UyaiIncomparabl: When the desirable is not available, the available becomes the choice.
"The way the love developed overnight is still a mystery to me but I do."
Las las .....
'He's not my spec' is for girls that are still at their prime. Know this and Know peace
Once age advances, 'specifications' runs outta window and you know what? The unfortunate niggah will most likely treat them better than the supposed spec
Nice men always tend to 'understand' even when they shouldn't. I saw in another thread where one nice man said he always call his girl to settle whatever misunderstanding they have irrespective of who is at fault. That's a true nice man there! He will be served sooner or later..
Number 1 rule of dating women... Never make her know that you can't do without her even if you can't. Love to a limit.
It doesn't guarantee that you won't be served bfast but it will keep her in check.
My longest relationship so far has been with a girl I treated anyhow. They're confused lots. Man up and see her submit! Even if you have money but remain a nice man, your funds will be used to bankroll a real man. Stop the pussy worshipping! MAN the eff UP y'all, will ya?
ContinentalBwoy: Dear Nairalanders, permit me to join forces in asking ladies (confused gender) "what do you seek in a potential mate?".
This is my Love Relationship Story.
I met her online, immediately, we clicked and the vibes was madt. We started dating, we started good. She was below my spec but I strongly believe in growth. I took the pain to grow her up. I came into her life, changed a lot, encouraged and was strong-willed to see her become a better version of herself - responsible and mature. Though Spiritually weak, I encourage and supported her, giving her smart advice to grow her business. Her family members came to love and appreciate me, signing my praises.
Moreso, I encouraged her to study/read personal development books, provided good books but her reply "books no be my thing". I was supportive financially, emotionally, intelligently et al. I became her strength and column (pillar).
She met a Young Man who's spiritually-minded, intelligent, calculative, hard/smart working, knowledgeable, productive, honest, supportive, creative, understanding, kind, confident, good dressing sense, clean, ambitious, goal/vision oriented, a good paying job. She called me answer to her prayer for a perfect man.
The problem.
Constantly, we were having issues upon issues, I accused her of cheating, not paying attention to the needs of the relationship. She spends 23/24hrs on social media (FB Messenger, WhatsApp and TikTok). On several occasions, I cautioned and complained, but my complaints resulted from issues to issues. I sat her down on many occasions, advised her on the need to be a woman rather than a girl.
She's good with words but not a doer of her words. She keeps account and memories of misunderstanding. After settling issues, she records and safe-keep issues in her memory. During misunderstanding, she calls my family members to report and complain, rather than call me to settle issues. She rubbish me before her family members (she get first class for that one), while I sing her praises to my family members. I don correct her tire, but no way. Na a norm to her.
The Breakfast.
Nairalanders, on a Sunday Sunny Afternoon, while encouraging her to be positive rather than be negative, she served me breakfast, highlighting that we aren't compatible. See mind
I'm an introvert, she's an extrovert. She light up my quiet life, she was the spark of the relationship.
Immediately after the breakup, she was in another relationship. Thus, I was right when I told her she was cheating on me. She made TikTok videos, dancing and was uploading via status.
Guess who she's dating? For breakup wey never reach 3weeks? Someone I was far better than, someone who isn't above me in any ramification. Actually, she was Double Dating.
Remember, I wasn't perfect, I had my own flaws.
Ladies, what do you want in a man?
You were a nice man. Be a good man and not a nice man!
Nice men are always left heartbroken. I said, ALWAYS!!
In your next relationship, take lessons learned in this.
Tallesty1: I didn't say I always call her did I? Variety is the spice of life chief, do what works for you while I do mine.
No matter how much you claim to know, you have ex that dumped and you've ex that you dumped, tells you that no one is an expert in this thing.
If we have a misunderstanding, I call her to apologize if I am wrong or to let her know that she's wrong. She does the same and it works for us.
Do you and let me do me. Alright?
No relationship has happy ending, even if you marry, you may still divorce and if you don't divorce, one of you will die first and leave the other in pains.
No happy ending.
Do what works for you.
Nobody knows it best
You don't know me.
You don't know her.
So you don't know enough to have an opinion.
I resolve conflicts as fast as in can, even among friends. I tell you your fvck and let it slide instead of not being in talking terms because of something that can be resolved easily through communication.
Tallesty1: You and your girlfriend not talking at the moment?
How do you guys do this?
Omo, if I and my lady are having a misunderstanding, the highest I can give her to calm down is an hr and I will call to sort it out.
Makes no matter who is at fault.
Stop indulging that girl you call yours. Apologise when you're wrong but when she is, let her put efforts in making this work.
Why will you always call her when you're having misunderstanding irrespective of who is at fault? You people don't learn. Well you're gonna learn sooner or later. Let people take responsibilities for their actions. What kind of men are we grooming these days?
One thing with girls is that they read minds. If you're a mumu man they will easily detect it and use it to the fullest. If you're not, they will watch it and act accordingly.
The girl in question knows that this op is a mumu man. That's why she's coming back to manipulate him the 2nd time
Pls do one for my hometown, Abba in Njikoka Local Government. We need to see the sights and sounds of the great village that produced Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie and of course yours sincerely, the great Samakus
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I had A in Igbo language in my WAEC. The payments is a little bit on the low side