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Because the men are having sex with them. That's why. Unless you prescribe that the men should start sleeping with themselves or animals.

IfeLuvely:
I cannot remember the last time I logged onto naira land but on seeing this topic I just had to. OP i am a married lady too and I have been something similar. I used to call my parents in law a lot before but eventually my FIL started causing arguments between I and hubby, when I saw this I stopped calling him, then he started saying I don't call him because I hate him, my hubby does not call my parents but not once has my father ever complained about it when my mum complains I just beg her not to be annoyed. Anything they do now that angers me I just IGNORE... whatever people sow they will reap... Some family love each other and are close, some don't! If your husband and his people does not respect your family, leave them, ignore it... You do ur best for the family you came from but always remember that your children are your top priority. @horsemouth it is very clear you are a misogynistic person but don't worry your pickin will grow too what comes around goes around! And please people stop saying men are like babies treat them with respect love etc... Babies do not need respect to survive, they need love and food and shelter. [size=18pt]respect is reciprocal any man that is not ready to respect his wife and demands respect because he feels he is like a baby should darn well stay in his parents house and be treated as such till mature enough to marry...[/size] My dear just ignore ignore ignore what his family does... Infact don't let them call your mum they are not the one feeding her... I don't wanna type too much but some in laws are like that but you are not perfect either hence you have to I will say it again IGNORE

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Horsesmouth:
I am sure you are a yoruba woman with your skewed judgement of another yoruba womans nonsense story.

Have you heard the husbands side?

anyway, i dont blame you, i blame the husband dat married the yoruba woman. He is in trouble he doesnt know yet.

you're irritatingly despicable

They are always more interested in blaming the woman that they lose common sense in the process.

yetseyi:
I have always said nairalanders are never realistic


What kind of grudge did they have against her parents that even at her dads death they still couldn't forgive and at least call to commiserate with her mum.

Even if they have been quarelling at least not to the point of the death of the dad now.

What kind of family is that.

Who among us here will be happy that his/her in-laws refuse to call his/her mum to at least greet her about the death of his/her dad simply because the dead person and his wife didn't call them at some point when they almost had an accident when coming back from their sons wedding.


Do they hold grudges against a dead man or am I the only one reading that part of the story?

Op needs to be concerned, she should be worried, what kind of value system does that family have.


The elder brother even came and saw the bereaved woman and didn't even greet her, if not for anything at least for the death of her husband.

What if the wives family also decides to hold a grudge against the hubby that if he had driven him home and not at the bustop he may not have died at that time.

What kind of people behave like this, there's something wrong somewhere, even if there is a bigger issue, you dont quarell with people even in death or their time of mourning - at least where I come from.

I feel its quite immature to behave this way.

You should be concerned about that family really concerned and pray too.

Really?
So the girl and her family don't deserve to be respected in turn? Did you hear that respect is reciprocal?

Hey they married each other. And both families should treat each other with respect. Stop typing stupid sh*t.

You mean African traditon is meant for idi*ts? Since the basic concept of reciprocal treatment is lost on you .

Horsesmouth:
From where Im standing you are a control freak and you display over domineering tendencies.

Your husband married you, you didnt marry him. He married you, and not your father and mother.
By African traditions, your family should respect him and his family and not the other way around.

From where i am standing he may be igbo whie you are yoruba, so cultural differences are expected. Every marriage is full of odd controversies here n there.

veave:
I ga adi.



Imagine. I do not support your husband talking down at you infront of his mum. But you sound disrespectful and troublesome. Work on yourself first. Every other thing would sorrt itself out.



But wait oh.... How come the mama did not remeember to come to lagos until her son got married? Both of you are actually two troublesome and jobless people. Let the both of you start business. She sells food stuff while you sell something else. That way you both will be too busy to chck who look me bad eye and who no greet me

@highlighted that's Nigerian marriage for you. A man will be single for 30yrs-40yrs and all his relatives will be happy wherever they are. Until he gets married. Then something comes over them. They want to come and live with him. Brother, sister, mother etc. just in a bid to make the wife uncomfortable

Your mother-in-law obviously wants to start living with your guys permanently. All those talk of how she doesn't want anyone in her son's house (as if its not your house too) and how her son abandoned her in the village shows that she regards you as an outsider who is benefiting from her son and she doesn't like it.

