SalomonKane:

what

pocohantas:
You didn't overreact. Stand your ground. Have they married all the ones they fcked? Sex or lack of it guarantees nothing.

But if you choose not to have sex in relationships. Don't be blackmailed into doing otherwise by same people that will call you borehole pussy.

They tell you that if you are not a virgin, you have no right to be celibate. Somehow they still ask of bodycount.

Men know some women are not very pro-casual sex. What do they do? They mask their intentions with relationships and marriage talk.

99.13167% do not care about you- always remember that. So, at every point, do what is best for you.

one of the few reasonable comments
thumbs up
you said my mind exactly

Graxie:
Nairaland boys with confusion, you are against marrying single mom, yet you are angry that this lady refuse to be a single mom. Oga op, for 4years you didn't do introduction but you want to now just to tie her down. Nairaland boys insults women that are jobless or not having career, yet you are angry because this woman wants to help her future. Are you looking for Nigeria? Look no further, come to nairaland. Hypocrite and chameleon. A lady wrote about no sex before marriage, nairaland boys came for her, claiming sex means nothing and she is not a virgin. Now, this is the consequences of sex, you can claim to be using condoms, it only takes one bursting and pregnancy is sure. You hate abortion but enjoy fornication. What a society.

Confused set of people

beezyblaze:
Lol...
I’m sure you’re not married...just the way I’m sure no guy will cope with you.
Wtf is this??
You call this an advice??
You have no idea what marriage is.
Smh

I am so shocked and amazed at what you and the rest are saying.
you men are the most confused set of people on earth.

u complain of dependent women, complain on women depending on men for survival, you say dont they have hands to work and make money.
Now it has gotten to the time to give such advice, no, you all are condemning someone that said what you all would have said on a normal day.

do u know what it means to stay at home for the rest of your life, do you know how unproductive you would become, aside having money of your own, doing nothing somehow makes u useless. I am not a feminist but it's very uncalled for in this age and time to stay and do nothing other than produce children. What's the essence of going to school, school fees and time wasted.
All to protect marriage. Men should stop been selfish. Women are people's children, their parents need to eat their sweat and the fruit of their labour too. If he doesn't want her to work, then he should open a good business for her QED.

says an ugly girl who follows men for money.
I wouldn't have any issues if this is coming from someone who really worked so hard for her money.
Well, truly, we all have our choices..... All the best young lady.

Butterscotch92:
Thank you all for your words. I have picked some lessons from them. But some of your opinions don't define me or my actions in the future. I have heard and I don't have a choice but to keep it moving. I already know all my actions are wrong, I only brought it here not to garner pity but to seek ways to alleviate the damage done and you have all told me the bitter truth.

Thanks to everyone that contributed.

Sis, I am not among those who are judging you.
it has already happened, The comments here can lead you to depression....... Ignore everything they're saying especially those who are hurling insults at you as if they are the ones you cheated on.
It's good you're repentant, try to move on. If he comes back, fine, if he doesn't, don't try to get him back.
I have a friend who left her then bf to marry another man, the marriage didn't work out but then her then bf pleaded to be back in her life. guess what? She is currently married to the same ex bf...... So the point is, if he is for you, he will come back but don't force it.
Just don't make same mistakes again especially with a married man.
Forge ahead, life goes on

jakandeola:
wiseandt.rue pocohan.tas canadiann.aija rosalieene next year is ur year

Amen!

jakandeola:
amazing man before u shout up and down as u manage get a boyfriend wait till he put ring on ur finger

shut up!

why do I have feeling that the marriage packed up because he cannot perform

Afodot0022:
SEE OP... I TAKE GOD OR ANYTHING YOU SERVE BEG YOU, PLS LEAVE THAT LADY ALONE IF YOU DONT WANT TO WALLOW IN SADNESS AND SORROW ALL THE DAYS OF YOUR LIFE. LADY LIKE THAT WILL NEVER , I MEAN NEVER EVER CHANGE. THAT IS WHO SHE IS AND WHAT SHE WILL BE FOREVER . I MADE SUCH MISTAKE TO MARRY SUCH AND TODAY AM ALWAYS SORRY FOR MYSELF.YOU CAN IMAGINE WHEN YOU ALWAYS FEEL REGRET. I NEVER ENJOYED MY MARRIAGE WITH SUCH TOXIC AND DISRESPECTFUL WOMAN. SUCH WOMAN WILL ALWAYS BE DOMINATING,MANIPULATING AND DAM DISRESPECTUL EVEN TO THE EYES OF YOUR KIDS,FAMILY, NEIGBOURS AND CO. IT WAS WHEN I GOT MARRIED THAT PEOPLE START HEARING MY VOICE IN THE HOUSE. THEY KNEW ME AS AN EASY GOING AND GENTLE MAN BUT WHEN YOU MARRY THIS YOUR KIND OF WOMAN, YOU WILL BE TURNED INTO A BEAST COS SHE WILL DEFINATELY BRING OUT THE GOLDEN BEAST OUTA YOU. PLS DISCARD HER AND DONT LET HER DECEIVE YOU WITH YOU DONT LOVE ME STUFF.NA SO THEM DEY TALK..EMOTIONAL BLACKMAILING FORMAT. WHEN THE WAHALA COME, THAT LOVE WILL PASS WINDOW RUN AWAY. LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH TO MARRY A TOXIC WOMAN.NEVER. YOU WILL NEVER ENJOY HER AND ANYTIME YOU ARE SEEING HER, UNHAPPINESS AND DEPRESSION WILL JUST OVERWHELM YOU. PLS LISTEN TO THIS LITTLE ADVICE O. AM SUFFERING IT RIGHT NOW AND DONT KNOW WHEN ITS GOING TO END. I HOPE ONE DAY SHA.

