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[quote author=*Kails*]Ummmm.....the only difference between a relationship and marriage are the papers and the ring sweetheart. The rules are still the same. If we were fck buddies or just dating THEN you'd have a point. But a RELATIONSHIP is serious.

Any responsible woman who LOVES HER MAN. ADORES HER MAN, AND CARES FOR HER MAN will not have a problem treating him like a king ESPECIALLY if he treats her like a QUEEN and does right by her.

No sane woman would live in a filthy, nasty, dirty house with no interest in learning to cook for herself. That is true in itself...BUT no reasonable woman would clean and cook for herself but not her man..esp. if she plans on keeping him. Women need to stop acting like treating a man every now and then is the equivalent to submission and enslavement.

It's not always about "girls vs. boys". That game should be left in elementary school yards and not allowed in the home. Period.[/quote]Don't mind the person!

One of those foools that want to be put on a pedestal for doing absolutely nothing and having a miasmic personality to add to it.

The types that have nothing positive to add to a guy's life but yet think they are the real deal and a man should moronically attach himself to them for life.

I love fucktards like her. It gives me the licence to treat them like shyt and bone whatever I feel like before kicking them to the kerb.

Sleek05: Can't be more convinced that this thing escaped frm yaba left...off I go b4 I get bitten!

Is that where you live or your fiancee is there?

Shythead!

Osheshe: I'll quote myself from the previous post..."The ladies in question with this 'Ekaette Syndrome' are often times kept women, who rely on guys to pay their bills".

Sagamite, I put my money where my mouth is (or fingers as the case may be).

I grew up with 6 siblings...3 boys and 3 girls...but to my father, he had 7 children. There was no differentiating between the girls and the guys. We all took turn with chores around the house.

I washed cars and still do so. I change light bulbs. I fix faulty electronic equipment around my house. I am my own handy-man. I do my own heavy-lifting. When I'm on a date with 'him', I open my own side of car, tuck myself in and shut the door afterwards (this pisses him off to no small end).

I pay my bills, thank goodness. Do not get me wrong. I do not mean to come off as one who is proud. Most of the guys who have commented on this thread have equated these chores to material gain or seeking financial aid on the lady's part.

It is a personal decision. I can help out with chores when 'We' do them together. That way, its fun and not slavery.

We both have busy schedules...and yet we find time to handle personal hygiene. One thing I don't get is how a guy can expect his soon-to-be bride to wash his briefs and inner wears when if the tables were to be turned, same guy will turn up his nose and not reciprocate the gesture. Then it becomes a 'TABOO'!

Any guy that falls into this category is a hypocrite. Same goes for scrubbing bath tubs and mucking out toilets. How on earth will you allow your sanitary bowls to get so filthy? If it were to be a girl's, she will be tagged 'FILTHY' or something worse.

There's a clear distinction between an ADULT, an INVALID and an INFANT and clear-cut definitions on how they should be handled. How can a grown asss adult male behave like an invalid, or worse still an infant?

Okay, now you have added the omitted.

Now I can give you a full tick.

chamotex:

Why you dey laugh, brother mi?

Odunnu: Are we not meant to have the Jarus' update today?
Whatagwan?

Did this Sagamite say he was 18yrs 3years ago?

You no know say I am a baby ni?

[quote author=Efemena_xy]^^ He's actually 55 years old.

You know what they say about looks being deceiving and all that [/quote]That one na my great grand father age.

Grand father 42 but he is dead sha. Died of gonorrhea.

My Dad is 30 years old.

[quote author=*Kails*]@topic:

my opinion is and has always been this, if he brings home the bacon, he deserves a hot meal. If he works more than and harder than you, then it shouldn't be an issue to keep the house clean. We are living in "modern times" and in many relationships women are the bread winners. If the woman is working harder then her man, then he can cut her some slack and help out around the house sometimes.

It should be 50/50.[/quote]Well said, baby!

In short, I am planning to move to the States and we are heading to Vegas to tie it up.

Thank God we still have some sane women!

Osheshe:

Funny thread...and the responses are even more hilarious.

For starters, any 'man' who cannot clean up after himself, is nothing short of a PIG.

Some guys just have this GOD complex, like women were made to cater to their every need...

The poster asked a simple question. Why the insults? Plus he/she did not indicate their gender, male or female...yet some 'wise' men summarily concluded the poster just had to be female...

