₦airaland Forum

deanxy:
My fiancee and I have been in a relationship for 5 years now. I met her since she was in secondary school. We both love each other and she is very nice, loving and supportive too.

We have talked and started planning on settling down and that should before the end of the year but I am beginning to have a second thought.

The problem is not my fiancee but her mom. The woman is very nice and welcoming but lately, she did something that I am not comfortable with. Last week she sent me a text asking for financial assistance. That her daughter (my fiancee) is yet to pay her house rent at school and that my fiancee younger brother is yet to pay his registration fee. And so she had asked me to loan her some amount before the end of the month when she will remit it. That she considered me a son and that's why she confided in me. I later sent her SMS that I don't have anything.

I was like why would she asked me for loan when her daughter never asked for one naira in our Five years of relationship? So my fear is, should I marry her daughter, wont she trouble me with further demands? Please is there anyway around this? Please what do I do?

After reading this, I can't help but pity the poor girl and her mom. You should be ashamed of yourself for coming up here to ask this kind of question. She even asked you for a loan and not that its free and yet you refused. If it were to be your mom, would you have given her same response? I pray the girl doesn't marry you, something should just happen and break the relationship. You don't deserve her. You should look at yourself in the mirror and pity for yourself. I feel sorry for you.

JandyJ:
U will never ever understand. Poor little brain

Never knew "poor" can be used to qualify the brain capacity. Too bad that with your big head and your big brain, you find it very hard to construct an understandable sentence. #mrbigbrain

JandyJ:
Sharap dia u ladies are scum

I would have responded but since you can't spell well, I find it hard to comprehend what message you are trying to convey. Can you come again?

What is he hoping to achieve with this post? Attention seekers everywhere.

MediumStout:
Most Nigerian women are guilty of wearing one pant for 5 days. No wonder they smell like dead rat

I will be correct to say that your mom, aunties and your sisters smell like dead rats. Wow, you need an air freshener in your home, bad, smelly, stuffy environment can sometimes cause sudden unplanned death. R.I.p in advance.

Ebuka2016:
I cant thank you enough for this advice dear. I was almost lost. Thank God am beginning to come back to my senses again. Where should I begin? Reading the Bible? I really find it hard to pray. I need a headstart. I need someone to guide me.

Yes, start by reading the Bible and praying. In my own time, I couldn't pray, I fall asleep as am praying. Its not normal, its the devil trying to prevent you from going closer to God. You can start from Matthew or with any other book of the Bible. With time as you get closer to God, praying becomes very easy for you.
You can always ask me questions if you need further direction. Good morning.

Ebuka2016:
i want to turn to God. I realised that my life have been hell without Him. Back then, when i was still a child of God things were going pretty well for me. At least, i was in good terms with my fellow humans. All my friends love me, i did things and i won. These days, pride have taken over. I easily loose friends than i make them. I have lost a lot of things. Pride has cost me a lot. And i want to change. For how long should i continue to suffer? I want to live my life happily, i want to love people and make them love me back. Most importantly, i want to make Heaven. I know that Heaven is real, and i dont want to go to hell. The worst part is that when i try to change, something holds me back. I dont know but i see that God wants to take hold of me, but then the devil does not want to let go of me. Sometimes, i feel like let me just die and vanish from the face of Earth. My life is miserable and my relationship with people is chattered. I want to give my life to Christ, but i dont know how to go about it. Please help me.

Your story is similar to what I faced few months back but mine its actually worse. In my case it was a spiritual battle with addiction and demons. It was hell, I wanted it all to end but didn't know where or how to start, I found it very hard, I hated anything that had to do with God, I even stopped going to church for close to a year. I was suffering in silence. I lost all my friends, I was having problems with my immediate family members. But one day, my story changed, it became worse, my nightmares increased, I was tormented. In this period of satanic torments and unending nightmares, I found God again.
Gradually I started to pray again though it was difficult at first but I was still an addict. I made a promise to God quit the addictive habit. To my surprise, I was very easy to quit. God was with me in this journey and guided me. Then I started reading the Bible everyday, even in the office, I was surprised to discover that I actually enjoy it.
As a human, I committed some secret sins, little by little I started to let go of this sins. Then, I learnt how to fast and pray, it wasn't even as difficult as I thought it would be.
Am not yet perfect, I still struggle in some areas but am trusting on God to make me perfect and I know he will.
My finding God again didn't make most of my problems disappear, I still cry sometimes but it always feels good knowing that I have a God who loves me unconditionally and that I can always go to him in prayers.
So, I will advice you to take one stepped at a time, let go of any form of sexual immorality if you indulge in any. Sexual sins most times hinders God from answering our prayers. Try to pray everyday and study the Bible, in my own case I started reading from Matthew, now am heading almost to revelation. Try to let go of those sins that can hinder God from answering your prayers. It may sound hard but its not really hard at all. You will learn to love and enjoy it. Its not really all about going to Church, you need to have a personal relationship with God. With time you will see your life change in a way that will surprise you. God is really amazing. God be with you.

