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joeace2020:
I regret apologizing to you earlier. I think you are one of those girls who'll end up at Shiloh because they wasted their youth on flipancies and crazy ideas of how to live life.

BEING A TREATED LIKE A 'QUEEN' IS NOT SYNONYMOUS TO BEING A LIABILITY. You can be treated like a ' Queen' and still have your own finances together. It's not impossible. I really don't mean queen in the literal sense, where she sits on her ass, and waits for people to serve her. You should actually know that.

I did not say specifically avoid ALL broke men. This is the problem i'm having with most people on this thread. They are refusing to read and comprehend. I said avoid broke men, who are satisfied and not working towards improving their life. Broke men who have unrealistic goals and who are not in touch with reality. I know a lot of women who are working towards greatness, without a man. LETS STOP being unrealistic, and face reality. This is the 21st century, yes. However, A man will always feel more comfortable in himself, knowing that he's taking care of his family. There will be a slight dent to his pride, knowing that a woman is taking his job. No man wants a liability, understood. That doesn't take away from the fact that a man wants to provide and be the main financial support for his family.

naijaboiy:
As a woman you'll attract men but it depends on the kind/type/class of woman you are.

If you're a wealthy woman you'll hardly find a poor man who wants to go into a serious relationship come to you except you approach him yourself.

Your thread is not telling these girls to be smart while entertaining these men. Your thread is advising your fellow girls to use their feminine touch to attract the rich and already made men and avoid the broke ones. That's what your thread is saying and even a dumb reader will deduce that fact.

Yes women should hustle hard and make their money because there is a very high probability for them to attract another rich guy. If you want to marry a rich guy then also try to be financially capable yourself and not using your beauty to entertain the men.

Your post is filled with sentiments and wrong advise to your fellow girls and I'll only laugh and shake my head in pity at the dumb ones who wouldn't be able to be subjective about what you wrote.

Now you're saying you're encouraging fellow girls to hustle. That's right. But you also said you women want to be treated like queens.

Does a queen work? Does a queen fight battles or hustle? No!

The moment you girls want to begin to feel like queens when you've not done anything that warrants a man to treat you like that then you're getting it all wrong.

You're a lady and you know your girls better than we guys. Ask yourself these questions...

How many girls in your circle are really looking forward to hustle hard to make it without thinking of using a man to get there?

How many ladies TRULY want to work hard at all?

How many girls want to go through the real stress of working hard and coming out successful?

We both know the answer to my questions.

So tell your girls to fulfill their lives first before coming to look for any guy at all. We are also Getting wiser.

The lazy ones we side chick them, the hard working ones we wife them.

I'm really finding it hard to understand what you've just said. As a women, especially in your prime you will attract men. It's inevitable. and unless you're a robot, you will entertain some of these men. My thread is trying to tell girls to be smart whilst entertaining these men. Nobody is disputing the fact that women should hustle hard. But realistically , if you're in a relationship with someone, or you're looking to settle down with a person, you cant say 'its their life not mine' You're building a life with someone together and what they choose to do will affect your life significantly. You don't build your life/ hustle to only please yourself. Yes, be successful on your own, but ensure that you be with a man who will compliment that, not a man who will bring you down.

naijaboiy:
And then I ask myself.

Why do you have to be with a man at all?

Why can't you hustle hard and make your own money and remain comfortable the way you want so you can attract even richer men?

A wealthy woman will always have broke men running away from her while she attracts her kind.

Leave the guys alone. Whether they have vision or not, it's not your life it's theirs. On a general level no human wants to be poor so everybody knows they have to make that money.

Please it's not a do or die affair. Everybody should focus on their own hustle. While your man is working to achieve his vision what are you doing for yourself?

Waiting for him to make it so you can tag yourself the "wife that waited". I laugh in hispanic!

I say to you girls, it's not about being with the man. If you both are working hard to better yourselves this lame mentality won't even come to your head. If you're also full with vision you won't bother about your man and you can easily move ahead if you discover that he's not serious but by then you've built your own life.

But what do we have today? Girls who would rather jump from man to man citing examples as "he's visionless" while they themselves have not carried out any serious plans for their own lives.

