₦airaland Forum

babsmii:
@kemisuga, that dress of yours is astonishing, u look great in it. thank God you didn't drop any contact details? temptation + implication

@topic, isn't it better you marry someone you can predict than marry a foreigner. you need lots of conviction and more time to comfortably take a foreigner as a wife besides the enemy you know is far better,

What do you mean predict

BoLLcoks

emmboy:
Out of 100 guys, u notice 80 out of them love BLUE COLOUR, as to how the girls love pink. Is it some kind of general choice or what? When i was younger, i dont think my best colour was blue but now, i have a blue rug, curtain, wall paitings and so on. I'm wondering if it is an in-built thing or what?

Guys generally tend to like blue. But I don't, my fav are red & black

emmboy:
Does your partner respect u? I mean like when your girlfriend is with her friends, u can just go to her and say 'COME, I WANT TO SEE U' and without hesitation, she leaves whatever she's doing at that moment and come. Thats what i mean. So how do u create that respect thing into your partner?

1) You respect yourself

2) You respect her.

3) Profit

Ujujoan:
While we cannot concretely generalize, it's very true that majority of Nigerians would rather marry from their country. Even within the country, people like to marry from their tribe and some really conservative people would prefer to marry from their state, or even town.

It's something we are all used to and honestly, I think it's the safest thing to do. Nigerians have a strong sense of origin probably because of the hardships being faced by people here and the high level of tribal clashes and wars.

If you are dating a Nigerian, just have it at the back of your mind that he moght not marry you and even if he does, there's every possiblity that he'll take another wife from his village.

Other side of the story is Nigerian women feel they are to good for Nigerian men esp when they finish that bollocks LPN of theirs and earning the dollars which they think is much. Personally, I don't date them cos when they flew over somehow they lost the screws in their head.

Ma keysss

vykychie:
How long would it take to find love? I believe strongly in love but can't find it.

I'm in search for a very serious relationship with a guy of the ages of 28- 40yrs of age. Really don't care if he has been married before with kids. Very friendly and caring. I'm not a costly person but should be able to take good care of me and give me the advices I need to grow in life.

I'm 22yrs of age and smallish in stature.

You would like me.

If only I was 28

kk 024021402146

what now?

This is thread is /win

Anyways, I want the reverse. Can I get a flat chested flat butt girl to give me a call pls.

I am a great cook. Whatever I cook is always top notch and people wants more but I hate cooking.

I can't function without a cup of coffee in the mornings.

Eww, am allergic to pineapple

Sisi_Kill:
Shame on the pastor for laughing and disclosing the poor girl's personal business.

Why some people treat their pastors as their confidants is beyond me.

Your average church goer is gullible

Sagamite:
Before Relationship

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[li]When her fronting is becoming an insult rather than a statement and they are not aware of this (being rude and unfriendly is not evidence that you have high morals or taste, it just suggests you are an uncouth or juvenile foool that is not worth my time) [/li]
[li]Poor conversationalists that think it is enough to just be fine (poor: leaving the guy to generate all the conversation or being one-dimensional with boring, non-intellectual interests e.g only talking about celebrities)[/li]
[li]Thinks she should be chased and she has to do nothing (e.g. call sometimes or suggest going out once in a while)[/li]
[li]Chatting her up and in her fronting process, even though you can see sh is very game, asks "Why would you want my number? Why do you want to chat to me?" (Gets me thinking: Are you really that daft or you just lack ingenuity in responding to toasting?)[/li]
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During Relationship

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[li]Creating an argument out of nothing especially when all is going well (can't we just bleeping get along?)[/li]
[li]Can't argue objectively and only sees it from "me, me, me" "I want" (what about what I want?)[/li]
[li]Thinks equality is for her to have an advantage, oyinbo calls this an oxymoron ideology (basically I should drop all traditional male privileges and she keeps the female privileges)[/li]
[li]Don't know when I want to do my own stuff and not "we are couples, so we must . . . . " (we are not joined at the hips, if I was not there you will be with someone else)[/li]
[li]When I think something is wrong and I ask what it is and she says "nothing" and wonders why I continue like if "nothing" is wrong (I will only ask twice in a loving way, don't push your luck)[/li]
[li]Being indecisive and wasting my day at a shopping mall (I know you feel you look good with me next to you shopping but I have better, more worthwhile things to do)[/li]
[li]Expecting me to read minds (the lack of mind-reading ability is not proof that my feelings for you is low, please shut it, I do really care)[/li]
[li]Asking me questions she knows she would not like the answer to (do I look like some target for a rat-trap?)[/li]
[li]When a comment is susceptible to intepretation choosing to inteprete as the negative connotation instead of the positive one (and then trying to start a fight)[/li]
[li]Trying to talk to me when I am watching the news or football (can't you bloody wait for the commercials or half time? Listening carefully to the news is how I avoid asking questions similar to the ones you ask sometimes) [/li]
[li]Changing clothes 3 times when we are rushing to go somewhere that she knew we are going to a week ago (part of indecisiveness)[/li]
[li]Raising her voice too frequently in arguments (not attractive, keep the GBWA¹ in the ghetto, you are now in my classy hood)[/li]
[li]She is one of the most intelligent and objective at work but then is the reverse in a relationship especially in objectivity (and asking daft questions and then wonders why I looked at her like if she is a ghost)[/li]
[li]Waiting til it is too late or almost too late before telling me about the thing she needs my help on (I am good but I can assure you that I am not Superman with a cape under my shirt)[/li]
[li]Having so much s.hit negativities and then excusing it that "that is the way women are" (you are allowed a few from the catalogue, which you should moderate when it is causing troubles, but not the whole bleeping shop of faults)[/li]
[li]When after years together, she still feels the need to test my love by trying to see how far she can go with a bad behaviour before I snap (please grow up, don't make something [relationship] so easy, so hard. How come I never fight with my homeboys?)[/li]
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1. Ghetto Black Woman Aggression

