Hello everyone.
And thanks for ur warm wishes. In fact, I felt the love so much, that I jumped out of bed, threw off that blanket, and rediscovered my pankere where it was gathering dust.
So.....who are all the people using this thread to advertise for wife material? Didn't u read the signboard at the gate?
Ronke, u are specially welcome to our thread. U are officially 30. This is ur season in the name of Jesus.
I heard a rumour that ghosts are trying to join this thread. Pls, this is not a cemetary. Let's know who u are, so that we can all mingle.
Special thanks for those who have been on this flight from inception. May God continue to carry u on eagle's wings. Ur plane will not crash, ur motor will never jam accident, u urself, u will never stumble and fall. Those who are looking for ur trouble, will not be able to locate ur address. U are next in line for a miracle, in the name of Jesus.
I also want to thank all those who are on the whatsapp chat. I feel as if na my mama born all of u. Its been fun, and I can tell u ladies out there, that the men on the chat have proven themselves to be serious minded, hardworking men who want to settle down as soon as possible. So, if that is what ur looking for, whisper to me on 08180632132, and I'll add u. I recommend any of the guys on the chat as correct husband material. U can quote me anywhere and I will defend myself in 3D.
Weekend starts tomorrow. Be good, stay outta trouble, be nice to someone, and remember, it takes goodness to attract the right man/woman.
Selah.

Gdeven fine people of nairaland. Special greetings to the ladies and gents of 30plus and single.
Toks, how body? Rain no fall for ur side abi?rain fell heavily in my area, and since I live upstairs, the breeze got to me, so I have been quietly nursing one kind cold and malaria. I have happy to say I have conquered all of them.
How is everyone doing?
Am going to bed, under my blanket. I'll chat more in the morning.
Take care of ur beautiful selves.
And special hello to Melish.

Toks2008:


Na liie..your tactics no work..

Oya deactivate your ghost mode and lets know you and as the culture here suggeests,put your pics up for at least 10mins.

Some guys deey complain sey some ladies dy form kvels here...Yes i agre that a lady should form levels and that is cool but at least wait make the guy woo you first..

If you get an email notification from any male her abeg reply and socialize at least then you can start proving levels if he wooes you..kijinko?

Shout out to sis siamia and thee counciil of elders on this thrad are vexing seey we no dey too see you..abeg dey show face..my tiit tat udysweerrie how u dey,gratfulme40,Oloyiinbo ddshow and others wey i no rmember their name i hail oo.

Gdmrn everyone.
How are u all doing?
I have been offline for a while, and I am amazed and happy to see that the thread is thriving, everyone is being nice and respectful and we have new people joining daily.
For those who wondered where I have been, my office and entire organisation has been in the process of relocating to a new premises. It has been tedious andenough to make anyone fall sick. We are not done yet, but the worst of it is over.
To Ehemwhy...even ur name begs the question. Lol
I feel uve already answered ur question, bcs deep in ur heart, u know. U need focus. U need a new job, and I pray that God will bless u with one quickly. When u have settled down workwise, if it is in ur heart to find ur bride, then u can start searching for one.
But remember, like attracts like. If u want a good woman, prepare urself to be a good man.
I wish u well. This is ur season. God will not fail u.
There is a whatsapp chat going on, for those who missed that post. The number is 08180632132. I thank everyone who has made themselves a part of it. We have become close and I feel everyone there is a family member. We share love, we share concerns, we share business ideas, we share prayer needs, we share friendships. Plus, there is a hope for relationships. So, ladies and gents, feel free to join, make new friends, network for that job or business, and maybe find the love of ur life!
And to all the wonderful people out there, have a lovely week. May God protect ur going out and coming in. Don't cause trouble, and may wahala not find u!

ehemwhy:
Please I need matutre advice .
I am 35, (will be 36 in january) I just lost my job and I am pretty sure I'll get a better one soon. Problem is I have not been in any serious relationship for a while (4 years) and I am seriously thinking of settling down , I'm torn between searching now or to wait till I get a good job and be in a better Financial position .
I have not been lucky in my past relationships and havE long come to the conclusion that women are driven by money and don't see beyond their present situation.