A girl who is waiting on her man should also be doing something because even if you waited and he finally makes it you'd still be a liability to him.

Don't just sit down and wait for your man. Wait and hustle for yourself too. Who says a girl can't have visions?

Pffft!

Alright.

RealHaute:
You did. And don't ask me how.

I never disturbed you in the first place.

RealHaute:
Not holding you. So leave me alone too.

Okay. Leave me alone.

RealHaute:
You talk too much.

Yeah. Make your own money, of course. But that doesnt take away from the fact that women like to be taken care of. We can provide, but you'll need someone who can compliment that significantly. Trust me, it will cause problems in the run.

Bumbae1:
Op youmade some good points
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These ladies need to work ! Work ! Work work work work
Yet they be singing Rihanna up n down

Please a lady too should have something to offer besides V jay jay
Personally if the lady doesnt work she should not even talk . 21st century we cry out for equal opportunity yet we expect guys to provide
Why can't we provide ? And then less financial stress on the guy

Okay.
Did i ever state that a women is supposed to be a financial liability to a man?
Didnt i say that women should strive to be successful and make their own money?
Did you actually read my post before making this comment,.no offense.
I understand if you dont agree with me, but your questions were already answered in the first post of this thread. So it's not making sense to me.

Amarabae:
NONSENSE. Must a lady be a financial liability to a man? Is Relationship a poverty alleviation program?
Ladies should dream of working to be financial independent, its brings respect to a woman.
If a guy is broke and you love him, as long as you as a lady is financial dependent, you can be in a relationship with him.
"Broke" is temporary, that he is broke today, does not mean He can't make it tomorrow.
Stay with him during rainfall, He will appreciate it when the sun shine.

I really dont care about your financial life. Your life, your business. You're not correcting me, you're being defensive with unvalid points. My choice of words didnt appeal to you? Using the word broke instead of couch potato? What is your issue? Please you have stated your opinion and I've heard. It doesnt make you necessarily right. Please move on and stop disturbing me. You will never convince me with your mentality okay? Bye bye now.

FelixFelicis:
you sound like you want me to talk about my financial life but i won't, it's none of your business what I'm like out of this forum. You made a very instigating post and I'm correcting you, yet you're still trying to manoeuvre and manipulate your way out. I see you're a very stubborn and unsubmissive person, you think life after dating is about rights or wrong? Smh. May God help your life.

Ok sir. You can keep on convincing yourself, sugar coating your reality. When you log off this forum, you know what it is deep down. It really doesn't bother me. Of course most men will agree with you, because its an advantage to them. Some may agree with me, fine! Some may not, great. But I've spoken my truth, and i know a few individuals can relate to one or two things that I've said. A lot of women are scared to voice out their opinions due to the backlash. Have you not seen the response ive got? I really dont care.
I'm not one of them. A lot of women secretly agree with what I'm saying. Its clear to see that your comprehensive skills are on a all time low.

FelixFelicis:
You don't even need to use the word broke, but as you want to instigate feminine emotions against men you had to. Sensible ladies know you're wrong and that your opinion doesn't count.

You could have said its better to date an industrious guy than a couch-potato. But you're just a manipulator, you want Ladies to come on your thread and say yes, hail you etc, and i can see few senseless and bitter ladies doing that. Matured ladies saw your thread and guess what? They read and moved on, reserving their opinion.

Yeah this is actually what I'm saying. But as soon as nigerian guys see the word 'broke', it hurts their feelings.
The truth is always painful.

NotOfThis:
It depends:

Is he broke but hardworking and striving to get back on his feet?

OR

Is he broke but also an unambitious couch-potato?


The former = aiight, aiight.
The latter = to the left, to the left...

Congrats king!

The man has been working hard for years. He deserves everything he has now! Hard work pays off people, never give up ! The best male yoruba actor out there! Love him.

I wouldve prefered seeing her in the same pant and bra in the second pic. She could have some waist trainers and spanxs on to advertise false news

But good job. Its clear that she's lost a lot of weight. If i were to be like her first picture, i would just accept that I'm destined to be fat. Too lazy to lose all that weight

I cant argue with you any longer, its draining my soul.
Please just level up, and accept the truth. Thats all i have to say. My thread was directed at women, yet all these men are triggered for some reason. I'm done.

