This is utterly heartbreaking

Ejiod:

1. You are always trying to come down to her level since you are way ahead of her
2. Poor communication as you two are of different times/age
3. They mostly feel entitled and if not convert you to assistant daddy
4. 90% of them are damn immature.

Oh I guess u are much older than most undergraduates
Well I agree with the last point,most are immature when it comes to love

Grandmeister:

People like candace owens are fighting to change this narrative..they are saying the exact same thing you just typed..they are telling their people that victimhood will not change anything and that they have to come together and change that narrative through actively involving in policies that will better the lives of blacks in America and also to change the mindset of the youth involving in drugs and various crimes. How can a sane person be against that?

The first time I heard of Candace Owens it was on Nairaland were a person was abusing her for justifying racism and disrespecting GF,something like that.
I'm not surprised cos Nigerians are too sentimental

The same goes for women
Left for me I would like women to have the same opportunties as men and whatever they advocate for but then my opinion wouldn't change much and if over 90% of men have contrasting opinion what should women do,keep protesting and appealing to men to change their mind ? that could cause some change but it would be very slow. The best thing they can do is work on themselves, earn their rights,create the opportunities themselves,change the narrative themselves. Luckily you have a lot of men who share the same view too and unlike few centuries ago women are presented with similar opportunities as men to empower themselves.

Racism is similar too,rather than appealing and protesting blacks should develop themselves and whether whites like it or not we would come to that point where we can live our lives independently without them(white racists not all white whites).

I have this gtfo spirit,u can't just shake me down,who are you,because of skin colour,you racially abuse me it would get to me to an extent because I'm human but I won't have a low impression of myself because someone simply chooses to be a bigot and have a screwed and primitive perception of humans,hell no.
Blacks improve yourselves, that's the best way to fight racism

Grandmeister:

They never will because it goes against the narrative...

My point has been this
Racism exists we all know that but as it stands I think blacks should set their priorities,let's work on ourselves,speaking of black Americans if they want to leave themselves at the mercy of the whites then racism would still continue to affect them. If they should work harder,become more influential, get into important positions in government then they would change the narratives themselves whether white racists like it or not. Thankfully today to a great extent whites and blacks have equal educational opportunity so there is no excuse for not developing yourself,if black crime rates drop in America and black youths become more productive its 100 times better than carrying placards around and burning shops. Racists would still be racists whether we protest from now till forever

Grandmeister:

You know most of these guys were criminals? George went to jail 3 or 4 times..and the last one he was among armed robbers that broke into a pregnant woman's house and robbed her at gunpoint (infact George pointed the pistol to her protruding tummy!) you would have advocated for instant jungle justice were he a Nigerian...all of a sudden they've become martyrs because they died at the hand of a white cop?? Where was black lived matter when 40 black men were killed in a weekend in downtown Chicago? Infact it's a normal steady occurrence...the community hide these criminals (to avoid being called a snitch) and then wonder why they are in a constant run in with the police?

Nipsey hussle
Xxtentacion
Pop smoke
to mention but a few were murdered by fellow black people how many times have we seen Blacks protesting against Blacks killing Blacks ?

Ejiod:
4 things in relationship I can’t do: 1. Date an undergraduate 2. Date someone not smart 3. Date someone who knows no shit about computer. 4. Date broke gal

If u don't mind me asking sir,why won't u date an undergraduate ?

bereto:
I was initially interested in this BLM protest until I saw one of the placard that read 'White hate us because of our bid d*cks'

Blacks always showing their backwardness

On Tunde ednuts page abi ?

Trust me the things people are doing in the name of protesting u just shake ur head

codemaniacs:


For every person that "truly stand out" there are millions more that performed better.

most U.S companies are White owned, a white owned company will always have more white employees than blacks. same way a Yoruba owned company will have more Yorubas than any other ethnicity or an Igbo company will have more Igbos than any other ethnicity.

not everything is about standing out, its also about "people from your ethinicity" owning the companies so that they can choose who gets the job.

its human nature to put "people from your ethnicity" first and give them opportunities.

what a first class student can do, a second class upper student can also do it, same way a second class lower and third class can also do it.

If the second class lower student applies for a job in a company and the owner is the same ethnicity as 2nd class lower, that student has a higher chance of getting the job than the others..

