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Timinho23:
Burn his book all you want

But that doesn't change the fact that there are millions of northerners like him who don't give a hoot about anyone not a northerner..

During Nysc whilst teaching, I just shake my head at the people who would still rule me and my generation to come.

They are born to rule

arowolo:
Even if you are double stupid must you show it on social media? Is this about PDP or about Nigeria? You are toying with your future...

Davash222:
That boy(as a Nigerian) was not nice to the dog when the going was good hence the dog joined in the attack.

BuddhaPalm:
Chief my man...

I have a feeling this is all mental masturbātion for this guy.

He won't take any action.

Willie2015:
U may not know the whole story....

the husband may have been the whole cause....

He got no option than to endure it...

Dude! Caused nothing. I wanted to wish you a lady like her as a wife but, I will just let it slide.

EfemenaXY:
Divorce. Divorce. Divorce.

Divorce isn’t always the answer to marital problems and should never be taken lightly especially when there are children involved.

This should only ever be the last resort if all else has failed.

Besides, there’s always three sides to every story:

~ His side
~ Her side
~ The truth

Based purely on your side of the story, you need to do some serious soul searching and ask yourself why your wife changed overnight.

The first few years of marriage are the honeymoon stage. You courted this woman for 11 months. That’s quite a while to have studied her. There is no way a person can keep up the pretence for 11 long months (unless yours was a long distance relationship?). There must have been red flags. You just chose to ignore them.

Nonetheless, there HAS to be a reason why she’s suddenly turned 360^os on you. Obviously there appears to be:

1. An emotional black hole in your relationship. The ex turning up is a symptom of the underlying issues with your marriage. A woman would only turn to an ex or another man if her emotional needs aren’t being met. For example when discussing with your wife, do you seek her opinion / input or do you wave aside her views? Do you say “Thank you” to make her feel appreciated when she gives / does something you are a recipient of? What is your sex life like with her? Do you take the time to satisfy her needs? Or is it all about you, you, and you? Is life with you one endless boring routine? Or do you make efforts to spice it up?

2. Trust Issues. When a wife starts stashing away huge sums of cash in secret, it means she’s preparing a nest egg for herself and her kids without you in the picture. Most times this action arises from betrayal or if she perceives you to have betrayed her. Have you ever cheated on her? Or done something to make her feel insecure in your union?

3. Immaturity. A refusal to acknowledge one’s fault / mistake and apologise accordingly is usually down to misplaced pride and immaturity. Wisdom comes with age. How old is your wife?

For a marriage to work, both parties have to roll up their sleeves and get stuck in. You have to ask yourself if there’s any part of you that wants to salvage the marriage. If you do, then you need to ask your wife if she’s still interested in the marriage too.

If the answer is “yes” from both of you, then both of you need to make the effort to save it. Start by seeking help from a neutral third party such as a marriage counsellor. Book a couple of sessions with them so you and wifey can talk through your issues.

Your problems didn’t start today. They’ve festered for over four years so you need to be patient and not expect everything to be miraculously resolved in one day. A lot of patience, perseverance, and constant communication will be needed to get your relationship back to a healthy state.

It is well.

Poshriel:
I have a Facebook user account of 13years... If you are interested we could talk

Poshriel:
If its just anyone then you can create one your self na.. Though i have one for sale sha

Poshriel:
How many years old Accnt.

Nature8:
I have one

Vickym1:
Over smart they worry this man buh he'll pay for his smartness. Wicked soul

bedspread:
And we say this is our Pmb!

Honestly, To me, This is not Pmb!!

Oshigun:
No insult but some of you talk as if born yesterday. A president who is interested in the radical tansformation of his Country, perhaps through reforms never seen before, needs a supportive and equally bold legislature which the self-serving Saraki-led senate has been the opposite of.

The control of the senate is therefore vital and something the executive arm must plan to achieve as this is critical to overall success of a regime. That is what Remi Tinubu is saying that you mischief-makers feign ignorance of.

This is the case even in the USA so I don't know where you get your own half-baked idea that it is wrong for the executive arm to seek to gain control of the legislative arm, when this delivers the ability to influence policy directions, by majority fiat.