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Women have always been this way,just that social media made it more public...but men have lost what makes them MEN.
Sometimes I wonder why girls go after the so-called Bad boys,but now I don't blame them...those bad boys are the ones who show what left of masculinity and it has always been in a woman's blood to respond positively to such masculine energy...
It's not that she likes him being a cultist,Agbero,drug addict,Yahoo boy,or armed robber....but it's the immense confidence he project from being passionate about what he does that makes her wet from inside...

Men are growing weaker day by day....Bad boys are the remaining masculine Men we have in this society today

DannyXpress:
You're behaving too clingy as if you don't have a life of your own

Women hate it no matter how they argue that's the fact...Stop being too clingy and focus on improving on yourself and watch the table turn

Most guys fail on this aspect n girls see them as weaklings......
I have been on the clingy needy train n the ride was like hell

DEMZEE:
I don't see women like men and I can never treat a woman like a man period!

Cool tho....if that's your philosophy,wish you the best bro...we are all different epople with different mindset...

As the saying goes...do what out think is best for you.

Chiagozieking:
The rate girls are looking for sexless relationship this days at our expenses is alarming , too many manipulation follows making you look like a fool , so if you aren't already digging her, the same girl you're sure that's digs, you might want to lose her contact than keep losing time.

That depends on if you have sexual interest in her them you are right

DEMZEE:
A girl can never b a boyfriend because women are not built to handle masculine problems period!

I mean I just treat her like a fellow guy...get my point
Period!

DEMZEE:
Now u are talking....

Not every woman is fvckable and not every woman is going to fvck u

But still understand that u can never be platonic friends with women. Women keep boyfriends and girlfriends and if u ain't fvcking her then u are her girlfriend PERIODT!!!

And she is just a boyfriend as I ain't interested in fucking a fellow male Kos I ain't Gay....LOL

DEMZEE:
I rather choose to be in the company of rational men than choose to be in the company of women tuehhhhhhh.

Women are meant for sex, finally ND recreation period!!!

Wat can a woman do that ur fellow man cannot do for fvks sake uhn....

Bruh....now I see you get me wrong...I didn't say I have only female friends...but I just said I can befriend a girl without any sexual motive....
All am saying is it's not a must you put your stick in any hole you associate with

DEMZEE:
I love ur rationalizations lolzzzzzz

Truth is men and women can never be platonic friends even ladies know this SMH!

Keep living in ur la-la land lolzzz

You can say all you want bro.....there are some reasons why you developed such beliefs....I have close female friends and they know I have nothing sexual with them and am respected for that...since all they have to offer is sex so how can they manipulate me when am not moved by it towards them...I choose my friends carefully that's why I have few of them...they must have something to offer other than sex Kos in this generation we live in,sex is as cheap as 500# so of what value is it to my life..
Most men have made sex with females thier goals so don't blame the girls for having this belief....

DEMZEE:
That's because u are playing the beta male game of using friendzone to get into women's pants lolzzzz I see uuuuuuuu.

Women are meant for sex, fun, leisure (recreation) and sports period!

Get in her pants?...I have friends that I could have bleeped multiple time but I wasnt Intetested in any form...so what trick am I using?

All this alpha,beta bullshit I never cared about it anyway....am just living my life doing what I want...
As I said this is what the society is leading to and I don't want to follow that Trail.....

DEMZEE:
Men and women can never be platonic friends. Women only have boyfriends and girlfriends, If u are not fucking her then u are her girlfriend PERIODT!

That will only affect you if you let it....I am indifferent to such thinking....to me,I have friendzoned her so whatever I am to her is none of my business and it does not affect my life in anyway.
This is the society we now live in so I don't blame you nor your mindset.

Kenogidi:
Bro the truth is after all said and done, sex is the foundation of all male-female interactions. You musnt bang every pussy you see but my hidden point which you refused to see is that as far as she is of no benefit to you sexually or otherwise, you have no business keeping her number. On maintaining friendly relationships with some females without involving any element of sex, that should only apply to very few of them and trust me such girls are rare. Finally, sex is not an achievement Sha but keep non sexual female friends at your own peril and watch yourself get betatized in no time. E go shock you!

Good point....But when you make sex your target with these females,that is when you simp the more and which is now worse....