God day everyone,
How was service? Its been a crazy week at work! I see a lot has happened in my work-pressured absence.
Thanks to everyone who asked of me. And welcome to new members of this thread,
Toks 2008, I sight u, welcome back. I know u missed me
Ateke, welcome ooo
And now, I must go and prepare for tomorrow *sigh*
Have a lovely week ahead, and may Ur hand count money in different currencies this week!

Gdmrn fine people and how was Ur nite?
Hmmm....ystdy, we had a fine and enlightening discussion on the group chat on businesses u can start with little/no capital.
One of the challenges that many 30plus and singles have, is the issue of financial empowerment. One factor that has delayed marital settlement is income. Simply put, many dont have good jobs. In fact, the jobs are simply not forthcoming. It is a classic case of demand being more than supply.
With good degrees, jobs are scarce bcs the economy is unfavourable. And what about those who dont even have degrees? What hope is there, but to turn to business?
Now, in going into business, many are hampered by lack of sufficient funds.
So, I ask the nairalanders in the House. What kind of businesses can a 30plus and single go into, that will require little or no cash?
Thus far, some have suggested recharge card selling, agency work in renting/selling property. I kind of like the agency work. Most agents are unlearned, but if we have educated people in that industry, I believe it can be refined and repackaged to offer better premium services.
2016 is our year of financial empowerment.
I wait to hear from u.
Good morning to u!

@klassic
I just called Ur boss to wish him a happy birthday. He was overjoyed and appreciated it.
That was thoughtful of u. Ur a good guy.
May God put it in the hearts of men to remember u for good. Ur own day of celebration will never go unannounced in Jesus name.

Gdmrn everyone and how was Ur nite?
Hope fine? Great.
I appreciate everyone's comments, even the rude ones. I know that behind all the comments is concern.
First of all let me say this. A nation is greater than the president. No president, no matter how charismatic, no matter how vocal, no matter how influential, no matter how grammatised, no matter how cool, is greater than the masses. It is everyone of u that made this thread to be successful. If u believe the exit of one person can crash this thread, then u dont have confidence in Ur abilities. U dont know Ur strength. U dont know that u also have the ability to positively influence and impact others. U dont know that u also have a voice that should be heard.

U may not have the time to post comments 24/7, bcs of work commitments. (I am also in that situation.). But when u do post.....OMG! and that is why we are on page 42. Not bcs of one person. But bcs collectively, we all make impact!

I would like to correct an impression so that those who want to move forward, can do so.
I do not have issues or quarrels with anyone. If u have been avidly following this thread from inception,u will attest to that.
I dont post comments that hurt people. I do not posts comments to attack any single person. I do not post to confront or antagonise anyone. I do not agree with every view posted on this thread but I do not because of that, berate anyone. I only step in, if Ur posts are disrespectful. Or if Ur under 30...lol
Toks2008's post was a direct attack on me. For someone I have never met, it amazed me how he went into attack mode bcs he didnt have his way. As a matured man or woman, u dont use words as a weapon of warfare. just bcs u have a good command of English doesn't mean u shd use it to denigrate others. Many of us here are well schooled, but we keep it simple, bcs we are not writing editorials for the Punch.
If the only way u can make Ur point is by going into attack mode, inciting others into revolt, using barbed words as arrows, well.....all I will say is, Ur writing is a reflection of Ur personality.

Someone spoke abt moses and joshua. If toks2008 has left this thread, Ur all still here, wonderful, talented, beautiful people that u all are. Elvis may have left the building, but the music hasnt stopped playing. This is Ur chance. There are many matured minds in the wings, who equally have better things to say. They only kept quiet bcs one person dominated the conversation.
There is a whole world out there! Let's go on and grab our piece of it!
Trouble will not find u! Have a lovely day.

@toks 2008

This thread is simply 30plus and single. If u recall, it was originally 40plus and single. U were the same person who suggested that the bar should be lowered a little, to include those who were in their 30s, and I reasoned with u, though it deviated from my original purpose in starting this thread.