Some peeps do not like the truth, and whenever they come across threads like this that hit close to home; it bites 'em on the ar.ses and they call the poster and whoever dares to support the notion names. Defense mechanism I call it.

I am a woman. I am 'his' better half. I love to complement my man. I cook up a storm when he's hungry, while he helps out by dicing, slicing or cutting. I wash our clothes, and he presses them. He sweeps the floors, while I mop them. I wash and rinse the dishes, while he dries. We make the bed together.

Love is all about sharing. The good times, the bad times and even the work times. There is nothing, absolutely nothing right with the mentality of putting your feet up, while your supposed 'half' slaves away. All to prove she is diligent and can take care of a home?

The irony of this issue is that some guys expect their soon-to-be bride to prepare meals from her own pocket. This same set of guys are very adept at inviting their buddies over to visit, after which they proceed to devour everything edible within sight, and leave a pile of dishes for the dutiful lady to clean up.

Haba! That's just adding insult to injury. All of una wey dey sharp mouth for here, I can just bet the ladies in your lives (that is, if they even exist) dream of different ways to kill you, while you are asleep.

More so, the ladies in question with this 'Ekaette Syndrome' are often times 'kept women', who rely on guys to pay their bills.

Oya, watch and see. The guilty ones will be those with the itchy fingers to type all form of insults. What I've written above is simply MY OPINION and I am entitled to it. If you don't like it, kindly turn a blind eye and move on to the next thread!

All these is perfectly okay as long as you can practice what you preach in all respect (highlighted) and from the word go.

Lets hope you don't break the equality rule when it comes to your turn to sacrifice a privilege and then come with thrash like "that is what real men do", "but I am a woman now".

The thing there is I have never come across a woman that can, I am sure there are a tiny few that can but I have never come across them. They are just looking for a mugu.

If you want to practice equality, half and sharing then, by all means, do so with a man that likes that. But I doubt you would be happy with a total application of the philosophy. If you would, it would have reflected by putting the things you omitted in your post.

jennykadry: Saga is not there. I no vote

No min dem, dem no know wetin be segzy.

But, Christ, that dopejemi boy looks way too much like me when I was 18.

Fck me! There is a hard copy of my pix at that age (i.e. 3 years ago sha ) that is exactly a carbon copy.

Sleek05: Mondi pls stop joinin issues with dat thing. U shld know by now dat hez not feelin fyn, he'l just keep going round in circles and drag u 2 his level. Let him marry his maids, dey'l do d washin and cleanin with no excuse! I can't see a sane woman marryin d God_forsaken thing!

You are a person!

Moronic shyt! You think your miasmic arsse is what is marriable?

Later you will see the piece of shyt going to power pastor praying for the miracle of husband this year.

You must hate your future kids because it appears you intend and plan they will only see their different fathers at the weekends with the way you are going.

I pity the foool that puts a worthless slut like you at home and calls her "wife" in the first place. They only have themselves to blame.

[quote author=mondi_cheeks]check them for ursef then [/quote]Nah, just post the link.

[quote author=mondi_cheeks]let me summarise it...u r a lame ass ho [/quote]Post the links, you are not believable because as I said earlier you are a person that is delusional, illogical, uneducated and lacks ratiocination.

So your summarisation is not something that can be trusted.

[quote author=mondi_cheeks]u should see the comments women are posting abt u on Mr NL...[/quote]Entertain me.

Post the links.

[quote author=mondi_cheeks]I'm not the one who calls booty shaking for the whole world CLASSY and ELEGANT...now that's a person cupcake [/quote]Well show us you are not a person by showing how you ascribed that assertion to me, person!

Maybe it is the time to continue the assessment of your understanding of ratiocination.

Also did you not also call your father childish once?

[quote author=mondi_cheeks]u r a black man dissing black women, forgetting ur own momma is black intelligent indeed lmao[/quote]You are a person!

No 1, when people generalise does not mean it applies across the board.

No 2, when one talks about women, he is talking about modern day girls.

No 3, you cannot even boast you are like your momma?

[quote author=mondi_cheeks]I'm sure ur momma is a white woman [/quote]My momma is not in your class, she wouldn't even raise a girl like you.

I take it you are like your momma?