Making a Mon sexual relationship with a female has never shocked me as we both just enjoy our time and attention nothing more....no money or energy wasted....and if she started acting up I just ghost them,no feelings attached.....
I have once been helped by a female friend before,all because I gave her advise on a good business idea and she reaped heavily from it..nothing involved....so why must we associate with the other gender based on sex alone....that doesn't make you Alpha in any form.....Change that mentality bro Kos it's now like the male version of a feminist....true fact

ubunja:
you only disagree because maybe you haven't seen my past work on this topic on threads such as this https://www.nairaland.com/5520205/ubunjas-miseducation-chosen and another titled "Choosing a Girl", if you had that background about me you would have seen that I quite agree with you on this point.
Mind you in the post that you referred to I only said "let her work to make you fall in love", nowhere did I say you must actually fall in love. I hope you find time to go through the writeups I've indicated so you see we're in the same page.

Bro I have seen your work and it's one of the best...you are like a role model to all REDPILLERS here on nairaland...big thumbs up

Kenogidi:
Any chick who you aren't banging or planning to bang shouldn't get your attention online or offline, in fact, her number shouldn't even be saved in your contacts I swear!!

Why must you only associate with the opposite sex based on banging??....must we bang any pussy we see or anything in sex...Even if we bang them,at the end of the day can we regard that as an accomplishment in life?..can't we just maintain good friendship with some females without having any sexual thoughts?

Thinking like is why society is on a downfall today...NO OFFENSE

ubunja:
exactly. Let her choose and make you love her. Let her be in love first then work to make you fall in love. That's the purest form of game.

But your second statement is a little off. No one gender is the prize. As much as we red pillers wish men are the prize, and as much as the female level up movement wishes women are the prize, any gender or anyone can be the prize. As long as they satisfy your first statement. Whoever is loved is the Prize. Whoever it is whose affection is being sought, that one is the prize. And the seeker is only the winner. Regardless of gender.

I disagree to this bro....this is why men fall from alpha to a beta in a relationship and she cheats on the guy...
Lemme tell you...A relationship works best when the girl LOVES the guy and the Guy likes the girl....why...because Love is an emotional thing and emotions are meant for females(feminine quality) while to like is more of Logic than emotions(Masculine quality)....
Emotions like love should be left for women bkos when a man falls in love,he starts listening to his emotions more than his logic i.e he starts behaving like a woman and this becomes a turn off to a woman..

When I started dating my last girl,I just liked her while she was heaven over heads for me...she did all I asked,respected me,sent me card many times,new months love messages and so on,why? Because I only like her so I always maintained my masculinity nd dealt with her using logic and she became more attracted to me(I once ignored her for a month after she said some words I didn't like,this girl contacted almost all my family members she could find on fb even my dad asking them to beg me and not to even talk of the dozens of missed calls on my phone)
But when I fell in love with her,I became soft and emotional and she became opposite of what she was..she started being disrespectful,rude,calling me names,flirting with guys even when am there,cheated on me, and so on I can't list here..but I ignored bkos even tho my mind told me to leave,my emotions got the best of me and I became feminine to her while she took the masculine spot in the relationship...trust m if a woman takes the masculine spot in a relationship,you are doomed to see hell on Earth...

You can like her,care for her but never fall in love Kos when you do,you will loose your masculinity Kos you start behaving on an emotional level rather than with rational thinking or logic...

jaxxy:
Can't u call and have a discussion with her? From there u know what's on her mind and deal with it.

Ure asking u like we are mind readers Or do u want us to assume anything and advice u?

I would advice against this.....it will make it seem like he needs her more than she needs him and that will further turn her off or push her away...Even if she accepts,she will date him out of pity and he would see hell in that relationship
My advice for him is to do nothing...Free women

If women are your problem now then you need bigger problems as a man....

Itzlinda:
I know a boy that drives a keke napep that he doesn't even own. He's getting more pussy than all the guys here.

Boy is hunting for fresh pussy everyday tho

Then he gets old and realises he wasted his life achieving nothing by chasing holes
....

Saddestmann:
Ehen about the redpills who can help me with that on here

Bro I would advice you against that bkos if you learn it...to marry self no go hungry you talkless of to date...you might even end up hating the female gender bkos you start to see them for thier true nature.
My advice for you is you had a life (a good one am sure) before you met her,so go back to that...start rediscovering your hobbies,passion and do things that are best for you and You alone and never change for anyone.start doing things to improve yourself and your life like hustling,learning a skill,exercising,taking care of your health,going out and just living life....the right woman will come for you just don't focus on getting another girl and don't change your ways even when you find another girl....
Just don't get attached and have that mindset that you will be fine without a woman...and funny but this makes them get addicted to you.