Its simple then,they have options to chose from in other to change their situation
Hustle and own ur own companies so u can employ who u like
Protest and if u are able to prove ur injustice the necessary authorities would intervene

codemaniacs:


didn't I just quote you on something called black wall street...

its not about improving yourself, if you are killed by racist would your expensive shoes matter or would the title "professor" mean anything.

the protests and activism from B.As is what puts laws in place that benefits all black people in the U.S, all your achievements can be destroyed, the fact that you're even achieving is a threat to them and more reason for them to execute you.

B.As don't have their own country or region, they will always be at the mercy of wh:ite people no matter what they achieve...

can you find trees in a desert? the reason I'm asking its mainly about the color of your skin, you and the tree bear the same color while wh:ite people and the desert bear the same color.

the tree and its soil have melanin, if you take the tree and its soil to the desert that doesn't have melanin the tree will die off.

the hatred wh:ite people have for black people is due to the fact that they don't and can never have melanin so their main goal is to destroy off anything and anyone with melanin. what you call black skin is actually bronze skin and what you call wh:ite skin is actually pale skin.

wh:ite people are defects of black people, they are not natural to the earth. its in them to destroy their opposite version and its in black people to sustain their opposite version.

in summary, people without melanin need to have sex with people that have melanin so that they don't go extinct.

Murder is a problem all over the world,even John F Kennedy a one time POTUS was murdered,anyone can be murdered and of course we have psychos all around us so the solution to that is to put measures in place to restrict that to the nearest minimums,that is why u have gun laws being debated in the U.S.A right now
Moving on
You are right about protests being instrumental in making or changing laws but I don't see any law that says white cops can kill black people,the law states that as homicide and the offender is currently facing the law,the protests being made right now are for awareness and to some extent most black people have taken it as am avenue to cent their anger and while that would send a strong message across to the perpetrators that racism can not be condoned it doesn't end there we have our own roles to play and I feel we should focus a lot on that.
Blacks are a minority in America,Yes,but I don't think they are incapable of making a great impact,they would be at the mercies of others if they fail to develop themselves and reach their full potentials both on an individual level and as a race. If a research laboratory owned by a black american discovers the cure for corona virus he gets a patent and he gets tremendous control as long as the distribution and sales of the drug is concerned, do u know what that means,do u know the favours he can get,the you know the international diplomatic relationships he can build with that,do you know how powerful he would become,if we have Black americans doing extraordinary things they would not be at the mercy of others

the rest of ur post on melanin and the rest is a highly subjective opinion and I don't think I have to bother myself responding to that

The rest of ur post

codemaniacs:


this is the problem you fail to see and accept, you're right that racists don't spare "non-ethnic black Americans". but black Americans are not hired at the rate asians and other europeans are hired even though they have the same degree.

For example, lets say there is a Vacancy in COMPANY A, you as a Nigerian have an Msc. in computer science and a black american also has the same with professional certificates but you get the job, when you are filling your acceptance form you are going to tick the box that says "black" or "African American" since there will be no box that says Nigerian, this means that when U.S statistics comes out it says that COMPANY A has one "black" person or "African American" or "person of color" in its employees but you know you are a Nigerian, you have indirectly used the fact that you are also black to take what is meant to go to someone who is Black American by ethnicity while you're sending money back home and your family economic status has improved due to the job, the B.A is still searching for and competing with other black people from all over the world who are benefiting from disguising as B.A.

O:bama is not black American, he is a black person who took an opportunity that's meant for an ethnic black american.

I hope you understand what I mean.

Let me accept what you have said and let's assume the disparity in those classifications is as significant as u say and this reflects the current state of employment in the U.S now how can this be resolved.
If it is obvious that black Americans are being denied of deserving jobs because of their racial category as "black Americans" then they can raise such issue,protest if need be and get that settled or better in the congress,should that be a problem ?
We can't totally eliminate discrimination, it would crop op every now and them but I don't think that serious minded organizations would constantly reject African Americans who truly stand out above the other candidates for a job just because of the reason u pointed out,such organization would be shooting themselves in the foot,there is massive competition amongst american companies in every sector,everyone wants to be in Fortune500,if u excellent in what u do u would get a deserving job,it may not work for everybody but I don't think its as big an issue as u made it look

tot:


They don't understand the high level of intrigues and many other things happening behind the scenes. Naive folks. I'm done wasting time exchanging words with these guys.

