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Coldie:
The rate is alarming.

To get money for Nigeria is not easy.

In this Nigeria matured guys earn 30k after working there ass all month.

But one stupid girl would be telling u short time 15k... A 20mins rump.

This is why David west kills women.

Is it that easy

this one now have a justification for murder. Lol, girls, una see una life?

Faccouk:
Geez I’m not saying go for the 65% who are into it, what am implying is that, a Christian bro will survive in all of these Sodom & Gomorrah drama of our days.
The crazy aspect some dude will still settle for Pros even when they are aware of it.

and what about innocent girls who will end up with your brothers who patronize these prostitutes?

Faccouk:
Yea my bad,
I can be facing such as well, anybody can.
Am a Christian bro tryna pass some vital msg to my bro & Sis out there.

I really dont get the message you are trying to pass?

Faccouk:
Just booked one, paid for her tfare but I ain’t going down there, just gonna chat & ask her some certain question, if she vex & leave. No eish. I’m just a concerned bro

you go to in message to do what? What were you expecting from there? Prayer group or choir rehearsals?

Faccouk:
Bro I might understand your side but imagine if any of them was your sister or relative, no offence tho, how will you feel or take it. It’s fun yea but will you have any as a wife at home? When you know, money is what drive them to sex.

are you also aware that its vise Verser? If there are no customers, the market will die a natural death

DMerciful:
You dont seem to realize men and women dont have same liberties! Who marries who?

so because you are marrying her so she have no right to look for qualities she want in a man or demand respect from him? Do you even understand the word "respect"?

BLEMOSEDU:
I don't think any sane man will just wake up and abandon his child/children, unless those deadbeat fathers.
Some women make it very hard for a man to have any relationship with his children due to their personal issues, particularly those headstrong iron ladies.

dont even go there, if you have issues with your wife, let it end between both of you, dont extend it to the children. Do you think men are the only ones who have it hard in marriage? What if the woman decide to walk out on the kids too? My dad never looked for us so how did my mum prevented him from seeing us. My elder sister was sick and my mum took her to the hospital only to find out that he removed our names from their record. What if she had died as a result? There is no justification here, when he came after about five years, my mum never stopped him. He only came, tried to make peace with us travelled and died some months later in his travel. Abeg, I dont want to talk about this anymore but nobody should even try insinuate that "I don't know his side if the story". Some people are not just suppose to be fathers

bestdudes:
Men do not even care if you have money... I for one does not care if a woman is richer than me. If you run your mouth anyhow and think you can disrespect me, I will do that lady strong thing that will make remove and her shoes and run like a mad woman.

I motto is treat people the way you wish to be treated.

nobody is talking about a rude lady with money, the topic is about a lady providing for herself so that when choosing a husband, she will look beyond the man's money. I dont know if I we all read the same thread

nanauju:
Thanks for this wonderful contribution sis. The truth is that, ladies who have not experienced this financial independence (no matter the little she earns from her business or job), will not be able to relate with this post, but while the men here have turned it entirely around that it is respect they want. So why then do they keep singing in our ears that they cannot be with someone who is not earning, only begging. Is this some form of self bloated ego that they're trying to save from crashing, or they are just dealing with the inferiority complex and intimidation of being with a lady who works and spends on herself, rather than beg him for crumbs

now you understand

nanauju:
Yeah same goes for men. You should know that financially independent women also look out for character in men.. The only thing that blinds a woman's eyes to his thrash character can be his money. But when she has hers, she looks beyond the money and searches for other behaviors she can be compatible with

dont bother dear, they all know the truth

samdavjustin:
Yes you are right to an extent but you are also very wrong. You see money is important but not everything men look at when married. If you don’t have sense or respect your man or let him be the head regardless of how much ur making there will be big problems in that relationship. So if you like make all the money you want the result will be the same.

even if a woman have respect and is as submissive as submissive can be, without a level of financial stability, she will be very prone to abuse in relationships and marriage. We are talking about financial stability here, what's all these respect and gbogboyen that I am seeing? We have been preaching how women should stop depending totally on us, now someone posted about it and what are the male folks doing? Its like most of us don't really want our women to be financially independent cause that is their only strength in marriage

Ladycewhy:
The op deliberately left of that detail and now this thread has turned into something else.

