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For MS, vit b6 and metoclopramide (reglan) works well.

Reglan is the generic name for metoclopramide and but I don't know if it's readily available in naija but it's very good especially for severe MS or hyperemesis gravidarium.

My doctor prescribed it for me, although I had an extreme MS (hyperemesis gravidarium) and took some other drugs including unisom (but the unisom was a waste of my time so I stopped taking it) but those 2 together can help relieve it.

The metoclopramide sort of constrict your throat muscles so that the food go to your intestines faster instead of staying in your stomach and sort of make it harder to come out.

And try out different foods and drinks to see what your stomach tolerates.

This is where dogmatism has lead us to.

Momagic:
Hello mamas.
I'm new here. Yay! I just joined today cos there are loads of stuff to gain and of course something to give back. I've been a visitor for some weeks now. I'm currently expecting a baby and 16 weeks gone.

I dunno if I'm allowed recommend something for mamas experiencing MS-Vitamin B6 and Unisom. I dealth with severe nausea n vomitting and when I say nothing worked I mean nothing! Not crackers,ginger, or whatever I saw listed here worked for me. VIT B6 and unisom combo works like magic. You can google it and read all about the required dosage. I take 50g vit B6 2ce daily and 1/2 unisom twice daily. As recommended by my doc. Make sure you use them together. If you can't drink water take it with whatever you can keep down. For me it was ICE. You will immediately feel better as you become able to eat something and drink more because what worsens MS is starvation,dehydration and stress. Hope this helps.

Vit B6 is one of the common drugs prescribed for MS but unisom is a sleeping tablet. I guess taking 1/2 tablet will probably relax you but not make you sleep.

1. I read a psychological analysis of how many humans tend to exaggerate our good qualities.

Many of us think we are prettier, smarter, nicer better than we actually are. And sometimes this leads us to exaggerate what we can take on, bear and it makes it easy to bite more than we can chew.

So it's really understandable how one will marry someone with health issues thinking he/she can cope until we find ourselves in it and realize it's way more than we bargain for. So I understand marrying her might not have been out of pity.

But then again it might have been out pity �

3. One needs to have a certain level of selfishness at the point of choosing

5. Except for situations where the partners are asexual, both incapable of having sex or made a commitment to not have sex. Not having sex for 2 years would affect any type of marriage, the sexual frustration seeps into other parts of the marriage and intimacy is one of the top 5 issue in marriage, it can make or break a marriage. So it's not about not having pre marital sex.

6. Grieve can bring a couple closer or seperate them. Based on the the grieving process of both parties.

It might not be love but he is gaining from her. Ie finance etc and finance is a great motivating factor. And he doesn't have worry about responsibilities etc

I must say again, this is a really sad story, being abandoned with a new baby and no explanation nothing nothing. I can't even begin to imagine your emotional state.

I won't be surprised if you are depressed. To start praying doesn't have to be long, it could be a sincere deep one sentence prayer for a start or a cry etc. or just starting with God help me, Or God give me the strength and you gradually improve the prayer.

The importance of prayer can't be overemphasized

@hopeonGod This is really a sad story, and I pray you find the strength and it ends with what will be beneficial for you.

However I need to say, because she is older and he moved in with her doesn't necessarily mean it's spiritual, I know as Nigerians we like to believe most things are spiritual but that's not always the case. It could just be what it is.

He might have met her and fell in love with her etc, and truth is prayer is needed, also proactive step is needed.

Divorce and leaving him alone MIGHT be better for you, it might not be and things work out at the end. However the sad truth is not all marriages work. So while you pray and talk to his family to talk to him, also have a conversation with him and see what he says and his body language it might help point out if he is under the influence or not, let him explain to you etc, also prepare yourself that that might be the end of the marriage, as we don't know if your husband as being faithful to you from day 1, or if has always cheated and just decided to move in with this one. And am sorry but even having a newborn baby doesn't stop some men or make them stay etc. especially if he has checked out of the marriage emotionally before the baby was born.

Start to plan for the future without him incase it doesn't work and move on with your other life, you have just 1 daughter so remarrying won't be too difficult.

