₦airaland Forum

Jarus:
Funmi, who are you referring to here? Sounds like me or Sisijinx? Can you be more precise? Just curious pls

HeatFusion:
And as you see it, you think these women's common sense might be hindered by the four letter word *^whispers* L.O.V.E. I agree, somewhat.

cheiiii, Ile aiye ti baje. Lol, must love be so painful. Then I guess, it indeed is blind

Spouse abuse: Physician guidelines to identification, diagnosis, and management in the uniformed services

Although all women are at risk of being abused, pregnancy places a woman at increased risk of injury and adverse health consequences. [b]Estimates suggest that between 40 and 60% of abused women were abused during pregnancy.[/b]20 Because of the risk to the mother and fetus, assessment for abuse should be routinely incorporated into prenatal and postpartum care. Common presentations are provided in Table VI.

Mental Health/Psychiatric Symptoms

The assessment of potential spouse abuse should be routinely included in psychiatric intakes and evaluations. The stress of abuse may aggravate co-morbid psychiatric disorders. Psychiatric/mental health symptoms frequently associated with spouse abuse victimization are provided in Table VII. As has been discussed previously, physicians should be aware of the role that stress disorders, both acute stress disorder and posttraumatic stress disorder, play in the development or exacerbation of physical symptoms.

Behavioral Signs

Women who are involved in abusive relationships often exhibit a variety of responses during the medical examination. They often appear frightened, evasive, passive, or jumpy. The abused woman commonly accept responsibility for the violence because the abuser has convinced her that she is to blame. She may also take responsibility for the abuse to maintain a sense of control over her situation.8 Other commonly observed behaviors are listed in Table VIII.

HeatFusion:
1. LOLOL!!! Love, such nonsense. Do you think some of these women are in a polygamous family? Trying to console themselves that they did something wrong and that their husband still loves them?

2. It indeed is a sad thing when in Nigeria, even the parent of the woman finds it okay for their son-in-law to "teach" his wife for misbehaving. Just so he wouldn't send her packing, disgracing their family name.

HeatFusion:
I'm sorry, but when it comes to domestic violence, esp when it concerns women and unborn babies, jokes and sarcasm have no vacancy.

What else could make a married woman think it excusable for her husband to bash her and her unborn child? If not for chaotic hormones, then what?
Some women have been programmed to think that whenever their husband beat them, it's their (women)'s fault.

4 Play:
@Sisi Jinx

Na Morenike be Heat Fusion?

My darling junior wife, na her I call idiot like this. Ruby, please forgive me o.  

MrCrackles:
Chei see your life, 4play!!

Wumine:
The wife should get an old friend to keep her company too. Give him a dose of his medicine

4 Play:
Correlation is easy to establish. . .  . where else will you find a study where 63.5% of the respondents, pregnant women, say the physical abuse meted on them is justified sometimes or always.

KarmaMod:
The blue dress looks better than all that other crap. Dont know why she likes looking like a disco ball in the shape of panla

spikedcylinder:
Most guys hate any movie that as to do with male on male homosexuality.

Why? una dey fear?

Mai Suya:
No, the North was responsible for that as well. A bunch of uneducated, gworo-chewing almajiris ordered the South, their professors and all,  to shackle themselves and hand over the key.

Truly remarkable.

Just imagine what would happen if they were as 'educated' as the South.  

Mai Suya:
That's very interesting. I suggest you that a walk through any of the major cites in the North, kano, kaduna( ie if you are BOLD enough), you'll be in for pleasant surprise  
Na wa o! the terms you people use: hostage','bondage'. by who?

davidylan:
@ Tonim . . . you used the right words - bondage and hostage. That is the situation of the south today, sadly.

davidylan:
That's the first time i'm agreeing with you in a long time.

Tonim:
@bold
Thank you very much. Unlike earthmama, You got my point.

Are you familiar with the phrase sunk cost ? It is a financial term used for projects that so much money, time and effort
has been expended on such that, one has a hard time admitting its failure (more money keeps pumped into the project
in perpetuity or until it eventually implodes)

This unfortunately is our plight today in southern Nigeria. So much has been sacrificed to make Nigeria work that we are having a
hard time accepting the fact that our bongage with the North just cannot work.

If the leaders of all southern tribes come to a consensus and tell the North that they want to go their separate way, What are they
going to do ? What exactly are they going to do ?

As long as Southern Nigeria remains disunited, we are always going to be held hostage by the North. I can't emphasize this
enough.