This post seems to be addressed to me and ur tone makes me wonder.
If expanding the thread to include men and women in their 30s isn't liberal and democratic, I wonder what is.
Saying that I am being autocratic abt it seems to be a direct attack on my person. I have always maintained a respectful approach to everyone, and encouraged everyone to be likeminded.
If one goes back to read all ur posts on this thread, one thing is clear. U don't think twice abt being verbally confrontational or outright abusive to anyone who doesn't think the way u do. The word for it is BULLY.
I want to believe u are not aware of it, but yes, u do bully people, and its unhealthy.
If u feel so strongly abt it, rather than stir up people's emotions here, pls by all means, start a thread of ur own. I am not taking up ur space here. I will not be drawn into an argument with u.
In life, u don't always have to have the last word. Some times u walk away from a battle in order to maintain ur dignity. Walk away from this one, dear.
Hope ur having a nice day.

Toks2008:


The ethics of my profession embraces proactiveness,innovation and dynamiism which remains the opium of any sustainable and progessive corporatiion or individual.

Having said that..i have decided to lay to rest the clamour for ladies in their late 20s...though i expected the OP to execute a liberal and democratic approach to my suggeston by throwing it to every one on the thread but she chose to be authocratic about it and i had to let it go.

If there are ladies of late 20s on this thread i believe you wont even write this because you would have silently sent a mail to any lady in your age bracket that catches your fancy in terms of her beauty or personality even if you are on the bench as a result of your ae.

Im writing this because of the mention but the op has the right to be epiphatiic about this or still hold on to her standds.

@coolwisdom
If u want to talk to me, come to the whatsapp chat 08180632132. I'll be expecting u.
God bless u.

Gdmrn good people of nairaland and beyond.
How was ur nite? What a fine day to be alive! I woke up from my bed. Where did u wake up from? Isn't it a privilege not to wake up in a hospital, in a prison, in a mortuary? (Not that anyone wakes up there!) Its enough to make u want to say, Thank You Jesus!
And now, go ahead and have a blessed week. Be nice to someone. Help someone who cannot repay the favour. Show someone kindness. Walk away from that argument. Be a man and woman of ur word.
I prophesy, wherever uve tendered an application, doors uve been knocking on, requests uve made, whatever ur trusting God for, may He answer u this week!
I decree safety upon all ur movements this week! Ur week shall be accident free, one-chance free, wahala free in Jesus name!
Those that have been targeted to go down, ur name and address shall not be found among them!
U are a nairalander! Naira will not be scarce in ur hand this week!
Go and make ur God proud! Have a wonderful day!

OMG! So many hilarious comments! Lol
First of all, I apologise for being absent here, since I started this thread. No excuse.
Second, if u know ur not from akwa ibom, which breeze carry u come?
Third, if uve ever read my other thread on 30plus and simgle, u'll know that I have zero tolerance for disrespecting others. So kindly refrain from firing ur verbal ak47s at others. Pls show urself to be the worthy akwa ibomites that u are.
I spent 4 solid years in uniuyo, to learn the culture and tastes of my people. But I still can't speak fluently. I want to correct that.
So, how are u all doing? How's life treating u? Pls let's turn up the volume, and get to know each other.
Remember, if ur married, identify ur status. If ur single and searching, well, its time for ur status to change!
Have a lovely nite's rest and go fearlessly into the new week!
Remain on top!

I had an epiphany.
Go with my second post. We do learn everyday, even if ur the new Methuselah.

I feel that when it comes to marriage, there shd be no age limit, nor price tag. Love is where u find it. And the rest is nobody's business. If ur 23 or 30, and the woman that makes ur heart beat faster is 30 or 42, by all means, go for it. Don't let anyone stop u. Yes, people may talk. Yes, ur family and friends may react, yes, there may be comments and sniggers, but at the end of the day, its ur personal happiness that is at stake.
I have friends who are married to far younger men, and their marriage is a wonder to beyond. They don't take each other for granted, bcs they know they got married against all odds.
Is marriage abt age gap? There are people married to their age mates, and the marriage has crashed.
Marriage is about love, compatibility, submission and mutual respect.
As in all spheres of life, there are pros and there are cons. Marrying an older woman, u get the advantage of her experience, her maturity, her mental and emotional stability, and yes, her industriousness. Its likely an older woman is not a cake and ice cream girl. She has seen it all and she wants to build a real home. Bcs she is mature, she can hold the home well, and represent u in public.
On the other hand, u will have to earn her respect as a man, if not she will disrespect u. To do that, u must show her the same qualities she could have found in an older man...then she will submit to u.
Why do some women marry far older men? For the same reasons.
@davindal. I do not know u f2f so I cannot properly assess if ur ready to settle down. But I will say this, in terms of age gap, a closer or wider gap is not a guarantee of a happy, peaceful and successful home.
Gdnte everyone and have a lovely week ahead.

