₦airaland Forum

Jakumo:
Regardless of the reason his wife is ballooning, my humble prediction is that the good doctor is already putting finishing touches to his divorce petition.

The level of frustration he feels is so evident in the wording he uses, and the fact that he is consulting complete strangers in an open forum without even bothering to hide his identity, further hints at a very deep sense of utter futility he is feeling at this point. Hot sexy women abound in Palm Springs, and a man of high net worth with a doctorate in fluid dynamics KNOWS he can do better. That marriage is history. He needs to catch up on the sex life that is simply passing him by to his utter dismay.

Jakumo:
As a renowned Doctor of Pure and Applied Sexological Studies, I have already issued my prescription for the man to get laid with younger and fitter women so he can get his rocks off and stop being concerned about how big his wife grows due to her gluttonous and sedentary life.

Jakumo:
She exercises regularly and is otherwise 100% natural. Women who are out of shape, fat, and matronly always try and blame their inability to afford plastic surgery as the cause of their own profound laziness and gluttony. Well, the result is that they will be replaced by a newer model secretly or in the open.

Chronic obesity is a rampaging EPIDEMIC among African American women and this guy's monstrous wife is a victim of that lazy gluttonous mentality. He must truly be at his wit's end to clearly identify himself in this forum while issuing such a passionate cry about his growing frustration over his wife's growing girth that is killing his sex drive and driving him to distraction.

tiswell:
what's the statistics you used to analyze this failure in 1st marriage?

Most failed 1st marriages never succeed in the the subsequent ones.

Kobojunkie:
1. Divorce instead means the strategy employed in your previous relationship failed, and you have a chance to do better in your next attempt. You do not divorce yourself from all marriages but from a particular marriage.

So long as you are in this "error and contradictions" prone state called life, expect failures. If you take anu of it personally, you are bound to wreck yourself. If you pretend it all has no meaning, you fool yourself. Best is to take it for what it is which is an opportunity to learn from mistakes so you can move forward and make less of the same.

bukatyne:
Does divorce mean you have failed in marriage?

Yes.

After all, divorce is the failure of a marriage.

The question should be 'is failure a bad thing'?

It depends on the circumstances.

For instance, failure is better than death.

burp18:
A fraudster, Loser and a Bigot

Tadadobe:
A short man can't get ahead in the workplace? How toxic and ridiculous can that kind of country get where your look determined where you get to in life no matter how hard u work

Are you a man or woman

alert01:
My story and I choose to share it on an anonymous forum to heal.

Shortly before COVID, I went to Canada on a student Visa for an Ms program. After my degree, I decided to stay. And here is my dating story

From 2019 to 2021, I wasn't in a serious relationship with anyone since I was a student and still trying to get my finances in order. My province, in fact, my school didn't really have Nigerians like that. BC seem to have decent concentration of Nigerians tho. However, within that year, I asked two ladies out who I know were also looking for serious relationship, but rejected me. One was Rwanda, and the other one from Eritrea. They were both working class ladies that time. I just recently only get to know I was rejected base on look and height.

Okay, last year I got a job and I seemed to be doing decently fairly. But I still didn't find a woman yet to date me. I put myself on Tinder, but didn't get match. The only match I got, she ghost me after our second meeting. I wasn't her taste and standard. She was looking for a 6ft ,good looking and heavily built guy.

I tried linking up with few Nigerian guys who introduced me to their circles. Somehow, I got to meet women. I met oyinbo women too. The two I told about love interests also didn't show interest.

Another Nigerian, just got here last year on a student Visa, also couldn't date me.

But the one that really pained me most was an Eritrean lady I got in contact with recently. She is a citizen already. She ghost me after seeing my pictures 😭.

I'm only a little around 5ft 3in. On the side of big, but not that overweight and I've been going to gym now trying to get a slim body. I'm not where I need to be financially but I'm not doing too bad.

skillmyman:
Op.
Marriage requires wisdom. Glad you said your wife has some good parts.
For the food part, let the nanny continue to make the food. It is obvious she does not like cooking so you can relieve her that job role.
At least you are sure of your meals and let the nanny have a timetable of food you want.

Sex can be an uphill task especially if you live in lagos that you are in traffic an avg of 6 hrs a day so it can probably be once a week.

The truth also is that some women lose their appetite for sex after having children. Whatever the case, you need to find out wat ticks your woman and put her in the mood. That is an assignment for you.
You need to also decide if your marriage is worth it without sex. Think abt it.

It is also easy for women to feel used and unappreciated because of the effort they put into the marriage. So my advice is for you to take her on vacations, help her let out steam. Let her know that her effort in the house is appreciated. Women wants affirmation so you cannot be tired of telling her your love for her

Also try n buy her little things like perfumes, lingeries, bags, shoes etc. sexy stuff frequently.

Now if all these does not work, talk to her n find out if she needs a break. The truth is that staying married can be tiring at times especially if there are unwritting rules, regulations and expectations from everyone.

A lot of people dont also appreciate what they have until they lose it.

I wish you all the best.
Buzz if you need to talk.
My 2 cents of my 23 yrs of being married.

Asour:
You're seeing survivorship bias.

If a spouse requires a particular thing done a particular way that's fine. Adjustments/compromise is the SOLUTION there NOT some phantom love language codified by Gary chapman in 1992 to sell a self help book.
How did marriages succeed before his book in 1992?

