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cap28: did i touch a nerve?

many men who hate and want to hurt women have experienced abuse or rejection at the hands of women - FACT!

are you one of them? there is no shame in being honest.

No, I am just about to expose your level of education.

So again, I ask: Show us where you got your well-known "facts" from.

dmcdad: This obviosuly has nothing to do with JB as they were only awarded the contract. We should be pointing accusing fingers to The VP and Co...

And you think they will have no corrupt hand in getting the grotesquing inflated contract?

nikky5: I pray dat the military take over power in this country asap and save us from the hands of these clueless and corrupt leaders.Only a military intervention will bring succour to our nation.Democracy is all about stealing and looting and pauperizing the citizenry in this country.

Honestly, I have never wished a leader so dead as I wish Silverback Gorilla.

cap28: guys like you are described as the walking wounded - women have trampled on your emotions so many times that you now try to overcompensate for the hurt and rage you are still carryign around inside by being a basta.rd to just about every woman you come across, you are permanently stuck on hatred and self pity. My advice to you is stop living in the past and start looking forward. there is no self respecting woman that will allow a man to treat her like a door mat - especially in the west, perhaps in nigeria it might happen because of the poverty that many women over there are trying to escape from. If you want a fulfilling and healthy relationship you have to work at it - acting like an ignorant thug and treating a woman like crap will only ensure that you keep going from one woman to another and never finding happiness or fulfillment.

it is a well known fact that men with low self esteem abuse women in order to make themselves feel powerful - it sounds like you might be one of them.

let me ask you a question - have you ever been in a happy and fulfilling relationship with a woman?

cap28: bro - if you steer clear of airheads, bimbos and brain dead gold diggers you will rarely encounter this problem - try going for decent, educated girls who are doing something constructive with their lives, this is why the most successful relationships are usually between people who met while both in college - they both started out with nothing finnacially but shared common goals and dreams together, they probably went through the good and bad times and came through together. remember friendship should be the foudnation of every relationship - if you cant imagine having this woman as a friend but just a bed mate it will just be a matter of time before you get bored of the s.ex and the whole thing will just fizzle out. that facebook guy mark zuckerburg is a good example of what im talking about in terms of successful relationships - he married a girl he had dated all through college when they were both struggling students, the fact that he became a billionaire at the age of 25 didnt make him drop her for some brain dead bimbo why? because he had the maturity to understand that it is better to be with a woman you can relate to on all levels and have so much in common with than some gold digging skank that only sees you as an ATM machine.

Show us where you got your well-known "facts" from.

zynzyn: Today's women are confused.

They want equality, a made guy and a super stud all rolled into one!

Most guys can't meet all three!!

Now, when a guy is a super stud and/or moneybag, he can't give you equality.

Most sincere guys want control, which todays women doesn't want to concede

Most Cases, without control, a man is not interested in really committing himself to a woman!

Don't mind them.

They are looking for a mumu that feels he is chivalrous, mature and a real man and who is willing to invest alot in them, carry all the risks, carry all the responsibility and have no control so they (the women) can always have the option to do as they wish because they really do not have much to lose. It is always much easier to be reckless and lackadaisical when you have no investment to lose, no risk to face, no responsibilities and alot of control.

If they change their mind (which is well known to be unsteady and hypermutable), then they can walk away with their ego, financial stability (or even improvement) and emotional stability (without having any contrition) to ideally the next mugu that voluntarily feels he is a mature "real man" that is willing to sacrifice his happiness to make them happy.

DEEBLEEMMA: Its in which dna......women go dey behave lik say dey no lik man....man go dey waste money and effort to get uns attention.....nw dat women ar more dan men u gals ar complainin dat we dnt chase.....shey wen we use to chase u gals didnt value it....nw dat there is shortage of men make una beta join oda gaks to chase us...cos if u dull ur on ur own..

Get your facts right. Men are more than women.

ChopUrMoni: [size=14pt]PART 2
https://www.nairaland.com/1139803/need-more-black-men-like#13496365[/size]

What a pathetic guy!

ypzilanti: I cannot speak for other guys, but for me:

That a woman is difficult for you does not mean she is difficult for all guys. Maybe she does not like you. Period.
Shakara is different from 'No'. Some 'Nos' are pretty straightforward. Time is an irreplacable commodity. Don't waste it pursuing a woman that does not like you.