Hello peeps and happy sunday.
How was church, if u went?
Time to prepare brunch...see u all soon!
Be good!!!

E be like say na my post push am enter 40pages ooo....lol
Oya bidding begin ooo. I hear banks are interested, but they say they cannot afford to start bidding for 40million naira ooo. Hmmm. Well this is a democracy, however flawed. I will take ur request before the Parliamentarians of this noble thread.

Yippee!!!
My fellow partners in progress!
All hail the Parliament of 30plus and single! We are 39pages and still going strong, with 12464 views!
MTN, airtel, etisalat, GLO, take note! When we clock 40pages, we will gather this thread like an exercise book and sell to you for a reasonable price of 40million naira only.
Let the bidding begin! Auction closes by midnight Nigerian time!
Fellow nairalanders, how was ur week? TGIF! Time to rest, to relax and mingle with friends, family and loved ones. Wow! Thank God for seeing us thru, even with the rains and bad roads. Pls take time to rest ooo. As u know, malaria in lagos is nothing but stress in disguise. And typhoid is nothing but bad water, disguised in nylon as pure. So, cook ur veggies this weekend, boil ur water, go for a walk, or climb that Orbitrac. In short, keep healthy. Help ur body to serve u better.
Bcs ur tripartite, don't forget to look after ur soul. Lend a helping hand, give someone a much needed smile. Visit someone uve not seen in a while. Allow that raging lunatic to cut into ur lane and carry his wahala away. Refuse to be drawn into an argument. In short, be the nice person that God made u to be.
On Sunday, nurture ur spirit. Go to church. Make it a habit to say Thank You Jesus. Shortest prayer in the world, but works wonders! Start ur day with a word of thanks to the One who woke u up. No matter how far Man has advanced, they cannot produce the ability to generate life. Everyday u are alive, is a privilege. Don't waste it. It is a gift. Appreciate it. U may not have all that u want, but He certainly gives u all that u need.
Have a wonderful evening, peeps! Ur the best! Muahhhh!!!

08180632132.

Addendum:
This thread remains for the 30plus and single. To put it simply, it is the property of those who are 30 and above, and very single. To post and belong, u must be 30 and older, u must be single. Very single. As in unmarried. Unattached.
Not involved in a relationship that is committed to marriage.
Not separated and still legally untying the knots of ur marriage.
Not living in lagos and the wifey is in onitsha. Or cote d'voire.
Not involved in babymama drama.
Just 30plus and single.
If u don't meet this criteria, that's why we have the bleachers. Take a pew. And switch to silent mode. We'll serve u coffee and donuts shortly.
Remember peeps, its 30plus and single.
Have a lovely afternoon.

@alexmbachu
Pls respect the thread and the beautiful people here. Lastly pls do respect urself.
Thank u and God bless.

Gdmrn everyone and thank God its friday! Hallelujah!
How are u all doing? Any weekend plans?
I want to appreciate everyone who has been on this thread. I humbly and respectfully appreciate the 12000 plus viewers as well as the hundreds of posters who took time, effort and data, to be here. I thank those who write with wisdom, bcs I have learnt so much from them. I thank those who made my day with hilarious comments. I even thank those who come and make atrocious, annoying and juvenile comments, designed to provoke, to antagonise, inflame and stir up mutiny among the rank and file. Without u the antagonists, the world wouldn't be round.
The whatsapp group grows daily. The purpose of that group is for those who need an online eatery to meet a lady and chat. As much as is humanly possible, the people there have been screened. Everyone has a proper pic up, and we encourage them to do their chatting on the group, and not on private chats. We encourage those who feel they have met their soul mate, to do further due diligence by asking for their fb accounts. FB is one of the best ways to find out who a person really is, bcs it reveals a person's life and history. If he/she has only 10 friends, u shd know the account was opened in a hurry, and for dubious reasons. Pls feel free to join. Ladies, come on over as well. 08180632132.

