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hopyroll:
Lol
Lemme tell you what I know bout Islamic marriage.
Islam forbade a women to menstruate twice in her father's home, once a women start seeing her menstrual blood, I believe you will concur with me that she's entered into a puberty age.
The logic was to cut the woman from any form zina which happening around everywhere now.
Once a woman enters into a puberty age, nature automatically start advertising her, what I meant by nature is, she starts growing breast, and some other mature parts of the body. Once all these starts, men start looking out for you, noticing you, some will even start buying you gift just get down with you, but as at then, women starts growing all these thing atleast age of 15 above, now what I understand is that, Islam doesn't want these women fornicating because naturally at teen age women start feeling arouse, I believe you will understand this as woman.
So instead of them sleeping with different man, "find them a man".
But today, girls don't become women before they start menstruating. We have seen a gal of ten who gives birth to fatherless baby. The rate at which gals grows now a days is appalling.
But in Nigeria todag, we see marriage at a teen age as abomination while zina at 12 is seeing of something that is normal.
I'm sorry this is how best I can answer your question.

Where is your prove that islam forbade a woman to menstruate twice in her father’s house?

AlBaqir:
Sissie please why was tingtingz thread deleted?

He can open another in religion section. It's not an "Islamic" thread.

kokozain:
thank u mama. that is the hospital we have been using since 2013. the challenge there was that she has 7 miscarragies(this happens whenever she is in her 3months) and we have tried to use some of the best private hospitals around. even uith. my wife was the first patient to go on sarclage after 9weeks in Uith but the baby stopped breathing after 13weeks. All these while she usually go on evacuation after the loss of the pregnancy. Now she is pregnant. I just wants to be more careful on this 8 one.

I will recommend bed rest, let her be on bed rest and try not to stress herself at all, even when she feels fine, she should still take things easy. Have doctors checked if she has a weak cervix? Have blood issues or hormonal issues?

Empiree:
What did he do this time now?

This is abdelkabir's favorite oga at the top.

Free the man abeg.

I understand Saudi authority banned his IslamQA website some years ago but had been since relieved of that.

He probably said something not in line with the Saudi authority.

Some sheikhs who didn't support the Qatar ban has been jailed.

Pweetiebabe:
Na dis kind encouragement I dey always find , hubby dash out my biggest container of Milo and peak milk 2weeks ago cos he's afraid baby might be too b and give tears, he forced me to take Lipton 2wice and I hate myself afterwards....I must show him dis post o,though I secretly buy d sachet Milo and milk cos DAT is d only thing DAT works for me in d morning before I can eat any food.

You need milk oh for calcium, if you decide to skip the milo. Milk is encouraged for pregnant women. If you get a very good perineal guide during labor you might not tear. Even with small baby one can still tear.

The calcium in pre natal vitamins is not enough, one needs to supplement with food that has calcium. That's why you see lots of preggy mums in third trimester complaining of leg, thigh pain/ache etc

A large percentage of people who posted on this thread won't pass a standard grade 4 exam either anyways. Our education standard is very poor and that cuts across all regions.

Demmzy15:
I should stop using the fonts then?

It is small and not eye friendly. It will be advisable to stop

Demmzy15:
I actually ignored your post, but came back to readdress some of your criticism.



No one thinks Saudi Arabia is perfect, I'm challenging you to show us one post of anyone here that postulates Saudi Arabia is perfect!



The Myanmar crisis has been on for more than 300 years old, modern day Saudi Arabia was established not less than 100years ago and they've stood by the Rohingya for more than 70 years, so using what is happening now is an act of dishonesty if this post is in reference to the present crisis!




No one is making Saudi Arabia to look like a Saint country, it's clear you didn't comprehend what you claimed to read. Please comprehend clearly!



Thank you!

Good thing you replied me with normal font, because I don't read your post fully most times because of font size.

@bolded

Empiree:
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That's my position actually. I believe they do good stuff for the ummah. It is ungrateful not to recognize that. The sheikh he quoted was just being too emotional

And being "loyal"

2 extreme positions. Those who think Saudi is perfect and should not be criticized and those who do nothing but criticize.

Abeg Saudi like many others aren't doing enough. Quote me anywhere.