Women doing shakara encourage you with their actions, while saying no with words. That is a different case altogether sha.

The sad thing is if you are really persistent pursuing a woman that does not like you, you may eventually succeed in getting her: AFTER ALL HER OTHER OPTIONS DO NOT WORK.

Well said!

The fucktards that are chivalrious and "real men" that will spend months or even years chasing a girl because they see her as a trophy that they want to marry does not know there are men she is jumping into bed with at the snap of the guys fingers. She is being worked mercilessly by some bad boy somewhere. And if the trained mugu "real man" finally gets his "trophy", he does not know it is because she settled for him because of his persistence and 100% guarantee of emotional security when her superior options have been a disappointment or heart ache.

A girl that likes you would be excited you are making a move on her and will be saying "yes" quite quickly.

Chase my arsse!

KenGali: I think most Nigerian grown men from experience have seen a trend that does not encourage investing so much time in a woman.

1. The average girl keeps a string of men, so you wonder if she has any tendency to consider love in choosing a guy. Unique feeling of love and being loved is what will make a man invest so much time in a lady. Even when she is saying no, you still get some signs that she is feeling you. These days ladies feel all the men in their string and it confuses us.

2. Most men have experienced and realised that what really sways Nigerian women is not their feeling, but wealth and security you provide. So they decide to work on that. Failure to do so means managing the available desperate girls.

When most men and women have had 10 to 20 partners in the space of a decade, what does love mean to them, except a convenient word to express our choices, but nothing selfless.

Great point!

Goldieluks: Those sort of men are confused with their misplaced priority and they are mentally lazy. That is why they are never satisfied with one girl. They prefer to have numerous girl friends all over the place.

What has having numerous girls and not being satisfied with one girl got to do with mental laziness or even misplaced priority?

Kirusky4life: one tin i knw is that girls are like apples in a tree, while guys are the apple pluckers. Wen dey get to the apple tree, dey will see both the apples that are very good but very far from dem. And den another ones dat are near but not too good. Dey wl choose not to stress demsef geting that nice and far one, but rather go for the ones that are near and say ''let me just manage''. Den dose ones on top wll b feeling dejected and abandoned wdout even knowing dat dey r d best. So those apples wl just have to wait until a guy who is ready to risk everytin to get me wl come.

What an incredibly and immensely dumb analogy.

ChopUrMoni: Yes and No! Because their physical side sometimes is a result of the past and people change! I wouldn't except less from a man if i'm on a wheel chair. If he wouldnt love me on a wheel chair he DOESN'T love me. Same thing goes with virginity. I would never marry a man because he thinks im beautiful so why should i marry a man because he wants a virgin. What if after you get married things change

Be careful, sweetie.

This is what happened to a girl J.boy sold some strong shyt and she smoked it all night.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cj3eguWupyQ&

ChopUrMoni: Oh dear! This is exactly the problem you DONT even believe that a woman is a prize. Thats really terrible! God help us. What does being a virgin have to do with being chased?. Its all about LOVE. Men even chase single mothers and i think its so romantic and expresses true love. Why do Nigerian men have this mentality... boy oh boy. I am in trouble ooo . Thank God i have never dated a Nigerian man because this is some scary sh*t!!!. I can't date any guy that doesnt think im a trophy worth fighting for. Oh God... I so traumatized by a lot of your Nigerian men mentality but to come to think of it maybe its way you guys do you thing back home that encourages that mindset.

Sweetie, I know it is friday night but this is a bit too heavy.

Don't overdo this shyt because it is friday, the rule is puff, puff, pass.

Call your friends to come over and share this spliff with them, don't smoke it on your own throughout the night.

Prize? Trophy?

What planet is the spliff sending you to? Was it Travon or J.boy that supplied this variety to you? The shyt is hard core!

sageon: @op
Times have changed. The environment and laws have beat men to a retreat and rejig of their priorities and substitutes.

Here in the West: a stare-a call- some test message, could be read by the feminist gang to be anything and, your sorry bottom could do serious time for that. Besides, the overall destination, at least-in the estimation of most broads- for most ‘relationships’ is the now unattractive marriage institution, that again has the man in permanent deficit and at the mercy of the woman and the laws-sincerely, it’s a lose-lose situation. Why bother giving a ‘chase’, robbing oneself of valuable success making time, when you would still get the short stick at the drop of a hat. Clearly, in all fairness and in this present dilemma-the man should be the game.

