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Have heard this 'story' before. Can't tell how fake or real it is, but certainly, something close to the story must have happened IMHO.

@op, as a lady who's desirable of getting married and having kids, your worry/concern is understandable. I like the idea that you have a (age) target. Your case is redeemable even with your past life. I think the problem is you've not met a man who truly appreciates you. You were once a stripper and not a porn star, and i know for a fact that everyone has a past. I've seen ladies with even more terrible and wayward lifestyle and ended up getting married even to the 'most wonderful man' against all odds and beyond everyone's expectation. Your case may not even be as pathetic as some would want us to believe with their comments here. My advice is just be yourself, keep a positive mind set. You can work on your decency(dress style). Cut down on your exposure, show less flesh (put up another profile pix with a more decent pose and wear) and 'adjust' in other areas where you know or think you have 'deficiencies'. Who knows, you could just find a man who'll truly love you for who you are even sooner than you expect and you could well be on your way to living your (marriage) dream. Cheers!

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ITbomb: May 13, 2010 Registered
Which days are you talking about Son
That was a year before last year

Loooolest!

@op, depends on the understanding btw the two and how ready they both are. For me, engagement shouldn't last for more than 6mnths

ITbomb: May 13, 2010 Registered
Which days are you talking about Son
That was a year before last year

Loooolest!

@op, depends on the understanding btw the two and how ready they both are. For me, engagement shouldn't last for more than 6mnths

@Dimples, i do not intend to make the thread about you. At this point, i'll give you a break so you enjoy your freedom of thought and right to opinion, we all learn about people everyday. Again, I love your openness for admitting what other ladies wouldn't dare confirm publicly. It's okay, maybe with time, you'll have a different mind set (like you said)about marriage and having kids, but hope by then, it wouldn't be too little, too late. Cheers!

Dimples 316: No offence taken, yes I would like to take care of my folks for as long as its possible and necessary to. Married folks do this too which is all good but I am saying I don't need to be married to do this. Taking care of my folks is more of a priority than marriage is and am not going to put my life on hold or wait to do things like this until I am married.

This may sound controversial but its the truth I love children especially those between 0-6 yrs, I can have kids out of wedlock via adoption if orphanages will allow single parenting. One female child is what I desire I don't need to have pre-marital sex to have a child. I don't know about needing kids to take care of me because there is no guarantee that they will. They could pass on before I do or turn out to be irresponsible or simply not give a damn.

I would strive to take care of me for as long as I can single or not,while trusting in God to take better care of me now and in my old age because He created me and knows the end from the beginning. My faith in Christ is a big part of my life if something feels right and doesn't go against my Lord's instructions I do it. For example the adoption thing

Lol...You actually sounded spiritual in the last paragraph.


Wow! Honestly i am marveled by your revelations concerning getting married and having kids after following your comments and i must say your position is a bit weird and uncanny. However, i respect your wishes and opinions and i know you're entitled to live your life just the way you want to. But you really cracked me up when you said you love kids yet you don't want to have one from your own womb. Am still wondering if your decision never to get intimate with a man again is because you never got to reach organism in your previous r/ships despite enjoying fore-plays or if there's some other strange reasons for that and you being able to 'come' via mere wild imagination. Sounds quite contradictory to me. You claim you don't do s3x t_oys and masta_bation, even if that's the case now, for how long can you hold on and as human that you are, for how long can you resist the desire for a real masculine touch and pleasure? Cos to think that you are claiming never to get intimate again is just some real puzzle of some sort to me. Dunno what it is about you, but good luck to you'oo. At least i've a learnt a new thing today, persons like you exist. Again no harm intended!

However, i admire your being honest and straightforward, kudos!

[quote author=Atheist:-D]She can have kids without being married. What makes you think that she needs to be married to have kids.[/quote]Mr, you obviously didn't get me. I only asked if she doesn't desire getting kids(even outside marriage) later to take care of her in old age and she has since responded that she prefers having one (female) via adoption.

Dimples 316: @ OP and topic,

Here we go again, are folks like you ever going to believe that there are actually some women out there who do not want to get married, have kids and do the whole family woman thing? Did you read the front page thread titled 'My Husband and His Strange Women'? Do you visit the family section where you get to see more of such stories? Stories like that are enough to put me off marriage, but that's just one of the many reasons why I am not taken in with the whole marriage thing.

I turned 29 in June, am still single not worried or bothered about my status. My utmost concern is and has always been to watch out for my parents, take good care of them like they took care of me from infancy to adulthood and simply just give back to them before I lose one of them to the cold hands of death.I can do this with or without a husband infact I do not need one to.

