about it and it was so romantic but I just noticed to my greatest chagrin that she doesn’t wear her engagement ring to work so I complained and she said she’s facing some spiritual challenges. We don’t live together as she claims her faith is against it. We work in the same organization and her position is a little higher than mine but I take care of bills concerning her but it seems I am getting tired with much terms and conditions. It’s draining my energy.
Please, I need u to talk to me because I am about to “collect list” from her kinsmen

aeion:
An individual who decides to start calling themselves a Premarital Coach, whatever that means. NO.

An individual with the right credentials/educational background (e.g. a certified marriage counselor). YES.

Acidosis:
It takes at least 3-4 months to teach and prepare for a 2 hour end of semester exam. Don't think you can master the tricks and lessons for marriage in 2 weeks.

What you failed to learn from your parents or family in over 20 years cannot be learned in a day or two weeks seminar. Do not waste your time. You will forget all you were told a week before your wedding.

The best premarital coach is your family. Whatever your parents, guardians, or family teach you, good or bad, will always supercede whatever any paid coach businessman tells you.

Ochiban:
100% agree. the problem is this
1. Religious places are usually the only place to offer this and they are not trained well for it. Just because someone has been counseling for 5 years doesn't mean they are good at it. they really try their best but honestly their main job is preaching
2. Niggas lie a lot! both men and women may be in the state of forming so that they look like an attractive spouse. they wont tell the truth so that may thwart these things

Even despite this, it is essential to do. it is here that a busy lagos babe will find out that her husband to be intends for her to be a housewife. it is here that a guy will find out that his wife to be intends to born a football team and wants him to pay for everything single handedly

Donald3d:
Its a great idea.

Churches already do this.

You can read your bible too, there are so many powerful principles in there to have a wonderful marriage.It has practically everything you need.

You can also buy good books about marriage.

hannydarl:
Amazing site for beauitful ideas

Marsh bannana and lighten with formula or BM, boil potato, march with egg yolk, grind rice and mix with formula, peel skin off beans (to avoid loose stool) mash and Feed baby. Mash mangoes and strain in a small hole seive to remove fiber and feed baby. Or go to www.wholesomebabyfood.com for ideas.