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chaircover: Dancing azonto . . . . .

So i am still the wedding planner?! . . .Yipeeee

In that case you need to send me plenti plenti money so I csn book the cake (8 tier of course) and the rolls Royce.

Glad to hear you are all doing so well. We were really missing you o!. The Balogun aso ebi woman has been phoning me since Please greet olori very well from me o!

on a different note, you send me a PM please, there is something I want to ask you. thanks

Yes ma'am. PM on the way in a flash.

My people, I dey o. Some things can't be rushed and have a period of processing. That's where we are now o. I've been busy. Recently, my ex-inlaws ( even that sounds kind of odd) came into town to check up on my kids. It was nice and stressful at the same time. I thank God for them because it's not everyday you come across in-laws that go out of their way for kids of their late daughter. They were completely amazed at how grown my kids are. They couldn't believe it o. However, to God be all the glory. If not for His grace, my story for different o.

They are still around and return to Nigeria next week. So right now, I'm basically a glorified chauffeur. Kids are back in school, so it doesn't make it any easier.

Olori and I are continuing our journey and this journey that God has started, He will perfect and complete in Jesus' name.

Thanks for the concern. Madam CC... long time no hear. How's the family? I pray all is well. T-Girl, how now. The story continues...... next step.... introduction of families

Analytical: Thanks friend for looking out for me. Deeply appreciated. One of the most priceless things we have is our health! Most things depend on it. Without it, almost everything is meaningless, including money! Talking about Mrs Analytical, we were 12 over the weekend! So another 50 years is achievable!

Thinking of what you wrote above now, is it not true that women actually have final say in such matter? They spend more time there than us, so they should. We don't really bother so much about what colour the curtains should be, or whether there should be any at all but they will spend weeks trying to get the best combination! How many hours do men really spend in the kitchen, dining room, or the garden? Even in the sitting room, apart from watching your favourite sports club playing, hom many hours do you spend there?

Please make haste o and get the Introduction done. Do you want us to die of expectation?

My brother, I hear you o. I have an uncle over here who is supposed to lead the 'Introduction Team'. He doesn't return to naija until next month, so na patience. Hopefully, that should be done by September and then other things can follow.

Analytical: Great Pal, I have been around and about! Busy more than ever and getting stressed and sickly in the process! Trust you are good.

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Sorry to hear about that. The joy of the Lord is your strength my brother. Sometimes, you might have to dial it back a bit because your health is a lot more important than your ambitions.

I'm doing very well. House hunting at the moment. Very frustrating process. Women believe they have the final say when it comes to a new home. It's almost like I have no say in the matter, except when it comes to putting money down (man don suffer). It's nice choosing a place with someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. Just a nice feeling (even when she decides what kind of house you buy in the long run).

Trying to get my family back home organized to go "Introduce" ourselves to Olori's family. Stress personified .

Please take care of your health bro. Mrs Analytical needs you around for at least another 50 years or so .

Where is Analytical Baba ke?

Tgirl4real: Uncle Seru,

Eku ijo meta o...

I dey o my sister. Longest time. Se alafia ni ile wa o.....

quasimodoman: I have followed this thread and the OP's story from the beginning and I must say I am very impressed with his story, the way and mannerisms he tells his experiences and most of all, his honesty and down to earth character is just soooooooooo a complete turn on too women (at least for me it is). I'm not here to cause any form of commotion, but I wish that most men were like the OP. I'm completely jealous of Olori, but I am truly happy for both of them. It would be so nice to see a picture of both of you, but I assume that will never happen.

I'm seriously rooting for both of you and I so wish this story to transition into a "happily forever after" ending. i never thought I could post on nairaland, but this thread is worth it. I can't count how many times I cried when reading different posts and one time I was so angry with that MOBO guy. I felt like scratching his eyes out with infected fingernails. I like the way serubawon handled him though. He took off like a puppy dog with his tail between his legs. I think you need to explore the possibility of starting a thread on relationship problems and how to deal with them. You certainly have the requirements and qualifications.

I truly salute you as a man and Olori's boo. CC, spoilt, jenny, tgirl (and even nemesis) and all the wonderful people that have posted on this thread, love the way you helped this man open up so the rest of us could learn from his experiences. Please don't end this thread. Ciao.

Eya. Thanks for the encouragement o. My head don swell well, well.

salsera: Nothing old school about it.

Maybe when I land 'america' this year i go carry gele in commemoration of the Dday.

How is your daughter? done with high school?

