fineboynl:
there was electrical sparks when my body touches my bedsheets.

I really don't know where to Post this. there was no light but total darkness and when my body scratches my bedsheets it keep on sparking of lightning and with the spark noise as well.

Blackmiserable:


Yes, absolutely, but she (and you) cannot be beautiful for everyone, and beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Who does a good wife wants to appear most beautiful to? Her customers? Colleagues? Neighbours? Who exactly? don't tell me it's what I am thinking.

You do realize, don't you, that beauty and sexual attraction are at the heels of each other? I am curious

binarymachine:
We all have a past, some of us have nothing to worry of our past while some of us are not too proud of it. You may have done or involved in some reckless or silly acts in time past, it may be because you were younger and naive, it may be Youthful exuberance, it may be a wild sense of adventure, you might just been plain stupid or you may have been a victim of other’s wickedness. Whatever is it, you seem to be struggling with its memory and scars.

It called past because it has happened and there is nothing you can do about it. Understandably, some things interfere with our normal psychic and affects the way we think. Your past may be a traumatic event, you may have been used in a way unimaginable, abused, assaulted, violated, maltreated, debased or put through hell and the world made it look like it was your fault. Now you are depressed, feel rejected, probably tired of life and thinking you should just end it all. You wish to let go but it’s difficult and you don’t even know how to start. You are actually stronger than you think and that is why you are still alive.

However your past is, either it was something you did or something done to you. You have a whole life in front of you. No matter the weight of your past, or the gravity of sin committed against you, you can pull through it. Realise that you may not be the first to have gone through that, others have been there, they survived and are living thier best life. Realise also that you are not alone, a lot of people may be going through same problem as you right now.

Forgive

Forgive yourself for all the things that has happened, this is the first step to gaining your freedom. It was not your fault, there is little you could have done about it. Let go of the anger you feel towards yourself, you have punished yourself enough. Cry, grieve, breathe and let go.

Forgive the people that have put you in your present state. They put you through misery, made you feel worthless and kept taunting you until they almost broke you. Its is hard and you want your revenge. Sometimes the best revenge is forgiveness, forgive them! They probably may not know what you are passing through because of them but trust me, karma has kept records and will visit them in due time. Just let your anger towards them go and you will see how lighter you have become.

Pick Up And Move On

Finally, pickup what is left of you, rearrange your self, seek further counselling, speak to a trusted family or friend about it. Just pour your heart out to them and let them help you feel better. Get busy, get a job, try hanging out, make new friends, meet new people and give life another chance. Never be a prisoner of your past, yesterday is gone, today is fresh and tomorrow is beckoning. Forgive yourself, forgive the world, let go and let God deal with it.

Source: https://flipmemes.com/2019/10/27/let-go-of-your-past/

faithfull18:

Lol, I tell you. In a bid to get a lady with 100% of what they desire, they ignore the ones they feel they think is most relevant to them.

I don't know why men do this, why would someone who likes ladies on makeup approach a lady who likes being natural then start forcing her to use make up when there are thousands of ladies who meets his spec.

I just don't get it.

Right from time, I have always like my woman on low cut, so this issue came up, not that there is no money to pay for plaiting her hair monthly but I do really admire lowcut on women.
I discussed with my wife concerning this, I even used a married colleague at work as an example.
But my wife says what do I want people to say?, that she is not interested in such. That I can for someone that likes such.
What will You do if Your woman react like this?.

lavylilly:
So your man tells you he is not planning on having kids or getting married anytime soon as he is still sorting out his life... He tells you he wants to have his second degree, a proper house and a bigger car first. You sit there smiling with just a birth certificate thinking how 'lucky' a wife you'll be?
With the little he has, you ask for Brazilian hair and designer shoes. He goes to work and then straight to class after work. He leaves you in pyjamas in the morning and returns to find you in the same pyjamas in the evening. While he studies you watch 'African Magic' and 'Keeping Up with the Kardashians'. He comes back home to find pap and chicken in the microwave. The only serious conversation you ever have is about the type of groceries you guys need.

The only advice you give him is "Babe you need to buy a new pair of socks, the ones you bought last time are torn." Nothing intelligent comes out of your mouth. No plans of making your own life better. Yes you're are pretty but this days is all about what you are made off not beauty even pretty ladies don't marry handsome men if their pocket is empty, no doubt about that. But so is every second girl passing by.

Don't you realise that you're not doing anything a maid can't do? When he finishes studying, the first thing he will do is REPLACE HIS MAID. Because then he would be able to afford a maid and have a PROPER WIFE who has brains. That's when we are going hear your infamous last words, "I was with him through thick and thin when he had nothing, now that he is successful he thinks I am nothing."

Truth is, yes, you're right. You've always been NOTHING but a maid to him.

My dear, empower yourself to be the woman a successful man wants to be with... a woman who would be able to sustain her home if anything happens to his job or his health!

Good afternoon!

OmoAlata1:
I don't understand why women cheapen themselves like this all because you want to maintain Mrs status and you don't want society to ridicule you. That man has no respect for you at all, and he is doing it because he knows you are not going anywhere. He is very confident he will get his cake and eat it. You think if the case was reversed, he would still be around crying and begging for you to love him.

