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i think he is handsome in his own way

wot do u guys think on this one,

what would you do with your daughter if she comes home pregnant? u knw how naija unlike the US has this stigma attached with out of wedlock pregnancies, the shame it brings to the family and everything. Ebony-Silk, Tgirl, Sistawoman and co oya over to you

it is just generalization and i dnt see anything wrong with a man or woman married or in a relationship admiring a beautiful woman or a handsome man as long as they dnt act on those admiration. being married doesnt mean u have to be blind to the beautiful things in life including women/men

Tgirl4real:
@LadyT, it's really a sad case. . . what a high level of moral decadence.

@d smoking question, at what age would u advice ur child to stay clear from dat friend considern d fact dat children are considered adult when they are 18 and above?

yea, thats old anotha problem cox u can control (not dat kind of control) them when they still young adolescent but once they over 18/21 next thing u will is "mom u cant choose my friends 4 me or tell me who to hang out with, I'm an adult now i make my own decisions" but i would still advise them and educate them on the health risk of smoking and especially second hand smoking and tell them to at least try to avoid that friend of theirs? wot do u think?

[quote author=Ebony-Silk link=topic=249630.msg3615141#msg3615141 date=1237415813]This is the technology world. . . .catch am off guard and take the child's pic.
Show it to the mother and school officials, because the child might try to smoke on campus (I.E. Restroom)[/quote]lol, if only 20th century parents were up to current tech.  

[quote author=Ebony-Silk link=topic=249812.msg3615037#msg3615037 date=1237413852]Not necessarily on their stomach.

When my siblings were babies, they laid on their back. . . . it's not safe for them to lay on their stomach. The blankets might suffocate them.

I laid all 3 of my siblings on my chest Unfortunately, they got used to it, cries when I put them down

Do you think carrying them all the time interferes with their growth : retards their mechanical movements such as crawling and walking?[/quote]no, i don't think it affects their growth in anyway but i do know if the behavior is continued persistently they may get use to it and when you try to put them down crying and screaming is the next thing on their agenda cox they have gotten used to been carried around.

but no i dont think it affects the growth

[quote author=Ebony-Silk link=topic=249630.msg3615102#msg3615102 date=1237415170]Very true.

At the same time, you know your child won't immediately cease being his/her friend, esp if it's been a long friendship. So to ensure your child's safety, wouldn't you talk to the smoker and the smoker's parent? [/quote]you know how sometimes kids wouldn't even let their parents know such things and some parents wouldn't even believe you when you tell them their kids are doing such things. but yea, i think you made good point, cox long term friendship especially when it is kids are not easily broken and i think telling the parent about the behavior is a good idea if only they believe it and if the child would listen.

i will definitely tell him to stop the friendhip cox smoking is an addiction and sometimes it is very hard to stop. so i would not want my kids to play role of the doctor in trying to stop it and also he/she maybe tempted and pressured by his friend to give it a try. you know peer pressure is a very powerful force so i wouldn't take that risk and second hand smoking is even more deadly

[quote author=Ebony-Silk link=topic=249630.msg3615073#msg3615073 date=1237414672]What do you do if you observe your child's friend smoking?

Do you tell him to stop befriending his friend or do you try to help the friend out by talking to the parents?[/quote]

you know the problem with fighting back is,  what if the bullier is stronger both in height and in strength than the person being bulled? i mean trying to fight back would be a mistake cox then it maybe result in more injury or harm but i do think it is a good idea if the person being bulled is up to the challenge cox i honestly i think the kids who bully are just empty vessels that just use fear, n intimidation to manipulate other kids so once you hit them back they realize u have shined ya eyes and they will definitely stop. so that one is a also a good bet.

or maybe if the bullying is too much why not change school for the kid? or the kid dont have any groups to hangout with maybe joing a club or a sport will provide him/her the friends to support them

and oh Tgirl i like this thread and i hope they will be no fighting so we can continue with our parenting ideas/ discussions

[quote author=Ebony-Silk link=topic=249812.msg3614973#msg3614973 date=1237412434]Sissy, you made a good point. . . . .key word is RISK.

We have cribs, but my ppl prefer to have their babies sleep next to them. No case of suffocation, but it's quite risky.

Ok, how about letting the baby sleep on your chest? Isn't it  supposed to be "good" for thm to hear heartbeats?[/quote]yea, my sissometimes allow her baby to sleep on her chest and sometimes the baby wouldnt even want to lie on the crib again, if you lay her on the crib she will start crying so she has to carry her on her chest till she is in a deep sleep then put her on her crib  LOl.

okay back to question, i still think it is a not good idea (at least in my own judgment) cox the baby is lying on her tummy instead of her on back, which is not advisable. but if one chooses to do it i suggest they exercise discretion  when doing it, i think they should maybe avoid doing it more often so the baby dont get use to it.

if they live in school i think it should when move in but if living with parents I'd say maybe around stating from 13 or 12

no, it is not advisable they should have their own crib in the parents room or in a separate room. it is really cute or nice to have them next to you in the king size bed but there is a higher risk of infant death from suffocation or strangulation most apparently from parents sleeping with their babies. and Other causes include suffocating in soft bedding, becoming wedged between a mattress and frame or wall, or getting a head caught in something.

they should be laid to sleep alone, on a flat mattress, with no loose pillows or blankets and in a crib with bars designed to prevent entrapment. they should be put to sleep on their backs instead of their tummies.

so i don't really think is advisable to sleep with them in the same bed and maybe if one of the parents is a bad sleeper and may accidentally roll over the baby so i wouldn't take that chance.