so sorry about your ordeal with your wife.

DanXplore:

Mine covered topics across chemical engineering, maths and english.

ok thank you but is calculator allowed

DanXplore:

Mine covered topics across chemical engineering, maths and english.

ok thank you but is calculator allowed

DanXplore:

Apt.Test - GD - Interview - Psycho

hello, please the aptitude test you wrote, what does it entails.

Psychostevens:
Who got anything like this?

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The Computer Based Test is scheduled as follows:

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Time: 8am prompt.

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OR

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You are free to go the center most convenient for you. Please confirm your availability for test and your preferred Test Center. In addition, complete the Identification Slip below and come along with it for identification.

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I did, please do you know the kind of questions that constitutes their CBT test?
and even past questions

coolguy4christ:


She is not promiscuous, though one can only speak for one's self. I don't think that was the case at bolded. We were having recurrent arguments at the time, I myself needed a break then too, I just couldn't let go because I still loved her and wanted us to work.

dont take the advices here.
posting the problem here was an error.
she lied to you then because the relationship hasn't moved to the next stage. For her to reveal it, means she wants to be truthful. I am telling you as a lady, 80% of ladies will never reveal that they had abortion, they will rather carry the secret to their grave so far there was no damage or complications.
you know her personally than those calling her a hoe here. your relationship is beautiful, let the past remain in the past and rebuild that trust. Dont let the devil come in and scatter your marriage plan.

haven't you lied to her before

pls who was successful in logging in to the website.... I can't log in with my username and password

Arrowgents:
Morning please send the invite mail to my email address tobby2much@gmail.com i want to gatecrash the test 2mao.

pls did you attend the interview?
and are they legit?
I just got an invite from them

truthsayer009:


He was right, wasn't he? Don't you agree that you have a good heart.
Currently, are you not with someone that now treats you like a Queen?

Some people may not like you as you want but cannot deny you are actually a good person. Being good doesn't make anyone stick with you, once they have attraction for someone else. Your "good" doesn't matter anymore. That is why some people remain in toxic relationships even when their partners are evil to them.

It's TRUE

LolaO:


That sometimes he just wants to be left alone, because he is an only child. And I should understand.

He’d get in touch when he’s out of his lone state.

This is someone I’ve known for 5 years, and suddenly he wants to be left alone?

If he’s going through stuff, shouldn’t I know? If there’s a secret he’s hiding, shouldn’t I know?

Too many questions...

my sister..... some guys dont just officially break up with you, they give you the silent treatment, and that's worst because it would drain you emotionally while wondering what you did wrong. stop bothering yourself, its painful yes especially the 5yrs wasted..... just brace up, you would meet your Mr Right soon.
That's what my dickhead of an Ex did, just cut off communication.... tho he had started misbehaving few months prior to then, I begged, I asked what went wrong, only for the niqqa to target when I was writing my exams and stopped communication, you can imagine what it did to my wellbeing, I was down, I cried, no concentration for the exam because I couldn't place what went wrong but God was faithful to me...I wouldn't wish my enemy that. It took me 9 months to get closure and get over him. nigga was telling me the usual line 'it's not you the problem is me' afterwards. even claimed not to know what happened.. and stupid me was thinking that devil just came to spoil the relationship. when I finally got closure, I realized that the truth was that he was done with the relationship months ago hence the attitude. As part of consolation the nigga said I have a Good heart and deserves someone who would treat me like a queen, even tho this was not coming from his mind...... But today, I am blessed with an amazing man, better than my Ex in everything... so you see, just brace up, someday you will smile and thank God for the breakup just like I did.

Tembebe:
Where is this sermon when you people always bash Sophie momodu and mama Hailey in favour of Chioma?
You guys quickly forget say na born dem too born,dem no kill person.
I just hate hypocrisy
World people!!!!

