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Thank you for this. I hope all the men on this thread can read this

Nancypret:
A woman should try and be financially stable and not depend on a man.
I can marry a guy who is broke.By broke,i don't mean a guy that cannot afford at least two square meals for my kids. I will provide the rest,.i dont want my kids to die from hunger. A very hardworking poor guy may succeed tomorrow but a poor lazy ass man won't. I won't go near the later even if he preach Bible for me from Genesis to revelation. if you don't have what it takes to succeed,dont marry at all. don't take a lady from her father's house and bring her to work for all the money,bear and raise your kids for you for eternity. I have seen families where the lady does everything and the hubby who is as poor as a church mouse isn't doing anything to remedy the situation instead they go to bars and spend the little they earned. I teach in a secondary school. When we asked our students to write down the numbers of their parents that pay their school fees. I was shocked when I discovered that the mothers surpassed the fathers. Now this is really bad.
So my advice is Ladies go for a guy that is broke but very hardworking instead of d lazy ones whose only job is calling women golddiggers without working hard.

Well im sorry to burst your bubble, but more women are realising the truth. Because it doesn't stroke your ego,
It's a problem. Level up and stop complaining. Its that simple.

KevinDein:
She stated she's in her early twenties. That's not so young. I've seen ladies in their early twenties that reason much better and more intelligently than she does. I think it's largely down to upbringing and environmental influence.

Let's all hope to do a better job on our offsprings. The world would be a much better place with less of her likes.

Make the ideas into a reality. Work towards it. Dont look for excuses. You'll be fine.

yanabasee:
No one is Broke.... They're just lazy or without ideas or proper orientation to work for a living....


No one likes it when they're broke.... like right now... I am broke and I seriously wouldnt say I have a friend around me right now!.... But again, I am not entirly broke becoz I am rich with ideas....

Tissue please.

This is exactly how i interpreted my thread. However,
You were so blinded by the word 'broke' that your level of reasoning decreased. Only a few got the gist.

Happy easter to you too.

FTBOY:
you're beginning to twist your words now. is this exactly how you stated it initially? you think we're stupid?

anyway, i'm not in the mood for unnecessary argument.

happy easter.

Im disappointed. You're not being logical.

Where have you seen a woman who is financially stable settling with a broke guy? Its very unlikely. As rich and successful as a woman is, she' ll always want a man to take some sort of care of her. Its the painful truth. It's not about being scared to date a broke guy, its just common sense.

Jay z is richer than beyonnce. Im sure he takes care of his wife, yet she still has her money. Im sure a woman in her calibre wont date someone who is broke. Stop being illogical naijaboy.

Nobody is saying a woman should sit down on her ass and wait for a ready made man. A woman should build herself up, work hard and attract the best man she can possible get. Is that too hard to understand?

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]My man don't mind these subtle gold diggers.

All they do is sit in a corner and wait for a ready made man. A woman who is comfortable can never be scared of dating a broke man. In fact, she will have the chance to decide if she should go into that relationship or not and that's when you'll know she truly loves him.

But these broke girls have no choice so they just have to look for a rich guy to cover their brokenness.

If you had money would you be looking for someone else to help you financially? No!

Only broke girls get scared of dating broke guys and I don't have a problem with that. Everybody should learn to hustle and create their own legacy.

I wonder how some people feel feeding off from someone else's wealth without contributing nothing to improve on it.

Selfish girls everywhere! [/color]

Fortunately, im not going to write a book about my life like yourself. I dont need to explain my autobiography to you to inform you about who i am. You're free to keep on asking though.

Ok.

OK

OK

OKAY.

Im bored of you now.

mrphysics:
Each time you want to end your post you will mention I know who I am when I log off, this is ridiculous and amusing at same time. Sorry to ask, who are you?

If you know that I have lectured people more than you then you wouldn't have said such. It shows how childish you reason. Autobiography? You didn't know nothing yet. When I read your post, there is this kind of childish spirit that envelopes everything you write. Nothing keeps you secure, you are just like every other average Nigerian.

Nairaland has provided you with a faceless forum to interact with adults and make your opinion count, please use it wisely.

Yawns. I didnt ask for your autobiography. You're trying too hard to prove something to yourself. I honestly don't care sir.

You're right, I'm not the first do it. But I will not have individuals like you lecturing me about laziness. Is that understood? It's very irritating.

Build myself on what? Build myself on nairaland? You're joking right? I really couldn't care less. I know who i am when i log off and that keeps me secure.

mrphysics:
Others have given up on you and I have to do same at this juncture.
You are working and studying? Maybe you have written your name in the Guinness book of record and became the first Nigerian to do that.