Just go to their office, you have nothing to lose by going there. Haven't heard of them but that doesn't mean the offer is not genuine. Staying back might make you miss something great. Just be careful, sha.

Am interested but that would be by year ending.

xlander:
Is she slaying or that's the nature of her leg?

That is not the nature of her legs.

Lol. I know this lady. My senior from M.C.A.

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She reminds me of the rainbow .

RichlyOBS:
I have 3bedroom apartment I decided to give one room out for rent so that the bill will be lesser for me.... My girlfriend brought her cousin sister Juliet to rent the room,, she hv been living with me since last year November.... But there's something wrong with the girl (juliet) which I don't like,, the 3bedroom flat I got have a parlour and you must pass through the parlour before getting to the kitchen..so whenever am in the parlour watching movies or music videos this girl will walk by to the kitchen with just only pant and bra and sometimes she don't put on bra but she will use hand to cover her boobs if she sees me... I started wandering what this girl is up to... Sometimes she walk pass when am watching a romatic movie and that's tempting... It was day before yesterday, she walk pass with full unclothedness then I got angry and called her to talk, I told her if she can't be putting on clothes whenever am around she should stay inside her room and don't come out naked or half naked again... Can you imagine what this girl told me ,, out of annoyance she said whenever she's passing that I should focus on my tv not her then she left... I was surprised because I thought she never expected I was at home or maybe she thought I would be in my room...

She's my girlfriend cousin and I think am going to report to her sister? Or am asking her to park out?... She have been doing this ever since she broke up with her boyfriend

guys have you ever experienced this before please?

Ladies is it what she's doing is normal or am I the one having dirty mind?? She's seriously tempting me and my babe haven't heard anything about it...

She don't do this if am with my friends and whenever my babe is around she don't come out from her room they are family members but they're not that close..

Let me tell you what will happen if you succumb to her temptation. First, she stops paying rent. If you insists she starts blackmailing you by threatening to tell your girlfriend.
The problems won't be just that she told your girlfriend but she will say that you raped her.
When she says you raped her, she and your girlfriend who will then be "Ex" will team up to deal with you.
When they team up, they will tweet it and attach your photo.
They may not necessarily report the matter to the police but at the end of the day, you will lose your girlfriend, your money and tarnish your good reputation.
Don't mind those asking you to sleep with her, that is the worst you can do. If I were to be in your shoes, I will ask her to move out even if that means refunding her some part of the money she paid, don't even wait till the rent expires because by then it might be late. If she refuse, threaten to report her to your girlfriend but by then have a concrete evidence that you can use.
Some ladies are demon incarnates in form of human beings, she wants to ruin your relationship because she has non, don't let her do that. I bet she envies your relationship.
And to answer the question you asked, it is not normal neither is your mind dirty. She has a negative agenda, don't allow her achieve her aim.

Threebear:
Lol, I know the article is now on the front page, I can tell by the number of likes I'm receiving from it.
Unlike you, I'm not dumb!

So only articles on the front page receive much likes? So the reason why you keep writing trash is to receive likes. Calling you dumb will be an understatement, you are actually am slowpoke on transit. Safe journey.

Threebear:
I never said it wouldn't be on the front page, read to understand and not to reply. I said he should earn it!
By getting people invested and not back and forth argument .
Stop disgracing yourself please.

What I did was remind you that the article is now on the front page just in case you failed to notice. I think you are the one that really need to comprehend before running off to reply.
I think you have disgraced yourself already, just do yourself a favor and take "the walk of shame " along side with your cheap women by the corner.

Parollawd:
Babe Pls can u message me on whatsapp 09060017760
Savage art thou...

Lol

Threebear:
I'm.
And I said about to not married, learn to think with your brain and not your vagina.
With the sex doll coming, people like you will have very little to offer.

Am sure he is the one that told you he is about marrying her. Good enough the doll will be in both sexes. Don't sweat it because you can't even afford the sex doll, you can't even be friends with someone who has one, so stop giving yourself hope. You are still down with the olosho down your street.

