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Ubenedictus:
It is good to come to a thread and read through smiling, syncan and salc are u sure u are not married?

Silvoice welcome dear, they have covered most issue, remember to send d invitation when its time.

for sure: i will do so. Cos i will be very happy to see all these humble and intelligent minds that render selfless service of advsing peopl on NairaLand in my weddin.

Syncan:
Nothing to say, again SalC has said it all. Believe me, you'll be amazed at what you'll learn about the church. The more you come to know, the more ridiculous a lot of things you were earlier told about the church will sound. Anyway, make I go buy dancing shoes, got a wedding party to attend .

thanks

Rich4god:
I hope u r cleared.... Told you help is coming...

yes! thanks

SalC:
What can I say?
May God be with you all the way, I wish you the best, ....Can't wait to hear the wedding bells.

Amen!

awsome indeed.

Alexk2:
I wish i can register my advice with all sincerity and be frank abt it.

First, it is very wrong to build your marriage foundatn of deceit; lying to your fiancee about the church you are attending....she'll still find out and you don't expect her to be happy with that.

Secondly, in marriage it is the lady that'll have to follow the guy to his church and not the other way. A lady who believes in you and love you enough to want to marry you should be ready to join your church. In marriage, the questn to ask should never be which church is he attending but is He a genuine Christian?

Finally, pls., define who you are and what you want and never allow your fiancee to decide that for you under the flame of love or lust. Marriage is a serious thing and 'believe' plays a very important role in it. This church issue may not mean much to you today but it'll mean too much in future.
I read post from catholic guys congratulating you and i smh at the level religious is blinding pple....which of them can join another church in the name of love or marriage?..

u missed d point. I got converted into a catholic by a lady i respect so much 4 her morality. So am now a full member... Period.

Syncan and salc, two of u have made my day. I'm jus smilin now as i type.
Well let me state categoricaly that am not hiding anythin from her. I'v already told her that am worshipin in catholic church and i hav been doin that regularly 4 d past six months. i have also decided that i will continue even afta d weddin. May be sometime i future, i wil giv her gist, but that would be bedroom talk, as part of my past.
D real thin is that she thinks dat am not a strong christian dat is why i don't know most of dis things and she is ready to teach me word of God which she has been doin. But i don't want to be a novice in everytin especially as regard my marriage. U know am d head, i don't want to play a second fiddle in my marriage, that is why am learnin from all angle. Cheers!!

Syncan:
Hello brethren, just to register my presence. SalC has done justice to the OP's question, well except he still needs more clarifications on any issues. All I can say is that the night before easter is mostly used for baptism of adult catechumen, if you are fortunate, the baptism issue can be tackled as early as this easter, and that will be out of the way. So the earlier you get to the nearest catholic church office, the better for you. Welcome once again and feel free to visit "A thread for Catholics" and ask your questions.

brother, since i don't belong to any service unit like CYON etc is it goin to affect me, cos am too busy with work now and i want to wed at this my parish here in Port Harcourt, wil my fiancee's membership cover me? Though she's not part of that particular parish. What wil be required of me? I want 2 know in advance. Thanks

SalC:
Why I asked is because, if you two are going to attend this course together, it will be hard to keep her from knowing you just converted to the Catholic faith because as a new convert, your lecture will have to go a step further than the normal marriage course for someone who has been a baptised Catholic and knows more about the Catholic teachings and practices.

For instance, you will need to learn at least a little of the Cathchesm and may need to make a profession of faith and get baptised to enable you receive the Holy communion on or before your wedding day.
You see, it might be difficult for you to do all these secretly without her knowing but it might be possible if you two are attending the course in different cities. But be rest assured that these processes aren't difficult to go through.


Aside the above in your case, marriage course is no rocket science, all you need do is walk up to the priest or Cathechist and register for your marriage course, they will tell you everything you need to do, after which your marriage bans will be called for three sundays. Your marriage course on a normal case lasts for three months after which you can choose your wedding date. And yes you can do it in proxy but not like you will have to fix your wedding as far as two years after your marriage course

Thanks, a million times 4 ur candid comment. Sorry it took me so long to response: my tight schedule.

I was baptised as an infant in catholic church. When i was 4yrs, my beloved mum left. So i grew up under an aunt who was a strong protestant penticostal member. She hated catholic and so afta about 15yrs wit her, i was already acustomed to her church, until i met my fiancee. I claimed that am a catholic, when it became obvious that i will marry her, i started goin to catholic church with no knowledge of their teaching, just learning to say the 'hail mary' and others wit style.
Yes! I was able to retrieve a very rusty card which i learnt is my baptismal card, from my father's box, cos my girl said they wil ask 4 it.
Will they see me as a member wit that partly damaged card?
Thanks again 4 ur intrest and time.

SalC:
It must be so strong a love for you to do this and I will like to say to you " welcome to the Catholic faith, may God bless you, be with you and always guard and guide you in all you do.
First, will both of you be attending this marriage course in thesame parish or do you two live in different cities?

so comforting to hear from u. We live in diferent city. I wanted her to do hers' at her place but she wanted it together. Which ever way, i need ur candid advice

Rich4god:
Salc ubenedictus italo syncan

meaning?

