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[quote author=Harvard-Grad]Lord have mercy!!, I don laff sotey I wan begin cry, this is what makes NL fun.

@topic. With all due respect to the ladies, I don't think any woman is worth 'wasting' time over. How do you expect a guy to 'chase' you for 2 years!!!, such a guy is either jobless and very ugly or has a low self esteem. If a lady really likes a guy she will go out with him in good time and not make him 'oversweat'. Whether you spend 10 days wooing a lady or 10 years is irrelevant, if babe like you, she like you be that, and if she no like you, if you like spend a century chasing after her, it won't work. All the wasted energy and time can be channeled towards making meaningful impact elsewhere.

By the way who wants to waste all that time chasing a skirt when life is so ephemeral and there are tons of things yet unachieved. Boys don wise up joor, seek yee first the kingdom of success (especially financial success) and almost every other thing shall be added unto you. I have spoken.[/quote]Well said!

I know when a girl does not dig me, hence I should waka pass and move on.

No girl is worth chasing. And if a girl likes you when you show interest she would do her best to make you happy you did.

teeowl: It means the guys chasing you are NOT valuable on the dating scene! Valuable men do NOT chase... they persist confidently and suavely 2, 3 or 4 times and they move on! They know they can get another girl so why stay on a girls case for too long!

Reason out what I wrote without emotion and don't lash back at me with insults!

Another [Standing Ovation]

k2039: Infact, it's extreme stupidity to chase a girl for that long, their are billions of girls in the world, it just doesn't make minimum sense chasing a single gorl for that long when their are others who are far better than her.

The two guys are extreme mumus.

They are "real men"!

Joliecoco: cause they are not men , they are little boys. Real men have the guts to talk to a woman and pursue her.

As usual, reference to the "real men", i.e. trained mugus.

oluwaisaac: After pursuing you, u go out there and look for hard men who don't care...ewu!

[Standing Ovation]

These kids are learning from Saga's lectures sha.

mascot87: Oh girls!!!! Sometimes I wonder what they really want in a guy. Their is this girl that I had a crush on so bad and I worked up to her and expressed my desire to go on a date with her. I spend @least 4 hours (fact) with her everyday for 3 weeks ( I am very serious) to consider my option and give me a trial but I can tell u categorically and enfatically that I wasted my previous time on her as I got a negative reply till d day I got fed up. I used all I have but she proved so unconvinced. I later let go and till today, I find it difficult to work up to a lady I like and waste my Precious time trying to let her see reason why she should give me a chance and prove my love for her because of my previous experiences. Ladies are to heartless. I can only go for a lady that I can see that she is also interested in me and I will NEVER EVER spend 2 days trying to woo a girl in my life again. If I ask u out on a date and u wanna think about it, I will ask u JUST ONE MORE TIME and after that I signout complete if no positive response. If you are mine them I won't have trouble getting u @least Adam didn't have trouble with Eve. Ladies of our days are not serious and when they start getting to there expiring period,they put there blame on some witches and wizards in there village. My experience and opinion

You are a good boy. You learnt your lessons quick.

KateSpade: I never specified myself. I said "If you are worth pursuing a man (or men) will come after you. People know the difference between playing hard to get and actually hard to get."

I don't think about what makes me worthy of men pursuing me, I think about my God, my family, my education, my health, my money. They must like some qualities I have because nobody can hang around another person if they don't.

As far as what I could have to offer "a guy like you" I don't know, I don't know you.

Why would a man pursue a woman that is hard too get?

If she does not want to be 'get', isn't it best to leave her alone?

dick hardener: let's get it straight, I find it silly running after a girl endlessly, but I find it even more nauseating having a girl give in on the spot, that's the biggest turn off ever. A hint to positively acknowledging my interest is just fine. But I see a girl today, take her out tomorrow and bleep hee next tomorrow is sickening

If you are talking about giving in sexually on the spot, then that is a different case although I really don't give a shyt about that too.

I initially thought you were talking about girls that make you jump many fences to date them or even get their phone numbers.

There are girls that will play hard to get only for your to find out her record makes her a real slut.

And there are girls you will get into bed with pretty soon and they have far higher morals.

So I don't really give a shyt whether I am in bed with her tomorrow. That might actually be more fun and exciting if it follows the flow.

I judge people individually, not the shyt posturing they give me.

dick hardener: I hardly get pissed off, but do me a favour and go tell amina dangote that u have money and u want to date her right now.person this, person that, bros na the new style be that. Small London wey u dey na him u no want make persin hear word.. Na WA o

Amina Dangote? And so the fck what?

You think money impresses me?

If I step to Amina Dangote and she is playing hard to get, then she can fck off!

I don't chase women!

ChopUrMoni: Lol u are so funny. They are not held bound they are just in love. They make their own choices and they have taught me what true love really means and thats why i would not expect any less from my husband to be. I just dont think he would be black though... lol. With all the NL biys are saying so far, the possibility is very minimal.

With you expecting to be pursued for years, the possibility of it being me is -15%.