Saddestmann:
Thanks so much bro I just don’t understand how someone will made you fell in love with them in order to break your heart and why keeping up to 10 guys at the same time

Learn about female hypergamy bro

The knowledge is both a blessing and a curse.BE WARNED

Saddestmann:
But I don’t understand something, Why do they keep multiple guys

It's called female hypergamy my brother
Ask any redpiller

Saddestmann:
Thought she would changed like she promised but No it got worse

Lol...we have all heard that from Girls

Mine even swore with her life that she won't cheat on me but I saw her chat with her female friend thanking God that since one of her BF broke up with her,she still has five others to go to.....I jejely walk out of the relationship...

Saddestmann:
Am In So Much Pains Right Now My Heart Is Shattered Beyond Repair, I Just Don't Have Interest In Anything Anymore..

Oh God I Can’t Believe How The Mighty Has Fallen.
I Saw Everything But Still Couldn’t Walk Out With My Sanity Intact Until I Got Broken

I Sit Down Everyday Watching My World Coming Down Helplessly

Oh God What An Hypocrite I Am, I Give People Good Advices But Still Couldn’t Safe Myself

Oh My Heart Is Heavy

I Need Healing.
Someone Please Help Me Am Going Crazy, Oh Lord How Does This Kept Happening To Me

Am Weak And Have No Strength To Do Anything.

Have Always Believed In Relationship Freedom And Treating My Partners As My Priority...

Oh How The Mighty Has Fallen Truly, O Ma Se O Na Me Somebody Do Like This..

I Gave You The Whole Of Me But You Sh*t In My Face Why Babe..

Am Trying So Hard To Move On But Just Don’t Have My Strength.
I Told You How Others Had Treated Me In The Past And You Promised Me You Won’t Be Like Them.

You Broke Whatever Is Left Of Me Babe Why This Pains Is Too Much.

I Wasn’t A Weak Man( I Tolerated You And Gave You Enough Space To Be Yourself) I Guess You Showed Me Fake Love For So Long And It All Looked Real..

Please People Whoever You Decide To Settle Down Your Life With Please Always Check Their Phones And Always Ask Questions When Something Is Not Right.. At Least You Can Safe Yourself The Heart Ache Am Feeling Right Now Cause No Matter How Long You Ignore Like Nothing Is Going On, It Will Still Come Out To Light Someday And By Then You Might Be Too Deep And Unreturnable(if there’s anything like that)

Oh God I Will Never Forget You After Everything
I Don’t Really Fault You For Tearing Me Apart I Fault Myself, I Made The Biggest Mistakes Of My Life The Days I Took You Back And Forgive You
I Regret The Two Times You Messed Up And I Forgave You And Took You Back Just Because You Told Me You Are A Change Person. And I Remembered Telling You.. When Someone Hurts You The First Time And They Begged You And You Heard They’re Plead, You Are Giving Them The Liberty To Hurt You Again Cause They Know They Will Beg You And You Will Accept. Again And Again And The Circle Goes On.

I Also Remembered I Told You No One Really Changed They Just Do Their Sh*t More Discreetly And Away From Your Eyes..

I Insisted Am Never Taking You Back But Your Mom Called And Started Pleading With Me That She Will See After You Becoming A Better Person And It Will Never Repeat Itself..

I Saw The Handwriting On Sky So Clear For All To See Still I Choosed To Give You Another Chance And See Where I Am Now

I Even Wrote On My Phone Diary That If I Ever Accepts You Back I Will Regret, Guess What It Happening And I Can’t Help Myself. Can’t Sleep Nor Do Anything You Occupied Everywhere In My Heart Can’t Even Breathe..

Oh God How Did I BecomeThis Stupid..
Below Is A Note A Made On April 13 2020, How I Reengaged Against The Note Is Still A Mystery To Me With My Eyes Widely Opened..

You Claimed I Got Trust Issues And I Told People Like You Made Me That Cause Of Some Bad Relationships..

Brothers Truly Women Don’t Deserve Civil And Nice Guys.. They Always Take Them For Granted..



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Sorry brother,I was once in your stage,I went into depression as I saw no use for life afterwards..it was like my heart wanted to leave my chest,the tears,the sleepless nights,the lost appetite n so on...