Of course this thread offers a wider range of activities.
As u know, the thread started as a place for men and women over 40s, to hang out, share insights and experiences, and if possible, find love among their peers. It was suggested that the age limit be reduced to 30plus, so that friendships and relationships could be formed, bcs it was rightly believed that those in their 30s were also mature, responsible, responsive, intelligent, hardworking and respectful adults. Lowering the bar has, just like lowering the barricade on a dam, caused a deluge of the good, the bad and the ugly. Now, people who have no control of their tongue, write posts disrespecting others, in order to discourage those who mean well.
I can tell u without fear or favour, that ur posts here is a reflection of ur personality. I have never knowingly or deliberately disrespected anyone here. If u post derogatory, inflammable or sexually improper statements, or u are downright abusive to other posters, it shows u are immature, indisciplined, disgruntled and lack self control. As I always say, the same breeze that swept u in, is posed at the door of this thread, to sweep u back out.

To all the wonderful nairalanders who have graced this thread with their presence, their thoughtful posts, and their compliments, I hail u. May ur star shine brighter. May God continue to prepare ur table in the presence of ur enemies. May u be celebrated, honoured and lifted in ur lifetime. May u continue to be a positive impact in ur environment. May God fight for u. May He settle u. That issue that gives u sleepless nites, that challenge that makes u run from pillar to post, may He turn it for a testimony for u.
I appreciate u. We may never meet f2f, but its a privilege to know u, even in this forum. U will never go down. 2015 will end well for u. In Jesus name.
God bless u and thank u for taking the time to read this.

Hello everyone,
Eku ojoo. Its not easy going to go to work in this rain, but God has been faitthful. Hope everyone is doing well? More grace.

Pls...I want to add this:
The whatsapp chat is for those who have seen what they like and need a private place to talk.
No 2. Its for 30 plus and single. If ur underaged or married, don't send me msg to add u.
Also, here is the no - 08180632132. Don't send me email. Just send a text via whatsapp and I'll add u asap.
Thus far, the chat is yielding results. If ur not already in the chat, well....na u get urself ooo. As u can see, those in the chat are still active on the thread.
2015 is ur year. Its not over...until God says so!
God bless u.

@everyone
Hallelujah! We have officially crossed 10000 viewer threshold. Congrats to every one who made this possible...the regular posters, the regular trouble makers, the regular waka pass, those on the bench, even those who swore they were one month shy of 30...lol...all of u have contributed in ur own way to make this thread possible.
As u know, this thread was declared open on October 1st, and in just 6 days, we have achieved what all the political parties in 9ja cud not achieve in 55 years. A strong attraction, folloership, readership and maturity.
Three hearty cheers for the 30 plus singles in the house!
I advise any politician reading through this thread, to get in touch with me. Its is time to hand over to the next generation. Don't be like Queen Elizabeth, who refused to hand over to Charles, and now the poor man is too old to reign with sense!
Once again, I want to say, I admire every nairalander here. U are the reason for the season! U are all great! May u become stars in ur lifetime in Jesus name!
God bless u, dears!

@pucci
I will add u now

@udysweet
Whatsapp me the identity of the person u saw in the chat. I noticed the moment u left and I was saddened.
I booted someone out of the chat for inappropriate msgs. I no fear or favour anyone ooo. Talk to me , girl.

@all those whose only topic is cheating...how to cheat...why they cheat...what to do when they cheat...how to live with cheater... Get a life. Choose another topic. My great grandmother used to say, if they talk abt it long enough, then its a baggage.
Bring a topic that is refreshing. R.e.f.r.e.s.h.I.n.g.

@alexx
Requisite for joining the whatsapp remains the same: 30plus and single. Send me a text and I'll add u. 08180632132.
God bless.

