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[quote author=mondi_cheeks]exactly what u were taught from childhood...shyt[/quote]No, you were taught that, that is why you are vile, classless shyt that should never call me "sweetheart"!

If you are like your mother as you claim, then I don't need to prove anything.

[quote author=senbonzakura_kageyoshi]In the past. One thing you have to realize is that Nigerian kids of today are becoming more and more like their foreign counterparts as we Nigerians accept more and more western values and systems. So, yes, some of those things could hurt the child if you say it to them and they can harbour a deep resentment against you for a long time. Why don't you guys allow your parents to choose your spouse, afterall, it was once the norm and part of African values and it did spawn a number of succesful marriages so it can't be that bad now, can it?? You don't seem to realize that Nigeria of now is different from the one you grew up in and that applies to the kids in it. You think after watching Ben 10 and Hannah Montana, your kids don't pick up a thing or two from them? You better start picking tips from these so called "oyinbo" lists because you'll be surprised one day, you'll use our "tried and tested" means of discipline and it wont work.[/quote]Fcking well said!

This is undisputable.

debosky: I'll say I generally agree with 1, 6 and 7 - all the others can be legitimately used in the right context without causing damage to the child.

Like any other phrases/statements, all the 10 listed can be abused - the key is to learn how to speak/deal with a child effectively, taking into consideration the particular child and the circumstances involved.

I completely agree.

1 and 7 are completely unnecessary and are the only ones that I can see prolonged damage in a child.

6 is not as damaging, can even spur a child, but yet can be quite unpleasant for some sensitive kids that have completely different skills set from the comparator.

missblessiN: I remember my mum telling me how fat and shapeless I was, she joked about it but I took it to heart and that led me to being bulimic for over 5 years! point is parents should be mindful of what they tell their kids because it goes a long way.

That is mental abuse because most times, there is not much the child can do about it (e.g. being shapeless).

Worse still, who is feeding the child?

lagerwhenindoubt: 10 Things you should never say to a MALE child
1: Learn how to sign my signature
2: Here is the code to the Safe in case I forget
3: Never tell Mom who Anty Rolli really is
4: Don't Smoke until you are older
5: Don't talk to girls erh you could get em pregnant
6: Don't touch my car keys
7: Don't Drive Daddy's Car when he is out of the country
8: Don't touch any wine in the bar
9: Don't watch the naughty movies under my bed
10: Don't spank your monkey or you'll go deaf

toluene12: Remember the tongue is powerful and the power of life and death lies in it.

How?

Please explain to me.

toluene12: We keep saying whites dont know how to raise a child, yet they produce more successful adults and a better society. Maybe there's something we are not doing right and that warrants a deep soul searching.

So you think it is the child-rearing that makes them have more successful adults and better society?

[quote author=mondi_cheeks]learn figures of speech [/quote]DON'T EVER SAY THAT TO ME AGAIN!

That is figure of shyt to me!

DON'T EVER SAY THAT TO ME AGAIN!

[quote author=mondi_cheeks]Ever heard of irony?[/quote]DON'T EVER SAY THAT TO ME AGAIN!

tjskii: Abeg let the writer of the article have kids and then see how easy it is to refrain from saying any of the above listed,its easy to give advice,but try living the advice,that na d work

Funky philosophies normally sound very good, sweet and nice but they tend to be impracticable and on aggregate achieve inferior results because, at their optimal application, they have more cons than pros due to their lame assumptions.

Funky people need to wake up from their lululand and welcome to the real world. People should not follow or adopt something because it merely sounds good and funky.

Most of the trillions went into the bank accounts of Odili and Ibori.

And I am sure the person citizens will worship them and would even pray for them.

Bloody fcking black baboons!

4chi: Thank you jare.. I tire for all these cut and paste. For me, the most important thing is to teach your child about positive values and the reality of what life is all about and not all these lost afrophobic children all over the place who are more oyinbo than oyinbos themselves...

Very well said!

I call them "the funkies"!