I 'm not a catholic but love now made me a full member and i intend to wed at d church soon. We are about to start our marriage course, but i don't want my fiancee to kno that i started goin to catholic because of her , so my dear friends i need some info about dis marriage course of a thin in catholic church, cos am a novice. Pls anyone with cogent knowledge should pls educate me on what to expect before and during d proccess. Again Can it be done in proxy, Since we'v not decided on d wedding month yet?
Experienced catholic wedded couples, pls help ur brother

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This case is common. A friend dat wedded last week confided in me that more than a week after, he was yet to hav sex wit her. Though he said she's a virgin. And she's not wiling to allow him do it. I told him not to be frustrated bt to keep tryin, because of my own esperience wit my fiancee sometime ago. So lik oop, he needs advice.

bedfordng:
are you making use of a download manager.moreover, what kind of error are you getting each time you tried downloading it

when i try it again, u wil hear frm me. Thanks 4 ur concern

tr3y:
I'm guessing it might be because of the large file size, try to scroll through the pdf to the end, if all the pages are showing then you should be able to save it by hitting control + S
.

this might be d case, i wil try in a cybercafe when i hav chance. It seems my server is slow

hayoakins:
In addition to the comment, as a teller; the probability of you having cash shortage is high, hence that 80k is not guaranteed. Unfortunately, I was made to understand you are not permitted to keep any Surplus for the day but you must pay for every shortage.

I am not trying to dissuade you rather providing you with fact to enhance your decision.

PS: I do not feel it is wrong to share an already executed biz idea with others but exposing it on a public thread may be unreasonable. The sky is more than enough for millions of birds to fly freely.

i appreciate ur concern.

CrazyMan:
Sounds like a contract job. Bro contract jobs with banks are terrible, you might end up working there for 2 whole years without any form of increment in regards to your pay, secondly as contract staffs, you're excluded from annual leaves, meaning you're going to work like a machine year in year out; no break. And finally there's no job security...the bank can lay you off at the slightest financial challenge they come across, leaving you empty handed with zero entitlements and zero benefits.

If you have an alternative means of income like you stated, then continue with it. Contract jobs aren't worth the stress.

noted, thanks.

Doveheart:
Contract job right? i have tried it before. For your info, it is only your salary, no promotion, no extra allowance and increament of salary is not gaunranteed. As a matter of fact, you will be enslaved meaning that no time to creat another stream of income becos u will be tied down from morning till night in the cubicle. However, it is still advisable for you to take it if you are still single.

yes it seems lik a comtract job, though am waitin to be briefed on that. Thanks anyway 4 ur contribution

tr3y:
Well if its an attachment and you can view it on your browser then you can download it, there is always download button on the upper right of adobe reader plugin.

Just check the upper right side of your browser window, download button is there.

thanks, i'v tried several times, it showed "an error occured in the download"

Bisjosh:
Well, I understand the feel of a formal sector but my dear there's no biggie in it.

I am even looking for a business I can venture into cos this formal sector ting can be frustrating too

thanks, til next week shaa. am still consulting b4 i take final decision

loistee:
pls what of business is that am interested

don't do a business cos sombody is makin moni frm it, do a business u kno very wel. My advice.

0rex:
You risk damaging your ignition switch when too much weight hangs from it.

thanks, very useful

Bisjosh:
Its better you stick with your business.

Try to invest and expand.

Its not a must you be an employee or have white collar job. Be an employer also.

that's exactly d angle am reasonin. Cos am thinkin of growin my business, including freedom to go anywhere witout anybody's permission as a family man. Though, i still want to get a feel of d formal sector. That's my dilemma. minus transpt 2 d bank, I don't think d salary can take care of my family expenses til such a time my salary wil increase.

Hi, for 4 yrs, i've tried to secure a job to no avail. So i decided to join a business that gives me atleast 3000 daily and average of N90.000 monthly or more. Now this bank wants to take me as a teller officer for N80 000 monthly. I really want to know if there are other ways of making money while workin in d bank as d salary is far below my current income. Cos i really want to improve my income, not jus to answer a banker and live in penury.

An ebook PDF File sent to my mail as an attachment, is up to 25Mb. It failed to download on my laptop. I only view it on d web but can't download, to be viewed offline. Pls
How do i download this ebook or copy it, if possible. help pls

marshalcarter:
*singin speechless*










M cumin just wait

u can't be singin and be speechless, or is it...

Danielstainz:
And i hope you would be waiting for an answer to such a question.pack ur load and be Living in ur car na so you would have just 1 key ..dump ur office too and use your car as taxi to avoid lot of keys.

abeg tak am easy!

Pls, is there any danger in joining my car key in my bunch of keys that has my office and house keys? Do think i should saperate my car key from other keys? If so why? Cos i tend to forget either d bunch of keys or my car key each time i saperate it. Cos both keys are always in my pocket. Though it looks odd watching d bunch dangle on my car key hole as i drive.

Thank you very much Gbenga. I'v recieved it. Assuming u are contesting 4 presidency, me and my wife would hav voted 4 u, instead of this two fools called pdp and apc

3ace:
Thanks for the manual, it's very self-explanatory. And the title is funny, for dummies? Anybody that knows half of that book is certainly a pro.

pls send to me: frankforlife2@yahoo.com
any good spirited person can as well send to me. Thanks

bedfordng:
there is always a first time.software keys not necessary as long as there is activator.just do some reading online and see the process before you format it because you may use the wrong path to format since its your first time.so do some reading on how to format pc

i wil do so, once i get all my program softwares , i wil format. thanks