But you know what,you will be fine trust me...the first few weeks may be hard but Time heals all and in free weeks you are good and up to your feet...

Most men went through this process and it's a very painful one but las Las we go dey alright...see it more as a lesson than a heartbreak.

Her rejection is just God's protection...God won't let any human harm you so he removes he pests in your life so that you can stand better...
I dey for you bro...you are not alone
It's part of what boys face to become MEN

The transition from a beta male to an alpha male is one of the most painful process in a man's life....

I am not claiming to be an alpha,but when you have been taught to be nice from childhood only to grow up and discovering you need to change that mindset for you to be respected..
Then you have to put away all the values you have been taught to adopt new ones....

This life nawa

Junnior:
Are you fvcking kidding me? You make it seem like it's not a big deal. How can a girl seize your phone for 2 fvcking days? Imagine missing calls from your parents as a result.

Some of us need to drop this thing called relationship so that we can be fully masculine.

Bro I get you
Lemme explain,she actually hide(not sieze) my phone when I was at her place in order to hear the word "please" from my mouth...we always play like that like once when she was at my place n she wanted to go home n I didn't want her to,I hide her shoes also so she would have no other choice but to stay..I think she wanted to use the same trick on me to get what she wanted ..
I actually left the phone with her Kos I know seeing my parents calls would make her give up n bring it back to me...it's wasn't up to two days infact when she returned it

Altairx440:
wait so you've got 2 phones or you were phoneless for two days

Phoneless for two days bro....I had a laptop and PS3 to keep me busy tho...
Only few missed calls when I got it back and that was from my parents and project supervisor

Most girls love when guys begs them...like it's gives them an ego boost or something

One of my EX went as far as hyding my phone for two days,saying she will release it when I beg her (as I have never begged her before)....I just laugh n told her to charge it n keep it on then I left...the shock on her face was something else...na she use her hand bring am out when she ready come give me

I could see the disapointment in her face like "Mission failed"

Jeremani:
After 3weeks plus of not talking to each other,
She messaged me asking if the break was serious i told her yes, and log out . she messaged me again,
that i should tell her, what she did wrong. I told her am not interested anymore.

She said i should forgive her.
She called me and was crying a river.
Omo this na babe wey get strong heart.

The game don upgrade.

This is the real masculine frame you just displayed n it made her submissive(feminine side)...
You showed her you can live with or without her and that is true Alpha....you stayed indifferent n never let her emotional tantrums affect you or your mood....you made her know that you are fine without her and she couldn't stand that(most girls stand)..This is the mindset most Guys lack nowadays as they result to begging her to reconsider or not to break up just because they fear loosing her...

You just passed all her shit test and now the ball is your court whether to take her back or use her as a sex partner(don't tell her this)..
But be mindful as she will bring more tests to your table later in the future so don't Bulge..
Don't play the game with her and if she brings up any break up talks again,end it finally with her and never look back..

YOU ARE A REAL MAN my guy

Abba114:
u cant win addiction by mere buying and putting money inside the shit u called kolo u were just not addicted that time but u thought u were

Dude...you have no idea what I went through Kos of gambling bro..

Am not saying the Kolo is the solution,but it's what worked for me till I gained control back.

Quitting masturbation is the hardest addiction to overcome in the world right now.
When you become a gambling addict,all you need to do is avoid betshop,close online account and reduce the rate which you look at livescores...
But you see masturbation en,temptations are everywhere..even if you decide to stop going to porn sites,you can just be walking on the road early in the morningand a girl without bra(with nipples pointing out) of her shirt,then various porn scene you previously watched starts to appear on your mind then it's over,you get home,you become Hot as hell and the thing that starts ringing in your head is "xvideos!xvideos!xvideos!xvideos!"..lol

Abba114:
bro enjoy ur addiction fvccckk everyone i hv been battling with masturvation addiction i still cant stop it some addictions are part of us just do untill time to stop

@op don't listen to this Man...any addiction is bad so far you have no control over it...I was once addicted to gambling but what I did was I bought a Safe(what Yoruba call Kolo)...anytime I had the urge and I budget money to use For it,I just put the money inside the Kolo.
It's not bad to gamble as you can be lucky,but when you see yourself becoming obsessed it's better you give it a break(as long as possible) till you develop that strong mindset to control it...

femijay8271:
Come my area for Agbado ijaye or Agbado crossing... come see them 13yrs old girls wey dey belle lyk balloons

I grew up there.....Guys chase anything in skirt there