True2myself24: You are a little too passionate for this topic. Why do you feel the need to speak for all men? You're entitled to your opinions but speak for yourself. Btw are you even in a relationship, because you keep speaking in hypotheticals. You seem like one of those guys who feels intimidated by certain women so you have to put them down to make yourself feel better. What a waste of energy.

Abeg let me laugh for one minute!!!



Ah! Ye! Ye! Ye!

My belle o, my head o!



I find it incredibly amusing when women claim "intimidation" when men do not feel like standing for their rubbish or is not attracted to them.

E.g.

Black women: Black men are just intimidated by a strong black woman that is why they go for white girls.

NO! They are not attracted to your loud, trifling and vulgar personalities, not intimidated by it.

Is the use of "intimidated" suppose to publicly question my masculinity?

Cut the crap, girl! I am the King of psychology. YOU CANNOT BS SAGA! You do not have the intellect to even attempt it.

As per my relationship status, I have already stated that here.

https://www.nairaland.com/1083598/knowing-nairalanders-better-interviews/1#12945175

Digital: i wldnt do any chores. cos if things didnt work out eventually btw us, under which acct are we goin to put all the owrk done

And under what account do you want him to put all the money he spent on date night outs and valentine presents?

[quote author=mondi_cheeks]fact still remains u used the wrong word [/quote]Ooh! Really?

Is this the time to dig the heels in and do the Oshodi market woman "I no go gree o, you must kill me today"?

How is it the wrong word?

[quote author=mondi_cheeks]mr educated man, the right word wld have been 'rationalisation' not 'ratiocination' [/quote]Ms Uneducated, get your dictionary out and look for the meaning of the word "ratiocinate".

I know it is obvious the quality of my education is out of your league, so big words might be a challenge.

This is one of the reasons why I date only women miles above your league.

[quote author=*Kails*]

you don't have any sense!!
looool.[/quote]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yfJG1NchfzY

I am the God of Intelligence.

[quote author=mondi_cheeks]I don't hve the time, energy or ability to learn what U are...what u have revealled to me so far proves u are never worth the stress...u gossip like girl, ur idea of CLASSY is shaking naked butt for the camera and u like chasing what u clearly cant afford...there is nothing worth pleasing or appreciating abt u [/quote]You sure sound delusional, illogical, uneducated and like someone that lacks ratiocination if that is your summarisation of me.

[quote author=mondi_cheeks]if wishes were lamborghinis, everyone wld have one [/quote]You have to go and learn how to please a man before you understand and appreciate what I am.

Stop all these feminist shyt.

https://www.nairaland.com/942597/why-women-own-worst-enemies/13#13209893

The minute you realise your best chance of winning battle of the sexes is to learn how to please a man and ensure a harmonious relationship irrespective of your biological disavantages, the better for you.

[quote author=mondi_cheeks]says the oliver twist who wants to date women way out of his league [/quote]More like a Godly Lothario with no woman out of his league.

[quote author=mondi_cheeks]I will do something for his bday/christmas in return...if he can't look up after himself he can hire a maid or ask his mother to clean up his place[/quote]No 1, what I said was that "if you boyfriend refuses to celebrate Xmas, Valentine and your birthday". He has no interest in such, so if he is doing it, he is doing something he is not interested in to please. So why would he value your "do something for his bday/christmas in return". He is going to give you something you value highly and you are going to give him something of less to him?

No 2, that is why girls like you will always be shyt girlfriends. You have no or, at best, a warped concept of what a man wants. To females like you, it is not about what he wants, it is about what you think he should want. Horrible girlfriends not worth you even attempting to please, talkless of thinking of commiting to/staying with. Well guess what? He thinks you should not want to celebrate these nonsense days too and you should just be happy fcking but he still obliges.


As I said above:

"That is not for me and not to my benefit. When such is done it is for your benefit (YOU are the one that likes it) and don't ever think it is something I value and your "fantastic" contribution to my life.

Women should start learning what they should bring to the table that would actually be valued."

Fck your "do something for his bday/christmas in return". Most guys have no fcking interest in such things. Alpha males will tell girls like you to buy yourself a present or ask your mother to buy you one.