Respect, Compromise & sacrifice has been what holds relationships of all types: Work, family, Business, spiritual etc.

Not some touchy-feely feel good

RALPHOW:
U just said nothing.

luminouz:
K!!;

luminouz:
Counselor isonu

Advise your own house properly biko...

Who you dey fool?

Poor cook

luminouz:
Yen yen yen..

Go away jor aunty. You that your soup is always sour. I was a guest and vomited my guts out.

Please, fix your kitchen/cooking skills first

Asour:
Who invented this love language gimmick?
This false dichotomy that one's love language is one thing to the exclusion of other things is a 21st century marketing strategy to sell books & Seminar.
Love is sacrifice. Anything more is supplementary.
MGHU.

Sagai:
CAN is getting overly sensitive these days, how times have changed.

sihamey:
He told you his friends has not gotten any job and he managed to get this one and you ask him to change better job
Did he see better job and he is complaining

Bigcoconut:
Hello, guys
I don't want to bore you guys with long epistle. Yes, as the title suggests. I travelled to Canada through the study route this January but I can tell you for a fact that I'm already bored with this place. I'm redoing a 2 year program that I have already concluded in Naija but just because I want japa, I redid it. But that's not the issue. The issue is that I'm working in a company but the department I was posted to was a physical demanding one. To the extent that if I work for a day, I feel pain all over my body for a week. And this is seriously affecting my education because anytime i go to work, i wouldn't have the energy to do anything again as i would be so weak. but i have to work because i have bills to pay. Nobody send you for here except you want sleep for cold outside. Even half of my salary goes in the form of settling bills. The work makes me depressed. This is not what I bargained for. For me to raise money for my tuition fees and travel expenses, at least I wasn't doing bad in Nigeria before i left. In addition, I hardly have time for myself. My situation is even better, most of people who we came same time haven't found jobs yet.
My thinking is if I should ask for refund of my remaining tuition fee and relocate back Naija, or go back Naija and take some courses online, as there seems to be an option for that.

Tmb78:
After this epistle, you still didn't point out the lies in what I said.
It's so sad that this energy you are displaying here is always absent when truly needed.

Let me tell you, forget election, all I said have always been there and will continue to be there.
Even after the election, as recently as yesterday, I was still reading about Yoruba Muslims been trolled forgetting that scores of Yoruba Muslims were and still are standing for what is right likewise we Yoruba Christians too.

So I should go and chase money ba?
So Psquare brothers that made life difficult for Lola just because of her tribe are paupers okwaya?
Dey play

post=122378093:
Because I'm telling you what you hate to hear, do you believe Forbes

ShortBiscuit:
I mean, each time they release a list of Nigerian billionaires, they always deliberately omit the millions of dollar billionaires of Igbo extraction. This marginalization must end. One Nnewi billionaire alone can fund United States of America's annual budget. The bad-belle is getting too much.

Tmb78:
Unfortunately, when the dust has settled the same people she is defending will turn around to call her dirty and ugly, who no man wants to marry 😂😂( the way the igbos on nairaland see Yoruba women)
I pity people like Macaroni and co who are Yoruba Muslims
I don't think these people know how the igbos truly feel about them.😁😁
Those hateful guys, Jesus!

helinues:
Let's talk about drainage in Abia state

The were people who care less about things happenings In their homeland

Thegamingorca:
The bill is dead on arrival and here is why,

1) There is a temporary provisional license with which you use to practice for 2yrs and do your housemanship before it expires after graduation. That license Is just to show ppl that you have the right to touch patients for a time period after graduation during which you must have complete your housemanship. Maybe that license will now be increased to 5yrs due to the bill but that will now make the stress to hurriedly look for housemanship slots easy, and make the graduates focus on getting UK qualifications first.. It is that graduation letter with IELTS and not the provisional license(or the permanent license gotten after housemanship), that is needed to be submitted to examining body in the UK to start the process of writing their exams. And once you pass the exams you must register under GMC within 2yrs with evidence of housemanship. The graduation certificate, your one year housemanship evidence(which you can now do after passing plab2), your IELTS and the pass of the two exams that are the Koko requirement to prove that indeed you are a doctor that can practice in UK unsupervised.

You only need evidence of your Naija full license or provisional license when you are applying for visa.



2) There is also no requirement for the full license to practice as a doctor after housemanship by the GMC in uk . Because once you have passed English test, plab 1 and 2 (even without housemanship for those who can afford to leave the country immediately after graduation and face UK), they can do their housemanship in the UK and get UK license directly with just their university certificate. That one is a bit more competitive but if you can get slot before you even apply or finish your housemanship here, you can just go to the UK straight as an fy1


Now this is what will be happening, Alot of Nigerian doctors will make it a duty and goal to leave before that 5yrs expiration just to show the legislators that they can keep their permanent license

kyber:
Wife Killed Her Husband Cause He Couldn’t Pay Their Kids School Fees

I lost a friend last night cause he couldn’t afford the school fees for his 2 daughters and he committed suicide.

Worst part of the story is that his wife had already paid the fees but informed the school to keep asking her husband so she could get a refund Gosh!

Don’t you think the lady killed her husband indirectly?
Why are women so wicked and heartless?