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Will this bring back the Chibok girls?

A girl that was doing inyanga to the point of putting on fake contact lenses in 2007 couldn't have been less than 18/19 years old then.
She is not less than 25/26 today

spicykev: I have dated before but sadly things couldnt work between us. I wish to settle down but starting over from the scratch with someone New is really difficult for me, my parents and people arround me think am unserious especially when it comes to choosing a partner. I am faithful, sincere, Godly and ambitious, it would only take someone that buys into my philosophy to attempt love again. I don't need a husband to pose with, I need a focused man that can blend into my life and be a part of my soul.Am so scared of loving or marrying the wrong person. Am 26 and every other aspect of my life is ok. I have some married folks who rushed into marriage and still complain about their spouse. Yes! am scared of being sad in marriage. am I too young for the choice am making? Have you ever felt like you need the right person not just anybody? please share your views.......cheers!

Close your eyes, line up the pictures of all your suitors,do tum bom tum bom and pick one
They are all the same
Like country music,if you hear one,you've heard them all
No need to fear at all
Unless you are looking to marry your fellow woman
If it is a man you want,I say just close eye and pick one and get on with it before you develop wrinkles thinking about the right or wrong one
Pick any one of them and mold him to your taste as time goes on

novia22: Funny enough I attended a boarding school for 6years... I wasn't happy there cos u always have people in your space...begged my parents to mk me a day student but they wouldn't listen so I had no choice....I found a way of doing most of my stuff before others ( woke up earlier 2 tk my bath so that I don't hv to argue with any1, always made sure I wasn't lacking anything so that I wouldn't have to ask any1 and stuff like that...)
I guess I coped by carving out a niche for myself out of d space they were always trying to occupy......

I think that is the key
Even for introverts there is always a group you can feel comfortable in,you find that group and hang with that group and that becomes your social group
We all need to socialize,that is human nature
For some that group is amongst their church members,for others people from their same background or culture or profession

The strange thing in life is that most introverts end up marrying very extroverted people
It is always fun to watch a couple where the man is so quiet and reserved and his wife is the life of the party and vice versa
I think it makes for a good match
There is always someone to balance things and keep it centered when it wants to veer off to the extremes
I know two very introverted people that are a couple,however and I remember people wondering how he even proposed to her since they are both very very quiet.
At the wedding,he could hardly give a vote of thanks in front of the crowd and she just smiled shyly and was looking down most times.

How much will I be paid for reading that GS 101 term paper?

olahero: SEEMS TIZ OP NAH SMALL PIKIN JAWE, NAH 2GO GIRL HE DEY WAHALA HIMSELF LIKE TIZ ON OOO HAA O GA OOO

He said he proposed to the girl
I thought that to mean marriage proposal
Children don begin marry for Naija?

novia22: Lots of introverts here.....thought I was a weirdo at some point in my life, I have very few friends, I love keeping to myself, being indoors, alone, not too good at math but i calculate every movement n event around me(very careful n observant) can't start a conversation without saying " pls excuse me" cos I really don't wanna offend anyone or get into trouble, hate crowd and nosy people,find it difficult to look a person in d eye, when I met a group of people for d 1st time I don't utter much words n as conversations r going on, I just smile n take notes about them in my head, if I don't like d conversation, I shut dem out in my head but give them d impression that they've got my attention(I do this to talkatives). Lots of people say "she's really quiet, she feels big, she's a snub but I really don't care what any1 thinks....cos...#if any1 can't stand my heat, I suggest they leave my kitchen#

Did you do boarding school?
How did you cope?

This was an interesting read.
I can't relate to anything here but I understand that people are different
I have met introverted people ,those of us who socialize easily seem to empathize with introverts but I don't think it calls for empathy
We are all different
I could start a conversation and carry it on for an hour with a total stranger
I could chat up a cashier at the grocery store,someone waiting in a room with me
I can talk to anyone
I have been at a gathering and was asked to MC the occasion and I would do it in a flash,before an unfamiliar audience and do a good job
I don't consider myself an extrovert however
There is a middle ground between introverts and extroverts where I seem to belong
In some settings,I could appear introverted and withdrawn and rarely speak
But generally speaking I socialize very easily

He should be placed on suicide watch
This is no more love but obsession where one feels his/ her life is over without the other person in it

Sunbellar: Op, since 2010 you have been dating a woman and still crying out publicly after your wasted good quality four years.
Your possible issues maybe:
1. You don't have better ambition and focus in life
2. You maybe bewitched with womanising spirit or mami water
3. Your destiny during creation maybe woman's pot/hole
4. You maybe still be a hustler and indigent for a lady to play you around
5. You are not matured physically, emotionally, financially and spiritually to handle women matters.