All this trying to make it seem like Saudi is a saint country abeg shift with all that, or making it seem like criticizing them is a sin. Yimu of life.


I don't want to argue sef, but I can poke loopholes in that write up.

Chai can't believe I read all that, I hardly read demzy post, but it was what I suspected

#yimu

LholarB:
Happy Sunday my darling Mamas. Plz I have some questions about the Best Brands when it comes to Baby accessories, clothings etc cos am confused on which Brand to buy and what not to buy, dunno if these questions have been overflogged here ( you can refer me to the page to Check on this thread if they have been answered but not seen any tho).

I have also seen some products with their reviews online but am still confused ( you know you can't trust this online things atimes) , dats why I need answers personally from experienced mamas here so I can combine with the the ones I got from some few experienced mamas at my clinic( just so am on the right track) .

1. Best brand of car seat/ stroller to buy... ( is the stroller necessary here in Nigeria as per the hustle and Bustle). Graco/chicco

2.which is better: Huggies or Mol-fix.

3. Best Brand of reusable diapers (quantity to buy). Alva baby/nefe's diapers by onegai (made in naija)


4. Best Brand of Breast pad to buy

5. Best Brand of Baby oil, lotion and powder to buy ( johnsons had a bad review of recent so am kinda confused )
Shea moisture, natural nigerian (made in naija), natural, organic products are advisable if budget isn't a constraint. Or use Almond or coconut oil

6. Best Brand of Feeding bottles, flask , Breast pump and sterilizer(or I just strerilze the old fashion way) Avent/dr brown (bottles), medela (breast pump)

7. Best brand of clothings( sleep suits, jumpsuits, shawls, socks, moccasins etc) or can I just buy randomly if they look nice.

8. Do I need to wash all the new clothings before use ? Yes

9. Best brand of Baby walker and rocker/swing( asides Mamaroo) fisher price


10. Best brand of maternity Bra ( am on the busty side )

11. Best brand of Baby cot, playard or Bassinet. Graco


12. Best brand of Baby bath plastics ( can I just buy randomly too) random

From a concerned FTM, plz don't jump and pass... Thank you in advance!

Stop derailing the thread please.

@gregchambers will send you a mail.

Hmm, this is a serious one.

Allah guides whomever he wills. Guidance is with Allah, we can only try.

That being said, his business after struggling with it for years, did he try another business or try to get a job?

Many people lose faith at some point in time but get back to the deen.

Do dawah for him, be gradually reminding him about Allah, recite a verse of Quran for him and do the tafsir, remind him of Allah's rahma, greatness etc, tell him about trials and ease after trials, remind him of sabr (patience) in times of adversity, give him hope etc, etc to try to help him build his iman back. Since he is still praying, remind him when it's time for salat etc.

Pray for Allah's guidance

Having terrible dreams doesn't always mean sihr, but if you are scared of sihr play suratul baqarah in your house and ruqya etc. and do your dhikr.

Regarding the fruit of the womb, May Allah provide a child that would be coolness to your eyes.

May Allah not test us with trials and we fail it. Amin.

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Empiree:
i already sensed ur footprint on it when i first saw it. Decided to give it benefit of the doubt. Having studied many here, without glancing at monikers, i can tell who wrote what

Lol. After sometime you get to understand people's thought process and writing styles

Empiree:
AbuUthaymeen


who edited my post I didnt add this phrase



Anyways,




what's sufism

Living spiritual body of islam is like bird without feather

Thats why u end up wth protestantism

I did by mistake. I wanted to quote you but pressed modify instead. Mods can modify post

Empiree:
^

You are the ONLY NL-member that i ever I talked to with zero sense.

� grin just when you think it can't get worse

Mahoti:
no,how do I use it.

Peel both the outer and inner skin and insert it whole, leave for 2 hours and remove. Repeat for 2-3 days.

It will hurt a peppery kind of feeling when you first insert it but it gets better. It works great and it won't affect your fetus.

Newnas:
Abdul Kabir confirms a pagan festival, Nooru d deen supplicates for the anger of long dead, rotten, worm-eaten ancestors in need of help, not to descend. Tell me, how shall the muslims be successful?!!

Not how shall Muslims be successful abeg.

Ask how can the Abdul Kabir, Nooru be successful.