Secondly, one common denominator in the laws of attraction is your degree or measure of success-regardless of the route employed to obtaining it- contrary to the denials made by the female folk here. Any sane bloke would rather invest quality time in building a chest that would ensure his desirability among broads than waste time giving a ‘chase’ and, be labeled- ‘broke ass’ and ‘NFA’ as some are wont to describe it.

So here it is-the 21st century and its new rules. You, certainly, are stuck with the times and, it would do well to sense the tide or be left at the harbor.

Your post would have made alot of sense if you did not make this senseless exaggeration.

cap28: stop being so bitchy! can't you be happy for other people? live and let live my friend.

Fucktards like you can be happy for them.

$100m dollars to build a house for vice president.

https://www.nairaland.com/1139124/julius-berger-summoned-over-sambo

In a country where entire national budget for the education of 75 MILLION kids is $2.7bn.

So basically they use 3.7% of the education budget to build ONE OFFICIAL HOUSE.

That is equivalent to the UK using about $6bn dollars to build a house for one official.

Continue praying for your leaders,

[quote author=A-40]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=puHJeKwZtT8

Most girls that spend their youth playing hard to get usually end up on shows like these in 5-10 years time[/quote]This guy, why are you trying to let me vomit at night?

Lord, Nigerians are just immensely daft people.

So it is church miracle to meet a man and the miracle was conducted by touching a coat?

Bloody fucktards! Techniques by these conmen to milk the cretins.

She met and married a man in less than 3 weeks and the mugus believed and were cheering that?

Where the fck is my sick bucket?

dabrake: Most girls just need a guy they will use to practice their hard-to-get lessons. Why let a guy, especially the shy one who need gather an 'extraordinary' amount of courage to approach you, go through the stress? You girls overhype yourselves a lot. Well, one thing is certain - I value my ego above any girl and won't chase a girl for long. I've only asked a girl out 4 times due to the fact that I loved her dearly. She told me she had a boy already and I left after the 4th trial. I take your 'yes' for a yes and your 'no' for a no. That silly beleif that a girl's 'no' means 'try harder' eludes me. A (wo)man of integrity should stand by his/her word(s). She happened to be the only girl I had asked out more than once. The I-will-think-about-it line is even understandable unlike the other nonsense. Once a girl I (think) I like displays those silly 'toughness', I conclude in my heart that I will be better off without her and I'm off. It's painful to watch them go but I will always survive it. My ego remains paramount. BTW, Why should I ask a girl out for more than a year? A year alone is enough to make me an ORACLE whizkid.

Well said.

I have said it for many years.

https://www.nairaland.com/403381/why-nigerian-man-prefer-women/13#6883674

PStylish: Times have changed!

Chasing a lady is damn too stressful, time-wasting and outdated.

Ladies now know what they want from the word go and go for it straightaway.No more pretending or hiding.

Most men now wait for ladies to give them 'call-up' signs or gestures before approaching them.

Personally, I'll never approach any lady who doesn't give me a call-up sign or gesture.

Chikena.

Well said!

You step to a girl and she does not show interest or says 'No', leave her alone.

Waka pass, which be chase/pursue a girl. For wetin?

cap28: be quiet my friend!:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TU_2eHaqRZE

cap28: yes, they're all dudes.

Disgusting poof!

Stop showing us your fantasy dudes. This is a Nigerian forum.

KateSpade: Hard to get doesnt mean impossible, it just means not easy.

Theres a difference between hard to get and a woman who is simply toying with you. However, if a woman states seriously for you to leave her alone, do so. Nobody likes a stalker.

Work is hard, School is hard, I don't need socialising with a woman to be hard, thank you.

I have some dignity. I prefer easy to hard if I can't get reasonable.

There is nothing you have to offer me in the long-run that gives me supernormal profits as economists talk about in different market structures. Your long-run returns will be elimininated in a competitive market where we have close to perfect competition between many women.

mimifonwon: i think its because some women have become for sale for highest bidder and sex is easier to get from easy girls, so the men dont feel they have to chase anymore, all some of them have to do is flash money signs and these hungry babes just spread open. No morals+ no respect for self+ easy life= easy catch. And dont generalize on men and women, but personally if i like a guy I like to be the one to dine and wine him, maybe its my controlling nature, but I dont find a guy that comes after me attractive, its better when i am the one that approaches- Personally, then if the guy fancy me then we can go from there.