Suggestions:
1. Get focused in all your endeavours and try to make it financially.
2. Be prayerful and forget about woman for now. They will come after you when you have arrived financially.
Conclusion:
Am talking from experience.

Na wa o
4 solid years because of a girl that doesn't want him?

latino2swt: This is a true life story...
Not from/about a friend, a brother or a classmate but about myself and my life.

There is this girl(a Nairalander) I love with everything within, outside and around me. We are from the same State but different Local Government Area. I and her elder sister attended the same school. I met her during the December vacation of 2010/2011 academic session. After much persuasion, persistence and with the help of my good friend who was close to her, she granted me audience. We talked and became casual friends thereafter.
Febuary 2011, I proposed but her reaction though pre-assumed did not go well with me. As a man, i gathered courage and launched yet but another failed attempt same month. March same year saw hat-trick of proposal turned down again. My senior on detecting my mood inquired to know what's up. Wholeheartedly, I told him everything. Contrary to what I assumed would be his reaction he laughed and said, 'kid bro, in life good things comes in a challenging way and don't try to prove a point that to be a man is a day's job'. I agreed within me to make a final attempt. I did, this time 'please talk something else' was the reply. Was that really my final attempt? NO! I called daily for six more months telling her that same old story and receiveing that same old feedback.
October 2011, I found my joy. Anytime my phone beeped, I smiled because she was always the one. My life was never the same again. It was then I confirmed that patience though bitter comes with a sweet fruit. Sincerely, I was uplifted physically, morally, emotionally, academically and health-wise. My life was never the same.
Unfortunately, what I have been seeing in Nollywood movies happened in September 2012. Without any quarrel or attempted quarrel, things fell apart. Though it torn me apart, I remained focused. I considered it a battle I must win or die trying. Why? Because I couldn't imagine myself telling another person other than Mm...n YES I DO in the altar when it's time.
I fought with all available means to refix my ever-valued relationship. People were insulted along the way. I can still remember I kept a very good friend at arm's length for telling me that 'while waiting for the desireable, there is nothing wrong moving on with the availables till the desireable is available'. I only forgave him in April 2013 when we(I and my Precious) found out that we were made for each other.
Life was worth living again but recently(last week to be precise), I sensed something better imagined than experience may happen. She doesn't call nor text again. I can observe a slight deviation from the way we used to speak on phone. Our latest 2go conversation ended this way:
Latino: Precious, I love u passionately
Mm..n: thanks but i don't have time for love matter now.

I sincerely love her, this she knows. Since our first meeting in 2010, no matter how intelligent, good-looking, nice, caring, loving etc a girl is, my inner man always tell me 'Yours is 100% better'.


Nairaland n Nairalanders, I strongly believe ur kind words, advice and encouragement can save my relationship. She is one of us(an active nairalander). She will certainly see/read this, Please let her see reasons to leave the part-time friends stuff and embrace reality.

Please LET IT BE BECAUSE OF U, LET IT NOT BE BECAUSE OF U.
Let it be because of u my joy is complete.
Let it not be because of u it move from bad to worst.

I believe in the power of your words even as I remain focus in the words of an English author Alan Alexander Milne, 'Rivers know this: there is no hurry, we shall get there some day'

Thanks my fellow ever-caring Nairalanders...

So this girl is on this nairaland reading you carrying on in such an unmanly way
Let me tell you now,woman to man,incase the men here have been unable to convey that message yet,you have committed the ultimate no no as far as ladies are concerned
No girl can tolerate all this beggarly spineless attitude from a man she expects to spend time with
Women look for strong men who can stand on their own two feet ,who can defend them if that time comes
You have shown yourself to be a spineless weakling
How else will this girl tell you NO
You hound and hound her and probably buy her over with gifts and she falls for a moment till she comes to her senses and asks herself what came over her then she dumps you only for you to go back and beg
Now you have carried the begging to a whole 'nother level by soliciting strangers to help you beg
Tufiakwa !
Wallahi If you were my brother.i will ask my father to cut you off the inheritance
How can you disgrace the family name in this manner

@ the girl,please just say no!

zomby: On a serious note, when a woman is bold enough to team up the family priest to build a house without the knowledge of her husband, there is nothing this woman can't do.
Therefore she can no longer be trusted.