The scenario he described in that post is not racism at best it is CAPITALISM. In a bid to make ur point u shouldn't include use Strawman arguments we are talking of racism and not exploitation besides what stops the Nigerian govt from developing our own refineries and being less dependent on foreign companies

codemaniacs:


You still don't understand.. didn't your parents hard work send you to school and get you to where you are today. when B.As built their own community in the early 1900s wh:ite people bombed the place over rumors that a wh:ite woman was raped there, go and read about black wall street or tulsa, Oprah did a movie on wh:ite people using B.As for experiments.

We are currently empowering ourselves but like the demon lugard said, "its better to use indirect rule to rule Africans". it's the job of African govts to put things in place but they are lackeys for the e:uropeans. private Africans are also doing their part, look at what Oyedepo did in Ogun and Kwara and other Africans building their communities.

There are no current legislations in the U.S.A that discriminates against black people,at least not that I know of and any act of violence that is racially motivated is well taken care of,because of social media everyone is careful,countries like America take human right seriously so any slight infringement especially when it involves a black person is takes seriously and I think sometimes its taken more serious than it should. So my point is that we don't live in the Klu Klux Klan era anymore,enough said.
Now racism still exists of course but the question is how do we tackle it,those protesting on the streets are just creating awareness on how serious it is but its not the solution,skinheads would still be skinheads. So we have to do our own parts and instead of just crying out that we are tired let's work on ourselves,let's protest against blacks killing blacks we can start from there,in the last lone of Kendrick Lamars song "the blacker the berry" he sang and I quote "....So why did I weep when Trayvon was in the street when gangbanging made me kill a n*gga blacker than me,hypocrite !" .
The best thing we can do for ourselves is to improve our societies, African Americans should also work towards improving their own society as well,racism would still be there but if I'm a black professor at M.I.T and a college dropout is calling me a monkey then that's his business why should I care when so many other white people think very highly of me and respect me,If I'm a successful artists selling millions of records why should I feel bad that a person who can't afford the shoes I wear thinks I'm lesser human than he is,when thousands of white people would pay hundreds of dollars to attend my music concerts.
There are black sheriffs,black Judges,black Mayors in the U.S.A the BAs have all it takes to deal with racism even if it is not fully eradicated and that's by being more productive,I could go on and on but in summary what I'm saying is protests on social media and on the street can't get us were we want to be,let's not put ourselves at the mercy of others,let's grab our freedom and respect by contributing to building our societies or wherever we find ourselves.Because of Mohammed Salah and the impact he has made playing at Liverpool so many English Liverpool fans are less Judgmental about Islam right now,imagine if you had more and more influential Muslims in the world contributing immensely to the growth and welfare of humanity,peoples view on Islam would gradually change,that's the approach we should take to racism,let's become more influential, that's the best way to win our freedom

codemaniacs:


he is not black American by ethnicity...

The difference u are trying to make is trivial
He is a black American that's the most important thing,do racists spare "non-ethnic black Americans"

I do agree with some of the points that Gwan2 made,nobody is happy that blacks suffer discrimination but then are protests the solution ?
If the racism continues despite the protest what are u going to do ?
The best way to tackle this is to empower ourselves
If we fail to improve ourselves starting from fixing our respective countries then we are at the mercy of the white men and this is the point,if we keep being at the mercy of white people then we are doomed,we have to improve ourselves, our community and the country at large and it starts with taking responsibility. You are sent to the University do u actually study to become the best or u just sort u way out,tomorrow u graduate and u want to earn millions but then what value can u give,u are giving am opportunity to serve as a leader maybe at the SUG level in ur school,what do u do with the money u get,u think when u become the governor u would turn a new leaf.

See let's put our priorities, let us look within,there is no reason why Africans can't stay in Africa, rather than typing black lives matter,no disrespects awareness is important but we need more than that
Respect is earned, that is the way the world works whether we like it or not

codemaniacs:


Black Americans (B.As) for tens of years didn't have the same privilege that at least West Africans had and some other African nations. privilege of been a governor, a president, a commissioner, attending universities, attending schools, of not been discriminated against ( both violent, psychological, mental etc), and so many other things Africans are doing .

Gwan2 made a foolish submission, the point tot, lagdmark, winosport e,t,c are trying to make is to let people like gwan2, fairheart and you stop behaving like you understand what B.As are going through...

