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lexy2014:
U are already getting emotional and ur use of insults doesn't in anyway validate what u have said, that is if u said anything at all. That's d first test of stupidity.

D second test of stupidity shows that I never made any claim. I only asked a question or questions as d case maybe. So were did u see where I said Nigerian girls can't do it?

U asked if I no d number of girls who do it. And I told no I don't. I assumed u knew d number of girls who do it, hence ur question. So I asked u d question thinking u have d answer. Unfortunately, u dont. D third test of stupidity.

In all d tests, u passed with flying colours. Congratulations

if stupid could fly, you'd be a jet

Hope I can change some silly ideas here someday

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Learn to be very wise especially on relationships issue but the problem now is, I can't seem to love anyone completely, that feeling is no longer there.
I always feel everyone have an hidden agenda, everyone is onto me for what that can get (relationships only), its frustrating and I dont know how to come out. Maybe I should even make it a thread

lexy2014:
No I don't no how many girls do it. Do u no how many girls do it? Pls give me d number of girls that do it

you dont know how many girls do it but you said a Nigerian girl can't do it. Now its official, you are stupid

Interesting to read but I dont want to be there. Wish I can get more stories like these directly from those that experienced it

Nvc078:
But seriously, so no fair in complexion person lives in Kenya?

that's how bleaching started in Nigeria

lexy2014:
But would a Nigerian girl help pay 4 an unknown guys transport?

do you know how many girls do it? So all act of kindness have to be published online?

1StopRudeness:
Clearly this ur friend has no emotional attachment or love for her boyfriend, her eyes is more on the marriage prize.... Don’t get me wrong, I’m not chastising her For being calculative, and using her head only...What I’m saying is it will make the decision easy for her to dump the old boyfriend and fave a higher marriage prospect.
However, the new dude has not propose to her yet...so She should take her time... but there’s no how it won’t get a bit messy if she wants to hang on to both of them until she’s sure of the new one before dumping her young boyfriend...

On the other hand, life na risk...she should dump her old boyfriend and face the one she’s assuming has better marriage prospect...if it works out, congrats in advance....if it doesn’t, you win some, you lose some..she can always start over.....

Deep

CreepyBlackpool:
Why tf do Nigerians take marriage too seriously?
As if it's the peak of human achievement

its not but Nigerians do take it very serious, or you haven't heard of evening news paper or the stigma that goes with age 30 for females?

DaddyNimo:
girls and fish brain, who told her the Lagos broda of her boss isn't just coming to eat pvssy and dump her....dats how girls will fake a fight to go test anoda dicck and den come back shouting remember u love me. let her leave the innocent hardworking 23yr old guy pls....he deserve better.

you harsh o bros, calm down na. This is a two way thing and that is the reason I couldn't give any reasonable advise, we have seen stories where such guys later leave the former gf for another after many years and he will hold unto the fact that all relationships must not lead to marriage forgetting the suitors same girl have turned down for your sake. Its not black or white, everybody dey fear

I have a lady I work with at my place of work, she is passing through some difficulties and I asked her permission to post this here.


She is 23years old, will be 24 by January. Dating a boy who just turned 23 this year September, he also work in the same place with her and they are in same level. Recently, one of our boss came to the station, saw the lady and concluded that she will make a good wife for his brother who is in the same job but serves in Lagos and in a far higher position than her. The said guy will be coming to Benin to see her, they have spoken on phone and now she is beginning to have double mind


She is worried if her boyfriend will be ready for marriage before she is 30 with the way society is putting pressure on ladies above 30 or what if he changes his mind and finds someone else later? Because this won't be the first or second person she will be turning down. What is your view on this

pharrell8:
A funny country..

I don't find it funny, its hypocritical yo me cause most of them have been in similar conditions and because they have no one to talk to about it, they fell in to it and some scale through it. But you see someone in such situation and instead if helping, you go ahead to claim holier than thou

Mooselion:
See all of una evil messages for the young lad plying his trade with no idea that your stupid self's exist.....


And we wonder why Africans don't progress.... How can we ? When so many people are filled with unnecessary hate for those making progress

my bro, I just dont understand Nigerians. Their hatred is second to non, see that one that calls himself smalldick123

Smalldick123:
My hate for dis guy ehn

who you EPP?

FamousMonk:
An average Nigerian lady,married or not ,is an ungrateful hoe.

idiot, is a Uganda story. Yen yen yen yen

Op, I know you must have relations above 30 who are not married, go and tell them this trash or dont they need it?

BlackHummer:
There could be some truth here. I have 5 sisters. My dad is very strict and disciplined and transferred that quality to us. 4 of my sisters married great men before they clocked 27 and they have been living happily except the last youngest who is now 30. She is a feminist and needs a man but she tries very hard to hide it.

go and give her the op's post to read. She will thank you for it or doesn't it apply to her also?

Dottore:
Bole finger sighted

are you blind?

mzeefitz:
You may not understand...
It's not that I'm justifying her actions but I don't think you know what it means to be impoverished

hmmm

GhostWisperer:
spoken like a true half-literate Nigeria police.

So all the gun shots were not enough to get the attention of the police?

Do you realise that the police indirectly aided this kidnap operation with their illegal mode of operation where they usually stop vehicles playing the road without any lawful reason? Only just to look for papers and driver's license?

