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Jeferious:
Na so woman thinking suppose be. Your gender no dey think in the interest of other people, or for the common good.

I'm fine like this. Carry your advice go front

lonelydora:
So many o.

Ttipsy:
Bsc banking and finance

Pls help a friend

Bigii:
55,000+??

It is lies like this one that's making recruiters to run far from you.

emmancipated:
If she spends one minute on each application, and commits 7.5 hours of her time everyday, for 4 months, that is when we can get close to this her figure.

Maybe, na bulk job application she dey do sha.

OGHENAOGIE:
I don't agree...

lavylilly:
13th month
Leave allowance
Housing allowance

Samantha124:
That's her name, I just translated it to English..

SamuelAnyawu:
I want one for my wife's shop. Which of them will you recommend

vickydevoka:
If you don't want to have serious issues with your siblings don't make them your best friends. Hi, how is family is ok. When you are too close to someone you might end up as an enemy, especially when their is entitlement in the relationship or friendship. That's y husband and wife turn out to be enemies. Unless oon of the parties is a real born again

obinna58:
My elder brother, we were like real brothers until he made some real cash and upgraded
He sent me out of his apartment for no reason, parents weren’t condemning his actions, they takes money from him and kept trying to make peace btw us but I no gree even though I’m on the struggling side for now, I rather be on my own than dominated like a little kid

He complained to our parents that I don’t greet him, they told me to nicer to him cos we’re blood, I laughed, blood indeed, whenever he sees me comes and extend hand for handshake and I’ll shake him well but I’ll never pretend we’re in good terms while we’re not, we can greet if he initiates it but I won’t talk anything else except it’s mandatory

The real problem now is that business terms we need each other to succeed faster but due the betrayal I can’t try any deal with him, I’ll not get burned for the second time, before he sent me out he never thought he’ll later need me badly though it’s a vice versa situation the real good money we’re suppose be making from each other’s hand is going down drain

I have my junior bro and he trusts and respect me like hell, I don’t try to dominate or control him, I just have my piece of advice and support for him.

Imagine a brother literally saying he’s like a father and a boss to me and calling me an egotist person only bcoz he senior me with 10-9years

Corea4king:
We have three major reasons while siblings fall apart

1: getting a wife
2: bringing wives into the family
3:refer to number 1& 2

jaydeevaa:
I have been advised to wait till I get married or atleast get a job outside our current location b4 I move out....because single ladies shouldn't live alone especially if their family resides in the location where she is

Akalia:
Your comment is the most spot on. Since both my parents died, I and my siblings are like sworn enemies.

Negroid001:
Not saying my siblings are perfect. I have an elder bro and a younger sister. Maybe it's because of the way we were raised, there's nothing like competition, we all got the same gifts as kids irrespective of behavior or academic success. My widower dad raised us alone. No mother figure to teach us malice or gossip. Everything we do is collective. Hard times and trials have reinforced our kinship.

This time last year, i had just moved in back to my father's house after agreeing not to pay for another year of a self con at ajah. It cost me my job, used the rent money to upgrade to a better laptop. I didn't find another job in time, i was very picky, my siblings supported me this period without complaining for six months. June a call came out of the blues, former assistant ceo of where i resigned was starting up his own company, called me asap. Supernatural elevation. Almost twice my prev salary. Before i resigned, i was the one earning highest in the household. You can imagine the new levels.

Did it enter my head? Nope. My life i have one simple rule, if you dey for me, i go dey for you. When i was down, their character wasn't compromised, for good six months i was still being treated like I hadn't lost my job. Rn like this, my family is my world ooo. Supporting erryone of em every way i can.
When i get married, i know it will change a bit, but for now, I'm enjoying the best times of my life with the only loved ones I'll ever have asides my kids whose title would never change .

