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SILENTandSMART2:
Shit happens,

OP how did you feel after writing shit ?

Sixfeetbelle:
Different people with different priorities.

I think the issue here is deciding what's more important to you. I guess you can say I've realised there's something like vanity and I've decided to just find contentment in whatever steps I get to in life.

Chiquitq:
when I was still living with my legally married ex husband, we may not be intimate for up to five months in a row. He was so manipulative and sought every opportunity to control to the extent that if he sees that I enjoy it, he stops giving it to you pleasurably. if you show that you need it, it is another reason to abstain from you. It got to a point that I resented him so much that I stopped enjoying sex totally because he was out rightly unfaithful and mentally and physically abusive. Whenever he insists, I had to use a lubricant because he could not make me wet. I did not share this with anyone because they may think I'm the cause of his bad behaviour. it's been over six years since I left him and I've been totally celebate since then. I'm not being
faithful to him at all but I can't just imagine a man thinking sex is a weapon to control me. I don't use toys and I don't masturbate. Sex is mostly psychological or I'm probably too broken or distracted to try again ...

cooooooks:
Everything is wrong and disgusting to you.

Sixfeetbelle:
Chim ooh! Local girl is tired. Ole ihe bu ihe nkaa?

The Genesis of the matter.

I just finished watching a romantic movie and I've been sighing longingly for over an hour. What is in this "love" that people are falling into everyday yet I've been unlucky in finding that place? And although I hear people say "there's no love in Nigeria", I can't help but doubt them when I see my timelines on Facebook. Wedding every Saturday, love in the air. Or is there own feem trick?. Does love segregate?

What pushed me to write this thread?

I just realised that as old as I am, I've never been in love before and I'm suddenly coming to the unpalatable conclusion that at the rate I'm going, falling in love may never happen to me (wails uncontrollably). I want to love somebody's son and I want somebody's son to love me back. Is it hard to do?

There was a time I thought I knew how to achieve this feat but conditions are not favoring my initial plans of travelling abroad, doing a whirlwind romance and falling in love like they portray that they do over there, so I've decided to cut my coat according to my cloth, literally, and just do the type practiced here. So early this year, I made a research (Aproko) on how best to achieve this and voila: Nairaland Romance section popped up in brilliant hues.

Romance-land and the word "love"

But contrary to my expectations, romanceland has failed woefully in trying to help me attain this goal (these peeps here don't know what love is). With their incessant need to discuss on repetition topics ranging from preeks and kitten to redpill and feminism, even broke guys and entitled ladies all day long, I've found it hard to actually pinpoint a topic/thread that centers/teaches on love and how to fall in it. Thus asking, should I consult another section and try my luck over there? Maybe politics section? Those guys over there "sound" vicious enough and since the violent taketh it by force...

What I need?

So I've taken it upon myself to make the necessary clarion call on behalf of all the single people like me who has never been in love before, and for those who wish to experience it again to get the directions they need. As I am ignorant about how to go about falling in love, I'd implore those with expertise to help us with plentiful knowledge on the matter so that we can all learn and apply it.

Specifically, I need clarification on: where the entrance called "love" is located so I can go and fall inside or is that it is no longer accepting applications at this time? Has the door of love finally closed?



Thank you.


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Silentgroper:
y do u two have d same signature?

Thugnificent:
That's true but gangstalicious later proved himself not gay.

Thugnificent:
Same here bro. I prefer it to South Park

nwaezeemmanuel:
Depends on who is wearing it.

Some wear it for protection, to cover up their nipples or the whole breast from being too showy - especially if they have big pairs.

Some just need the support and lift to give a decent cleavage - reason for push-up bras.

All the same, it is the woman's choice to make in the end.

Thugnificent:
Dead music career so he went back to robbing. Currently incacerated in state prison lol. So you a fan of boondocks. Nice

Thugnificent:
Dead music career so he went back to robbing. Currently incacerated in state prison lol. So you a fan of boondocks. Nice

Thugnificent:
I just noticed the latest trend. Many girls no longer wear bra this days. Is it for fashion or what exactly. ??

nwaezeemmanuel:
Does it look like i generalise in my comments?!

Nothing nwaezeemmanuel no go see for Nairaland

Charleys:
Most ladies put money in their bra, I want to know why?
The breast is a private party. Men have only one?

Will you be happy if you went to buy something from a man and he puts his hands in his boxers to give you change?

Have you been molested before, it's very hard to molest a market woman in the market and get all her money from her, it's rare. So intimidation is out of the way.

So why do you put money in your bra?

Younger women are also not left out.

The bigger the breast, the more money in it and the more a man needs to squeeze it to spray out the money.

My research shows that a purse will be outdated in a few years due to the bra holding all the money. So why do you hold a purse when all the money is in ya breast? We need to ask these questions.

I need explanation.

Petyprincess:
Wow!! Marriages like that usually end in divorce.
When sex in marriage is used to manipulative tool it doesn't end well.

Powerfly:
no be lie.

Sawzer:
We need more unbiased females on Nairaland. Way to go!

Psych412:
I'm a lady too

I won't lie, my mom do that sometimes


when I was a kid, I have seen and heard were my dad complains alot about my mom punishing/starving him sex.



some women find joy in doing that.

Psych412:
most everything be related with "house chores"


there are women who enjoy starving/punishing there husband with sex.


I have an aunt who gist my mother how she deprives her husband sex anytime she gets angry (either with her husband or any other person).


sometimes, she always love how her husband begs for sex(it makes her feel on top).


most women in Nigeria destroyed thier marriage with thier hands.

soon they will be claiming victim on social media

WrittyWritter:
I pity d man dat will marry u..so u can't buy ur husband a gift.. ..

virginprincess:
Hmmm like seriously, nowadays men do take good women for granted.

Zzor:
Why would you buy a man gift? who does that? that means she's promoting roles switching

Zzor:
It is only masculine men that are head of families ooo and not the one's that share bills with their wives

Zzor:
No good wife spends on her husband, she's going against God if she does that

virginprincess:
https:// www nairaland. com/why majority of men delay in getting married nowadays.

virginprincess:
This was what i meant initially, you guys just misunderstood me.