Tonim:
to davidylan and earthmama:

The north will continue with their ways as long as the south remains disunited. I have said this many times; we people from southern
Nigeria are not united and the north is exploiting this big time.

davidylan:
Take the south out of the equation and the north really has nothing. the last banking restructuring basically exposed the truth . . . virtually every single financial house ended up in the south. The south must share part of the blame too . . . Awolowo it was who failed to back the Igbo in 1966, we wont be here today being led by the noose.

earTHMama:
Usurping power is NEVER an evidence of brilliance rather it's a concrete evidence that Northerners are treacherous people. You should cover yourself with raiment in a civilized society because your acumen is certainly diseased. Tell me any nation in this world that succeeded with treacherous people like Northerners?. You celebrate Obama and turn the other cheek when it comes to Nigeria getting a visionary leader with no strings attached. You make me sick.

Mai Suya:
EH! mata de kyau sannu!

I just got attracted to the topic and  not unexpectedly, the major players in the tribal league are very much around delivering their usual dish of ill feelings against the North.

davidylan:
Sometime soon you will need a visa to visit southern Nigeria . . . i'm hoping it happens in my lifetime. I'm sick of these airheaded hausa/fulani cattle rearers reaping where they have not sown.

with all the top business gurus we have in the south, we have to depend on an ailing buffon called Yar Adua? What a shame to be a nigerian.

earTHMama:
Northerners are not alien to that sort of lies. Salisu Buhari pulled a fast one on us about a decade ago and nearly got away with it, why won't others follow. May God give us the strength to hang in there because they surely belong together with their brothers in Chad and Niger.

In your dreams. You should be mourning the enormous poverty in your homeland and not sitting your farting behind on a chair and talk gibberish yet you are no tribalist.

davidylan:
I read his resume and supposed "qualifications" over two weeks ago but refused to comment on it until i saw this thread again. He has NO qualifications whatsoever for that post and it is apparent he is lying about his last two degrees.

Fact - Obasanjo would have been nothing but a chicken farmer in Otta but for the north imposing him on Nigeria. Obasanjo badly lost the 1999 elections in the polling station just opposite his gate in Ita Eko, Ogun state. I was there on election day.
Falae beat him all over the southwest and parts of the East. Only the north with their falsified population forced him on the nation. Left to the Yorubas people like Iyabo Obasanjo wont be anywhere near the seat of power.

Thank you folks for ruining our once great tribe.

Mai Suya:
Na wa o!   I suppose it was a northerner that was in charge of the ministry when it became ranked as the second most corrupt institution in Nigeria?

Come on Mr dylan, your generalization is very unfair, and very unlike the posts you are known to produce.

The issue of the petroleum ministry should not be an ethnic thingy but based on competence, IMHO.

earTHMama:
Hold your sympathy sister but I cannot stay in a pool and allow soap to enter my eyes. If we allow a bunch of half educated morons to run our govt and economy, they'll soon lead us to a cul de sac. So you can drive your northern love up your ass, it's not my business what you do with your ass. I can live without your petty hypocritical sorry and deal with your obesity first before caring about me. Deranged gasbag,

earTHMama:
How? when? Do you mean dominance in almajiri or smelling gutter?

isbelhma:
@ hauwa
my belove, yaya duniya, kwana biyu bamu jiki a nairaland ba
i hope lafiya ko.
best regards with love,  isbelhma

davidylan:
Without Lagos KD would be another Niger Republic. Deal with it. 
You should be very grateful.

KarmaMod:
True Dat. I just dont get why they wont get central air for the damn place. Once you land its like a bloody sauna, a sauna that reeks of BO  

~Sauron~:
It is HOT, and i can't stand the army of flies in the city.
Loads of Mallams, spittle and billy-goats for ma liking.
How is Kaduna different from any Sabo in the South West??

KarmaMod:
Lmao. Sisi you're crazy.

Sadly they've stopped sanitation so Lagos is pretty gross. It's sad really. Can someone tell me why the domestic airport looks better than international?

davidylan:
sisi na bush girl.

Are there any ships or seaports in KD? Only mallams, rams and goats everywhere.

~Sauron~:
Don't be mad at me. . . . . . . . .I am just comparing everywhere i have been to Ikeja and trust me. . . . .Nothing compares.
Of course, there are ghettos everywhere. NY, LA, Lagos, London, Amsterdam, Berlin.
U would find undesirable elements everywhere. The clever-dumb balance or the the rich-poor balance must be maintained.
However, if we put the negatives n positives on a scale. . . . . .I think the positives outweigh the negatives in Lagos state.
Kaduna is too tacky for me liking.

stillwater:
Lol. When in Rome, act like a Roman. I can't live any where else in Nigeria than Lagos. It's exciting