If she is not ready to sincerely change her shady ways from A to Z, I say give her a red card.
It makes no sense to be with someone you can not trust.

You think it's easy to just throw things away and start anew with a new wife because of one small mistake
Do you know how much he spent in wedding and bride price and countless gifts
Go and marry half a wife let me see if you think it's eating beans
She erred and she has apologized
End of story


If Ifeoma my friend is still happily married to her man after setting all the contents of his wardrobe on fire
I don't see why this man will not put this behind him so the marriage can move on
We all err

So what held her back while Chime was in London for many months for treatment and presumed dead at various times
Wasn't that her chance to escape?
This story makes no sense the more I think about it

And the saga continues
I thought Tafawa balewa was dead
I didn't know he was still holding office
How old is he now?
130?

Where is that loud mouthed jide Kosoko when you need him

The Yoruwood colleagues for take up collection fly her to India
Died so young
May her family be comforted

sexymoma: Oyinbo wey say ' An idle mind is the devil's workshop'
You think say na lie dem dey talk.


My Candid advice for you is to keep praying to God for him to get a good job.
You can't just give up o, make one woman no come sitdon with soup wey you don prepare finish.

If we bother about the noise in the market... we wont get what we went there for o.
just ignore and keep praying for him.

Look at the eediotic advice you are giving a fellow woman
When she comes down with a disease,where will you be?
In cyberspace abi?

kemiadekoya99: What will you do if you are a lady and you are the breadwinner in your home, you take up all the expenses for the home. you found out that your hubby bings harlort home any time you are at work or you went for vigil. you both are married but no kid yet. Please advise on what step you will take on this issue

I will kick his behind out of the house where I am paying the bills,feeding and clothing him and buying the elephant blue detergent to wash the bedsheets he and ashawo sleep on.
He will come back and see all his belongings out in the veranda with a note that says

" find another house,this one is off limits"


Like others said,let your next thread not be

" what will you do if a husband who sleeps with ashawo gives you HIV and syphilis"
That will be your next destination if you haven't been infected already
Kick him out and go get yourself tested for STD and start treatment if positive
You are probably going to vigils praying to conceive and while you are there shouting halleluia,your husband is shouting hosanna with ashawo
Be wise dear
Get out of that situation fast

Agidi jellof and biscuit bone

Is that poo poo ?

Cashew nuts in Icecream
Cashew nuts in yoghurt
Cashew nuts in akamu
Cashew nuts in salads
Cashew nuts with bread
Cashew nuts with crackers
Cashew nut in drinking garri

I love cashew nuts

Afam4eva: Na hot water you wan use drink garri before? Nido serves as milk while cashew nuts serves as groundnut

Funny you
I meant ice cold water not normal room temp

My all time favorite

[size=18pt]Drinking garri with cold water, nido and cashew nuts or peanuts[/size]

ogugua88: My uncle used to smoke garri and sardines during his school days.

I could never understand people drinking garri with sardines

Ibanga p: Coconut and bread, strange but extremely delicious.

Very good
I still do it once in a while
For a more profound taste,toast the coconut a little in the oven

How about akara burgers from our campus days
Get a chunk of soft delicious bread, open it up,throw in a couple of akara balls inside it ,close and munch
and daliquate with a bottle of fanta

Let them ban musiwa from ever starting a topic on nairaland and see if he doesn't jump off a bridge

Like the govt will see a penny of what they collect.
That is if the tool booth workers make it home alive.
Soft target for armed bandits.

Most likely carbon monoxide poisoning from generator fumes

The things women marry in the name of husband
How can a man land a block on his wife's head?
What a wicked beast

chieflowo: This is for the Admin and Super MOD. One of your moderators named Afam4eva insulted a Senator of the Federal Republic of Nigeria in person of Dr Okurounmu and Awakulowo has no option than to insult him. Afam4eva withdrew Awakulowo's posting privilege but he is still active because of his position. If Awakulowo(a strong Yoruba Nation's defender) can be banned, Afam4eva should also be fired as a moderator.
I hereby move for his suspension.
I want Admin to know that Dr Okurounmu is my friend's Uncle.

Check the first page of the thread here: https://www.nairaland.com/1493848/national-confab-why-won-t

Just look at these people?
Unbelievable
Na so una touchy reach?
If you are banned,you serve your ban
Period
It happens to everybody
Sheesh
Dr okorodududu was banned and so what
Let him serve his ban like the rest of us