Abi you newnas can't be successful as a Muslim?

We are succeeding already.

Not all "Muslims" stay away from shirk so why tag all Muslims. Abeggo

Ethanol can be used for extraction and there is a process that removes it, remove the alcohol in it, and the end product won't have alcohol, but I can't advice that. You probably won't be able to test it to be sure and I don't know if it's halal, but I know this process is possible. The one albaqir posted.

I read a bit about this when learning to make herbal tinctures and extracts.

However I would suggest for back pain, most drugs or herbs don't give lasting effects. They just help relieve the pain a little.

Lifestyle changes is needed.

1. What kind of mattress do you sleep on? This can make a huge difference.

2. What is your sleeping position?

3. Do you exercise? Exercise with specific poses that targets the back

4. What's the cause of the back pain?

5. Is it your spinal bone or there is another issue with the back

6. What's your body postures ie how do you sit, stand, walk etc

Mohdkabiru:
Mr. Moderator, I kindly request you, if you can delete this thread, to avoid too many controversy I shall appreciate it. Thus I have learnt a lot from this thread. Thank you for your anticipated response.

It's Mrs moderator, and nope threads don't get closed just because people have different views.

He calls anyone who disagrees with him a kuffar. Extremism on another level.

Ssthorm:
Lol.. u got me wrong, wat i was sayn was, Quran goes in tandem wt science facts,Nywaiz i neva tot u were anti-science bt now i understnd ur views..may Allah deepen us in knowledge n understndng. Ameen

There is no need having an intellectual argument with him. I posted the hadiths for references. It obviously talks about qadr and everyone knows withdrawal method isn't 100% percent safe.

apart from matters of ibadah everything is halal until proven haram. It's his duty to prove without doubt it's haram. So far so good the hadiths quoted didn't clearly state haram. If he had said it's highly disliked that would have been understood.

I haven't read sahabas who had plenty plenty children oh. Like we see now a days. As in sahabas with one woman giving birth to 12-15 children. Because that's what will happen if it's completely haram. Especially with the polygamous men we should be reading about 30-40 children per household

AbuUthaymeen:
2. NOT HAVING SEX STILL KEEPS THE SPERM ALIVE. 3. MASTURBATION, WITHDRAWAL METHOD KILLS AND WASTE THE SPERM.. its absolutely same as killing..coz sperm does have life

This is what happens when you don't know basic science.

The sperms in the body after a period breaks down. when you have wet dreams just know you've killed about 1 million children. Because even when it's ejaculated into a woman only 1 does the job the remaining 5million or more sperm cells die in the process.

AbuUthaymeen:
RASUL LATER FORBID IT. . let me go copy the isnad . .AM COMING. .BUKHARI 52010, MUSLIM, 1438,1439,1442 and other hadiths that follows that 1442 hadiths . . withdrawal method is absolutely same as killing human being and murdering human being and also buring kids alive. . proven by those hadiths. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . all those hadith i quote proves it that withdrawal method is absolutely haram and its killing..the hadith you quote has been abrogated by the hadiths i just quoted. . . . . . .4tjust mg

Muslim 1438


Abu Sirma said to Abu Sa'id al Khadri (Allah he pleased with him):
0 Abu Sa'id, did you hear Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) mentioning al-'azl? He said: Yes, and added: We went out with Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) on the expedition to the Bi'l-Mustaliq and took captive some excellent Arab women; and we desired them, for we were suffering from the absence of our wives, (but at the same time) we also desired ransom for them. So we decided to have sexual intercourse with them but by observing 'azl (Withdrawing the male sexual organ before emission of semen to avoid-conception). But we said: We are doing an act whereas Allah's Messenger is amongst us; why not ask him? So we asked Allah's Mes- senger (ﷺ), and he said: It does not matter if you do not do it, for every soul that is to be born up to the Day of Resurrection will be born.

Muslim 1439:
Jabir (Allah be pleased with him) reported that a man came to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) and said:
I have a slave-girl who is our servant and she carries water for us and I have intercourse with her, but I do not want her to conceive. He said: Practise 'azl, if you so like, but what is decreed for her will come to her. The person stayed back (for some time) and then came and said: The girl has become pregnant, whereupon he said: I told you what was decreed for her would come to her.