I wonder why some women don't marry their children if they can't stand to see another woman marry him. She's clearly troublesome. You have to get a job. Don't let him hold you back. Get something doing and then get help to take care of your baby while you work or trade or whatever. But the clear solution is that you need to be independent. That's one of the reasons why she is that attitude towards you. In her opinion you're feeding from her son and that makes you a low life. Else why would she think she has an opinion on who comes to live in the house when she's a visitor too.

don't get involved in petty exchange with her. When she starts complaining about how she lives in the village, turn up the TV or walk away. If you know your husband will back her up when she does something, then stop complaining to him. Handle things yourself. And don't give her face or room to start petty quibbles with you.

Taa mechieonu. All these annoying holy pass folks

jireh250:
Hmmm, I couldn't help but smile while reading the numerous comments against the pastor's advice, reminding me of the scripture that says broad is the road that leads to destruction and narrow is the way that leads to salvation. I bet majority against the pastor's advice will curse the day a brewery was built when his/her 18 year old daughter crosses her legs in their sitting room with only one and a half bottle of Star and argues thus:"Daddy/Mummy, see I'm not drunk, in fact I can tell the color of your cloth"
Even in Islamic Accounting/Banking, alcoholic businesses (tagged Haram) are not to be given loans, how much more Christians deliberating on this.
There is the logic that malt drinks are also produced there...I almost fell for it. See, the devil is very subtle...who amongst us here with his/her natural IQ is more intelligent than Eve or the serpent?
If your friend is a true Christian, he should prove God by not taking the job. Or is God wicked not to come sure for him knowing that he "foolishly" rejected the job for His name sake? It's a difficult decision especially with the family factor, but let him prove God. In fact, he should not have applied in the 1st place.

Tell your friend I said he's stupid. No advice for him.

revolt:
but its her duty to keep the kids right? Enjoy their presence while he's lonely and just an atm machine. You ppl r funny. Whoever decides to keep the kids will naturally spend more. That's why seperation is bad. She should have even left one or two with the man sef.

if you guys knew anything about child care then we would start talking. Give him underage kids so that he can go dump them them with the new woman in his life or maybe his mother. People who won't take care of the kids like their own. Besides what makes he think he even wanted them in the first place?

PUSIDRILA:
Like JayZ and some of him paddies, DJ Khaled and him paddies, RKelly and him PaDdies,

Infact na free for all Amerika!!!

Chai Tbeanz your Toto don be OPP.

you guys know you're disgusting right? I mean it's not just me feeling that way. You obviously have to know it right? You can't see a woman doing well without trying to sexually degrade her. What's wrong with y'all? Is it that bad? Your inbred stupidity?

Raydos:
Dj Khaleed Go Don Reach Her Promise Land - Because Tiwa Sawage Like Sex Than Food ... Naughty Girl

as usual. Nigerian ashole

Hustlerlomo:
This is what she has been looking for, that was while she could not handle her home. Rubbish

enemy of progress.

Phantomstranger:
Read wat u typed n ask ursef this question......"am i making sense"
i think you'll find your answer is NO

you're the one who needs sense.

If it's okay for men to have sex and at the same time condemnable for women to do same, that means women have to remain chaste while men fvck themselves and domestic animals.

You people trade your brains for fried noodles when you support sexims against women. Because yes it isn't based on common sense. Dunce

checkengine:
It all depends on the circumstances surrounding their separation and what transpired thereafter. Do they have a good relationship after the separation or a soured one? Her response to these questions will help to understand what is behind the man's actions.

there's nothing to understand. As long as the kids are his, no matter what happened between him and his ex, it is his duty to contribute to their welfare.

nickxtra:
In this case, she is not bleeding and when she is in her period, i am always in the Know. Secondly, am not a control freak, but atleast i am not a weakling and i think i should keep certain level of authority over her, without prejudice to her freedom.