You would have made more sense if you had said: "I will give him the permission and blessing to shaggg any woman of his wish on his birthday or at Xmas". Then at least I can see some masculine-appeal value in your "return".

y me: The fact you make it sound like its just men that goes through this phase alone depicts how strong women really are (na only una sabi complain? )
I repeat when a man knows what he wants and sees a woman who matches those criteria and still decide to front and let ego (all in the name of being an aplha male) get the better part of him, La thunder La fire

*Arrange curves back into my sexy dress, nurrin for you*

Massage the ego and I will massage the curves.

[quote author=baby_123]KFC ke, tooo cheap. The smell of the place can land me in the hospital. Saga is a real Ijebu. KFC? Buhahahaha.[/quote]KFC restaurant?

E ma wo baby yi. Ko iti da mor. (Make una dey see this babe. She never recognise).

Best restuarant for awon gbogbo big boys.

[quote author=baby_123]@Coogar,
You miss how much Saga has fallen. He wants to take me out and do nice things. Saga is all mouth. He doesn't stand a chance fighting. He will go down. [/quote]Go down on you with the rod?

So you know it is inevitable?

[quote author=baby_123]hahahaha you are just trying to boost your friends ego. I can tell he is still hurting from previous clashes. Keep pushing him to enter one chance. His superiors o ti bolowo e. Na im mama go come call you to enter bush to release the son, dont worry. When she sees him washing paient. . 5,000 ko, one chance ni.[/quote]At least now I know not to eat anything you serve me because that would be your avenue of seducing me.

Mi o ni je efo e! (I no go chop your efo). We are going to KFC straight up!

[quote author=mondi_cheeks]considerate and doesn't do anything for my bday lmao[/quote]Oh, so you expect him to do something for your birthday but you do not feel inconsiderate refusing to do his domestic stuff?

[quote author=mondi_cheeks]I don't think a lifetime of faking orga.sms so that she can close her legs and go to sleep in peace wld be considered as "more to gain" [/quote]So why around the world are they the ones desperate for and the champions for marriage?

Sweetlemon: What I'm trying to explain here is that a man can still be a man no matter how much love he gives a woman. He can kiss her feet and @ the same time still let her know he's in charge. The guy I described in my 1st post treats me like a queen, spoils me rotten and could break the head of anyone who mistakenly steps on my feet. But he let's me know that he's in charge and that if I mess up, I'm on my own. That's what I'm trying to explain here

Good.

[quote author=baby_123]

Now that is just desperate. .

The possibility of me using it to blackmail him though will stop him in his tracks.

By the way, Saga's way of thinking = Too many clashes. .

The issue is he sees me as something he must conquer.

I dont know, maybe it will make him feel more manly. . I will gladly squash all attempts. [/quote]I see you as someone that wants me badly and hopes I pull down her pants and ravage her into ecstacy.

At least we see that you have come from "never" to "I am willing to negotiate, Sagababy".

shymexx: Lmao... That's what they all say, however, when they get ol'boy in the chokehold crying and acting like a wimp - it's a different thing entirely... Taking advantage in every situation we find ourselves in, is what makes us human - and everyone will take advantage when they're in the driver's seat...

Yep, never believe what a woman says, believe what she does.

I think what lemonade is trying to do there is to train a real man to develop the fortitude to need not protect himself and take all the risk. He should then move on and try again if burnt.

You be nice to her now and she would say "Awww! That is so sweet. Let us just be friends".

Nah! I respond to women based on my assessment of what I think they deserve. I minimise risk.

shymexx: That's definitely not a bad guy - just a decent bloke....

I probably do 90% of what's on that list and I'm definitely not a bad guy... Just an alpha male who can't be arsed...

How about woman beaters, rude, and abusive guys - what are you going to call them? Worse, or worst guys??

Some women like them!

Each person has their own personal standard of bad.

[quote author=to+by]and the most freakin thing's dat guys like you after bragging bout ur alpha ish in the open, you go undercover n weep, praying for change. And then after pokin around you become men of God mightily used. But the shameful thing is dat those you use n dump go on a revenge hunt. Its folly to brag about one's foolishness. Being a nice guy doesn't mean you'r a dk brain or a sisy. Ladies! I pity una cos na una go suffer d loss, guys have nothing to loose. Its either you keep ur sef, pray to God for what He created to compliment you or, get the devil's substitute.[/quote]I don't even need to answer you.

By the time people that know me read up to the bolded, they will concluded you are talking moronic crap.