If police are to only stop vehicles lawfully, these uniformed kidnapers won't find it so easy to operate like police in broad daylight kidnapping people and having the boldness to stay long on the road.

The illegal police operations aided the work of those thieves.

now this one is a complete idiot. So its illegal to stop vehicles and check papers on the road? Just to educate you, stop and search is legal in your constitution. Illiterate and half baked graduates forming woke on social media embarrassing their family and entire community. Just see your life

ubecharles:
. Gerrout. Asslicker and product of a failed state

stupid person and product of a failed home

Riversides2003:
The hardship in the land has turned an average Nigerian to a potential thief. The only thing is that some do not have opportunity to steal and the moment they find one like this, they go all out. Even the police reporting this are bigger thieves.

see them, judge the case on ground, no they won't. They want to blame the police trying to do their work. These are tho ones that will blame the police for their missing guguru and the death of the die hard criminals in their family. Nonsense and your rotten brain

payperpost:
you are a popo for God's sake, can't be trusted, do you want to come clean now? say the truth and shame the devil.

this one don mad for my matter o

payperpost:
. I just like honest people, and that will make me like you more, so do you want to come clean now? is it 50, 50 Naira?

do you need glasses to read my last post?

WonderManly:
Shut up!

you need to shut your trap, sit your broke ass down and be humble. Jobless bunch

payperpost:
not 50 , 50,naira? are you sure?

hahahaha, in your dreams ba? But its funny how you keep digging my posts hoping to find faults, you've really kept me entertained today

payperpost:
its not three comments , but 3 words.

but wait, I read your last comment that best explained why you are acting this way and here is it below.

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I know this is the wrong section for this but i really need urgent response. I work and earn about 45k monthly, i also get little cash from work so i Dont depend on my salary to feed.
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now which money are you referring to , the money you are getting on daily basis that is not letting you touch your salary?

I have a side job baby, I barb. Almost all the men in my station depend on me for that and its a win win for them cause I deliver at their comfort zone. You seem obsessed with my life style, you can copy for free bro, I won't charge for it

Dimples0303:
I think people like op, who wants the freedom without the financial responsibility are the ones making a joke of feminism and that's why you and many men are confused.

I agree with you 100, that a man is not responsible for providing for an able-bodied woman like himself. My nephews and sons will never have to deal with that because women have bought their freedom as far as I am concerned.

I will not be raising boys who are burden by another woman, and I will not raise girls who are told their only use is to cook and pop babies.

We are a new generation and we need to let go of our parents way and create a new way for ourselves and our children's children might change everything back or do it a completely different way.

base in this post, I'll like to ask, if the man provides for himself and the woman does same, who provide for the kids? Who do the chores?

Ladycewhy:
which is why i said you need to comprehend and stop ranting ,you just confirmed my assertion that you are frustrated about something and going all out like a wounded lion. All you did was regurgitate the same thing.

I am not here to go back and forth with you in whatever world you have created for yourself, if you want to keep regurgitating ,i will leave you to it and respond to people who are more on the side of logic to allow for an engaging conversation.


But let me just say this, there are many unwritten rules of society, but you wouldn't know that now would you? now i am not against women making their own money ,infact i encourage it,but if a woman must share financial burden ,the man must also share from other forms of house chores its that simple,atleast western men dont have a problem with that .


How Do I Understand/satisfy My Husband?

I saw this thread this morning and it dawned on me that the self esteem of men is only tied to being able to provide, they see it as a tool for control and manipulation instead of for fulfilment and opportunity. Take this away from a man and they feel worthless and their self esteem flies out the window.which is why women need financial freedom not so they can be equal to men but to be free from the control and manipulation of men. Its not so you can help him offload his financial responsiblity as a woman but to empower yourself. Hence "women empowerment".


In this current century ,women still give birth and take care of homes and their children so i don't even see the comparism between now and our mothers of the old,infact women now have more duties when it comes to kids with perverts running around and the dark side of technology etc. The only thing i see that is different is the level of freedom which you seem to be bitter about hence this your comment

us to be the provider men of the past while women are free to not be women of the past. Women of the past were more useful to their husbands: they gave birth, took care of the children, accepted the man was the head of the house, listened to their husbands' commands and rules (the husband's authority was finally), consistently and without fail did the chores of cooking, cleaning, and tidying, respected their husbands, gave sex whenever the man wanted etc. all these in return for the man being the provider.

Which brings me back to the issue of control and manipulation which the woman must strive to be free from for her own good not so she can be equal .Our mothers endured alot in the past not because they were happy but they had no choice infact in my culture leaving your husband's house was a taboo. So these men knew their wives were going nowhere so they did whatever they liked cos the tradition was all in their favour. Your choice of word like "commands and rules" is a justification that truly women of old adapted patience as means of survival and not because they liked it .

wow! I give it to you baby girl, you are good. Pocohantas, I've found a new crush

payperpost:
no wonder!!

is that all?

payperpost:
hmmm coming a police man

three comments? Lol, this one pain you o

payperpost:
typical of them, imagine the kind of language coming out from your mouth!
I know you are only after your salary but how did you get the job?

from your father? nop! You can't even land a cleaner job on your own hence you think everyone is like you