Sa'd b. Abu Waqqas (Allah be pleased with him) reported that a person came to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) and said:

I do 'azi with my wife. Thereupon Allah's Messenger (saws) said: Why do you do that? The person said: I fear harm to her child or her children. Thereupon Allah's Messenger (way peace be upon him) said: If that were harmful it would harm the Persians and the Greeks.


Some of the hadiths quoted. If you had said disliked, I would have understood sef. However withdrawal method isn't 100% safe so one can still get pregnant.

But to say it's haram. SMH.

Besides I am not replying to argue with you abuuthaymeen, I wouldn't even bother. But I see people saying this about it being absolutely haram. Without considering the health of their wives and kids.

A woman will be giving birth every year until her body decides to rebel. Even to take care of the kids is war.
So a woman is supposed to breastfeed for 2 yrs and not plan her family. So by the time one child is 1 yrs old, the child already has a sibling. Do we know how difficult it is to breastfeed and be pregnant at the same time Absolutely not. It's just for the men to be shouting haram haram everyday.

How's wasting sperm burying kids alive. Then when you have wet dreams, pack it and go and look for who to pour it in. Smh

Mahoti:
I am tired of this itching in my veeja,I used mycoten cream it won't still stop itching me,pls what do I do #teamoctober pls help.

Have you tried garlic?

peggygee:
The mama that wants to start kpekus discussion day....hmmmm, e no easy o....right now kpekusing na war o. I just the pity dh, coz seriously I've lost interest in it. No style is comfortable @all...even almighty doggy isn't helping matters. Recently I told him let's do whether e go help bring contractions....I was almost crying out in pains. I was praying to God to make him do the do on time make I rest, cox the bobo was having a nice time after many weeks of denial .

So me no dey house for kpekus ministry for now o.

In order news, I've started my pineapples journey. Oh mehn, the thing slap ehn.... But I close my eye chop am.

Things we go tru for the love of my unborn.

May God make us birth our little ones safely.

Pls let's mind what we eat o, my frnd just birthed a 3.9kg baby.

She had a big tear upnto her bum bum. She's telling me to start eating garden eggs . hmmmm, may God help us all

A 3.9kg baby is average weight in the normal range, it's not a very big baby. That tear must have been horrible and painful but it's mostly due to lack of proper perineal guide by the medical personnel who attended to her during delivery not the baby size.

AbuUthaymeen:
AS LONG AS THEY ARE KAFIR, I WILL ALWAYS CALL THEM KAFIR. . ITS PART OF ISLAM. or u want to tell me that making takfir is in n0t in islam?

You've been warned. I do not care what you think. If you write a post and start tagging people kafirs, like you did in the below. You will be banned.

AbuUthaymeen:
Ibn jud'an, rasul father, rasul mother. . . .all died before rasul was born nor attained prophethood. . . . . . . . . . NOBODY GAVE THEM THE MESSAGE OF ALLAH. .NO PROPHET, NO HOLY BOOK, NO AWLIYAH . . .and yet they died being a kafir due to their ignorance. . . . #IT WILL BE SAME FOR THEM IF THEY HAD PROPHET, HOLY BOOK OR AWLYAH# . .THEY WILL NEVER ACCEPT GOOD WILL OF ALLAH . . . . . . . . . .just look at albaqir,empiree,ikupati,newnas,iamgenius,abdulfatai sarumi,alaaro,eleyinke,amubieya,teblig,tmc,nasfat and other ahlu bida sect and individual, despite the fact that there are clear pr0of, they reject it . . QURAN SURAH AR'AF VERSE 172 explained it all

AbuUthaymeen:
THE HADITH EVEN SUPPORTED THAT WITHDRAWAL METHOD IS NOT ALLOWED. WELL,AM OPENING A THREAD ON FAMILY PLANNING. .CLOSE IT IF U LIKE

This Hadith

This is based on the Hadith of Jabir (RA) who said: “We used to practice (‘Azl) Reproduction interruptus during the days when the Qur’an was being revealed”.Jabir added: “We used to practice Reproduction interruptus during the lifetime of Allah’s Messenger while the Qur’an was being revealed.” (Sahih Bukhari vol. 7, Hadith no. 136)

If you create a new thread, I will close it. Post under this