Most of the time the B.As that are shown by the media. are those in poverty or bad economic situation, the same way they only show Africans and African babies with flies around them, any African who sees such knows that not all Africans live in squalor and flies around them same way most B.As know that they don't kill themselves that much like what fairheart thinks, wh:ite people sell drugs to themselves that makes their fellow wh:ite people die from overdose if fairheart doesn't classify that as wh:ite people killing themselves then there is something wrong with him.

O:bama been president is even a problem and you are not intelligent enough to see that O:bama is not a B.A he is the child of an African migrant. so no B.A has ever been president. B.As are marginalized.

Unlike the yoruba, igbos, hausa and fulanis, other Africans e.t.c who all have dedicated political appointments which in turn leads to political security. B.As don't have that kind of influence in U.S even the B.As or other black migrants in U.S political office must do everything not to be and sound too pro black, the same way African politicians are pro-tribe.

Is Obama black
YES
Is he an American
YES

check

Obama is a black American

anonymous1759:




If FIFA and UEFA wants to tackle racism they'll influence countries to make Racism a criminal offence. You what felony means in the west when it's on your record your life is almost useless ,professional jobs will be difficult to get and other better paid jobs .
But that can't happen because the main governing bodies are Racist . All these two moths ban they give players and fans are child's play.

FIFA and UEFA are in support of gay rights,do u think they can influence Nigeria to decriminalize homosexuality ?
FIFA and UEFA are football governing bodies they are limited when it comes to non football related issues
Fans who racially abuse footballers in the stadium are usually banned from entering the stadium for life,what else do u want them to do ?
Earlier this season Bernando Silva was engaging in a banter with Benjamin Mendy and his post was misinterpreted wasn't he handed a 3 match ban and fined for something totally innocuous
With players racially abusing fellow players it is usually hard to substantiate such accusations but if there is a case were such was clearly demonstrated and FIFA handled it with kid gloves please refer me to such incident

tot:


In today's world, boycotts are effective as a form of consumer activism at getting companies to do what the consumer wants regarding a specific issue. The aim is to inflict some economic loss on the target in order to compel the target to alter an objectionable behaviour, e.g. tax avoidance, animal testing. In the case of racism, not all whites are racist so a blanket approach can not be an effective method. With the exception of cases like the Montgomery Bus Boycott which was necessary based on the times then.

Well I think AJ got it wrong
Emotions are like fire it can be dangerous,his statement was malicious in my opinion, he shouldn't have gone that far,asking blacks not to patronise "their" businesses isn't that creating more division

tot:


Black people must do better, otherwise it's okay for them to be killed anyhow? Kontinu. And how about those that abide by the laws but still experience racism? Racism is beyond the covert killings, there are lots of subtle acts as well with many aspects of people's lives impacted. Promotions. School selections. Jobs. Interviews.

Anyway, it wasn't you I quoted so please stay out of it. When a person who has only travelled around and studied is making stupid generalizations about people's DAILY experiences, he needs to be called out. Simple.

What do u make of AJ imploring blacks to boycott white businesses ?

anonymous1759:





You nailed it bro Low self esteem is our biggest problem the west are very smart .what they're doing to foreigners is more like corporates social responsibility (csr) some people think these social Amenities is a big deal to them I laugh when I read comments. The only people I blame are the African leaders the world can never be balanced not all whites are Racist but majority of them are . The way Racism is handled by FIFA and Uefa you'll know racism is here to stay . The west being liberal to foreigners is another way of painting that goodwill picture but what they to stay in control is dirty.

Can u suggest better ways UEFA can handle racism ?

Collonn:


Hmmmm, looks like my girlfriend’s handwriting though. If it is, baby I’m not dull o. In fact over sharp Dey worry me cos I listen more and talk less. I’ve tried many times to bring you closer and be my best friend but you believe it’s not yet time for me to know you. Even sometimes if I ask her some personal questions that can make us talk deep but instead she it’s either she avoid the topic or even sometimes she put it straight to me that I can’t know those infos yet. That we’re not yet married ��. But she want to know everything even the unseen dust in my shoe. But if that’s you “AJK” which my instinct tell me it is: feel free to talk to me. Been waiting for a time like this. But if it’s not, except your mind is made up already. Fix your relationship woman. You already know where the fault is. Joke with him, play with him, drive in those faults with the joke, go sober and ask questions.