davillian:
From my experience it's just two reasons.
The parents and trust.
Once the parents starts to favour the rich children on issues and giving preferential treatments it brings in hate...
Once you trust your brothers or sisters to help handle task and they blow your founds it brings in hate....
But to me it's the parents some parent can send you on errands, that your younger ones should handle but because you not yet successful they fit send you to buy fuel, wash car , wash plates , turn on the gen while the younger ones seat and do nothing...
They won't even allow you contribute to issues that concern the family...
The truth is just make money...
If the success train starts from the first child to the last then they won't be issues but if it starts from the button aaaaah there is a huge problem

wengerman:
. I don't just understand because me and my siblings love ourselves to pieces. I think it is just grace because I don't understand why simblings will be sworn enemies .There is this successfull lawyers. He is even the the most successful lawyer.let me leave it at that make them no sue me .whose children fought badly because of his property and they are all from thesame mother. I couldn't wrap my head around it and keep asking myself that what will have happened if that were of different mother. But thank God ,I think peace has now reigned.

OGHENAOGIE:
but u have issues in monogamous home/family too... So what ll u say... some polygamous home u have peaceful coexistence... It's different tales ooo

Risingsunn:
now I have two elder ones that we have not being in talking terms. Till now I cant say what the problem is. But me I no send anybody.

wengerman:
. I beg you in the name of Jesus to make the move to reconcile with your sister. I lost my immediate elder sister on the 2nd of this month. I am yet to recover from the shock and loss. One thing about her is that no matter the offence or fight ,she will act the next time she sees me as if there was never a fight. Life is too short and effeminate she was just 47 when she died.

ogene144:
I am from polygamous family I am the only one that attended higher institution for that reason my siblings didn't like me I went through hell wen I live with my immediate sister In Abule Egba they hate my daughter they even scatter my marriage now I don't call anyone of them polygamous family are not good let's abstain from it...

Jeferious:
My brother, only son dey see shege scatter. Na Dem go push you to go marry early, na still Dem no go wan give you and your wife privacy.

If I tell you my own story eh. Dem even leave the family business for me say make I run alone. Their reasons are that it could get them so busy and occupied that they won't find husbands on time. I just laugh in my small mind. All the same, anything that is the best interest of the family must be done. I can't think of marriage now. I'd let them marry first, firstly to use my prime well and secondly to avoid unnecessary jealousy and breach of privacy.

Talk plenty jare. Just be firm and fair at the same time. And set good boundaries.

Sevenworldpower:
It is usually caused by parents. Preference of a child over the other Lack of discipline. Lack of value system in the family.
Other factors are negative influence of extended family members, spouses of siblings, polygamous home , step parenthood and separation of siblings or parents.

Isatim:
Hmmmmmm
This problem exist in families.
Am the living example of this querel among brothers and sisters.
Presently, for like 3 years now, I don't talk to my immediate senior sister. Even at any event that we meet we just like strangers. No greetings.
Well, am worried about it but no one really make up reconciliation mind for now. And our seniors are not helping matters, they seems to enjoy the situation.
IT'S WELL!

MrHighSea:
It's more work to hate than to love, but this love shouldn't be at the expense of peace with one's self.

If siblinghood tempers with one's inner peace, dear op, you kw na.

There're stories I've seen, most recent;
1. you earn <200k, save up for a year to raise 1.5m biz capital for sibling on condition that the capital alone be returned only to realise that na scam. SCAM has torn them apart.

2. When the one that abandoned you emotionally for 2 decades, comes running/expecting for alms.

3. Entitlement mentality.

Personally, I noticed that siblings grow apart if what binds them is family name and blood alone. Worse, if their wives/kids are not close. My cousin (First Son and first child to my Dad's immediate junior bro) saw me twice on a lonely road (both of us just strolling) and he unrecognised me twice. Dude is a cool headed guy. I called is attention on both occasions. I'm far older and made than him. I'm on a mission to strengthen that bridge, it'll benefit my kids and his.

Holluwhakemmy:
What about Canada, USA, UK etc?

UyaiIncomparabl:
He's my brother here on Nairaland. No affections whatsoever, please.

Perfectman91:
E go better