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Jaybaby,

Interesting signature, where did you get that data -- 80%.


Back to the topic:


honey, I love you

Yes it matters to love someone that I am going to marry because loving means everlasting and I must love her before saying "I do." I want to be with someone that I will respect, admire, love and have self confident then I know I can wakeup day-in day-out without thinking about other babes period.

If she carries just one condoms I probably won't worry about it but if she carries lots of condom then I will ask her first before I make any conclusion. So my answer is yes it is okay to carry one not the whole groceries store in her wallet,

Hey buddy you didn't hate her if you fall in love for her. No matter what you say that wasn't hate but a discomfort and finally you get over it. Hate is a strong word to use for one another but then I don't know you so I won't judge you,

I honestly believe women are looking for (1) a honest man (2) guy who has good sense of humor (3) respectable man; meaning someone who is loveable and RESPECT women (4) someone who is fun to be with (5) I dis-taste the use of the word "God fearing," rather I like using the word "christian," oh, please don't get the idea that if you go to church that makes you a christian, not in my book, however, a christian is someone who tries to keep MOST if not all God's commandments and God's teaching,

Cathian:
Segun,

If you get this, I have to ask you something but, I don't want to post it. Can you e-mail me, Cathian64@aol.com. I need some advise and don't know who to ask.

Thanks,

Cathy

Hi Cathy,

I have mailed something to you through my email address. Hope to hear from you then,

It doesn't matter what age you get married, what matters most is: are you ready to get married; meaning have you fulfilled some of your dreams may it be education, employment, vacation such as places to visit. Don't let anyone pressure you in getting married, those people who are encouraging you will not be there for you during the raining days, yes there is going to be a raining day because that is part of maturity and overcoming adversity makes you a mature lady.

So you are 26, look at the most successful lady on TV - Oprah Winfield who is older than you, does she cares how people feel about her not married, perhaps or perhaps not, but it seems to me that she is happy in the way that she is at the present moment even when everyone question her independence. Please take your time if you have to, but planning is the most important aspect of marriage, Good luck.

Blow her a kiss,

I dedicate this song to Oracle --- "Its my prerogative" by Bobby Brown,

naijafan:
Best answer ever!

How can you say that was the best answer ever, when you know in fact that all humans lie to their teeth biko.

Sista,

How is Oakland these days? I used to live there when I was in Berkeley schooling. Take care,

nostrings,

My advice is for you to educate your folks by telling them how much you care for this person and that you don't want to live in their past. I remember when I mentioned to my mother being from a yoruba culture that I was dating a white lady in the US and I was going to marry her, boy, I wish I was there to take a picture of her reaction because my younger brother called me up and told me what had happenned when I called, he said it was as if tornado hit the whole house.

You see our parents are still living in the past and it is up to each individual to make them realize that relationship today is not like it used to be. Tell her how much you are received by your partner's family; how warmth they are and that you will like for them to understand him/her before judging, Good luck. Sorry I didn't know your gender.

sweetlove,

The ladies here have given you what it takes to attract the girl you want. Please listen to them I agree 100% with all their responses and yes they are women isn't that what you are asking for, women rating the question you asked, Best of luck buddy, Remember beauty is in the eye of beholder!!!!

naijacutee,

Here is my honest opinion for what its worth, I will basically confront him with the problem that you both have unless of course if he is a violent guy then I will write a letter to him and then meet in a public place where there are lots of guys around that can offer assistance, heck I wish I am in that proximity I will kick his ass, okay non-violence.

It is best to be honest to yourself because if you continue to go with him knowing what you know now you will hate yourself in the future and yes your relationship might end up being that of abusive one, so my opinion is to confront right away instead of delaying it. God help you,

No ladies you guys are all wrong, what it tells me is that baby_girl must be a big mouth and he wants to make sure that their relationship can go forward before he tells people. Most women [not all] have loud mouth and gossip period.

Internet dating is not the proper way to get someone because most internet dating failed before it hits the ground but then there are cases where it works. Just don't depend on internet period because most are fake.

Why are we [Nigerians] romantically challenged? First of all it is true that we WERE romantically challenged because romance wasn't taught in most family homes growing up in Nigeria, futhermore, most of us which includes me didn't witness what romance was between my folks. Since we live by example there was no example for most of us to emulate, also, most school in Nigeria when I was there didn't teach anything remotely related to romance.

However, most of our younger generation are far more advance in that field, credit goes to technology such as TV and the availability of computers in our motherland and I for one I am greatful. Yes, there is romance with Nigerians now and I for one was a witness when I was home recently.