Pray that if he is better for you and it's spiritual he comes back, and if he isn't better for you, God gives you the strength to heal and move forward.

Am sorry but it's not always spiritual.

AhluSunnah:
This thread is for muslim only. i never call her kafir.. i guess she is a christian coz n0 muslim wil ever defend a shite(kafir al baqir) . . if she is a muslim, she is free to tell1

You are breaking rules oh, insulting people upandan. I will soon ban you.

Sterope:
@lukgaf

1) Most rape victims were raped by people closed to them like their mahram for starters. (Isn't that interesting?) Don't ever use that to justify or blame rape victims again. It speaks to how little you know of rape.

2) I don't know what goes on with these people that call themselves Islamic scholars but it is BS to differentiate between a free woman or a slave woman. Or are they trying to say that slavery is normal or justifiable in Islam or that her pains is lesser to that of a free woman. I think you should bin his opinion. It is trash. A woman is a woman. We should not try to lessen one woman's suffering because of her status which shouldn't be in the first place.

And no marriage will not reduce incidence of rape and denial of conjugal rights is also not a reason. I think we need more scholars who have taken time to study the psychology of rape to talk about this. These scholars are simply not fit to give an opinion on this.

quote]Islam forbids women to wear clothes that are not modest and to travel without a mahram; it forbids a woman to shake hands with a non-mahram man. Islam encourages young men and women to marry early, and many other rulings which close the door to rape

What dowry if I may ask? Is that the reason stupid countries like Morocco forces their daughters to marry their rapists?

Also what value? Is she an animal or what? I understand that men are not the common victims. The more reason why they shouldn't be talking about it at all. They should not be talking about what they don't understand.

In our view the man who rapes a woman, whether she is a virgin or not, if she is a free woman he must pay a “dowry” like that of her peers, and if she is a slave he must pay whatever has been detracted from her value. The punishment is to be carried out on the rapist and there is no punishment for the woman who has been raped, whatever the case.



3) We all know the punishment for adultery. It is very severe. Apparently, if the punishment for a consensual act can be severe, it is only logical for a non-consensual act to be leaning towards a capital punishment or the capital punishment.


There is a reason I am selective when it comes to these people and islamqa. We definitely need more female scholars.

Most victims are raped by someone they know, doesn't mean the someone they know is a mahram. However many are raped by mahram, I don't know about most thou.


3. The capital punishment is what the post was referring to as regards hadd punishment. So according to the post it's a combination of "dowry" sort of amount and hadd, the dowry sort of amount doesn't mean that they marry, because the writeup stated how insisting on marrying the rapist is wrong.

Similar to unintentionally killing someone (manslaughter) ie car accident, the person pays the "blood money and still has to fast 60 days straight as punishment.

So I am guessing the dowry payment is some sort of compensation.

I do agree with some of the things you wrote, like marriage not reducing the incidence of rape. Married people still rape. Good thing no more slavery. And we definitely need more able scholars especially women.

AhluSunnah:
KINI PROBLEM E GAAN. . BESIDES, A MUSLIM W0NT ABANDON HIS OR HER MUSLIM NAME, i think u are n0t a muslim. . a muslim would understand betteris

What's your IQ?

So it's now Muslim name?

This is hilarious but it's sad sincerely �

ahnie:
Pls I need serious emotional support and solutions:
My 2years plus daughter z driving me crazy.The other day she almst brought down my cooker with very hot and steaming soup while cooking.i dunno why she wants to become an albino (afin) via the soup pouring on her.


2ndly:my daughter after makin me to shout my lungs out...you wee find her sitting in a designated corner repeating all the words I used on her from morning to afternoon and she repeats them accordingly.it gives me the creeps.

3rdly...she seldomly gives me rest...i cannot bathe my newborn in peace without Zino interference with...Mama zino abeg leave the pikin balltus(scrotal sac)I say leave the pikin balltus ooo,izit your own.

To be candid...i am FED up.