Please learn to love and fall in love with yourself. Value yourself and instill a lot of self worth in your life. No man is worth dying for, if you die today, he will still enjoy himself.

Get a job, make money and put yourself in a financially stable place. Life doesn't end if a man is not in your life.

zeb04:
You are still 26, in the prime of your life. Wait until you are 40 with 3 more mouths to feed.

One day you wake up and realize you have given the best years of your life to an arrogant,unrepentant cheat.

You better leave. You are not even dead yet and someone else is already by the door.

But you can stay, have low self esteem and kill yourself with hypertension. Your reward is in heaven.

eni4real:
Women plenty, wife material dey small

Grupo:

Oya, come and marry me.

sweetkev:
will you marry me

chukzyfcbb:
I want Kids, but I don't want to get married.
There is no other benefit i can get from marriage besides Kids.

Sex, Food, Domestic chores I can always source for with money.

All those talk about Mental Support and all that trash , I don't need from a woman coz I am my own motivator

I can't deal with these Female Drama, nags and all, I want my sanity in check...

The problem is how to get my family people to accept this reality. Besides Kids, I don't see anything to gain...

saasala:
Now 32, will be 33 in few months.
The only thing holding me: No woman to marry.

Freehuman:
"Musa our children will be fine, Musa I will love you forever." Na so Musa take read Amina wedding invitation for toll gate. Walahi , Musa faint for gate.

Na me be Musa. Wetin my eye don see heavy for mouth to talk. I don leave gateman work make I go become something for this life. Men with Benz don carry my heartthrob oooo. Amina ,I love you scatter. I won't marry no other girl than Amina. I won't marry.
Money do me something for this life. Abeg young men abeg make una try become something for this life, work hard, shun Yahoo, focus and help your Papa, Mama and siblings. Na only them love you.
Cries an ocean

Freehuman:
"Musa our children will be fine, Musa I will love you forever." Na so Musa take read Amina wedding invitation for toll gate. Walahi , Musa faint for gate.

Na me be Musa. Wetin my eye don see heavy for mouth to talk. I don leave gateman work make I go become something for this life. Men with Benz don carry my heartthrob oooo. Amina ,I love you scatter. I won't marry no other girl than Amina. I won't marry.
Money do me something for this life. Abeg young men abeg make una try become something for this life, work hard, shun Yahoo, focus and help your Papa, Mama and siblings. Na only them love you.
Cries an ocean

Anifaza:
Please pardon me for using a new moniker as I am quite known here.

Friends and family, I really need your sincere and matured input on this matter.

I have been married for over 10 years with 4 kids. My hubby is a great guy save for this area that we will never agree.
 
 I have sisters-in-law who have vowed never to give me peace despite all my efforts to give peace a chance.  Most of them are all older than him and sort of influences his decision that affects my marriage greatly.

From the beginning, it has been if I am in their good books, my marriage will work and I will be happy, then if not, reverse will be the case.

My husband has refused to see all their manipulations and always tell me that he grew up with them and so he is indebted to them. I have never tried to cause a separation between them but they usually see me as an intruder to their unity.

For these 10 years plus, it has always been the issue,  I have begged, used gifts,  apologised ,sought for forgiveness from them  for sins I have not committed just for peace to reign yet, the next problem will be bigger than the previous.

Some are married while some are not. The worst that affect me most is the married ones with children.

Now, they all don't talk to me and this is affecting my marriage. Hubby gives me cold shoulders, no sex asking me to mend the relationship with his sisters  of which I am fed up with the whole thing and I don't want to beg again.

My mind is made up that everyone should stay on their own. Hubby is the only male, seems to be the only one doing well  and parents are no more
 
Please what do I do?

Mods front page please for more inputs.

Updated

Thanks for your input. I truly appreciate. It all started in my ist year of marriage when I had my baby and still in school. My mum came to look after baby and few months later, I took in again of which I left baby with mum while I continued schooling.

They accused my hubby of allowing my mother to be the only one taking care of baby and not them. That in their tradition, mothers of wife have no say and influence in family affairs. This was a major issue and still is. While in my culture, nothing of such as we see nothing wrong here. They disrespect my mother till date because of this. I have caught one twice giving my mother bad eye.

2ndly, a distant relative came with high risk pregnancy with fibroid and I asked she comes to seek medical help and go back, when she came, it was war in my house that it is forbidden in their culture for a pregnant woman to come to another man's house which she's not pregnant for. She later left but loads of issues after this.

My in-laws come anytime even with their children .Every other week and weekend is in my house.
My husband will not take us out unless they are around.

Hubby's lil sis but older than me lived with me for 5 years and that's where the whole wahala persisted with her giving information. I began to see their collaboration through her and frustrated me to the very letter.

We had a fight and hubby asked her to leave. They all ganged up not to talk to me or hubby again which hubby is feeling alienated.
Hubby said his position is threatened in his family and I am the cause. I took care of his older sister who had complication in her surgery for 6 months in my house, non of them came to visit her in my house nor call me. Rather , She got well and told others that I didn't give her food that was why when one called her and she said she was in a restaurant to eat. Hubby and I had issue on this.