What to do if your child is being bullied (this what i learned)

Encourage your child to share his or her concerns. Remain calm, listen in a loving manner and support your child's feelings. Express understanding and concern. You might say, "I understand you're having a rough time. Let's work together to deal with this." Remind your child that he or she isn't to blame for being bullied.

Learn as much as you can about the situation. Ask your child to describe how and when the bullying occurs and who is involved. Ask if other children or adults have witnessed any bullying incidents. Find out what your child may have done to try to stop the bullying.

Teach your child how to respond to the bullying. Don't promote retaliation or fighting back against a bully. Instead, encourage your child to maintain his or her composure. He or she might say, "I want you to stop now," and then simply walk away. Suggest sticking with a friend or group of friends while on the bus, in the cafeteria or wherever the bullying seems to happen. Remind your child that he or she can ask teachers or other school officials for help.

Contact school officials. Talk to your child's teacher, the school counselor and the school principal. If your child has been physically attacked or otherwise threatened with harm, talk to school officials immediately to help determine if the police should be involved. Don't contact the bully's parents yourself. You may also want to encourage school officials to address bullying as part of the curriculum.

Follow up. Keep in contact with school officials. If the bullying seems to continue, be persistent.

Boost your child's self-confidence. Help your child get involved in activities that can raise self-esteem, such as sports, music or art. Encourage your child to make contact with friendly students in his or her class and develop his or her social skills.

Know when to seek professional help. Consider professional or school counseling for your child if his or her fear or anxiety becomes overwhelming.

ibigod:
I realy think you ladies should attach pics if realy you are proud of what you've got

keep having those wet dreams!

Amos Amos:
Hallo guys,i will like to knw hw u always feel after making luv to a girl. One of my pals av a problem with that.

wot kinda problem is dat?

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ok,  i had this neighbor, he was a single hunky, oh la la every morning he'd run(exercise) shirtless in this tight, body hugging pants, oh baby i couldn't resist! he was the total package, height, built, he had the right things in the right places! i'd make sure we greet each other every morning,(just so to see those six packs and his smoking body in those outfits) and his smile melts my heart honestly he was totally hot!
i mean he was one of those guys you think of when having sex with your boyfriend. but too bad for me i couldnt have him , i just couldn't cheat!

JOHANNESBURG - Gangs of South African men are raping lesbians in the belief it will "cure" the women's sexual orientation, an aid agency said Friday.

NGO ActionAid said in a report titled "Hate Crimes: the rise of corrective rape in South Africa" lesbians were increasingly at risk of rape, particularly in South African townships where homosexuality is largely taboo.

South Africa has one of the world's most progressive constitutions and became the first country in Africa to allow gay marriage in 2006, but homosexuality is still widely frowned upon and same-sex unions are often decried as "un-African."
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The brutal rape and murder last year of female soccer player Eudy Simelane, a lesbian, threw a spotlight on homophobic violence, particularly toward women.

"We get insults every day, beatings if we walk alone, you are constantly reminded that you deserve to be raped," ActionAid quoted one lesbian as saying. "They yell, 'if I rape you then you will go straight, you will buy skirts and start to cook because you will have learnt how to be a real woman'."

Homophobic attacks
One lesbian and gay support group told ActionAid it was dealing with 10 new cases of lesbians being targeted for what it called "corrective rape" every week in Cape Town alone.

Thirty one lesbians have been reported murdered in homophobic attacks since 1998, but support groups say the actual number is probably much higher because crimes on the basis of sexual orientation are not recognized in the South African criminal justice system, ActionAid said.

Of the 31 cases, only two cases were brought to South African courts and there has been only one conviction. South Africa has one of the world highest rates of rape but activists say very few cases end in conviction, and women's groups say police and the justice system have failed to tackle the problem.

ActionAid estimates there are 500,000 rapes in South Africa every year.

It said the police were particularly reluctant to investigate crimes against lesbians and said support for survivors was inadequate.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/29676829/

does size matter?

i feel u gurl! especially those with big biceps, hot! yummy

chamotex:
_{take ur time o}

i dnt want to have to make app. with a doc so as to restore ur sight, so stop b b4 ur eyes pop out

u need to search well well cox there r super ladies dat can make u go crazy n high dat the sametime

sisley

i like dat am always myself. no pretense allowed in my corner

still studying

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