Lol looks like she is hyperactive. Kids at that age are curious and like to explore it's part of the learning process. Driving you crazy is part of her job no vex

Since she repeats the words could be sign of a good memory retention, so don't let it creep you out. instead of shouting often, give her time outs and make her sit down somewhere, so when you shout the shout will carry weight And abeg don't use cain, she is too young for that.

She is being protective of her younger brother's private part and with all the rampant sexual abuse it's good she knows that it should not be touched if it's not yours, try explaining to her why you need to touch it.

Why are you shouting now You know capital letter implies shouting

AhluSunnah:
See your life. .let me ask u a question, from where do muslim take proof of his or her deen from? . . .these ahlu bida lecturers have destroyed your brain. .you no longer care for quran or hadith or ijmah sahabahs BUT SCHOLARS FATWA ONLY..that itself is bida. . .as long aas you are given proof fr0m quran and hadith, u must submit to it. . .that is if you are muslim. ANYBODY CAN PASS FATWA AS LONG AS THEY HAVE PROOF..PROOF IS WHAT MATTERS NOT THE PERSON THAT PASS FATWA

So now anyone can read the Quran and use it as prove based on their own understanding of it abi? Isokay continue.

This one you are shouting proof, proof.

So if I read and understand it a certain way, and use that as my proof, I will just pass my fatwa jare. And you don't find it hilarious �

You can't even communicate with decorum. And you think you know how to pass fatwa, don't say you were not told.

If you don't read scholars fatwa. What of scholars explanations? Like when they explain a verse using tafsir and explaining the Arabic words used properly, because not everything can be translated verbatim.

Or do you know classical Arabic and a linguist to read the Quran and give your own fatwa and are you a muhadith? You know that sometimes a verse could be literal or figurative, how do you discern.

2. You have been shouting don't listen to scholars fatwa, why are you listening to jabata

Hilarious

LOL, people react to pineapple in different parts of the world nah

By react I mean it causes nausea not miscarriage, causing miscarriage isn't proven.

I have been seeing people write no side effects, no side effects.

Side effects are not always immediate, or visible.

Sometimes it's gradual, it could take months or even years of using a product or consuming a food before one sees the side effect.

You might think baby is apparently doing well, but that might not be the case.

So because your baby doesn't have an immediate reaction doesn't always mean it's safe.

booqee:
someone asked which fruits are good for pregnant women and the ones that are not good.. I don't think I saw a response or I must have missed..

please good mamas in the house, I will like an answer..

thanks

Actually there are no specific fruits to be avoided by ALL pregnant women. what to be avoided depends on the woman and what she reacts to.

Dr's will tell you to add lemon to water to help battle nausea and it works for some people.

Pineapple and pawpaw can be consumed in small quantities by some, although many women react to it, so I guess it's better to avoid.

I know someone who reacted to apples, pineapples, bananas and same person used mangoes to help with indigestion, consumed plenty lemons, oranges, drank zobo and ate dates.

So really take a little of available fruits and see if you react, stop. if you don't continue.

poshestmina:
Mamas ,please I have 3 questions to ask

My Lo doesn't like drugs atttttal atttall, it's always serious struggle before she takes it and then she
starts doing like she's convulsing (very scary something) and those drugs are sweet self, how do I give her drugs?


Secondly, she has this rashes on her body, her neck region and bum bum. Was using sudocrem (worked for a while), used abf(nice but was making her fair instead of clearing the rashes) and then someone said it's ila/ela(bought native medicine) My brethren, the rashes are even expanding. I honestly don't know what else to do or use? Biko, I don't want my dd to grow up and not be feel comfortable in her skin .


Finally! ,Can I start putting on air conditioner? Dd is 2 months and she's always well covered up especially at night.

Please, don't read and pass Biko
cc all sabi mamas

New born babies can sleep in air conditioned room during hot season, I know the typical nigerian believe is to wear plenty clothes for new born babies without AC during hot season/weather with the belief babies don't know heat but it's not true, it's also one of the reasons why babies tend to have lots of rashes. AC is also better than fan for babies.

Don't put the baby directly in front of the AC, the AC should not be too cold, just enough to cool the room and prevent it from being hot, too much heat can lead to illness including sudden infant death, too much cold can lead to cough and catarrh. So if it's hot use the AC just right.