Done? I wish. She just turned 13 this month and starts high school in August. I don't even want to think about it. When you land in Yankee let me know. You might actually be in my neighborhood.

spoilt: @Salsera,
I dey oh. This long awaited wedding. . .we better get an invite.
@ Serubawon
Hurry up oh abi na 7 year engagement you wan do? Lol. Just curious do you live together already. Sometimes that takes away the urgency of marriage.

No we don't live together. I'm old school at heart. I don't believe in trial or test marriages/ live-in lovers etc. We'll plan it right, do it right and get it right IJN.

salsera: @spoilt
how you dey? Happy eeerm half year
@serubobo
I remain loyal oh but me i no get patience
whats happening , this my gele tying skills don dey rusty

My sister, I hear you. There's just so many things to take care of. We're planning on buying a house together so we can move in immediately after getting married. That's a whole new ball game altogether. We're getting there, slowly but steadily getting there.

[quote author=Olivia-light]See me lost my manners,uncle seru 10ks 4 replying dear i admire ur strength and courage a lot.about u being very patient u r lyk my MUM, dat woman can live wit practically any person on earth and cope wit u jt fyn. I v a lot of patience bt nt close 2 MUM &her strength &will power is sumtin else.may God protect &keep her alive 4 us cs she il rip the fruit of her labour. GOD bless PARENTS.
I pray i do great also wen am a MUM sumday
It is well already my dear.[/quote]Thank you very much

[quote author=Olivia-light]my dear am more than proud of u,may God strengthen u, protect&guide ur children.may he bless ur home &provide the right woman 4 u wen u r ready.ur children v d bst DAD KUDOS 2 U dear[/quote]A strong amen to that. I appreciate the prayers and they mean a lot to me. May the Lord favor you in your life's endeavors and you shall never have cause to regret serving Him. Thank you.

bellong: Hmmmm... What a life history of ups and downs with a very bright future ahead..... I got to work this morning and stumbled on this thread, read from beginning till the end.

@OP, I like your resilience, patience and faith in God. A lot of people even some "christians" end up denying God when faced with storms of life that is certain will come everybody's way, its only a matter of time. I pray that God grants you the grace to end well in this journey of life and faith. I also wish and pray you a glorious home where the love of Christ reigns supreme and where the Trinity sup...

It is well with you and Olori in Jesus name.

Pardon my choice of words, I am not very good with words when it comes to writing/typing, I prefer to talk..Am a good talker. Hence reason I hardly write on NL..

To all those who have kept the company of the OP through the days of his valley, may God in His infinite mercies reward you all for the labour of love in multiple fold... Beautiful day to you all.

Thank you and God bless you. I believe that this thread is just to encourage people in different situations that even when it seems that all is lost and the future looks bleak, that's when God steps in to show us that He is with us through the fire and will see us through. He saw me though mine, He'll see everybody through theirs.

Geminilove: @serubawon,
Where do I start from it took me 4hrsand 16mins to read over 7 years of history and I felt every emotion from sadness, joy, excitement,to worry. You remind me so much of my own father, who pass away. It might sound silly but I feel like my dad bought me to this paper.I wish I had found this thread earlier because I actually could done with the help and advice of all you wonderful people on this thread. Nonetheless, I am glad I found the page. Can I request one thing please don't close this thread down, I found it very healing and educate. Now that found thread I don't want it to go.

I feel like JennyK, Spoilt Analytical, chaircover etc are all my friends too.

@serubawon, thank you for opening this thread and congrats on your engagement, Your wife to be as found a gem in you as you found in her. Thank you again for restoring what I have known to be true. I will be back to say more things and ask for advice.

P.S God forgive me but like the way you all ignored Nemesis it was best way, is that wicked of me hehe

Thank you very much. I'm happy that the posts from all the contributors came in useful to your particular situation. On the issue of closing it down, I guess that depends on how relevant the thread is to different people. As long as it touches the hearts of people and they contribute, it will stay on. Everything has a beginning and an end. 7 years strong and still going, I guess this thread hasn't quite reached it's end yet. It's all in the hands of God. Cheers

edakedkay: So happy for you Seru. I'm glad it's all falling in place for you. You're done with the tribulation.it's now time for jubilation.
Madam wedding planner(winks),pls put me on that list of asoebi and anything that will identify the NL crew.
I know everyone has been anxiously waiting to hear from me. Sorry for shutting you all out. Been battling with myself the whole time but I think I'm ready to complete my epistle. I resume work on Monday after almost a year. Tried that a month back but I was still disoriented. I think I'm ready now.
I lost Leona on January 16th. So it's still just me,bobo and DD. I don't want to go into details. Maybe someday I will. It's been a rough path but I'm grateful I'm here today though it's left me scathed.Putting this down is one of the difficult tasks I've had to face but I hope to heal thoroughly as life goes on.
I had a very good support system from my husband, family and friends who knew my history; and thanks to JennyKadry&winniegirl who tried several times to keep in touch.(Sorry I didn't get back).
Thanks are also due to everyone of you here who in one way or the other supported me.