While it's all true, you need to know she's not doing it on purpose. Women feel alive in the face of adversity and confusion. If she is not doing all those, she will be bored.

I can't read it, Wall of text hurts my eyes.

Eat lots and lots of protein. Also, try to keep a peaceful mind. If your mind is all over the place you may consider stuff like yoga etc.

@ OP

Assuming your guy is not the bang anything in skirt type. You are the one in control of weather he cheats or not. Men respond to what they see, keep him motivated and be adventurous.

meadow_:
Hi n-landers, I've been going out with this girl for some time and her birthday is coming up in a months time. Please, I'd like your thoughts on what gifts I can give her to show her I really care despite my small 6000 naira budget ( Na wetin I get o). Please help me.

Diamond is a girl's best friend. They don't even care if a 7yr old kid is loosing limbs for it.

That said, the kind of gift you give a girl depends on how long you've been together. A big gift when a relationship is very young have "clinger" written all over you.

Sagamite:
GBAM except I don't think there is any best time to marry. Marry when you want and fits into your happiness.

Maybe there is an ideal time but to each her own.

Obviously, but scientifically, there is a best time to have children. it increases their chance of been healthy.

There are no good guys, but certain girls bring out certain qualities in a guy. It is called meeting your match. You should find out who you bring those qualities out off.

26 is not old, that is the best time to get married IMO. I think old is 30+, for some it's not their fault, they are just unlucky while for others, they are unnecessarily picky.

Money love:
I need advice, i was going out with a guy in 2008 until he left for UK, we still communicate but he didn't say anything as per marriage, all he keeps asking was if am still been faithful to him, which i had been until last year i met somebody that wants to marry me. He has been introducing me to his families and friends, i asked the abroad guy incase somebody wants to marry me, what does he have to say, he said that it is my life that he can't make a decision for me, that it is the girl that decides who to marry

Please, if you are in my shoe, what will you do.

Follow your heart hon.

I'm in one and it's tough. You need a matured mind to sustain it.

Area_boy:
wow, 10 yr old with bosoms worth supporting with a bra?, havent i heard it all now

LOL I guess you haven't seen it all. That is more than possible.


@OP, do the right thing. This is no brainier.

mby247:
I was cherish n love my gf so much but I am losing the trust I have for her. Am in diaspora and my gf is a student in the UNI outside Lag. she is a regular facebooker and I decided to open a new facebook with diff pic n account and try to ask her out and she as been responding pretty fine. Giving me her contact number, where she stays and we plan of meeting and she is give a positive response about that. I am being to think, she would be seeing other guys back in sch if she can fall cheap despite claiming she is "In a relationship". I think am getting jealous here, can some1 advice me here pls, no insult.

How will you feel if your gf have her friend to seduce you just to confirm if you are faithful or not?

@OP

Although it is documented that couples that marry as virgins have a higher chance of successful marriage compared to those that don't. That said, it is not advice to get married to someone that is a virgin. sex is a vital part of marriage, inexperience in that area "can" have terrible consequences.

190:
if he wanted smtin 2 control he wudnt pay her sch fees!!

@uju
I know u have singled out 2 tins already
1, that he hit her
2, that shes young,

Now tell me @16 if you werent dating someone older or around your age group!!

dont LIE~

Doing that is the first step especially for someone that is young. After a while the girl will only feel secure with the guy. Even if the girl is been maltreated, she will still feel safe with the said guy. More like Stockholm syndrome. Have you ever wondered how pimps get the girls they put on the streets? It's the same Philosophy.

Like I said, it didn't work for this girl and tbh am happy for her.

It's true tho. he wanted something young he can claim to be nice to also known as "control" while he gets to be worshiped in return. The poor girl doesn't want it for herself and he is throwing hissy fit.