Marriage is the least of my concerns even as I write this.I've got my head screwed on right I look beyond the glitz & glamour of the wedding day ceremony. I am not thrilled about it or anxious for it whether it happens or not, I remian well grounded in the fact that SINGLENESS IS NOT A DISEASE I NEED TO BE CURED FROM & MARITAL STATUS OF BEING MARRIED WILL NOT GUARANTEE MY PASSAGE INTO HEAVEN.

Hmmmn, human beings and mindset, nawaooo!


@Dimples, swwetie, no offense pls, you jst turned 29 and still single, and the posts from the family section scares you from even 'thinking' marriage and you want to dedicated th rest of your life taking care of your ageing parents(as if those who are married don't happily do that). Do you intend to get kids (that is of course out of wedlock) cos u'll definately need one or two to take care of you when you start ageing. Just asking'o, and maybe a food for thought for some.

Naturally, the market value for women drops as they get older compared to men. Most career women who have made their mark in their profession usually don't marry early cos they cling to their jobs not giving much thought to marriage, and to some, marriage has become a thing of status, so they're waiting for their 'level'. A few other ladies can't just come to terms with living with a man and playing the role of surbodinate to some man. Different reasons I tell you, some of them just so so funny.

Now op, kindly confirm if you're female or not (and tell us where you belong).

Abeg make we hear word joor! Like this is the first time people will be having 'unofficially'. Now it's Peter and some people come here with sermons on ethics and unafricanism, abeg make una park well. So you want some lady to come and tie down his burgeoning carrier in the name of marriage The young man needs some time and space to focus more on his carrier without having some woman who will always cling to him on account of 'my husband'.
By the way, is Lola complaining? you'll be shocked to know that she even finds it a favor having kids by the dude. Besides remaining marriad is the ultimate and not just getting married, so i-too-sabi-pple, make una relax!

But those Dana attendants.......mthceew, i comment my reserve!

muumuu: Has anyone seen Gary neville or Gary cahill?who's alison maduekwe ?is she sample ekwe husband?

You must be a citizen of Gar-ry republic. U b confirmed Mu-Mu'o

Hmmmn official make una mind una self'o
Oya, nxt goal must stand 4 naija
Go Falconets, naija all d way!

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I'm here now, we can feast on d americans now
Up Falconets! Go Nigeria!!

Kobojunkie, here i come again. Your senseless comments and baseless assumptions and deductions leaves me with no option but to question your sanity. Your unrelenting insistence that boko haram has killed more musrams than christians gives you away as someone who's being living in the dark and in denial of truth. You asked for a data on BH attack on churches and casualty figures and you got it, but you couldn't provide us with a corresponding data on the attack on mosques.
Yes a few musrams were attacked and killed by the BH infidels, is that to say that these few equals(or more than)the multitude of christians that has been killed in multiple bomb blasts during several church services

Again i ask you, if boko haram has declared a war on christianity, how then could they have killed more musrams than christians Safe for the few persons you mentioned, how many more musrams have being killed during the boko haram insurgencies.
Untill you stop soundin like a delusional paid agent who has been promised 7 virgins(in hell), i'll continue to regard you as a demen_ted bloke who's been fed with cow poo from birth

Kobojunkie, here i come again. Your senseless comments and baseless assumptions and deductions leaves me with no option but to question your sanity. Your unrelenting insistence that boko haram has killed more musrams than christians gives you away as someone who's being living in the dark and in denial of truth. You asked for a data on BH attack on churches and casualty figures and you got it, but you couldn't provide us with a corresponding data on the attack on mosques.
Yes a few musrams were attacked and killed by the BH infidels, is that to say that these few equals(or more than)the multitude of christians that has been killed in multiple bomb blasts during several church services

Again i ask you, if boko haram has declared a war on christianity, how then could they have killed more musrams than christians Safe for the few persons you mentioned, how many more musrams have being killed during the boko haram insurgencies.
Untill you stop soundin like a delusional paid agent who has been promised 7 virgins(in hell), i'll continue to regard you as a demen_ted bloke who's been fed with cow poo from birth

Kobojunkie, here i come again. Your senseless comments and baseless assumptions and deductions leaves me with no option but to question your sanity. Your unrelenting insistence that boko haram has killed more musrams than christians gives you away as someone who's being living in the dark and in denial of truth. You asked for a data on BH attack on churches and casualty figures and you got it, but you couldn't provide us with a corresponding data on the attack on mosques.
Yes a few musrams were attacked and killed by the BH infidels, is that to say that these few equals(or more than)the multitude of christians that has been killed in multiple bomb blasts during several church services

Again i ask you, if boko haram has declared a war on christianity, how then could they have killed more musrams than christians Safe for the few persons you mentioned, how many more musrams have being killed during the boko haram insurgencies.
Untill you stop soundin like a delusional paid agent who has been promised 7 virgins(in hell), i'll continue to regard you as a demen_ted bloke who's been fed with cow poo from birth

