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Daeylar:
I'm surprised too. The way he said it as if anybody believes rape victims in the first place or takes them seriously? They even start attacking the victim, why did you go here, why did you wear this, stupid asinine questions that make me feel like slapping hell out of them

A time is coming? Which time? Time we are already living in?

A woman or man who says he or she was raped isn't believed and in some cases is even insulted,

Is it not the same victim blaming Nigeria again?


Let everybody tell their story, provide evidence, go to court,
If the guy actually raped the girl then he goes to jail,
It should be taken seriously, any one found guilty should go to jail, I also recommend castration,

If the girl is lying she goes to jail, by the time many fools that will want to try it see the number of people in jail for false rape accusations they'll think twice and also the Man's name must be cleared.


Rape is not a joke nor something to be thrown around when it's not true.

My solution.


[color=Blue] And finally, a time should never ever come whereby no one should believe rape accusations. What!!!?

Why is it that any thing stupid some women do is used as ammo to try and attack all women?, What kind of threat is that? No one will believe any woman?

If it's you men they attack with this kind of nonsense, you all will rush to type it's not all men, remember your father and all the rubbish,

Mtchewww, you men feel so special in this country,

Instead of addressing the problem of rape and false accusations of rape and looking for solutions, you're giving ridiculous threats, trash.

Whether you believe or not is not needed, all you need to do is make sure the case is taken to court and make sure the truth comes out,
Whoever is lying should be punished, either the man or woman,

Not sitting there trying to take laws into your own hands, typing ridiculous threats like "it will get to a time no one will believe rape accusations from women". [/color]

exactly my dear!! Not all men kwa?? But all men indulge in victim blaming!! All men are not the same my bom bom!! They always find the loopholes n call them liars

ThePallidMan:
please stop being ignorant. sperm stays in the vagina for 3 days. if raped, got to the hospital and get your region examined for tear and sperm and have it analysed. call the police and inform them of the accused rapist. he ejaculates in a container and Its analysed. if its a match. hes taken to court. the sperm or scratch he left on you is evidence. stop acting so ignorant

yeah in americian films!! Most ladies dont speak up immediately due to the stigmq but when she does!those that imply she is lyinghow mny rape cases gets to court in nigeria ??N u stop being ignorant n sentimental

Jman06:
And this is why you said that all men are scum Women nko!
I once met a girl whom i liked so much, toasted her and she accepted. A week into the relationship, after allowing me bond emotionally with her, the girl started acting up. Next she denied that she ever agreed to date me. That is after making me fall flatly inlove with her. Imagine the kind of pains i went through. In fact, kudos to the play boys who take revenge on behalf of guys like me.

sorry love but its not as often as guys

AryEmber:
Well, I'm spearing you right now. Thank God your daddy, uncle, brother, future husband/current lover are part of these scums.

hahahahahahahahahaha

DeadRat:
I Know You Are The One...





Anyway, Please Always Remember To Use the Phrase "Some Men"...

MeN MEN MEEEEEEN!!!

IamLEGEND1:
abeg, it's 'have sex with him'..... not 'sex him'.
You're educated(I hope).... act like it.

see its not by force if u didnt get the sex him part!! Move on!!! N further more i dont do anything to please ur standard nor expectations!! Thanks 4 the comment tho!!

mikebrown92:
This is the definition of olosho in disguise

So your friend was paid for the romantic smooching and kissing.

u are a big fool!!! Ur the typical definition of foolishness n irresponsiblity, so u invite a girl to see u wont u give her transport Useless man!! I pity the girl that will end up with an irresponsible fool like you!!!

Tozara:
Lol. Are you an illiterate? Don't you know how the justice system works?

So, if I accuse you of committing a crime, and there's no proof, you should be apprehended, charged, convicted and jailed based on my words alone? What if I'm lying?

rape cases are most times her words over mine thats why rapist hv the guts to continue cause there will surely be questions lingering if she was lying n the rapist will act on that!!! Combined with the stigma that goes with it 4 d lady!!! Just few cases evidences are seen!! So are u implying the once with out evidence are lies Oh please!!

adepeter2027:
Gosh

Did you go to school at all?

No!! Satisfied??

Olizey:
Trash.

okay kudos to that

Tozara:
If they never lied, we should see the evidence. If there's no evidence, then there's NO CASE.

Rape is a serious crime, not any form of joke. You can't be allowed to ruin another person with word of mouth. That would be utterly barbaric. You must prove the allegation against him.

The one who rapes and the one who uses it as a weapon to destroy lives are both animals and worthless bastards. Very disgusting beasts.

so all rape cases with out evidence are lies? Because there are witnesses When rapist perform right Where is the evidence coming from??

So i really wish there was a way i could express myself through vn cause this topic is such a frictional one!!! I hv watched so much investigating movies n so i feel that dsf was up to something!!