KateSpade: No education necessary. Its not difficult. People see things about other people and whether its based on physical features, education, wealth, personality, spirit, shared morals or hobbies. People like to surround themselves with people who attract them and who can complement their life. This isn't just about romance, something attracts people to other people for friendship as well. For example, I like people who make me laugh, if a man is interested in me and I don't find him funny nothing is going to pull me towards him.

I feel like you are trying to start an argument with me.

I am not starting an argument with you. I am scrutinizing your public opinion.

You feel a guy should spend his precious time pursuing you. I find that position wierd, so I want to know what you feel you have to offer that would be worth a guy like myself's time to pursue/chase you. That is all.

So what makes you worth being pursued.

dick hardener: No be the hungry, wretched ashawos wey surround u make u dey think like that. There are women and there are women. I know very few who don't give a flying fuc.k what u have or who u are.

You are a person!

Ashawos are for hopeless foools and cretinous dumbos like you.

And you would still chase them and worship them.

ChopUrMoni: I currently have 2 guys mugu who have been pursuing me for over 2 years!

I have corrected the sentence.

dick hardener: mr. man there are some girls worth pursuing though in very minuscule fraction

Feel free to waste your life pursuing a girl. I have far better and more important things to do with my life.

ChopUrMoni: True and false. Yes they do pursue those worth pursuing but they are not giving in their best. Even at church i hear the guys give up so easily. Regardless of whether she is virgin and a supermodel its seems like after a few attempts they give up. NOT ALL but a lot more than before! For example it is less likely that a man would pursue a woman for more than 1 year when during our parents and their parents time they pursued and waited for many years and didn't even get the chance to be intimate until they got married. Im not saying they don't but im saying it is difficult to find guys nowadays who do.

Pursue for 1 year?

As in 1 year that has 12 calendar months?

Girl, believe me, I don't take drugs.

KateSpade: If you are worth pursuing a man (or men) will come after you. People know the difference between playing hard to get and actually hard to get.

What will make you be worth pursuing?

Please educate me.

ChopUrMoni: Have you ever played hide and seek? If you have, then you know that once the person has been found by the finder its not the end of the game. The person found must run and the finder would have to pursue until they have caught them. Then and only then is the the game over.

I have noticed a trend among a lot of men. They have become so lazy that they do not bother chasing the girl they love. The saying "ah... its just a girl, they are many more out there" and "she's playing hard to get, i cant be bothered and she's not the only beautiful girl out there anyway" have become so popular among men especially black men.

What happened to the value of chasing a woman? Why has it become so worthless and looked down upon. Would men of today have survived many years ago. Men in those days didn't complain when they pursued the girl they loved, in many cases suffered in the hands of the girls family and then paid a massive amount to have her as his wife. Today it's a lot easier yet men are not willing or should I say are too lazy to pursue the woman of their dreams. Oh i forgot... there are too many fishes in sea. Why bother right?

Men, we love to be pursued and conquered by you. Why do you all think the stories of Cinderella, Snow white, Rapunzel and the like are so loved by girls? They all had one thing in common. A prince who not only found them but also fought for them. Trust me we love to be chased and caught by you.

If you are not serious with the girl then don't bother. But, if you do love her don't allow you friends to push you to get over her after she has rejected you twice. Try a little harder than twice. I noticed white guys have always chased me fervently. But when it comes to black men, even though they profess to loving me so deeply they don't bother if i don't respond to them after a specific time. If any race of man on earth should know how to pursue a woman fervently until he captures her it should be a black man because thats what you fathers and grand fathers did. It's in your DNA So now, what are you waiting for? Get started!

Keep dreaming.

Value ko, Saliu ni.

I don't know what you have to offer me that I will be chasing about.

davidylan: Depends on the woman you marry. It can be equally beneficial to both parties.

That would be very, very, very, very rare.

More rare in the modern age because of the shyt "entitlement" mentality majority the modern day woman has.

And of those that do not have modern day mentality, there is a strong correlation of not being in shape.

Marriage rarely satisfy the comprehensive or threshold need of men. That is why a lot of married men play away from home or are divorced.

You will have to find a woman that meets you mentally and will satisfy your immense attraction needs sustainably till very much older middle age.

Most women only have one or the other to offer. It is life!

Don1Dee: @Sagamite
Good job you're doing. Plz I want to be a full & livelong academic, Early Childhood Education to be specific. Which five schools can you recommend in the field of education. If possible, include their tuition, and as usual your "take" on them.
Thanks

Early Childhood Education is not an academically rigorous field, it is more a practical and socially-important field and there are loads of jobs which are all of similar prestige you just need to have the qualification. So I don't think there is really any elitism in it. One can go to basically any institution and it is what you learnt and how you performed that matters (even the latter, I am not sure counts for much as long as you finish and pass).

If you are talking about research and being an academic, which is the academically rigorous area, then the top universities are the best place. E.g.

- Cambridge
- Oxford
- Institute of Education (University of London)
- And some of the russell group of universities and other top universsities (like Edinburgh, Durham, KCL, Manchester, Southampton to name a few)