I'm happy to see you back on the thread. Please accept my sincere and heartfelt condolences for your loss. I can't imagine how you feel, but I do know that the Lord we serve has His own way of comforting us in our tlme of mourning. I know that you will tell your story in your own time. Just know that you have a whole thread of brothers and sisters praying for you. Remain blessed.

Analytical: @Spoilt, Analytical is so taken- completely and comprehensively! Mrs Analytical ensures nothing is left!

@Serubawon, I trust you and Olori are doing great. Work and more work has taken over my entire time. I hardly have time again. This phase too shall pass though.

Your labor shall not be in vain my brother. God is definitely taking you to greater heights. My job schedule is killing me right now, but I'm definitely moving to greater things.

Omo Daddy354: No mind me jare, 'lady' not 'lad'. Thanx 4 pointing dat out anyway

No worry jare. You already sound like a very interesting person.

Omo Daddy354: Wow! wow! wow! Actually stumbled on this thread around 3.am dis mrng and have been glued 2 my phone since then (and i have exams next week). With what i see on NL this days, never knew there's actually a [RESERVED PLACE 4 d matured ones. @Uncle Seru, am so happy u came out of ur trying time shining. ur story and the thread generally has been an encouragement to me (a young lad).

I bless God for all those He has been using on here; mama CC, Jenny, Uju, Spoilt, Tgirl, Sisi Kills, Uncle analytical nd everyother person. This indeed a place 2 be, where souls have been lifted, sadness turned to joy, testimonies shared, lessons learnt, more knowledge gained e.t.c.

God bless ur union, uncle Seru & Olori, i pray affliction shall not rise again the 2nd tym in ur life and family nd ur kids shall live 2 be a source of joy, esu o ni so won di ari sukun o IJN.

*Hope i didnt tresspass sha o, cos seems am d only lad here,but love sitting at d feet of d matured minds 2 learn*. Got 2 go and read now so i can pay my bills in d nearest future lyk all of u here or even become better.

Trespassing?? Not at all. As you said, this thread is for mature minds where people can learn from the experiences of others. Thanks for the prayers. They are highly appreciated. I'm a bit confused though. You call yourself a young lad, but it looks like you're female. Forget it, none of my business anyway. Glad you enjoyed the thread.

ThiefOfHearts: Dont mind him. He's total orobo. Ive been telling him since last year to calm down with olori's pounded yam

Ki lo de ke? Na fight? Well, Olori's pounded yam has been very mischievious though (but not that mischievious). She likes the way I look, so that's what counts. I like the way I look too y'know

P. S. And if you think all this is going to make me post a pic, well, who knows. Maybe not.

spoilt: ^ okay oh. I don't want Mrs Analytical snatching off my weave. Meanwhile Serubawon hope say you no be orobo oh.cant have stomach protruding through ya tuxedo.

Yes, I can say with all confidence that I'm not an "orobo". Let's just say that if I were your brother, you'd be happy to flaunt me to your friends.

spoilt: Hey y'all. It's been a while. Serubawon this wedding has not happened? Better marry her fast. I like to close deals fast. When is it?

Well, you know Nigerian families ke. Even if you're at my age, parents still have to be respected. We could get married tomorrow for all I care, but her dad has some rigid requirements that we want to mellow down a bit. All things being equal, it should happen before the end of the year. You guys will be the 1st to know of course.

P.S. I do believe oga Analytical Baba is completely and irrevocably taken o

Mayflowa: I hate coming 2 this thread. I am never able to read a full page without crying. This is my 15th cry. I just disgraced myself now.

Wish you luck seru. I can't stand the emotion to read through

Wow!! An emotional man. 15th cry? I doff my cap o. Thanks for the compliment.

ThiefOfHearts: Congrats serrubawon

Now go lose weight for your wedding

Thank you very much ma'am. I believe my weight is ok and has never been a problem. She actually loves my 42" chest, (which is all muscle), even if I say so myself.

chaircover: Please when is the wedding oooooooo!