So i hv almost been kidnapped b4 n so i feel her reaction to the situation makes no sense!!! If she was suspecting him to be a kidnapper the first reflex action was to try as much as possible to leave that car, u can jump tru the window if u can, in my case i opened the door n jumped down even injured my kneel!!! So here is the funny part,,, she said she collected his keys n did what?? N sat!! Nothing told u to run Nothing!!!! Now what were u expecting the driver to do? He would 4 sure struggle 4 his keys!!! Then u sprayed pepper n tomatoes spray on his face n u still didn't run!! Really what was her mission?? If he had bad intentions, u wont hv been with ur phone, n he wouldnt hv non chalantly left his keys inside the car!!


She called him a kidnapper n rapist, how n why?? He never kidnapped u!! Or rape u!! Why dont u just say" this is what i experienced from this guy" n strengthen up the issue!! Why libel him right away Thats because that was her intention!! Yes the man had every right to be scared!! She seemed strange!!! Yeah he made some mistakes but i could understand his reasons more than hers!!
Now 4 the women that are going to come up n say women support women jagon!!! Firstly i am a socialist feminist but feminism doesn't not mean u hv to support a women even when she is wrong neither does it deminish the fact women are prone to evil as men are!!

johnydon22:
Read the OP again.. This time slowly

i dont hv time 4 that!! U indirectly said, people were acusing ur friends out no where 4 rape!!! How did u know it was out of no where!! How r u sure they didnt do it!!

drnoel:
(Falls down from thread) what is this pls?

i dont know o!!! Ask again

drnoel:
(Falls down from thread) what is this pls?

i dont know o!!! Ask again!!

Newboss:
So anything sexual is dating in your village? Haven't you heard of the term "fling"? It's a very normal thing! Dating relationships do come out of such! Stop thinking "relationship", and start thinking "life"! He could fall in love with her. Kissing a girl doesn't me you are in love with her!

Get over your obsession with dating! Let things go naturally! She likes him! So what is your headache? Guys like girls too but end up being told what the guy told the girl!

If your friend really likes him, let her hustle for her spot or just get lost! What nonsense!

Oh, so you hypocrites know about use and dump now? It originated from you folks! Now guys are smarter! Kudos to the guy once again!

hustle weyti?

johnydon22:
If no woman ever lied of rape?

Tons of them

but did all So why indicate that the once u know abt r lies

jamael:
Is it only me or do I find it difficult to understand the correlation between the topic and the writeup?

no its not only u sir!!

nuggarito:
This is why girls are there worst enemies, tomorrow we well see news headline lady kills his friend because of a guy. Confused set of individuals. Tomorrow if that guy use the same tactics on you , you go fall like mumu. Madam mind ya business, its not your kissing she's not using your mouth to kiss.

i dont understand did my friend complain to you!! Abi when the guy dumps her even worse than this?? Is u they will be crying 4 abi If supporting a woman means letting my friend be fooled by a guy!! No i dont support my fellow woman come n beat me

emeijeh:
Op, spear you what?


I feel like daggering you too!

am waiting!! Happy daggering!!

alexialin:
Op your friend is so naive.
And she will be used and dumped!

In a relationship, both people involved must define it.

If the guy says let's see how it goes, then u tell him. We are just friends, let's study ourselves. Then he will ask but friends can kiss, and have fun? Right?
Then u ask him: Oga do u always kiss and have sex with all your female friends?
He will become quiet, then he will reply it's just a question nah
Then u look at him disgustingly, and say well u are not serious. I don't have time for unserious guys. Then walk away.

It's not byforce u must date him, cut him off straight! And shut down your feelings towards him. He's not worth your time .

same thing i told her,, just imagine i didnt tell her to ask him! Thats how he would hv sex her n join!!

eezeribe:
But your friend collected transport fare from him and even wished for more....
But the kiss they shared was passionate,romantic and mutual...
But the touch he gave her was sensual and definitely evoked good feelings through her body...
But why are you seeing it from only one angle
But is it not too early to label the guy a scum
But don't you think it's too early for the guy to declare her,his girlfriend because he has not officially asked her out or professed love
But don't you think there is nothing wrong with two civilised adults consenting to mutual sex without necessarily being in a full-time relationship
But don't you think you are overreacting to the whole issue?
But don't you think the so called friend is actually YOU

hahahaha nice rhyme but no!! N he is scum he hurt her feelings!! If u just want friendship, why mess up her head!! Why

I know ur reason 4 ur article but hv u ever put in consideration if they never lied? Hv u?? No!! Case closed!!

Blakjewelry:
after reading if felt even more confused

hmmmm what confused you

Newboss:
Is that not what women do to guys just to extort them? I applaud the guy! You are actually the scum here because you just can't think! He could have told her what she wanted to hear and have "unhinged" access till he's tired of her. Rather, he chose to be plain with her! Yes, friends do have sex, not just kiss, without any dating relationship whatsoever!