As it stands the op is the only one in his family who has not mended fences with his dad. His mother and other siblings have all done that. And now he has to make extra effort by apologizing and buying gifts lest he becomes the black sheet of the family.

IceColdVeins did i leave anything out?

ah! Now I get the whole picture. But icecoldveins you should have stated that the first time na, it means your dad has apologized to your mum and settled everything while you refused to mend fences (I stand corrected). You should have been plain from the beginning

Ladycewhy:
exactly ,the op gave us half stories turns out his mum and dad have reconciled and now live together

I see

mapet:
Then your Dad is what the Yorubas call "Baba Gbogbo aye" - "Father of Nations". That scenario, I can only empathize with your mum, as one can imagine what she had to bear........

we have learnt to move on, my issue is with those who believes such relationships should be restored. Cases are different hence you can't say everyone should breach gaps. If me dad was still alive, I would have forgiven him but never have anything to do with him.

mapet:
Bros,

You case is even more complex and required a higher level of understanding. Let me cite an example (at the risk of you hating me for this.....); Your mum is wife number what? Anything aside from the first wife, logic tells me women should know the risky terrain a polygamous home is. Conventional wisdom tells us that in most cases, it is the wives in Polygamous homes that get to raise their children. As the number of wives increase, the input from the man reduces, except his wealth is that stupendous.......

lol, nothing to forgive bro, she was the first wife. He didn't even marry the others, they were all concubines but we refer to them as wives out of respect.

KanuSE:
Like I always say, when you grow older you will process these things better coz you would be wiser. You will clearly see things from different perspectives with a better sense of judgement coz LIFE has a way of confounding us in our craftiness.

maybe when I grow horns.

KanuSE:
If you can at least try and put emotions aside for once & learn about the events that led to the said abandonment, maybe there's something to learn - just maybe.

lol, something to learn? I was a child but suffered because of it. They had their quarrels and the next thing he won't drop feeding money for us, there was never a time we go to dad for anything when he won't direct us back to our mum, what was our crime? Were we there when they got married? Are we the cause of the problem? Why take it out on us? And you say something to learn? I am not saying both parties dont have their flaws but taking it out on us was a very stupid thing. He even blocked us from using the hospital we were registered on after my mum left with us, really? Abeg eh, everyone have their issues, nobody should force forgiveness down my throat

BRATISLAVA:
bro, this is exactly what I'm saying. They are just forgiving not because there is anything to forgive, but because they are now men(probably doing same thing) and he was a dad. Not for anything sensible.

maybe not because they are doing same thing but because he just want to bridge the gap. I am not condemning him for that but nobody should force it on anybody or make it seem as if you wont progress if you reconcile with a deadbeat dad. Its a choice, a big one at that and to be truthful, some dont even deserve it

OBAGADAFFI:
Why are some people here bitter that the young man is reconciling with his Father?

nobody is bitter that he is reconciling with his dad (I can only speak for my self tho) but him forgiving his dad doesn't mean everyone should, I can forgive tho but can't do such reconciliation. Everybody papa different, some people are just sounding like you must forgive him because even him didn't have it easy. Like what da heck? What if my mum abandoned us the way he did? Where would I have been today?

luminouz:
I feel your points.
The scenario you described happens more than often. I had to be very logical too while young or I would have resented my dad. I opened my eyes,saw things from his perspectives and knew that man would sell his soul to make his children prosper. He proved it to us all. Financial downturns sometimes make women very unruly at home and I understood that too. They are still together and waxing strong and I have learnt a valuable lesson.

Leave Bratislava alone. Dude or chick is running on emotional fumes and I totally get that.

the fact they most of you had/have dads who will move mountains for them doesn't mean it was same for everyone. I will quote you in a post so you tell me how to forgive such simply because he is a DAD.

chriskosherbal:
Easier Said than done, op first of all I want to use this medium to say you are a man, for trying to make peace with your Dad, there is a particular blessing that biological father's carry that NO man on earth no matter how highly placed in any field can give to you..Am quoting you because you are still trying to condemn and Judge his Dad, the OP said we never listened to his own side of the story cos men just know how to suck in emotions.

Being the last male in the family I stayed with family for a longtime before I left, and I must say mother's are wonderful but can choke a man to death sometimes if that man lack emotional shockabsolver when things start to fall apart especially finance, Seeing my mum cry complaining to me sometimes you will think Dad is just heartless until I grew to understand that mum most times just want things to go her way always forgetting Dad feelings, and the fact he still the head of the home, irrespective of finance and mum sometimes couldn't just be submissive.