Mtchew. Iberibe

Buy your own sponge

Your son is cute

The same men of your mother's age group don't respect her. To them she's a cheap lady too.

Gaddafithe2nd:
After my mother, I don't respect any lady again. With what am experiencing during my service. Cheap ladies are many out there. Even the religious ones aren't left out.

Then men should start having sex with animals or themselves. Since the women are doing wrong by agreeing to have sex with them.

You sexist chauvinist prigs.

Phantomstranger:
This gender equality ting is getting sooo boring...Nigerians should pls face their culture n stop behaving like the west..reason why africa has lost its identity....

Women should stop believing that society takes the same stands on women avin sex n men doin the same...it is not

in summary......"A key that opens plentry doors is called a master key..."
"A door that is open by plenty keys is called a ..........

pls fill in the gaps.

Agreed. They are ediots

NobleG1:
I like strong women who don't take sh*it from id*iots!

me too.
If only more of them enduring trash because of religious and traditional brainwashing will stand up and walk out on fools like him, then maybe they will be respected some more.

paix:
But African tradition allows him to marry more than one wife.

does that make it right?

You mean as an ediot?

farihafaheemah:
What's this one saying? As an African man he can marry as many, as a Muslim he's entitle to marry 4 wife's if he has financial capability and can do justice among them. Pls face reality and stop ignorant

Nigeria is a useless country. Who doesn't know that?

Shameless

searchiing4love:
Palestinians deserve their own country because of the injustice melted out to them by Israel. They have suffered enough and we support their quest for self determination. Same Cannot be said of the igbos who have benefited from the unity of Nigeria more than other tribes. They are the most traveled tribe doing businesses in every part of the country. Igbo's are not persecuted like the Palestinians so what do you people need biafra for? Nnamdi kanu only came to mislead you people out of hatred and cheer irresponsibility and I'm glad he's rotting in jail while the Biafran agitations die rapidly. Biafra will never come. One nigeria we shall remain

Shut up

Biodun37:
is the situation in Palestinian - Israeli crisis comparable to that of Nigeria? this hopeless people will not stop amazing one. When your kinsmen participate in every government of the day & your region is getting the largest share of proceeds you claim only your land produce even when fed agencies are created & well founded to cater for the needs of your area alone, is this the same situation on middle East crisis? wether u like it or not Palestine will get her independent insah Allah.

They are simply disgusting shameless hypocrites. Every single one of them.

nonaira:
So the North actually fucking know this. So they actually KNOW THIS yet they have been forcing everyone and even killing anyone that wants out of that shithole they call Nigeria. So they know marriage is Not by force.

The hypocrisy of those things is just amazing. I've never seen a bigger hypocrite.



You do...you could have fooled us.
When it comes to biafra....they are loudly against it..screeching "one nigeria" everywhere.
When it comes to Lower Niger Congress.....they are loudly against it..screeching "one nigeria" everywhere.
When it comes to ND republic....they are loudly against it..screeching "one nigeria" everywhere.
When it comes to palestine.....they are all for it and even condemn GEJ for not supporting it. Instantly, they understand the human being constitutional rights and UN resolution.

I wonder what changed, oh yeah that's right....one is by muslim while the rest are infidels

Maga

We thank god for you

True

So Na basketmouth go find the guy trouble?

chronique:
If his sack had to do with basketmouth's issue,I think the management of coolFm got it wrong. If it has to do with work related issues,no biggie. Posting a pic of a lady you once dated to shade someone you have issues with,who is currently married to that ex of yours,is quite childish and unnecessary. If an artiste did that,people wouldn't bother so much cos hip-hop as a genre of music,has its own way of making people do stupid things just to brag and make a point. However,that's not something OAPs should be doing. Basket mouth too should learn how to crack jokes with sense and stop acting his name. The moment made a joke out of freeze's domestic violence isht he had with his wife then,he lost it. Some things are too senstive to crack jokes with and I guess freeze just gave basketmouth a dose of his own medicine. Point to everyone: "never make a joke out of people's intimate relationships".

Good for his bleached ass. Kiss and tell motherfvcker.