I need to inform the caterer, the decorator, the cake maker, the aso ebi supplier, the alaga iduro and the alaga ijoko, book venue . . . .God will help me ooooo! so much work to do

My family section members we are having our own corner o! we are bringing our own food, drinks and of course we are wearing our own and co aso ebi

Madam CC...I'm still recovering from the engagement ring. That rock drained me of living energy. Wedding never get date naa. You know say na you go be the 1st to know. I'm in the process of moving to my new place. This month has been very "interesting".

meexteriox: Phew, 25 pages of inspirational story
Drama, suspense, from glory to glory

I thought i've seen it all on Nairaland
But sha oooo, human is nothing but mere sand

Serubawon, you are the man
God truly, has got you in his plan

Wow, my head swell small when I read this o. Thank you and God bless you

@Dynamite, Madam CC....as always, thank you, thank you, thank you. As I said, no rush, slow and steady wins the race.

@Beloved1993. I understand what you're talking about and i pray your uncle has found happiness again. Me? Yes, I'm very happy and even though I know that Olori and I will experience our own share of challenges, the most important thing is for us to feel strongly enough about each other to weather all storms and continue through life together as a team. Of course, we have 3 kids to encourage us all the way. Over here, our relationship is generating so much interest and people expect us to be married yesterday. I'm not rushing anything. Emotions are strong, but you have to be practical and know that marriage has it's own realities and challenges. That's what we have to be real about. By God's special grace, it will all be well and the story will continuously be a happy one.

@salsera. Your explanation of your question is waaaay beyond Olori, She's basically just strong willed and stubborn at times (I'm going to get in trouble for that)

@salsera. Hmmm......great question. I'm on my way to work, so I'll have to expantiate more when I get back. Olori is a good example and she's only happy when she's in control of the whole situation. I am a complete aberration to her and she just couldn't figure me out. But guess what, she's changing.

You can't change a person's character, but you can change the way they react to situations. I'll say more when I get back. I'm sure analytical baba, will hold the forte, before I get back.

Beloved1993: I read all 25 pages. Wow
Mr Serubawon, I'm happy God has put a smile on your face and wiped away your tears. You are a strong man. May God continue to bless you and your family. E o ni sukun iyawo mo, e de ni sukun omo. Amin

Amin o. Thank you so much for the prayers. You have no idea how much that means to me. Whatever your hearts' desires, the Lord shall meet you at the point of your needs. Once again, thanks.

Uuummm...You guys are beginning to scare me with all this gele talk o.

Joy4mi: congrats sir,i was expecting this update b4 march.now season one has ended.lets know when season2 begins (wedding,pregnancy,delivery of twins) i will be waiting.

Okaaaaaaaaaay.........one step at a time madam. I'm only human you know.

Wow, you people are cracking me up here.

@Tgirl, Winneygirl, Ujujoan & biolabee.....Thanks a lot guys. I couldn't say anything about my plans because she also reads the thread and would find out my intentions, so I kept it to myself and my 2 kids. They were cheering me all the way. She thought she was getting some fancy shoes or a dress and I kept on telling her that I wasn't releasing any info on what her valentine gift would be. The night before, she gave me a beautiful cardigan and an expensive cologne, but in all honesty, it was the valentine cards that got me. Olori is not one of those mushy emotional females and because of her past experiences, she has this very tough exterior that is almost impenetrable (except by Moi of course ). This time, she was extremely mushy .

So, after building up her expectations for over a week, I bought the cheapest looking valentine teddy bear with an ugly looking card and on getting to her place yesterday, I handed these to her with a straight face. She was actually looking around for the real present, but since she didn't see anything, she accepted the ugly looking teddy bear and I could see the incredulous look on her face. She flashed a fake smile at me, gave me a hug and a kiss and thanked me for the gift. Of course, I was behaving like I just gave her a brand new car and I waited until she was sure that nothing else was forthcoming. I stepped behind her, took out the Zales ring box and waited for her to turn around. When she did, she literally froze for about 10 seconds and then screamed like she was having a baby. Then she turned away and started screaming my name and at that point, I got scared because I thought she was going to say no (I for die patapata).

So, I got on one knee (awkwardly) and proposed without actually choking or stammering like a dummy. It was kind of surprising that her hands were shaking when I was putting the ring on her finger. Let me describe the relief I had in me. You know when you need to go to the shitter REALLY BAD and you've been in traffic for like an hour? You finally get home and you start measuring the steps you need to take, going up a long flight of stairs and finally arrive at the restroom about to explode? Sometimes, you think you're not going to successfully make those last few seconds to the toilet bowl and then, (mercifully), you do make it and you finally EXPLODE. Imagine the relief you feel after the explosion: THAT'S HOW I FELT!!!!

After that experience, I was so exhausted by the time i got back home, I was literally asleep before my head hit the pillows. Woke up this morning with a dumb smile on my face. Mission accomplished!

@Tgirl4 real. Thanks for all the encouragement. She's the only person that knew my plans and was rooting for me all the way to ground zero.