Read this link, by an expert.https://www.babycenter.in/x1050503/is-using-an-air-conditioner-ac-or-cooler-safe-with-a-newborn

Change your daughter's soap and cream incase she is reacting to it, and don't expose her to too much heat, and check that the clothes are cotton etc, because for most babies heat and allergy is what causes rashes, especially reoccurring one.
try coconut oil mixed with shea butter.

Damsel21:
Hello mamas how was ur day?I had a great day am very sorry if what I posted had caused any kind of disagreement btw us,@sissie I knw u are a Muslim woman if u read my thread very well and u want to judge as per religions view am very sure u know what to say.in d normal human view and philosophy u also know what to say.as for d ppl that suggested a new thread they shld also knw I did not enter this thread with marriage issues I came in with pregnancy.along d line things came up.like I have said I've seen some other non pregnancy related gist here so blaming those that go against that suggestions I don't think is right @mama giddyperson and mamacoldfeet I know u are not making all ur points for me alone they are some other pple out there even here that all ur words and other mamas that had contributes to this positively will help if not today some day not that am praying for a broken home for anybody but somehow someway shit happens I actually refuse to reply some comments today because I've moved on replying is a waste of time cus I have a job to do and I must do it perfectly so am using my small energy and time to sort my materials down anybody that want to hug transformer is free to do
Pls mamas I don't any of us here to pick any issue out it we shld be ourselves bouncers to bounce out anything that want to disturb any of our sisters or mamas life.l yes watch each other's back as women.

In the other news I've gotten another makeup job working with a big movie producer as assistant make up artist for a big movie with both Ghana and Nigeria actors ;Di go snap pictures tire.. ......


I SEE U ALL

It's all good. Congratulations on the new job and moving forward. May Allah make it easy. Amin.

Topic closed �

Giddyperson:
Mrs. King The very first person to advise her was Ahnie, she basically told her to take the issue out of the thread so that her hubby won't come here and start saying stuff, that's reasonable advice. No one had an issue with that, but it's still Damsel21's choice to decide where she wants to post, no need trying to bully her or trying to act like her issues are less important than all the other trivial stuff we discuss on this thread. I'm sorry Mrs. King but no one chased Mr. King, people just expressed their opinions on his lack of empathy and he ran off, he won't be the first dad here, I had one on my team, he's always welcome back.

Sincerely I don't disagree with you, about damsel21 choosing to post here, and she should not be bullied. I don't disagree with so many replies the people who suggested new thread got either. I don't

And I don't know Mrking3 from anywhere except here. Don't let my husband catch you calling me Mrsking3 oh. But he was chased, and IMO we need more men active about their wives pregnancies. And people being nicer to each other

Read the below

jesufifunmi:
And the 'heavily pregnant mamas' complained to you that they have had enough? What are you even doing here to begin with? Pls carry your insensitive lot out of this thread abeg!!! Only God knows where these new breed of men came from... Very cruel and heartless people.

mizz2posh:
Lmao, I swear that person gives me the creeps, like what man wants to be the only man amongst 'heavily pregnant mamas' contributing and acting like he's one of the damn girls? I can't

I have no problem with her posting here, however the comments people who suggested a new thread got, was over the top. And wasn't too nice.

We can disagree without insinuating how heartless someone is, or how the new breed of men are blah blah blah.


Once again let me repeat. You want her to post here, you want her to open new thread. All join! non is bad. Question was what's so bad about it If you can't answer the question, ignore. All this history is not needed.

The comments about heartlessness and story story story was over the top. calm your hormones down.

Giddyperson:
Hi Mrs Mrking3 If I had a penny for every time someone said 'I don't usually comment on this thread, but I'm here to just revive drama so that I can go back to enjoying it from the sidelines'

Since we now open threads for every topic that does not involve pregnancy, please go open a thread and air your grievances there and stop derailing this thread, us heavily pregnant women are very occupied with our big stomachs.

Who is Mrs Mrking, if what I wrote is too much to comprehend, jump and pass.

