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@koko, I truly agree with your defintion of beauty; to me it is what is in her heart and not the appearance,

a phone call saying "I love you."

@coco,

I am 100% in agreement with you when you said everyone has the potential to lie and yes we all do lie in one form or the other. Now, it depend on the level of lies; white lies, we all do that just to defend our ego and the ability to think that we are right all the time.

Women lie to men as well as men lie to women, however, when you are in relationship with someone and you lie then it is a sign that you are cheating on your partner. Again, the same goes on both ways,

@koko, why do you call that case another man's remnant? As a lady you should know better, love is all about caring for someone without any time limit, therefore, as a lady you should be able to sympathize to her saga.

Yes, she went abroad to marry someone for one reason or another but when she called him on the phone it was the love that both shared that makes her call and no matter how you people feel she couldn't help herself but to face her past her love. Also, do you know what it takes for her to call him and confront him with her problems? It took a lot of gut!

Yes, I will marry her because of what they feel for each other and if he still loves her then he has the best wishes any man can go through. Now back to your title "remnant," meaning used good or unwanted good; but who told you that she is a used good or unwanted lady?

Sorry, I just hate the way we use words for ladies because I have a sister and if she was in this situation I won't want anyone to call her a remnant, I hope I didn't offend anyone. Just my thoughts.

acidrop,


I hear you well well. I hope no vex sha, thanks for explanation, it helps,

iice,

Thanks, you get my drift, it must be for a good cause and I will say yes ASK him,

flirtychic:
Hello you all, a friend is pregnant and want to go for an abortion, she can't keep the baby due to her religious backgrounds, she needs help on self medication about how to get rid of the pregnant without going to the clinic or hospital.please, you all, which way to go?

Flirtychic, what is done is done, you mentioned that she wanted to go for abortion but her religion does not allow her to follow through, am I correct? If so, here is my advice as a Christian who follow the preaching of God. First, is to know how she gets pregnant, was the pregnancy planned between her and her boyfriend? I mean was condom used. If so, then it was a mistake and even Jesus will understand and forgive you for your sins. However, if it was planned and she still want to abort the baby, then she must pray to God so hard and at the end he will forgive her as he forgave all of us human.

Self medication is not a solution because the fetus in her is human and an medication will be devastating to her and to her unborn child which is simply a sin in the eye of our Father. My advice for you is to pray with your friend so she can make the right choice and stick with her regardless of her choice and pray more for her. Good luck and God bless.

After reading some of the post here I hope some of the guys here have sisters so they can relate to women rather that sex as the use for services. Anyway, I thought about one more thing and that is why is she contemplating asking him for money in the first place? Think about it!!!!

I am a little bit baffled by some comments here, why are we worried about the number of race that are on this thread. You are to offer your honest opinion and if you have nothing to offer sensibly then move on otherwise relate your experience as I did above with some level of intelligence period.

I am looking for Yinka Ayefele's email address or his contact number so I can book him for my occassion next year. Can someone please direct me as to how to get hold of him please,

The whole story from start tells me that their marriage had some problem from start. If both love each other and respect each other it doesn't matter if which one goes to a party while the other one stays home but when you have a shakey marriage then all what you describe is not new. My advice is for all to marry someone you can trust period.

Thank you Dr. Radiant, Na wa ooo.

Okay I need to know from all people in the house what you count as beauty, is it physical appearance or her inner most thoughts, please ladies and gents let me know what you think on this subject,


I will lead it off by saying beauty to me is not the physical appearance because even if she is urgly there are things to do about it but her attitude and inner most thoughts are more important to me.

@somegirl,

"Sometimes, I wished I was a man!"

Trust me God made you a woman for a reason please don't judge that. As far as my comment I was only refering to the custom and the attitude of our people back home, but your point is well received dear. Thanks,

Ladies: question to you all based on observation: Is it difficult or is it hard for you ladies to advice or info your guy if he needs help in with odor? My question is this: are you afraid of his reaction if you tell him that he needs to work on his problems?

Good advice Radiant,

Interesting concept so your wife is a "b" lady[sorry I hate using those words, because they are degrading, I have a sister and she shouldn't be classified as such]. If she is then you too definitely deserve each other. Gosh, what a character.

So sex is all the answer in the world, correct? Please get real,

I am glad you don't agree with me then what is your point?

Cathian,

Good luck and yes one day at a time, may God help you and your family. Thanks for sharing too,

@mo_money,

How do you judge beauty? Physical appearance or what is in their hearts?

@okwa,

It depends on the level of conversation for the past four months and what she needed the money for. If it was a genuine use of money say to help someone who is in need or helping her folks, yes by all means ask and she shall receive but then it depends on the level of conversation and who he is.

If it was me; I will evaluate how deep our conversation was such as: can she be trusted? And if our conversation was in the level of respect on both then I won't hesitate to give her what she wants. I hope that helps,

Cathian,

Sorry it took a while before reading your reply, you are absolutely right for what you have been reading from nigerians inside this forum, I hope it won't discourage you at all, I just joined this thread and honestly it is getting to me now especially how people communicate with each other and the level of conversation here is not what I am looking for but then I will only reply to those that I feel are meaningful and educational period.

Here is my situation, when I left naija[Nigeria] I went to a school where it was all Caucasian in Berkeley and the only people that lived there were Caucasians so I met this girl at school and we became friends, however, one thing led to the other, her mom liked me but her father was a different story so we moved in together closer to school and we loved each other but later on in graduate school things fell apart just like what Chinua Achebe[naija writer] wrote.

I couldn't become a resident because I was given scholarship throughout my graduate school but the pressure of families on both sides put so much damper in our relationship and even today I have no idea where she is but I do know that she is a successful lady, she must be practicing medicine now because she used to kick our behinds in Chemistry and Biology.

Anyway, please don't let family come between the two of you, move away if you are closer to one of the family its worth the moving. And ignore our society because with or without your relationship our society is sick anyway and may God almighty help you always,

what are you? A comedian!!!

Kissing is an act; you probably know how to kiss or learn how to kiss, whatever is appropriate is the way to go it doesn't take einstien to perfect the act just go with the flow,

If you can't tell if a girl likes you the she probably doesn't like you, then move on,

if you don't know that the boy like you then he doesn't,

ladies that won't admit that they care for you, Na wa ooo.