Hello? who are the "you people"?
I am me, and i hate it when people bash single mothers no matter the circumstances.
If you're sexually active, you have no right to bash or insult single mothers

midnighter:
Cant believe Flavour messed her up like that...dude has no chill whatsoever

So many gospel songs but still does the wrong thing

Even with "Ada" marriage song he still doesnt mind destroying somebody else's "Ada"...terrible

e buru ozu onye ozo, o di ka e bu ukwu nku

having a kid out of wedlock doesn't mean she is messed up...she had a choice to abort but she didn't. she gave birth to a very beautiful and lovely daughter.
na born she born she no kill person.

emddi:
sex and marriage are not different things.Forget that public show called "wedding ceremony",the real wedding is through sexual intercourse.
sex and marriage are not different,if you don't know you don't know.

this is the dumbest comment I have read on this thread. so you mean if you sleep with 5 people, you're automatically married to them lwkmd.

World people......
with the way guys are clamouring for sex, its same guys that will insult single mums and girls that have done abortions....... and this two scenarios occur as a result of sex.

Every girl, Lady out there, be wise.... learn to say no irrespective of what they think. you're the one to suffer the repercussions of the act.

ImaIma1:
But sex ws originally made for marriage.how were they coping in d past where it ws rare 2 hv sex b4 marriage.and then divorce cases were not hitting d roof like right now.now we guys must taste d pudding first sha

back then, they get married very early, 16, 17, 18.
for boys 24 upwards. so it was easy.
but this days a girl of 25yrs is seen to be too young for marriage according to some people

maynation:


Okay.

But cool to let you know I sent him 25k earlier (may precisely) and his contract came in September.

I bet you comprehended that.

you really don't need to reply every comment because no matter what, some dickheads would turn everything against you just to make you the main culprit because you are a woman.
reply the smart people, ignore the kidadults.

Newguyhere:
bro you never jam those extremely beautiful ashi wey go make your balls explode. Log on to codedruns and thank me later

yen yen yen! quit the noise
your own is just to login to the codedruns site and masturbate to their pictures.
you can't even afford them

Coming to social media to make noise, in reality I bet you will piss on your body when talking to a woman.

NOETHNICITY:
What fuckkking woman
Can she give him 16mil for shopping if it's her father's billions
It's dickheads like u that make Nigerian girls see men and marriage as poverty alleviation

How many rich women have given thier men millions

You think you smart, you just some sucker for women

Mr man, why are you getting so worked up and pained.
is it your money? did Davido complain? how is it your business to the extent that you're pained?
Even to the point of calling her a hoe.

If you have no regards for the female folks, dont drag others along with you as no one cares about what you think.
just mind your business and become a full time gay since you have no regards for women.

ginaolo:
I met her randomly on the road it wasn’t in a social setting. But how do I deal with her not wanting to meet family and friends? It’s disrespectful to me. As a wife you have to be open to meet my family atleast, when they are always asking about her, I can’t keep on making excuses for her na. People think there’s something wrong with my gf even though I’ve told them she is the shy type.

you're seeming to me as a domineering person from your write ups, must it always be about your family? how close are you to her family too?
Somepeople are naturally very shy and its difficult to snap out of that nature, even if she tries, its going to be based on pretense. Dont force her, you don't have to explain anything to anyone. Not mingling with people wouldn't make her a bad wife. dont force her pls. Accept her the way she is.

beeijeoma:

Thank you for enjoying my write up. Yes the thoughts are overwhelming . Fear of labor pain, fear of how to care for the baby , fear of if you will be a good mom. You are not alone it is the same for all FTM. Anytime I start getting scared back then I would just think of all the women that have kids and just be like this person did it, that person did it. Why would my case be different. You just have to push all those thoughts and fear out of your mind.

I am a realist and I don't like sugar coated information just give it to me the way it is. I don't know anything that can ease labor and delivery except epidural . If it is available in your hospital take it. My first two kids was normal delivery while my 3rd was with epidural. The epidural birth was completely pain free in fact I was watching TV till it was time to push. Labor and delivery is painful but it is not unbearable and it only last for some time. Its good to have a family member with you to help rub your back when the contractions come and in your mind just focus on the fact that the baby you have been growing inside you is almost here. As a FTM what surprised me most was not even the labor pain but the pushing part. I just felt the baby would slide out once you get to 10cm cervical dilation. Pushing the baby out is a bit tough as well and you have to get it right. I will do a write up on how to push during labor in a later post. Be strong and yow will be fine

from your judgement, how safe is the Epidural

Toks2008:


What standards are you talking about? Do you have any power to decide the type of man that approaches you?

You can only be lucky to find your standard.

for once, I agree with you.