I am so fed up . I work and I contribute significantly in the family.
They see me as the one who eats their brother's money alone.
Hubby takes great financial care of them. I am just tired.

farady:
You're seeking.validation to go for the second lady because you're pained and unhappy. Bros cool down. Dat thing wey dey shack u go soon clear for your eyes. I be wan slap dat ur head but com chill.

Take your woman at home out on a weekend treat.e no dey cost, just eatery and take an evening walk in one quiet area and ask her what the matter is, her concern, her fears anything. Trust me she will open up. Then try and see things from her perspective, then assure and alay her fears and worries. Like someone said, you were once in love, so you need to rekindle that fire. Forget about that second lady oh. You are too young for the stress and wahala that will come out of it.

shugaboy6102:
This is my story and I will appreciate if the mods can push it to front page so that others can read and learn from me, and I also need your honest comments and advice because you could be saving a drowning man.

I Am 29 years of age, a civil engineer by profession and a sanguine by temperament. Before my youth service @ age 24 I got my girl friend pregnant and I was scared of abortion so we decided to keep the baby with the full support of my mother and she agreed because I was an only son. After that, we proceeded to see her people with my mum and relatives to my girl friends village and we paid something on her head but didn't complete the whole traditional right, but this was not even the traditional wedding proper.

After that we saw ourselves as husbands and wife and we were living fine for sometime. After sometime, the relationship took a different turn as we were always fighting and didn't agree on even the slightest matter. I remember vividly one occasion we fought over a female colleague @ work who sent me a whatsapp message and why we fought was that she came to my work place and fought the young lady openly embarrassing me in the process in front of everyone.

There were times I would try to reconcile but she would blatantly refused, sometimes she will tell me she is fed up of this thing we call marriage and that she's looking for someone that I too should look for someone else.

Fast-forward I met a lady and one thing led to another and I started picking interest in her. It was never my intention to be with another woman but I don't have peace of mind and I feel I am loosing my mind.

Note: I haven't wedded in a church before or done a full traditional marriage. Here comes the question: would it be considered a divorce if I quit this union and marry this new lady?

I am full of unhappiness and pain and I don't want to live a life of endurance and pity. Pls nobody should pressure you into getting married, marriage is not a license to live a happy life. If you are single, I envy you.

favoryte33:
I can do anything for love but there's one thing i can't do for love. I can't kee maself.

Davash222:
If you still have your senses, then you are not in love!!

Moezzy1:
I don't know how to start writing this and I'm even confused on what to write but i know deep down within me that something is wrong with my mental

I'm 27, and i am not focused about life, I tried to be focus but i keep blaming myself for how i have failed myself.
I don't really know what i want, I'm neither here nor there.

I remember when i was in Secondary School, i was one of the bright kid in my class, all through my primary education, my grades were very good. I had said to myself that i will be a graduate before I become 25, but my dreams were shattered what happened to me still remain a misery .

In 2014, I lost mum. I was heartbroken coz she seems to be the only one that knows what was really wrong with me, when she was alive she never let me off her sight.

After her death, I was really broken coz know one to run to for any assistant. So i started working as a security guard in a company, 20k as salary.
I was trying to save some money so i can learn a skill but something happened, but i really don't know what happened

In 2016, a cousin of mine called and told me to quit the job, that he have a better plan for me. I didn't think twice, so i quite and move to the State where he was, the action i later regret.

When i got there it was not what i had expected, I was used, as a slave I don't know

I stayed there for close 3yrs, with nothing to show for it, each night i weep and i later realize that I'm not okay coz sometimes the kind of thought i had seems not to be my own.

About 7months ago, i moved back here to the State i was before, when i got here, I went back to the company i was working as a security guard, they accepted me back because they said i had a clean record when i was working with them.

Now in October, they transferred me to a private resident, to be working as a guard/gateman

I shouldn't have been here, my life is a failure. I'm trying so hard to control the state of mind coz it seems that im about to run mad.

Please how can i get back my mental power?

The way my thoughts are hunting me, i might not cross over to 2020

I'm stuck

Help me Oh Lord

Apeshy101:
As we round off 2019, most of us have drafted plans on how to perfect our 2020.

Below are mine;
1. Hit the gym
This is a plan have had since 2018 but couldn't keep up with it. Got some bars at home but I'm not just that disciplined enough to follow the routine regularly.

To avoid repeating this same failure, I will register in a gym and hire and instructor cum 2020.

2. Try clothing business:
I will open a clothing business towards February or March.

I will let babe handle it, she is quite enterprising but I want to test her limit, (how she will be able to cope with multitask and pressure, how she can comfortably float a business while studying)

3. Guide people on how to make money online legitimately

Towards June, (I propose I would be less busy then) I will teach as many as willing nairalandes how to make more than 500k monthly just working 1-2hrs daily from your PC.

I plan to create this thread on romance/business section and promote the thread for 6 Months.

So help me God!
Share yours guys

cc
Dominique

Wayne4uall:


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Emmanuelhector:
Don't vex ma, my brain is lighter