BTW, while I was a student, I was comfortable and there was no need to work and study so I gave my book all the attention it needs. Same time about four years ago I came to Nairaland and established myself on the science section with two of my science inclined post hitting front page. I went on to NYSC section, helped people there during service and left about four topics there which made front page. Before relaxing on the business section. While I was at your age, about two of your age mates called me their mentor. I was not lazy as you are, I had purpose, I wasn't living in delusion like you are. When I come to Nairaland, I new they are elders here and I don't go on insulting them like you are. You are just fool of yourself. You insulted tosyne2much with many followers on Nairaland. You have got nothing. A little background check on you revealed you got registered here last month, so how come you are quick to land yourself in the romance section. I don't comment on Nairaland but your comment was forced me when you assumed you are the only intelligent person on Nairaland.

Finally, I urge you, to spend time building up yourself, people already know your moniker and there will always make reference to it.

LOOOOOL

I'M DEAD BRUHH

Im not surpirsed that your empty brain insinuated that im in second/first year of uni. You can assume what you like lol. Im currently working and im studying. Is that something you've done? I highly doubt, and I'm quite proud of myself. My mates are on the education section but where are you?

Are you not here with me? Your mates are on the business/investment section. You could learn a thing or two about investing. Maybe investing your time in more productive things, rather than spewing nonsense in my mentions. How about that?

God bless you and chop that food well well. I hope it doesnt make you sick, like 'talking to a student' does At least this student knows how to construct her paragraphs and sentences properly. I'm happy about that.

Bye honey x

mrphysics:
I was about telling God to bless this food (you) which am about to eat out of the abundance of my heart. But I realized its a waste of time and energy. If you have advanced far in life and human endeavour, I would have responded to you well this great Easter. But talking to a second year or first year empty headed student makes me sick. Responding to someone who lacks wisdom and understanding of what the woman role is in the society makes me feel weak. And to think I am talking to someone who should be reading her books in other to graduate with perhaps a better grade rather than come to Nairaland and be talking about relationship makes me think twice. You know what? You don't know what relationship is all about and you might have been into at most two and which all of them failed. You lack the personality to talk to some persons who you have spoken to because of this your topic.
Your mates are in Education and Career section of Nairaland helping themselves and improving their lives while you are here telling people how irresponsible and illogical you are. I doubt if you attended a quantitative and verbal reasoning class.

No i don't need to. I'll leave it there, so you can feel a little bit good about yourself, mr pako dictionary.

Bye bye silly ass.

x

FelixFelicia:
well just act like you inserted the "u" in your initial spelling. Btw I've no reply for you again, just saw the error and I mentioned.

Have a good day

Dont quote me without speaking facts. You hear?

cybriz82:
cc safiaa ....see wetin ur advise dn cause...we must date made men...not broke guys..

Always quick to point out a grammatical error when the brain is empty. What's your point? Traumatise is the british spelling of traumatize which i was supposed to type initially. Ive got your time today.

FelixFelicia:
no, btw its traumatize

No that was simply directed at you. You're jumping from thread to thread about my opinion. Did my thread tramatise you in your sleep? Just let it go hun & move on.

FelixFelicia:
if he starts engaging you now you'll be crying "he's obsessed with my moniker"

Lool. Are you feeling intimidated?

I'm not moved, not even the slightest by your words. Im secure in myself and i know who i am offline. I just find it entertaining to respond to your type. So please keep on entertaining me,
Im bored at the moment

mrphysics:
Tosyn2much, come and see this kid that just registered on Nairaland this year talking trash. OMG, what did I just read you say. I feel pained, imagine this kid, a student talking trash.

Illiteracy at the highest peak. This is a shame to womanhood

No 4.

Happy easter everyone

I love all these reactions.

I love hearing different peoples opinions

Sorry, where did i imply that you're broke? Is that your guilty conscience running through your head? I have nothing agaisnt people countering my thread, just make sure you read thoroughly and digest what i'm trying to say.

You don't know me either, so who are you to tell me that im a kid? Im currently working, earning a salary. I'm also pursuing my dreams to become a marketing executive for a company. What is now your point? Im far from lazy and unfortunately if you read my first paragraph in my first post, you would understand that im not promoting laziness in women.

Instead of worrying about what man i attract, worry about yourself and maybe you wont feel the need to be so unnecessarily defensive.

Why are you tagging naijaboiy, is he your bodyguard or teacher? I just dont understand.

Bye bye now.

tosyne2much:
Hahaha did you just say pessimistic though lt to console myself? Lmao

My dear you don't know me to talk about me... So the fact that someone flaws your ill-thought write-up automatically turns that person to a broke person?

You are a kid and your opinion holds no water.. The earlier the better for you to work towards building a career and future for yourself rather that looking for a random man that will you put your burden on.