You see when you grow older in life you will definitely love your mum but tend to appreciate your Dad's effort so far in trying to raise a family ( we were 8 in number, even though we lost 2), providing for everyone's need, food, academics, name it, and coping with mums constant nagging sometimes can be really frustrating and unbearable, you will see it practically clear when you start to have kids..

It takes God and a man that is determine to keep his family together irrespective of trials/temptation to still keep going, sincerely I love my mum no doubt but my RESPECT for my Dad have skyrocked when I came face to face with real life ...I love you DAD.

lol, you even had a dad that provided for the family, your own good. My dad never contributed anything, I grew up to know he always tell us to go and meet our mum when ever we ask for anything even to our school fees. He was a womanizer (six wives), had fourteen children (he didn't cater for any of them). When I was 8, mum got fed up ( due to continuous beatings that sometimes lands her in the hospital) and moved out with us. He never looked for us till I was in js2. He tried forming a bond with us but wasn't successful because he was staying in another town. He died just before I could resume js3. How exactly do I forgive? Where do I start from? I try to act like it doesn't matter, peharps my mum did a good job, hustled for me and my sisters to the point where we are today but I know how difficult it was, I know how we go somedays without food, how we a were sent away from school because of books or exam fees, how we do trek long distance because we dont have t.fair and we couldn't afford a house in town hence we stayed in villages without schools, how we sometimes dont eat rice on Christmas day, how we dont usually wear Christmas clothes, how we depend on others to outgrown their clothes so we could have them. I try to forget those stuffs cause now we live more comfortably thank God mummy did her best to educate us so we could have jobs, I just can't lie to myself that I have forgiven him. It hurts, still hurts badly cc Luminouz

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Hoodbilonia:
Mayhe na one of these rude girls wey dey insult ppl anyhow.

hence she deserve this? Which kind animals dey here sef?

StupidNLmods:
Must be one of those runs girls.. Damn! They are so many of them in abuja.

you are stupid o, so every girl who is brutally killed is a runs girl? Sane thing you people said about that delsu student who was killed for ritual purpose until we found out she was only trying to secure accommodation. I pray it happens to your sisters so you can also come and type runs girl here. Idiot

CAPSLOCKED:
THIS CAN'T BE THEIR BIOLOGICAL CHILD. WE KNOW HOW EVIL NIGERIAN FOSTER PARENTS AND CARETAKERS CAN BE. THEY'RE USUALLY WORSE THAN THE WILDEST OF ANIMALS.

they might be his biological parents, mine did it to me because I stole from my dads trouser. I was 13 years old, they first use pepper to rub the cane, naked me and beat me thoroughly before spraying pepper on the injuries I sustained. They put pepper in my eyes and private parts and left me under the sun. (This was done by my siblings and cousin while my mum watched). Though I never stole again but that didn't make it right. It was dehumanizing, and I just can't forget the experience. So bro, Nigeria parents can do anything in the name of discipline

etrange:
Lol... if you're a lady and you want Nigerians to like you on social media, don't dress so well.

thought I was the only one who noticed

STENON:
just my personal thought about their topic and writing it down. Scientific writing , research writing, etc

thanks

Logobenz:
Just know that your sister husband be dey fork am sha.

I didn't doubt that for a sec

nnamdibig:
The maid did not change because she ate on the dinning with you. Your mum just got a wicked person that pretended for a very long time.

It's generally risky to have a total stranger look after your kids. I prefer relative from my wife or my side, anything shut of that, will not work for me.

I laugh you in ijaw, my sister thought same and took in a cousin of mine. I warned her but she wouldn't listen, my cousin us about 21. She started stealing from the house, graduated to her shop (she shares the shop with someone) was stealing from my sister and the other lady sharing the shop with her. Not long, she claimed my sisters husband is sleeping with her and she is pregnant for him, thankfully, she wasn't pregnant when test was conducted. It was a total disaster

STENON:
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Lorenzop:
Just 24 and you are already tired?.....I sense desperation on your part and you seem a potential Yahoo guy..
.forget the scammers stay off caveat you wrote up there....

24 without support from anyone, family depend on my salary. You think its easy dealing with that? potential yahoo guy you say? I won't be looking for a legitimate online skill if I was t to venture into that stuff.