Coldfeet:
Lolz peeping suites you better.
Over the years this thread has provided solace to many women! All with various issues and mamas here trashed it out. This thread won't be this lively if we discuss just preggy related issues here it would have died since.
Take for instance a peeper like you? Is it not the gist that brought you out of your peeping mode?

Please every body is allowed to table whatever bothers them and it's left for you to skip or comment.
This page isn't exclusive! It's open to all and sundry and nobody should be hushed.

Somebody pass me some popcorn and zobo I sense more gist and drama coming up

I did not say she shouldn't comment or post or whatever, I asked what was so wrong with suggesting she opens a new thread that the people who did that were called heartless blah blah blah.

Even if the page isn't exclusive, question still remains what's so wrong to make all those accusations, that's over the top.

Your post now is nice and not accusatory, and people who suggested new thread got a similar explanation it would have been nice.

Posting or peeping is my prerogative. Thanks for the suggestion

I have been following this thread but I have been a silent follower.

What's wrong with telling damsel21 to open a new thread, is it not the same Mama's here that will go to the new thread to read the gist, insult the man, and offer genuine support etc.
Instead the " heartful" and women bestfriends are being over dramatic and saying over the top things.

It was a very nice thing that mrking3 was very interested in his wife's pregnancy and was here learning from pregnant women and I am pretty sure he was being helpful to his wife, instead he was insulted for being active on the page, when we need more involved men, who will atleast start learning to understand and be helpful.

Even on BabyCenter men do comment.

And the truth is many won't give real help, just read story and entertain themselves with the usual rant about how men are this and that.

Smh

#rantover





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Saudi monarchy don't condone scholars giving fatwa that goes against them or condemns them or their action or something. You get removed.

They don't want anyone threatening their throne.


Scholars/imams who tried this have been removed.

Politics is important.

sarahade:
What is being just if not to love us equally. And I know that a man that one woman cannot satisfy 100 will never satisfy him they will still have gfs because the problem is not with the woman but the man.

You said not to quote you then you quoted me again to answer. What happened to your shaking body, it is still itching you.

Babe, Just don't reply me, if you can't reply me in a civilized intellectual manner, just ignore my comment.

daretodiffer:
I don't think she said anything to warrant this, although I disagree with her tht most men are just.There are good polygamous homes and there are women who don't mind polygamy at all.

I said many men, not most men. Many here does not mean most. I chose not to say few because there are no real statistics, and bad news travel far.

sarahade:
You are welcome my sister. Please do not let anyone bully you or make you feel less my sister.
Only a woman knows where it hurt in this matter
A man will never tell you the truth because of their intention.
What has Allah promised them for marrying another wife nothing but even told them not to do it if they can't be just but who can be just.
If a man will be just then there's no need for jealousy look at their reply they will never include the condition of being just in their arguments because they want to twist the words of the prophet.
They will come online to tag me shameless use words to bully you and i because they know nothing is holding you in the marriage except you.
If you have to return bride price no problem I'm sure you are yoruba and bride price is something you can afford pay him if you can't i will gladly support you.
A man that 1 woman cannot satisfy 100 will never satisfy him.
Allah loves us equally. After the divorce my sister dedicate your life to him and see if he will not reward you and bless you.
Its difficult to leave but you will never regret it as long as you are hardworking. Allah will always comfort you.
If you want to know more ask any mother who has been in a polygamous relationship and decide if that's the way you want to live your life. Salaam

A man can be just. He won't be able to love them equally, however, he can be just. Many men are, I do not know about your society.
@bolded that's just hilarious and untrue.

I do not know your society but there is a problem with the general accession about the mothers hating polygamy, I have met women who like polygamy and prefer it, not everyone wants to play wife every day and others who don't mind it, however, there are those who hate it. the problem isn't with polygamy but the people in it. just the same way we have terrible abusive monogamous homes.

You said what did Allah promise them and answered nothing, there is reward in a well-done polygamy you know. Do you think a man who married
a divorced woman with kids as a second wife and takes the kids won't be rewarded? or a widow?

AbdelKabir:
She was a Muslim..



This has already been explained, pls refer back to the hadeeth used by imam An-Nawawi...

My point stands.