Kobojunkie, here i come again. Your senseless comments and baseless assumptions and deductions leaves me with no option but to question your sanity. Your unrelenting insistence that boko haram has killed more musrams than christians gives you away as someone who's being living in the dark and in denial of truth. You asked for a data on BH attack on churches and casualty figures and you got it, but you couldn't provide us with a corresponding data on the attack on mosques.
Yes a few musrams were attacked and killed by the BH infidels, is that to say that these few equals(or more than)the multitude of christians that has been killed in multiple bomb blasts during several church services

Again i ask you, if boko haram has declared a war on christianity, how then could they have killed more musrams than christians Safe for the few persons you mentioned, how many more musrams have being killed during the boko haram insurgencies.
Untill you stop soundin like a delusional paid agent who has been promised 7 virgins(in hell), i'll continue to regard you as a demen_ted bloke who's been fed with cow poo from birth

Kobojunkie, here i come again. Your senseless comments and baseless assumptions and deductions leaves me with no option but to question your sanity. Your unrelenting insistence that boko haram has killed more musrams than christians gives you away as someone who's being living in the dark and in denial of truth. You asked for a data on BH attack on churches and casualty figures and you got it, but you couldn't provide us with a corresponding data on the attack on mosques.
Yes a few musrams were attacked and killed by the BH infidels, is that to say that these few equals(or more than)the multitude of christians that has been killed in multiple bomb blasts during several church services

Again i ask you, if boko haram has declared a war on christianity, how then could they have killed more musrams than christians Safe for the few persons you mentioned, how many more musrams have being killed during the boko haram insurgencies.
Untill you stop soundin like a delusional paid agent who has been promised 7 virgins(in hell), i'll continue to regard you as a demen_ted bloke who's been fed with cow poo from birth

[quote author=O.D.B.]All religions are totally useless.

A wise man once said; Treat your religion like your genita1s, never expose it in public and never try shoving it down other people's throat.[/quote]If you are indeed nigerian and you live there, you can tell which religion tries to shove their belief down the throat of others. Never heard christians say you must practicse christianity but it is a theme song among musrams that everybody must convert to islam if they want peace in nigeria with its incessant attack on christians and churches. From this assertion, it was needless of you to quote your 'wise man' in his description of religion cos you know much as i do that islam has been known to propagate violence.#Point to note: christianity is not useless
Op, islam is a religion of piss and violence, its being proven long ago

Op, good thinking! even if not all, there's defo something to take away from this

15- big lie

angiemartinez: i was talkn to a frnd 2day abt her man, all she said was all abt his bad. I listend carefuly n i askd her wat role she playd in d whole episode n all she said was 'meee, no i gave him a piece of my mind o. We dig am no b small', 2 me it wouldnt have generatd 2 dat if she had mayb walk away n come bak later 2 addres it. She is fond of doin it. If d guy later changes his mind 4 smone else, d next tin she wil say is guys r bad, after al we av been tru he left me for anoda gurl.

Me like this. Its obvious that this your friend in question is the querrulous type and when the trouble comes, she'll be the one crying fowl. T'was good you tried talking to her thou, show you're a good friend

On a serious note, for she to say she wants to return the money, i think its a slight on the guy. Will she also return the abstract moments they had together No matter how hard she tries she cannot erase his memory from her life and that's a hard fact, whatever led to their break up, i don't see any reason why she wants to denigrate him with this action, she should learn to live with .
Alas the guy has nothing to loose so if she throws the money back at him, let him gladly accept it and move on, good riddance...who knows

Op ehm no vex'o. So she wants to return everything abi? Ok. Is she also going to collect all the 'coochie' wey d guy don chop abi him no chop punny ni

Anyway as per loan, why not

That's strange.
Standing before my g/f, the next thing i do after caressing her face is a long stormy kiss

Trust her, Tiwa never disappoints with her 'above the knee' lil dresses, always looking strikingly hot

kelvincoll: On point, she's d sexiest thing to happen to Naija music industry

Very correct! That babe oozes sex appeal, i can catch a grenade for her, have you seen her wine her waist? Chei ....

edicolove: So he emptied the box and checked all the ballots and they were thumb printed on the umbrella column? Naija journalists and politics.

Valid question! Exactly the reason i asked a similar question above. Already crying fowl even before the game got started #smh#

IMO, by virtue of candidate credibility and popular demand, the comrade governor would win. PDP & CAN are like the proverbial 'kettle' and 'pot' but in this case, the acn is the lesser evil

I hope the journalist is not acting up a scipt or is the ACN conceading defeat already?.
I smell serious trouble in edo state should any party rig/attempt to rig this election. I will just sit and watch

And so Is the ballot box supposed to be taken to his sitting room so he will vote
Mtcheew!