@everyone
Good morning, wonderful nairalanders.
How was ur nite? Thank God for His mercies ooo. Ur sleep was not interrupted by armed robbers. As He said, no evil shall befall us, nor any plague come near our dwelling.
When u have the time, pls go back to page one and refresh ur memory on the purpose of this thread.
Over 9000 nigerians worldwide are reading ur posts on this thread. So post something meaningful. Remember...u are 30plus. U may not have Solomon's wisdom, but the little u have, use it to impact lives positively.
Some of u who posted last nite did not have anything positive to say. In fact u are a discouragement to those who still believe in love. Do u think the rest of us don't have opinions formed by the hand that life has dealt us? But if e start voicing those opinions, it wud be myopic.
The essence of this thread was clear from the onset. But I can see that a few people here who derailed other posts, are here to do the same. Well God pass u. I've taken ur matter to Him.
Have a lovely day and God bless u.

P.s. If ur not on the whatsapp chat, ur missing a lot. I had so much fun there ystdy! I laughed till I fell off my bed.
P.s.s. Some people did not grow up with their mother and that's why disrespect is their middle name. When u ask me to add u, and I delay bcs I want to screen u, texting me insults is like pouring water on a stone. If u saw me one on one, even in ur dream u cannot insult me. I screen those I suspect, in order to protect others, especially the ladies bcs we are in the Last Days.
From the start of this thread, I hv not disrespected anyone. Therefore insulting me for not adding u is juvenile deliquency. Go and wash ur mouth with sugar.
Have a blessed day and don't forget to thank God this morning, and be a blessing to all.

@toks 2008
Whatsapp 08180632132.
Am off to bed. I leave u all in the hands of God. As u sleep, may the Lord who neither slumbers nor sleeps, watch over u and urs in Jesus name.
God bless u all.

I am glad everyone has calmed down. The torrent of strange posts that appeared before, has abated. Pls remember, 9000plus people are viewing ur posts. Write responsibly, write intelligently, write respectfully, write with basic common sense.
Nairalanders are wonderful people.
God bless u and remain on top.
As I said before, may u move from counting Azikiwe (naira), to counting Mama Charles (pounds sterling)....

@everyone
Ok, I've read thru.
First, I want to greet everyone who went to work on this first monday of the month. As u know five speaks of grace (unmerited favour), so october is a month of double grace (do the math urself pls).
This month, I pray for double blessings, double favour, double open doors for everyone of us. Wherever u tendered an application, receive double favour. Wherever u ere stressed, receive double for ur trouble in Jesus name.
And now, my cane is out. I must say, am truly disappointed to read some posts here. I won't mention names but am really cut to the bone.I am so embarassed to read some stuff here. Perhaps uve all forgotten what was so attractive abt this thread, that made u join.
Now people are running their mouth unbridled, disrepecting each other. Too bad.
If life has hit u like a trailer, don't use this thread to vent.
If ur carrying baggage or u have a chip on ur shoulder bcs someone hurt u, don't use this thread to vent.
If u don't believe in love, well, why are u on this thread. Get out before I stand on ur head.
If ur under 30, what part of Don't talk' don't u understand?
If sarcasm is ur middle name, stay out of this thread.
If ur mama beat u when u were a baby, this is not a Human Rights forum, and I am not an activist, so stay out of this thread.
If ur looking for a sugar mummy, stay out!
Get back on track pls. Stop posting. Take a deep breath. Then start talking sense. Or else....stay out of this thread!!!
The truth is, I like all...well, almost all...of u. Pls don't make me change my mind.
If u want to test me, write trash, and I'll be in ur house before the week is out. If ur sim is registered, then my buddies in mtn, etisalat, etc will send me ur add, and I'll be in ur place with my pankere.
Such a shame. And ur 30 plus! I wonder what the younger people think of us.
I know u are all wonderful people. And now...let the posting continue.
Thanks and God bless.

@everyone
Gdeven folks, I just logged on ooo. Tiring day. Pls give me a few mins to read thru. Then I'll comment.
Thanks and God bless.

I fully agree with toks2008. Pls consider uploading a pic. Let's get to know u...

@youngpo
My friend, stop that thing! Time does not fly, or we, ur seniors, wud have been marking 100yrs today.
Get back to the bench and sit quietly ooo.