[quote author=mondi_cheeks]this is how I have always been, I don't count the number of people I help out, of what use will that be well so long I'm not a hopeless dreamer that spends 98,2% of his time fantasizing about having sexxx wit celebrities that will probably throw up at the thought of even kissing ur hairy cheeks ....my mother has been married to one man for 29yrs...if u get married I doubt ur marriage will even last longer than Evelyn lozada and chad Johnson's marriage [/quote]Really?

I guess people can claim anything they want online.

Gee001: 9ce post though but it all depends. Those words could make or mar children but i'm an exception cos those words actually made me stronger.

Some of the terms I am against, but for most of them, it really depends on:

- The personality of the child.
- The environmental influences.
- The circumstance and instance.

I don't see how you can scar a child if you praise him virtually all the time and one day he does something egregriously wrong and you say "you are such a terrible boy".

What nonsense!!! Scar kor, Scholes ni!

Bleeding heart, funky ediots!

gbanikiti: As i don mature finish,my mama still dey tell me "my pikin,i know wetin good for you.shebi you know say i carry you for 9months for belle".Can you imagine? I no know say na 9months you carry me before? My mama sef funny sha.All the same na my mama she be.i go love her till death!

Somehow, according to the mugu that wrote that article, her saying that will damage you. Maybe even for life.

Oyinbo don talk am. We have to agree.

cantell: Op,
if they can't say anything on that list, then it means you want them to keep their mouth shut.
No naija parents can do without saying one or two things on that list.

No mind am.

I looked at the source and I could see it was, as expected, a western source.

I should never tell my child "Because I said so"? ......................Yeah right!

People with failed child-rearing skills should not come and lecture me how to raise a child. Not even if their skin pigment is white!

In a country where more than 80% live on less than $2 a day, why wouldn't life expectancy be low.

If you make about N40K per month and you are responsible for 4 people (that includes wife, kids or old age parents/relatives), then you will be living on roughly $2 a day.

Now we should think what proportion of Nigerians can even dream of N40K per month.

Tgirl4real: We don start again o.

I doubt there is anything you can do about it except marry a good wife and train up your children well. The average gal/guy out there is what you described up there.

For sure.

There is no way I am marrying a rude, arrogant, classless ediot with her head up her arsse and nothing to offer.

I would never marry an average Nigerian girl.

So he has basically had mental health problems since he was 3 years old?

y me: Nonsense, why will a guy call me 5 times a day? pffffffft

I seriously hate when I get a "sup" ping or message sha, its sooo annoying

and to think my ex always sends that, makes me wanna kick his azz

Hey, 'sup?

2sexy: yup. There are more like that. It's a matter looking with the right eyes and mind, you sure will find them.

I am friend with two nairalander ladies off here and I can tell you that their personality is awesome.

I am sure they are more like that. I am friends with alot of NL girls as well and 3 of them that are one of the finest girls on NL have some of the best, lovely and classiest personalities you can ever come across. One of this 3 even has this personality despite being one of the finest girls I have ever seen.

The only problem is that they are the minority, the idiots that have their head up their arsse and are extremely rude, despite not being something to write home about, are the majority.

Maybe we need to appoint smartie gurl's mum to be Special Adviser to the President on "raising the girl-child" so we stop producing rude, vulgar, ill-brought up, classless agbero girls that are sometimes even ugly.

We need to end failed, irresponsible parenting that churn out shytheads.

joe4christ: Dont just rush into things, when the spirit tells you things like this, it's your responsibilty to ask more questions, it's evident that the lord wanna bless you financially but you need to ask him how, when and where?
Ask him for wisdom on what to do next, it's wisdom to seek for direction from the holy spirit on the lord's instruction so you dont mess up simple instruction from him.
I dont know how i came into this thread but i believe the lord want you to see this post of mine and apply wisdom so you dont miss out of his plan for you.
Bless you!

Lunatic! Was it also "the lord" that said you should be insulting women online because they are not interested in your advances and politely turned you down?

https://www.nairaland.com/1104052/what-romantic-love-what-form/5#13234030

Get you head examined by a qualified psychaitrist and maybe your God Delusions will also be resolved.

Mental patient calling himself a christian.

How come the child's name came before the wife's?

The is out of order (literally and metaphorically). She is the COO ffs! She should come second and above any child.