Threebear:
The more you type, the more you expose how bereft of knowledge you truly are.
First off, temi is the daughter of billionaire with practically no talent who can afford to coast on her father's wealth and live out large and happily, mr Eazi doesn't have such a luxury and must use his opportunities better.
Secondly, mr Eazi might not be popping in Nigeria radios like before, but he's bigger internationally now with more than four songs chatting on billboard UK top 200 ,he's performed for Jay Z tidal, along with so many other international events, he's been featured at E network etc who do you think facilitated all that, do you think it's merely coincidental that he started getting such opportunities once he started dating Temi?
And last but not the least, your comparison with tiwa and tblizz further buttresses my point that you have absolutely nothing in your head.
Tiwa is not even one percent what otedola is and t blizz is not a musician but a manager, who has managed successful artistes including tiwa herself before he married her.
I advice you use all these points you've listed and apply it to your own career (if you have any) who knows you might achieve something and be discussed by other people too.
And I know what you're trying to do, using this back and forth to push yourself to the front page, sorry, I won't fall for that trick and I won't reply you anymore. You'll have to earn your front page like everyone else.
Get busy and get productive.
BTW, your article sucks, hope you're not planning a career as a writer. I wouldn't advice it.

Bro, the article is now on the front page. You can also apply your last advice to yourself. You won't be on nairaland land all day arguing if you had something productive to do with your time.
Mr I-know-it-all, no one pays you for being a sycophant, Mr Easy that you are sweating and killing yourself to defend doesn't even know your first name. Please take it easy before you kill yourself.

Threebear:
The guy is about to wed the daughter of one of the richest men in the country, has a successful career and you are here counting his mistakes?
Op have you eaten today?

And for you that equates success? You really do sound like you think from your anus. Am sure you are the one that gave her out to him for marriage.

HeWrites:
You believe her

Yes.

Wapkoshcom:
Wake me up when it's gets to fp

Wake up, it's on the front page.

And tomorrow he will be praying for a happy marriage. He will never know peace or true happiness in his new home.

FakoMaybach1:
Many Nairalanders forget their sense before typing, those ones asking what of the father...if they were the father what will they do? how many of us men are trained to handle that post childbirth depression?

I have seen this cus it happened to my sister, her husband , my mum and myself were there...she had all the Love she needed, yet she went Loco . It reached a tipping point one night the baby had mucus and it affected his breathing, big sis started running on the streets of Lagos by 2:00 am in the morning!!, i pursue am tire.

She is over it now and second and third birth was easier...men i dont even know what to do if i come face to face with this situation, i just know when my wife gives birth i will triple my Love, care, attention, infact if she asks me for an elephant i go catch am come alive!!!

God bless all women especially mothers, you ladies are the greatest gift to man

I love your comment, that is so sweet of you. Keep being a good man.

ubunja:
then you realised you needed more help than me.

Bye poo, rest with your kind.

ubunja:
then you realised you needed more help than me.

Bye poo, you are beyond redemption. Just rest well in the sewage.

ubunja:
thats what im also wondering seeing you have wasted 2 mentions on a bag of poo already.

Was trying to help your poo life. You can thank me later.

ubunja:
if only you knew the number of sites,forums and groups i participate in.
if you want a piece of ubunja get in line.there is more than enough for everyone.after all im 2m tall.you will get your share.

Lol, what will be doing with a bag of poo like you

ubunja:
im in all forums.
visit 2go south africa and search for ubunja.
im also on Facebook and Twitter.im guessing you are too.even thou they are American platforms.and you are nigerian.

Now I know, you really have an empty brain. Next time just keep quiet please.

ubunja:
tell me if you want pics showing foreign women's love for Kenyan men
and other pics showing foreign women's love for Moroccan men
and other pics showing foreign women's love for Zimbabwean men.
point is, just leave nigeria for a year and you'll see that the world doesnt revolve around your country.you only see what makes you feel proud as a nigerian.foreign women are equally rushing for moroccan diick as much as nigerian dick

Hater Alert. What are you doing on a Nigerian news forum. I think your world revolves around us

Mylove55:
Fayose belongs to idiotic pigs of Biafra.
Only idiotic pigs of Biafra take him serious

Has not being a Biafra pig made your life any better?
If your answer is not in the affirmative, then you need to take a wooden sit and get back to that hole where you were speaking from.
It's insignificant people like you trying to make biased,
hate based comments that irritates me. You are free to air your stupid opinion when you become relevant but for now just SHOT UP.