FelixFelicis:
If you work hard and make enough money, you should date based on love, not on money then. Afterall we guys have been doing that for ages, you don't see rich guys going after rich girls, they go for love. If you love a guy and he's broke why not motivate him? Put him up to something

Please stop being silly. If im financially stable,
does that mean i should manage a satisfied broke guy? Stop making excuses and just level up. This is the 21st century but that doesnt change the fact that being broke and unmotivated is unattractive. 90% of the time, if you work hard it will not be in vain. It works both ways.

FelixFelicis:
and you can't work towards having a financially comfortable family? This is 21st century please, or you want to be a housewife? Wetin you come get degree for?

Excuses, excuses and more excuses. In some cases yes, But 90% of the time it does. Your definition of success may be different to mine. Successful doesn't necessarily mean ranking in millions. Being comfortable and achieving your goals in life is what it means to me .

FelixFelicis:
Only an immature person will reason with you, you don't even know that vision + work isn't guaranteed success. Oluwa ni shola

At the end of the day, a guy who has a vision and who is working hard to be successful will not be offended by what I've said. The lazy, unambitious boys will vent their anger out of frustration. Empty vessels make the loudest noise. Only a matured level headed man will understand where I'm coming from. That's the painful truth.

I agree too

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Santi69:
Say no to broke ladies, Guys be smart!!

I knew that they'll be guys who refuse to read, but will just jump to conclusion. I also stated that women should be successful in their own fields.

space007:
Y'all be looking for already made guys, good for you though, remember guys no longer want liabilitie s too.

It was a typo, don't be dumb please

ikp120:
Even your English is "broke" beyond repairs. Hehehehehe

PLEASE LEARN TO COMPREHEND BEFORE WRITING YOUR OPINIONS ON THIS THREAD. READING IS KEY!

THERES NOTHING WRONG IN FEMALES BEING WITH A GUY THAT IS STRUGGLING. AS LONG AS HE HAS GOT A VISION AND IS WORKING TOWARDS DOING SOMETHING. YOU CAN'T BE SELLING A FAKE DREAM TO SOMEONE, AND EXPECT THEM TO STAY.

Of course, im not expecting anything less.
Because they obviously fit into that category of what I'm talking about. So it hits them.

prettyesther20:
Lol op get ready...




They are coming for u

I know most men will be triggered by the title of this thread, without reading what i have to say. I really couldn't care less lol. This thread is directed to the ladies !!!


Now ladies, i'm not encouraging you to be lazy gold diggers with no ambition. I'm not encouraging you to use a man entirely for his money. Get your education, work hard and make something of yourself. Strive to be successful. HOWEVER....

Don't be lured into what we call 'ride or die'. A lot of men are deluded by their unrealistic dreams and goals, and believe they can sell you that dream. They'll tell you that they want to do this and that, but they never work towards achieving their goals. I call them empty vessels. Its really sad, because I've seen so many women waste their youth on men who sold them a dream, and end up suffering for the rest of their lives. There's a difference between a broke man with a vision, and a broke man with a fantasy. KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE TWO. This is not Bonnie and Clyde, this is the real world, and if you can clearly see that this man is destined to be broke, RUNN!

As a woman, you need to use your YOUTH and BEAUTY to attract the best man who is financially stable as possible. This is not gold digging this is being SMART. Think about your children, think about your future. You don't want to be in your 30's wishing that you spent your younger years with another man. Money is very IMPORTANT in a relationship, and you need to be with someone who will compliment your finances.

Stop making excuses for men, who clearly don't have plans. Stop trying to be the ride or die chick, because you will die in poverty. Yes, we know that women can be the breadwinners of the house, But i can assure you that most women want to be taken care of. If you want to struggle with him now, open your eyes and be sure that you will NOT struggle with him FOREVER.

LADIES BE SMART, YOU'RE ONLY YOUNG ONCE! USE IT TO YOUR ADVANTAGE.

Yuck.

It's okay

joeace2020:
Okay i see. Sorry for coming at you the way i did.

We don't care.

Releases dopamine, most activities that do this are addictive.
Its an intimate moment.

Lol someone is on their high horse..