Where have you been all my life?

k2039: Goodnight.

Think about it, I ask a girl out, I had to wait for atleast 3months after which her response was negative.

That simply means I lost, wasted my time, money on airtime, dates, I can go on and on.

So mathematically speaking with preference on probability, I will only exhibit extreme stupidity to wait for a girl know their is always a chance she could turn me down.

You didn't know you were suppose to be a real man mugu that takes all the risks while she avoids all risks?

shymexx: It isn't about animosity, it's the "rules of engagement."....

Women changed the game - however, guys have discovered a way to outmanoeuvre them...

PS: chivalry died a painful and sorrowful death time ago...

Murdered by feminists!

sportfeva: @op:you thought right and that depict true love. Women should not fall easily but a way of testing the passion and maturity of the guy. I remember during my teenage days in FGC. Their was this girl i seems to love through studying her. When i finally approach her ƒor a date, she said she is into a serious relationship and i broke down easily. I told a close friend of mine then and he said that a fat lie. We argued but we reach a conclusion okay you go give a try. He did and they were dating. I was shocked and a shame. Mind you she told my friend the same as well but he was committed but at the end he was a player. Not the serious type like me considering the genesis which i state. It really change my mindset that even up to an engaged lady, i will still go ƒor if the love is there. So i reason with you. Nice article.

You failed in learning the lesson you were presented.

She did not date you, not because you were not persistent, but because you were not bad enough. That was what your friend had that worked.

You need to attend a chepsing masterclass.

[quote author=A-40]Why would I ask a girl out 4 times? Does she owe me money? I be Quasimodo? Hahaha for wetin!! The older us men get the more the pendulum swings in our favor anyway.[/quote]Swings like a fcking premier Russian steel demolition pendulum.

k2039: That's the real issue.

Become succesful, have money, a good career etc and the girls will chase you, in fact you have a wide variety to choose from.

A reasonable person will rather focus on achieving success in life than chase a girl.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HPzDLGfyjw0

k2039: She knows that too and that's more reason why guys like that don't eventually get them because the girl sense he is suffering from a low self esteem.

And for those who get them they lose them easily later because they realised what they waited and chased for so long was overated.

A guy with a good self esteem understand know girl is worth overating, what simply makes a lady a lady is the hole in between her legs.

You here the 'real men'(mumus) say things like she is the nicest(if she was, she wouldnt stree him that much), she is intelligent(as if she is the only intelligent female in the world), she is the most beautiful, I can go on and on, but in reality the statement just reflects plain and simple stupidity.

You should jump through all the hurdles to find what?

Some even jump through all the hurdles to land in ho-land.

freecocoa: Btw I'm not in support of chasing a lady for years o cos I don't think any girl that really wants you would make you wait that long, where I don't agree with you guys is that you only have to ask a girl about 4 times.

A few months is ok in my opinion.

I have nothing better to do with my life?

What is she doing that I need to ask her more than even 2 times?

[quote author=A-40]Honestly a lot of girls out there are not worth it! Some of you broads of nowadays are so vain! So materialistic and so fickle makes more sense to chase the greenbacks

You look at some girls and apart from what's between their legs there's truly not much else they bring to the table.[/quote]Well said!

freecocoa: Why would you make conclusions on something you know absolutely nothing about?

I replied the topic based on how the OP asked the question, how do you know the men who "pursue" me are not valuable because they may have stayed on my case for a period longer than what you think it should be?

A man should stay on a girl's case for as long as he feels he should, if a man genuinely loves me and wants to pursue me forever who are you to say he's got nothing to offer?

It would be harsh to say he has nothing to offer. But it would be apt to say he has something in his head that needs to be checked by a certified professional.

cap28:

you are too magnanimous - this loser hasnt seen a real woman's toto since he came out of his mother's own.

look the closest this loser gets to toto is WWWP - WANKING WHILE WATCHING PO..RN

Faggottt, shut up!

And don't post videos of gay men you love watching on youtube on this thread.

Bloody poof!