Op ur attention is needed

Ezemeiyogu:
@Op, this is simple.
Thinking, reasoning and speaking are all learnable processes. It only takes little effort to come by them if at the willingness is there.

Discuss this shortcoming in the most romantic way and most appropriate time. I believe that your man will be better in communicating what he already knows. Let him HV another reason to rejoice for ever meeting you apart from the ones he currently has - he learns from you!

Op listen to this fellow
Nobody is perfect
Talk about his flaws with him but the approach is the most important,if u take a mature or better still a romantic approach to it u would fix him and it relationship would be even more stable.
Let me assume he loves football,how about u start engaging him on that,even if u don't know any football star besides Kanu and Okocha let him do the talking,find out the things he likes and allow him express himself and even if it doesn't interest u just find a way to keep the conversation going.

TheSourcerer:
Salem17 hello

Hi

trutht828:


And that's why I will teach my daughter to watch her company, watch her dressing and watch her conducts.
I'll teach her not to try to play smart by dating two guys at the same time.

I'll make sure the raping is not her fault. Even if to happens after she has adapted to all my counsels, then it is not her fault and I'll seek justice for her.

And if it happens that she disobeys u and follows her friends to a birthday party wearing a "party dress" and she gets raped you would blame her and not go against the rapist abi ?

trutht828:


When a woman flaunts what should be kept private, that's sexual harassement.

And your right ends where mine is infringed

That is my point.
If it is sexual harassment like u said then sue her,that's the right thing to do
Don't u think that the punishment of a crime should be of the same magnitude or at least similar to the offense
So a woman dresses maybe to look sexy and just because of that u violate her and put her through trauma that could destroy her life and maybe even lead her to depression and suicide
Haba uncle
Are u saying that Boko Haram is right for bombing people because they are disgusted with foreign education,they consider it a sin worse than a woman exposing her body

trutht828:


Are you saying dressing decently is archaic?

How many times would I say this
If a woman is so indecently dressed it can be regarded as "indecent exposure" and she can be arrested,shikena
Nobody has the right to touch her body because she is dressed that way
Suggesting that rape victims invited the rapist by exposing themselves is an archaic mentality
I asked u if u would also blame people if they are robbed because they flaunt their wealth in he faces of others,what was ur response again ?

WORDWORLD:


Exactly. Meaning animal behavior shouldn't be use as a yardstick for judging what is right or wrong in human affairs.

Yes I agree

WORDWORLD:


Food for thought to those who use animal aberrant behavior to justify today's ABSURDITY especially human sexuality. You have grasps where am heading to.

The fact that animals do something only proves that it is not peculiar to humans alone,shikena
The question of its right or wrong has nothing to do with animals doing it

safarigirl:


You asked for pictures, I gave you pictures.

Do you know if they are daily norms for some of us on our streets?

When I was 14, there was a man that used to bath outside on my street. You would walk by his house and see his full butt and dangling dick. I am sure if it was you, you would have gone to rape him, because you no fit see yansh waka.

I have seen guys bathing naked in public places

trutht828:


People who got raped even though they are well dressed and never act provocatively deserve justice

But you, who dress provocatively, show yourself to be irresponsible and give yourself zero dignity. So, you shouldn't complain if you are treated the way you portray yourself.

It is what you call yourself that others will call you.

Man this ur line of reasoning is so so 15th centurish

WORDWORLD:


Your comprehension is above par that must be the reason you over- comprehended what I wrote. Do I support rape the answer is NO.

Do so called modern people today use bizarre animal sexuality to justify human 'sexualities' that were held as a crime in the past. The answer is YES.

THE DEEPER OUR WORLD IN THE MERE OF DECAY CALLED MORDERNITY THE MORE THINGS THAT USE TO BE LABEL AS A CRIME, ABSURD, WILL BECOME A NORM IN OUR SOCIETY USING ANIMAL BEHAVIOR AS JUSTIFICATION.

Animals practical cannibalism has humans used that to justify cannibalism ?

trutht828:


You can't compare wristwatch with a woman's unclothedness.

There is no ground for comparison

it's not a comparison per se,it's an analogy
my point is that if someone flaunts something they own before u its not a justification for u to take it without the persons consent