Wake up from your slumber and stop being lazy.. There's dignity for a lady that gives no damn if man is rich or not.. This is 2017.. No man wan put person like you for house

Women are busy out there doing all they can just to make sure they help their men attain greatness, here you are advising gullible ladies never to consider any broke guy

I just hope you change your orientation about relationship or else, those rich men you throw yourself cheaply at, will continue to shine your congo and drift away

Cc
Naijaboiy

Lol my thread seemed to hurt so many boys souls. Get over it please, and stop obsessing over my moniker.

E pain am.

Sector16:
op, this shit is very simple... Get yourself a rich ass nigger, be his bitch for the rest of your life and shut the Bleep up...let me not hear affirmative action from these women again...feminist bullshit

What is your definition of success? Is it to be ranking in millions? Thats not mine, and i clearly stated that on the first page of this thread. I understand that not everybody is destined to be rich, however there's nothing stopping you from being comfortable except from excuses. People from nothing have made it to today, what stops you? If men in nigeria continue to use their environmental factors as an excuse, they will never see progress in their life. God gives you a purpose on this earth, and fulfilling that and being comfortable enough to take care of your family is my definiton of success. So stop using your pessimistic thoughts to comfort yourself.

tosyne2much:
[i] This article is flawed in every aspect and I know that it will mislead many young girls.. This write-up will do nothing but breed laziness in ladies.

It's disheartening that the OP only put up this hogwash to demean those who find themselves in broke state. OP, I want you to know that we are in a world of mystery where nothing guarantees riches. Not even vision, goals and education guarantee riches.

Only if you know that not everyone will be rich in this life no matter how much he or she strives.. If you ride your way to riches, just thank God for your own life because they're so many people with better goals, visions and dreams yet they're roaming the street living a life of mediocrity

Im so happy with the response i've gotten from this thread

I've opened the eyes of a few females, and that was my initial goal.

The reactions from all these nigerian men, it has a hidden message. I can only laugh

My mission is complete here.

You just want to interpret my article in the way that strokes you ego. Youre trying to make yourself feel better about yourself. Of course you can detect if a man's vision is realistic or not. What kind of silly analysis am i even responding to. We see many broke unmotivated men who stay in relationships with girls for comfort. That's what I'm warning girls about. It shouldn't even lead up to marriage, if you can clearly see that he's not ambitious. Dont waste your valuble years and allow a guy to manipulate you with false hope, when you know deep down hes not doing much. You men are so hurt. Its actually a shame.

FTBOY:
if this bullshït you wrote up there is what you call "summary of what the op was talking about" then you have comprehension problem. the op said not to waste time with a man that doesn't have a feasible vision...in order words, go for the already-made one with a house, cars and a huge bank account. otherwise, how could you tell which dream would come true and which would not just by ordinarily looking at the dreamer?

first question you should have asked yourself is, how can a broke man who sits all day at home doing nothing wake up one morning and start thinking about marriage?

do they marry with empty pockets anywhere in nigeria? what parents would give out their daughter to a man free of charge? and would you be so stupîd to live with a man who can't afford your bride price?

you said i'm in the category of the 'lazy, broke ass men'. no wahala, but it still doesn't make your father better than me. at least i'm a graduate and i work, drive and live in a flat. and i'm not going to marry a responsibility.

Well, he's attractive

Bye bye.

RealHaute:
Lol...good. See ya!

Okay. You're annoying.
Bye for now.

RealHaute:
No. I don't take orders from you.

Please just go away.

RealHaute:
You talk too much.

Why do you love me so much? I'm irresistible right?

RealHaute:
Safiaa? She's the girl advising lazy nairaland ladies to become beggars. You're a bosschick, so no worries.

Lol i don't understand

Oya please send the pm. Lool.

BiafranBushBoy:
That grammar is confusing...

Are you a Brit? .. please use our Nigerian English

Lol I dont mind

BiafranBushBoy:
hehehe.. That actually funny. If you receive PMs.. I can send you.

Lool no.

Im actually a spy.

BiafranBushBoy:
Ha!!... why?

Are you a whistle blower?

Im talking about instant attraction here. If a woman is beautiful with no substance, will any reasonable man stay with her?

Thank you for opinion though.

bstringz:
I have issues with those words "Using your beauty to attract successful men" it sounds like something all these IG slay hoes would say. Beauty shouldn't be the only basis for attracting men. A woman who is financially sound would attract men like her, it's quite simple. Like terms attract.... Use her beauty to LOOK for comfortable guys? This sums up your whole post. The other things you added there like the woman trying to also be financially independent was just a plot by you to sound reasonable. You've finally spilled the true contents of your heart. I know girls who tried to use their beauty to attract me..... I quickly Side-chick them ASAP.