Deal with your obsession with dating!

becaused she asked!!!! N secondly why begin a sexual approach with a lady u want nothing to do with!! Whats the need?? There are prostitutes everywhere, why go 4 innocent girls in search of love with pure hearts!! To uplift ur ego or what??

RoyalBlak007:
"spare me"

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okay thanks!!

Now my friend was gisting me abt a guy she just met, cool,nice n all that!! She liked the boy to the stage she started forming n collected 2k 4 tp even if he even asked her if it was enough (n no it wasnt) she said that they kissed, that it was very romantic to the extent he kissed her at the park b4 leaving!! So i asked, are u guys officially dating?? she was confused!! N she was planning to go to his house the next weekend to cook n sex him!! i was happy she was happy n all that,, but i asked again is he ur boyfriend?? She was confused!!! So i told her to ask him whats the bases of the relationship,,,, uncle said they are still friends trying to know each other!! Really but when u met her u wanted to touch her body n all n probably hv sex if u had the chance to!! Is tht how friends kiss each other up n down!! All of u are mad!! So u just give a girl so much hope 4 nothing!!! Just 4 the fun of it?? My friend actually cried!!!

donstan18:
Maybe, you are lacking natural wetness, getting wet helps a lot on issues like this, i would have suggested your husband to improve in his oral sexual skills to make you more wet before penetration, things like caressing, smooching, fingering, boobs squeeze and touching, clit giggling, neck licking, playing with your pubic hairs and eating your ass up, it can help.

But, it's just that there are d*cks that looks like a pounding stick, some even looks like a python and at the same time curved, these kind of d*cks can even shift your womb or come out from your mouth if you fail to pray before sex.

I pray you find a solution to your sexual problem.

she is scared of sex, n since she is, it going to be really hard making her wet enough!! Its all abt the mind set!! If she braves up n takes the D!! She is gonna get use to it!! We hv all been there!! She is new is the sex thing obviously !!

kennethokey15:
My name is Gift and I just got married three months ago but I am already fed up because my husband’s manhood is so big I suffer tear every time we make love.

I know many women will read this with a pinch of the salt while others, like some of my friends, will say I should be lucky that my husband is so endowed and can satisfy me in bed.

But it is not about sexual satisfaction here, it is about the pain I go through during sex.



I grew up in a strict home where our parents monitored us and any discussion of the opposite sex was seriously frowned at. I did not have a boyfriend until I was in my third year in the university and even at that, I never had sex till my youth service, at 25, and it was not a pleasant experience.

After the first time, I had sex not more than five more times before I met Joseph who later became my husband. I met him during a seminar I attended in Port Harcourt and was swept off my feet at first glance.

Since he was based in Abuja, we managed to maintain a long distance relationship and only got to see each other whenever he came to Lagos, which was not often.



Our first night together was quite horrible but he reasoned that it was because I had not been exposed. He told me never to worry, as I would get used to it with time.

We managed to cope till we got married and that was when my nightmare started. Sex with my husband has been hellish and I always dread such moments. We have tried lubricants to make me wet but it seems my tight private part is not just made for him.

We are both living like strangers and I dare say it is just a matter of time before the marriage crumbles.

What do I do to make my marriage work?
4
Gift.


http://www.yabaleftonline.ng/husbands-man-big-stand-anymore/

let me just tell u!!! Ur husband is right, u need more sex!!! The pussy can open as wide as u wish it to!! Get enough lubricats n stay on top!! Dont be lazy!! Forming innocent girl, cause many girls will grab him!! Girls aint smiling o!! Just a reminder

donsimo:
Its normal, my friend for nearly decade tried to Bleep me up.

I have people who our interest align, not friends?
Lol friends, grow up, we came alone, don't you remember?

ur absolutely right on that one

donstan18:
@Bolded, you mean the same set of friends?

Or a particular "Best friend", pardon my much questions.

But, I thought guyz hardly snitch, throw more light to us, we might help talk in to you, you know.

hello!!!! guys gossip more than ladies, they gossip to ladies more not guys especially their fights!! Am a lady btw!! N truely guys were actually the once giving me their stories!! N advising me but i never listened!! Carry besty 4 head like government work

yanabasee:
I was there.... It got worse... When best friends left...I decided to Chanel all my interest to a girl, gave her all my attentions, made her my best friend and she decided to leave too....

Don't ask me....I am not a terrible person, but because I was pursuing my dreams and I lost friendships to the wind!!!

I build up and stayed strong, focussed and determined... it helped me to get to where I am today!!

funny story but honestly u n ur best friend r u guys as close?? Like u tell him everything n all? Focusing on my dreams is all am abt atm